I am so discouraged and frustrated by the sheer stupidity of so many people.
Or the greed and lust for power that motivated them. Hubby and I will celebrate our 50th anniversary on November 23. He and I each had one daughter from our previous short lived marriages. We have a wonderful relationship that has lasted for 5 decades. In that time we have adopted 4 children that were older and in state custody for abuse and neglect. We never had any of our own biological children together. The first was a 6 year old girl, followed by 2 biological brothers that were 9 and 11. Three years after that we adopted a 13 year old girl. We became treatment foster parents then for a brother and sister that had suffered awful abuse at the hands of their mother and stepfather. We were going to adopt them as well, however, their bio dad and his family became part of our "extended family". They ( the kids) call us mom and dad and are now 41 and 43 years old. Our identical twin "granddaughters" live with us and are attending college here.
This is my dilemma friends...The kids are planning to have an open house type celebration for us at the local American Legion post. (My husband is a Vietnam Veteran). The first child that we adopted is now 54 years old and lives in a small ruby red rural town in Texas. She and her husband are full blown MAGA nuts. She has not always been that way. I am feeling so angry and betrayed by her and people like her that I am not certain I want to have this "celebration". I got a text from her saying that the invitations have been sent out and that our minister (local Unitarian Universalist) had agreed to officiate at the ceremony to renew our vows.
Problem is...I find myself disliking her and feeling very betrayed by her. I don't know if I want to be around her or my husbands family that all live in Texas and have been invited. My SIL's son is on the Texas supreme court, and I do not know if I can pretend that nothing is wrong. That group are all long time Republicans. We gave this daughter a home, parents, funded her damn education (she has a masters) and I almost feel disgust for her. I don't know how she could have grown up in our house and turned out this way.
I abhor hypocrisy, and this girl is such a damn hypocrite. I know that her 2 kids and maybe even her husband are not aware of the 2 abortions she had before she got married. She met her MAGA husband stripping in a tiddy bar in Amarillo. We knew none of this at the time and were told later by the other kids. My bio daughter was a year younger than her and is a STAUNCH Democrat. She told me that she accompanied this girl on the bus to Planned Parenthood where she received this care Then the hypocrite daughter marries and has a metamorphosis into a dutiful Catholic mother in a little town in ruby red Texas. My bio daughter wants to out her because she is so furious about the election and it is no secret all 4 of them voted for the orange maggot. In fact, she is so outraged that she told me that she will not be attending this event. She will take us out to dinner or something like that instead. I am so outraged by the Texas daughter's hypocrisy that I want to call off this "celebration". At this moment I vehemently dislike this daughter, her family, and my husbands siblings and their families. This truly has divided this family and it may not recover.
I talked about this to my therapist yesterday and I am still so stressed. My husband is much more conciliatory, and of course it is his 2 siblings. I just don't know if I can be nice to them. I do NOT want to be a hypocrite myself!
Thanks for letting me vent here friends.I have not shared much of my personal life here, as I actually am a very private person.
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