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Ihhhmmm, Lilbit is gone I (Original Post) kozar Jul 2024 OP
I'm... JoeOtterbein Jul 2024 #1
So sorry Blue Full Moon Jul 2024 #2
I'm so sorry! redwitch Jul 2024 #3
I'm so sorry. dawg Jul 2024 #4
Oh lord, no. blm Jul 2024 #5
She passed? XanaDUer2 Jul 2024 #6
"" AllaN01Bear Jul 2024 #7
I'm so sorry! crosinski Jul 2024 #8
RIP Ohio Joe Jul 2024 #9
((( kozar ))) milestogo Jul 2024 #10
This message was self-deleted by its author Celerity Jul 2024 #34
I think it canetoad Jul 2024 #38
Absolutely. n/t LuckyCharms Jul 2024 #40
This message was self-deleted by its author Celerity Jul 2024 #44
It's a hug. debm55 Jul 2024 #47
This message was self-deleted by its author Celerity Jul 2024 #49
I've used parentheses as hugs for decades,. moonscape Jul 2024 #50
It's a hug. Never heard of the other use. Ocelot II Jul 2024 #52
This message was self-deleted by its author Celerity Jul 2024 #58
It is a good example because I have never seen it as anything but a hug questionseverything Jul 2024 #61
I've seen it used as a hug for as long as I've used the Internet, which is about when Ocelot II Jul 2024 #63
That predates me, as I was born in 1996. All I can speak to is what I have seen since the 2010s (in terms of its use). Celerity Jul 2024 #71
Really??? llmart Jul 2024 #73
I asked the question, and I have explained why. I was not trying to hijack anything. Celerity Jul 2024 #74
Then let it go. Polly Hennessey Jul 2024 #76
I was not the one continuing it, I was only replying to others who replied to me Celerity Jul 2024 #77
This message was self-deleted by its author Ocelot II Jul 2024 #123
This message was self-deleted by its author MerryBlooms Jul 2024 #141
My condolences kozar kimbutgar Jul 2024 #11
Oh my goodness malaise Jul 2024 #12
I'm so sorry 😢 live love laugh Jul 2024 #13
I am so sorry, kozar, What happened? Can you explain for us? We are here for you. We are your family. You are loved. debm55 Jul 2024 #14
Oh no! berniesandersmittens Jul 2024 #15
Oh no. haele Jul 2024 #16
Indeed BigMin28 Jul 2024 #126
My condolences. CentralMass Jul 2024 #17
I'm so sorry for your loss Koz. May the sweet livetohike Jul 2024 #18
So very sorry to hear this. Condolences to you and a warm hug. SheilaAnn Jul 2024 #19
Ty all kozar Jul 2024 #20
kozar, is there anyone you can call and be with you during this very hard time? Family? Friends? Neighbors? You should debm55 Jul 2024 #35
I got drunk, its Friday now, kozar Jul 2024 #147
I am so very sorry. Grief is the hardest feeling for me to coexist with. I usually GPV Jul 2024 #152
Sad news, indeed. Ptah Jul 2024 #21
... spanone Jul 2024 #22
Koz, I am so sorry. MacKasey Jul 2024 #23
Deleted post MacKasey Jul 2024 #161
Kick debm55 Jul 2024 #24
I am so sorry for your loss, koz. sheshe2 Jul 2024 #25
So sorry, my condolences. ⚘️ MerryBlooms Jul 2024 #26
I'm sorry, koz. LuckyCharms Jul 2024 #27
So very sorry Koz. FalloutShelter Jul 2024 #28
That's Dreadful ProfessorGAC Jul 2024 #29
So sorry kozar. Srkdqltr Jul 2024 #30
My condolences, kozar. nt sl8 Jul 2024 #31
So very sorry! Freddie Jul 2024 #32
So very, very sorry catrose Jul 2024 #33
I am so sorry, I hope you'll consider talking, crying, screaming, etc with a grief counselor... Think. Again. Jul 2024 #36
i second this Koz barbtries Jul 2024 #118
Sorry koz canetoad Jul 2024 #37
So very sorry for your loss, kozar! Backseat Driver Jul 2024 #39
I'm so very sorry democrank Jul 2024 #41
Sending love BittyJenkins Jul 2024 #42
My heartfelt condolences, Koz. usonian Jul 2024 #43
I am so sorry. GoCubsGo Jul 2024 #45
Oh, Koz, I'm so sorry. Biophilic Jul 2024 #46
I'm sorry. orange jar Jul 2024 #48
So very sorry. Hard hard. moonscape Jul 2024 #51
Heartbreaking. Dear_Prudence Jul 2024 #53
Deepest condolences. sinkingfeeling Jul 2024 #54
I'm so sorry, Koz Niagara Jul 2024 #55
I'm so sorry, Koz. highplainsdem Jul 2024 #56
I'm very sorry for your loss. We are here and you are loved. May she rest in peace and in the light of Divine love. n/t PatrickforB Jul 2024 #57
So very sorry to hear this. Desert grandma Jul 2024 #59
Oh koz, I'm so very sorry. Alliepoo Jul 2024 #60
I'm so sorry to hear this. Mr.Bill Jul 2024 #62
So sorry Bettie Jul 2024 #64
Sending you big hugs Chicagogrl1 Jul 2024 #65
I wondered how she did Marthe48 Jul 2024 #66
I am sorry JoseBalow Jul 2024 #67
So sorry for your loss. Bev54 Jul 2024 #68
So sorry Picaro Jul 2024 #69
I am so, so sorry Kozar. You must be in shock. Sending love and hugs to you judesedit Jul 2024 #70
So sorry, Koz... holding you in my heart. n/t TygrBright Jul 2024 #72
I'm so so sorry sdfernando Jul 2024 #75
So sorry bucolic_frolic Jul 2024 #78
My heart is broken for you. Polly Hennessey Jul 2024 #79
I am so sorry for your great great loss. irisblue Jul 2024 #80
So sorry for your loss Wicked Blue Jul 2024 #81
I'm so sorry. skylucy Jul 2024 #82
So sorry Kozar. We all know she was your life, and you'll have her in your heart until you're together again. Fla Dem Jul 2024 #83
So sorry for your loss Kozar CanonRay Jul 2024 #84
Nothing we can say can make it one bit better, but..... 70sEraVet Jul 2024 #85
Hugs to you buddy. Eko Jul 2024 #86
So sorry for your loss. Dave Bowman Jul 2024 #87
So sorry. 3Hotdogs Jul 2024 #88
I'm so sorry! Hope22 Jul 2024 #89
Oh Koz. I'm so sorry. Nanuke Jul 2024 #90
Sorry for You. Best to You. marked50 Jul 2024 #91
I am so sorry for your loss wordstroken Jul 2024 #92
I'm so sorry blogslug Jul 2024 #93
I am so sorry for your loss. badhair77 Jul 2024 #94
I'm so sorry. nolabear Jul 2024 #95
I'm so sorry. Chellee Jul 2024 #96
It's ok to not be ok for a while biophile Jul 2024 #97
Hugs to you as you grieve biophile Jul 2024 #98
I am so sorry. LoisB Jul 2024 #99
so sorry Kozar.... CANADIANBEAVER69 Jul 2024 #100
I'm so sorry and I'm sending a hug. BadgerMom Jul 2024 #101
I'm so sorry. Solly Mack Jul 2024 #102
... BumRushDaShow Jul 2024 #103
I'm so sorry! Sky Jewels Jul 2024 #104
To every thing, there is a season. Teacher of the Year Jul 2024 #105
I am timms139 Jul 2024 #106
OMG Kozar!! Trueblue Texan Jul 2024 #107
May your memories be a help as you grieve, kozar! pazzyanne Jul 2024 #108
I am so sorry... onecaliberal Jul 2024 #109
RIP Lilbit JustinBulletin Jul 2024 #110
I'm so sorry. Jirel Jul 2024 #111
I'm so sorry koz. mountain grammy Jul 2024 #112
So sorry for your loss Nululu Jul 2024 #113
omigawd. barbtries Jul 2024 #114
I am so sorry MerrilyMerrily Jul 2024 #115
Hugs to you Kozar. Duncanpup Jul 2024 #116
Oh, no! Warpy Jul 2024 #117
I'm so sorry, Koz. arkielib Jul 2024 #119
I'm so sorry... CaptainTruth Jul 2024 #120
Oh no... karin_sj Jul 2024 #121
I'm so very sorry cate94 Jul 2024 #122
very sorry, kozar. Tetrachloride Jul 2024 #124
big hug bikeboy Jul 2024 #125
Condolences, kozar gademocrat7 Jul 2024 #127
May her memory PCIntern Jul 2024 #128
I'm so sorry BigMin28 Jul 2024 #129
So sorry IbogaProject Jul 2024 #130
I'm so sorry to hear of this heartbreaking news.. virgdem Jul 2024 #131
I am so sorry to hear this dflprincess Jul 2024 #132
Oh no. I am so very sorry. StarryNite Jul 2024 #133
The love for her that you shared on this board is a lasting tribute to her. jmbar2 Jul 2024 #134
Hugs... SilverDawg Jul 2024 #135
I'm so damned sorry. stopdiggin Jul 2024 #136
I am sorry to hear that. (n/t) OldBaldy1701E Jul 2024 #137
My heart goes out to you. AmBlue Jul 2024 #138
Kozar, it breaks my heart to read this news. Dem2theMax Jul 2024 #139
I'm so sorry happybird Jul 2024 #140
Oh, no. How awful! So sorry. electric_blue68 Jul 2024 #142
I'm so very sorry, kozar. Moosepoop Jul 2024 #143
This community is here for you MyMission Jul 2024 #144
💔. Kozar, I am so terribly sorry. All of us know the love you had for Lilbit & her mother& the love they had for you Hekate Jul 2024 #145
I'm so sorry for your loss. Nevilledog Jul 2024 #146
So sorry, Koz. Iris Jul 2024 #148
Oh Koz! Oh no! femmedem Jul 2024 #149
Im so sorry The Third Doctor Jul 2024 #150
I'm so sorry for your loss. Ocelot II Jul 2024 #151
Oh Kozar, I can't imagine how you feel. 1WorldHope Jul 2024 #153
We grieve with you, Kozar Bayard Jul 2024 #154
So sorry for your loss JohnSJ Jul 2024 #155
Help,, i dont know what to do kozar Jul 2024 #156
The Mental Health Hotline at 866-903-3787 can answer your questions confidentially and free of charge. Celerity Jul 2024 #158
Im calmer than i should be kozar Jul 2024 #159
And now,it rains kozar Jul 2024 #160
Breezy acres capground ,site 12 kozar Jul 2024 #162
. berniesandersmittens Jul 2024 #165
I'm so sorry FemDemERA Jul 2024 #157
Let me know if I am correct? MacKasey Jul 2024 #163
I'm so sorry for your loss phoenix_rising Jul 2024 #164

Response to milestogo (Reply #10)

Response to canetoad (Reply #38)

Response to debm55 (Reply #47)

Response to Ocelot II (Reply #52)

Ocelot II

(130,533 posts)
63. I've seen it used as a hug for as long as I've used the Internet, which is about when
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:52 PM
Jul 2024

everybody else started using the Internet, in the mid-'90s. It was one of the emoticons in use before the invention of graphic smileys.

Celerity

(54,407 posts)
71. That predates me, as I was born in 1996. All I can speak to is what I have seen since the 2010s (in terms of its use).
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:57 PM
Jul 2024

llmart

(17,617 posts)
73. Really???
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:58 PM
Jul 2024

You had to hijack a thread started by someone grieving a tremendous loss for a "lesson" in how to properly use parentheses?

SMH

Celerity

(54,407 posts)
74. I asked the question, and I have explained why. I was not trying to hijack anything.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 08:01 PM
Jul 2024

Response to Polly Hennessey (Reply #76)

Response to Ocelot II (Reply #123)

debm55

(60,612 posts)
14. I am so sorry, kozar, What happened? Can you explain for us? We are here for you. We are your family. You are loved.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 06:58 PM
Jul 2024

berniesandersmittens

(13,197 posts)
15. Oh no!
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 06:59 PM
Jul 2024

I'm so sorry kozar. I don't know what to say except that you have DU if you need to reach out.

My deepest condolences.

livetohike

(24,282 posts)
18. I'm so sorry for your loss Koz. May the sweet
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:01 PM
Jul 2024

memories of Lilbit always comfort you. Lilbit

debm55

(60,612 posts)
35. kozar, is there anyone you can call and be with you during this very hard time? Family? Friends? Neighbors? You should
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:22 PM
Jul 2024

Last edited Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:56 PM - Edit history (1)

not be alone at this time. Stay on line and talk to us. We are here for you. We will listen. We love you and want to be with you , I don't want to tell you what to do , but alcohol is a depressant and will only make it worse for you. Cry, yell, scream. get it out. And we will be here for you.

kozar

(3,317 posts)
147. I got drunk, its Friday now,
Fri Jul 26, 2024, 10:25 AM
Jul 2024

I lost thirsday,, I'm drunk I've screamed, I am still crying
Is this a dream? I keep asking myself b by³

GPV

(73,393 posts)
152. I am so very sorry. Grief is the hardest feeling for me to coexist with. I usually
Fri Jul 26, 2024, 03:10 PM
Jul 2024

smother it with unimaginable amounts of food. I know you're hurting so bad right now, but can you get help for going through this? :hugs:

 

Think. Again.

(22,456 posts)
36. I am so sorry, I hope you'll consider talking, crying, screaming, etc with a grief counselor...
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:22 PM
Jul 2024

Grief counseling has helped me tremendously to get through.

barbtries

(31,308 posts)
118. i second this Koz
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 09:02 PM
Jul 2024

I don't know where I'd be without grief counseling, though it may be too soon, within a couple months I really hope you will consider it. I think right now you are in shock.

orange jar

(878 posts)
48. I'm sorry.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:39 PM
Jul 2024

It'll get better over time. Do you find catharsis/comfort in music? I find this song to be comforting in difficult times.

PatrickforB

(15,425 posts)
57. I'm very sorry for your loss. We are here and you are loved. May she rest in peace and in the light of Divine love. n/t
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:47 PM
Jul 2024

Desert grandma

(1,076 posts)
59. So very sorry to hear this.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:47 PM
Jul 2024

Sending love and hugs to you. My deepest sympathy Kozar. May she rest in peace and may her memory bring you peace and comfort.

Marthe48

(23,175 posts)
66. I wondered how she did
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 07:52 PM
Jul 2024

I was thinking about you both yesterday. I'm sorry to hear your sad news.

bucolic_frolic

(55,136 posts)
78. So sorry
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 08:06 PM
Jul 2024

We've all witnessed your devotion and ups and downs, and feel your shock. You've performed at a very high level.

Fla Dem

(27,633 posts)
83. So sorry Kozar. We all know she was your life, and you'll have her in your heart until you're together again.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 08:08 PM
Jul 2024

70sEraVet

(5,482 posts)
85. Nothing we can say can make it one bit better, but.....
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 08:08 PM
Jul 2024

Know that our hearts are with you.

Hope22

(4,746 posts)
89. I'm so sorry!
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 08:14 PM
Jul 2024

My heart goes out to you! Always know that you did your best. You did your best! Love and hugs to you!💗💗💐🙏🏼

biophile

(1,423 posts)
97. It's ok to not be ok for a while
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 08:30 PM
Jul 2024

You said you are in shock and that is not ok but it is normal. We are sorry for your sad news and loss. Sending hugs to you as you grieve.

biophile

(1,423 posts)
98. Hugs to you as you grieve
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 08:31 PM
Jul 2024

You said you are in shock and that is not ok but it is normal. We are sorry for your sad news and loss. Sending hugs to you as you grieve.

105. To every thing, there is a season.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 08:40 PM
Jul 2024

Your Lilbit sure was lucky to have you in their life. I know their path was difficult, but it was full of love.
My best to you as you process this but with her body passing comes her spirits great freedom. I hope that helps you through these hard days.

Brett

Trueblue Texan

(4,464 posts)
107. OMG Kozar!!
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 08:48 PM
Jul 2024

I am devastated for you! I wish I had words that took away the shock and disbelief and grief. I am sending you love and warmth and healing. Wish I could send so much more!!!

barbtries

(31,308 posts)
114. omigawd.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 08:58 PM
Jul 2024

my heart hurts for you.
As a mother who also lost her daughter I invite you to reach out any time. PM me and I will give you my phone number if you need to talk any time.

arkielib

(436 posts)
119. I'm so sorry, Koz.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 09:02 PM
Jul 2024

Very sincere condolences. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Please take care of yourself.

CaptainTruth

(8,200 posts)
120. I'm so sorry...
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 09:06 PM
Jul 2024

We're here for you. If there's anyone you can call to talk to or spend time with I urge you do it. You don't have to bear the pain alone, & I know it's always helped me.

Take care of yourself.



gademocrat7

(11,940 posts)
127. Condolences, kozar
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 09:18 PM
Jul 2024

On the loss of your sweet Lilbit. Sending you love and hugs. We are with you. Please stay in touch.

BigMin28

(1,859 posts)
129. I'm so sorry
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 09:22 PM
Jul 2024

Sending sincerest condolences and hugs your way. It's a tough road, I know too well. But you are not alone.



IbogaProject

(5,913 posts)
130. So sorry
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 09:23 PM
Jul 2024

Was this unexpected given her health condition? Either way I am so sorry for your loss you and your wife worked so hard to take care of her. But please check in with us as you need.

virgdem

(2,318 posts)
131. I'm so sorry to hear of this heartbreaking news..
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 09:28 PM
Jul 2024

My deepest condolences to you on the loss of Lilbit. She meant the world to you. Please take good care of yourself. We are all here for you.💔

jmbar2

(7,989 posts)
134. The love for her that you shared on this board is a lasting tribute to her.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 09:34 PM
Jul 2024

There are no words to console except I am so sorry. You've had so much loss. My heart hurts for you tonite.

AmBlue

(3,460 posts)
138. My heart goes out to you.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 09:47 PM
Jul 2024

We are here if you need us. Please reach out when you're ready.

Dem2theMax

(11,005 posts)
139. Kozar, it breaks my heart to read this news.
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 09:59 PM
Jul 2024

Lilbit and you were so lucky to have each other. You amazed me with all of the love and devotion you gave to her. I cannot imagine the amount of grief you are feeling right now. Please know we are all here for you. And always know that you did the very best by her.

For Lilbit

MyMission

(2,010 posts)
144. This community is here for you
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 11:47 PM
Jul 2024

To offer comfort and share your grief.
Any hour of the day.

To lose a child is a horror, a living nightmare.
You often remind us how important it is to love.
Remember love.
May your memories bring you comfort.

Hekate

(100,133 posts)
145. 💔. Kozar, I am so terribly sorry. All of us know the love you had for Lilbit & her mother& the love they had for you
Thu Jul 25, 2024, 11:58 PM
Jul 2024

May that love sustain you, and may her crossing be gentle.

💔Many people are holding you in their hearts tonight. 💔

femmedem

(8,561 posts)
149. Oh Koz! Oh no!
Fri Jul 26, 2024, 12:57 PM
Jul 2024

I'm so very sorry! I remember how scared you were when you were notified that Covid was going through the place she lived, and I can imagine how crushing this is for you, especially after having lost your wife.

1WorldHope

(2,054 posts)
153. Oh Kozar, I can't imagine how you feel.
Fri Jul 26, 2024, 03:12 PM
Jul 2024

I have only one child and the thought of losing her is unbearable. Let us know more as you can. Be gentle with yourself. And feel free to call anytime. Just ask for my number and I'll give it to you. 💔🫂

Bayard

(29,684 posts)
154. We grieve with you, Kozar
Fri Jul 26, 2024, 03:26 PM
Jul 2024

As Joe Biden has said:
'The time will come when her memory will bring a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eyes.'

Hang in there and lean on us. We're here for you.

kozar

(3,317 posts)
159. Im calmer than i should be
Fri Jul 26, 2024, 04:55 PM
Jul 2024

I contacted vet crisis line and spoke with them, thay can't send anyone

Koz

berniesandersmittens

(13,197 posts)
165. .
Sat Jul 27, 2024, 02:43 AM
Jul 2024

It may be time to call and see your doctor as soon as possible.
Your grief must be unbearable.

FemDemERA

(828 posts)
157. I'm so sorry
Fri Jul 26, 2024, 04:49 PM
Jul 2024

These are but mere words which seem so inadequate right now. I know there is nothing I can say to ease the pain of such a loss but my wish is for you to find some comfort in the days to come as you reflect on the memories of love and time shared with you Lilbit.

MacKasey

(1,519 posts)
163. Let me know if I am correct?
Fri Jul 26, 2024, 06:26 PM
Jul 2024

Lilbit has been in care of the state of Florida since August 2023,

I'm thinking you should have got documents stating what the procedure would be if she had passed. So I think you need to contact those same people to claim her body, if you want to have a funeral or cremation.

Can anyone please let me know if I am on the right track in support of Koz

phoenix_rising

(323 posts)
164. I'm so sorry for your loss
Fri Jul 26, 2024, 06:38 PM
Jul 2024

My heart breaks for you and for all you must be going through right now.


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