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clutterbox1830

(456 posts)
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 07:57 PM Nov 2024

I went to a family dinner tonight and learned that my 3 relatives are skipping voting

Just venting

I went to a family dinner tonight with my parents and 2 fellow cousins. Unfortunately , I learn that my dad and cousins are omitting the general election. They once were democrat voters but they hate both candidates. I tried to convinced them, but no luck. Sigh. I'm from Pennsylvania.
I went to get ice cream and overheard the coworkers there are voting for Trump.

I'm a bit disappointed and dishearted atm.

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I went to a family dinner tonight and learned that my 3 relatives are skipping voting (Original Post) clutterbox1830 Nov 2024 OP
At least they aren't voting for fuckface FrankBooth Nov 2024 #1
Ask them what they are eating at dinner. TheBlackAdder Nov 2024 #30
I can understand your disappointment iemanja Nov 2024 #2
you tried hard but 'democrat' voters really gave you away. Concern noted Coexist Nov 2024 #3
This! onecaliberal Nov 2024 #4
its like a car horn and they dont even get it jcgoldie Nov 2024 #5
Dead giveaway isn't it! retread Nov 2024 #6
Don't assume with all members Tree Lady Nov 2024 #8
Huh? clutterbox1830 Nov 2024 #10
Please ignore those here who try to belittle you. I understand your frustration. Doodley Nov 2024 #13
Democrat is a noun. Democratic is an adjective. TwilightZone Nov 2024 #16
Sorry. Good to know. clutterbox1830 Nov 2024 #17
Don't worry about it. TwilightZone Nov 2024 #19
All good FHRRK Nov 2024 #11
It doesn't surprise me. LisaL Nov 2024 #14
This lrymcqueen Nov 2024 #18
I have family voting for Trump Tree Lady Nov 2024 #7
I wish Earl G would put DU back on Star Members only. Sogo Nov 2024 #9
Because I'm venting? clutterbox1830 Nov 2024 #12
We don't want to hear members use the derogatory term marybourg Nov 2024 #23
I have been voting for... Alephy Nov 2024 #27
And other times, that cigar has an exploding squib stuck inside. Torchlight Nov 2024 #28
And an intentionally derogatory name is just an intentionally derogatory name. marybourg Nov 2024 #31
New member? You've been here since 2016. nt TBF Nov 2024 #24
How strange iemanja Nov 2024 #25
Do Not Despair FrankTC Nov 2024 #15
Thank you for your encouragement clutterbox1830 Nov 2024 #21
Better that they stay home. viva la Nov 2024 #20
For your enlightenment: retread Nov 2024 #22
It's also because Sparkly Nov 2024 #29
Yeah--not a good try there. Kingofalldems Nov 2024 #26
But your mom is voting. Women turnout will push us over the top! moonscape Nov 2024 #32

Tree Lady

(12,974 posts)
8. Don't assume with all members
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:03 PM
Nov 2024

that have low posts. My older daughter went from democrat few years ago to republican because of her boyfriend and other republicans at work.

It can happen. Very frustrating and maddening.

clutterbox1830

(456 posts)
10. Huh?
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:04 PM
Nov 2024

I'm writing this quickly and via my phone. I'm not trying to discourage people just venting.

TwilightZone

(28,836 posts)
16. Democrat is a noun. Democratic is an adjective.
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:11 PM
Nov 2024

So, it should be Democratic voters. Democrat used as an adjective, like "Democrat Party", is something that right-wingers have been doing for decades as an insult, so that's how your use of it is being interpreted by a few posters here.

I tend to give people the benefit of the doubt until given reason not to, however. Hence, the explanation.

TwilightZone

(28,836 posts)
19. Don't worry about it.
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:16 PM
Nov 2024

Things are a little testy around here since the election is tomorrow. Try not to take it personally.

For the record, I have several relatives who are Trump supporters for no reason that I've ever been able to discern, so I share your frustration.

FHRRK

(1,354 posts)
11. All good
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:06 PM
Nov 2024

I went to a family reunion in Uniontown, I am the only Dem in my family.

All of my cousins former Repukes, flipped and are voting for Harris, thirty of them!

Tree Lady

(12,974 posts)
7. I have family voting for Trump
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:01 PM
Nov 2024

luckily they are in CA so not that worried.

I know how it feels to see how awful he is and have them say she is too.

My fingers are crossed enough people vote the right way.

Sogo

(6,949 posts)
9. I wish Earl G would put DU back on Star Members only.
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:04 PM
Nov 2024

We don' t need this kind of annoyance.

clutterbox1830

(456 posts)
12. Because I'm venting?
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:08 PM
Nov 2024

And don't want to hear new members? Sorry.
You sound really pleasent to be around. 😑

marybourg

(13,588 posts)
23. We don't want to hear members use the derogatory term
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:18 PM
Nov 2024

“democrat” voters because that is an insult invented and used by the right wing and those who listen to right wing media. The Democrat-IC party is composed of Democrat-IC voters.

Alephy

(133 posts)
27. I have been voting for...
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:49 PM
Nov 2024

The Democratic party since Mondale.

I frankly find this ease to feel offended by 'democrat' silly at best.

I understand people are anxious and testy right now. But sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.

Torchlight

(6,266 posts)
28. And other times, that cigar has an exploding squib stuck inside.
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:56 PM
Nov 2024

I wouldn't check for squibs at a Cigar Lounge, but when I'm poking about near a magic shop, I'll let someone else try a few before me. (Also, I think you're confusing 'offended' with "this shit's getting real old real quick..." )

FrankTC

(259 posts)
15. Do Not Despair
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:11 PM
Nov 2024

A disappointing experience for sure, but your encounter with your family did not make you a worse person. Repose in the truth (that you know about the political reality). Pearls before swine. Take heart in the support of your community, your DU family. Maybe try to reach out and convince others who might be more accessible. GOTV. Fingers crossed for a good outcome tomorrow.

viva la

(4,464 posts)
20. Better that they stay home.
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:16 PM
Nov 2024

And no matter what, whenever they complain for the next four years, you can say, "Gee, too bad you didn't vote."

retread

(3,887 posts)
22. For your enlightenment:
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 08:18 PM
Nov 2024

From an NPR editorial in 2019.

For at least 80 years, some Republicans have referred to their major opponents as members of the "Democrat Party," not by its name — the "Democratic Party." It's a jab suggesting that the party is not democratic.

Sparkly

(24,819 posts)
29. It's also because
Mon Nov 4, 2024, 09:00 PM
Nov 2024

some pollsters decided the sound of "rat" at the end was a funny insult.

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