Cutting ties with your republican friends and family

[USAFRetired_Liberal]

For the past 40 years, Democrats have bent over backward to work within the system, seeking collaboration, compromise, and even friendship with Republicans. Despite political differences, they’ve treated them as colleagues and peers. Meanwhile, Republicans have spent decades demonizing Democrats, weaponizing the media to paint us as enemies, and refusing to compromise on anything. Their tactics have only grown more hostile and vindictive over time.

Now, Democrats are done playing nice. We’re disengaging, cutting ties, and refusing to entertain their toxic behavior—and suddenly, we’re the ones being called unreasonable or childish? That’s laughable. Republicans have built their entire playbook on name-calling, bullying, and divisive antics, like Senator Fischer’s husband refusing to shake Vice President Harris’s hand. Yet when we decide not to tolerate their hate, the outrage machine kicks in, with people like Bill Maher clutching their pearls.

Let’s be clear: there’s a difference between stepping away from racist, sexist, and hateful people and the deliberate cruelty Republicans have shown us for years. We’re not being childish—we’re drawing a line, and they don’t like it. Tough.

[CousinIT]

1. In any relationship, healthy boundaries are important, even required. nt

[calimary]

17. Especially in cases like these!

There’s certainly the “give til it hurts” idea, but sometimes one simply has to draw the line.

[milestogo]

2. It goes both ways.

Republicans are cutting off Democratic family members too. We are contaminating their schools, families, and churches.

[MotownPgh]

4. Whichever direction it gies,

I'm sure they don't miss me a bit!

[hatrack]

3. Currently in dead man's handle mode . . .

And it'll likely be a matter of days (or potentially hours) after 12:00 noon on the 20th that I release the handle.

It's no longer up to me, it's no longer up to Shitstain supporters among my family and friends, it's up to the guy they voted for.

And I"m reasonably certain that it won't take long.

[rubbersole]

5. Bannon, Musk, Miller, Flynn, Johnson, Thiel etc...

..drunk with power - this won't take a week before the shit overwhelms the fan.

[Initech]

23. Not to mention Trump's imperialist bullshit with Panama and Greenland.

And now Eloon is touting annihilating the UK. WTF.

[UTUSN]

6. Done

[judesedit]

42. They have succeeded in dividing us. Many don't even realize it. We must find common ground

if we want this country to survive. They don't even know they are voting against themselves, unfortunately. The money grubbers are the cause of this and laugh all the way to the bank. We all, basically, want the same things for ourselves and our families. We have to figure it out.

[Festivito]

46. The new thing is targeted information. We need to use it and cultivate it.

I cannot refute something that I have not seen nor heard before. They were targeted. I was not -- at least not with that targeted information. I can't get to common ground with that scenario.

Having quick access to the full text or video gives me a chance. DU does a good job of finding some of it. One trouble here is that it gets posted inside a thread that either drops or suspiciously disappears behind a sudden surge in postings.

[Festivito]

43. I've had successes. But I need over 4 minutes, and I get 20 seconds...

It's either their cell phone, or they are so insecure that they interrupt.

Not all of them.

This hard-core divisionism between we Americans is just another thing that makes Putin's superiority-complex smile.

If Dems would spend money to post the extra content needed to refute RW lies, we'd be winning. Instead, they leave us hanging out to dry for days until someone else looks it up, finds it, and says: Hey, here's the whole story.

[Maggiemayhem]

8. Some of them will turn you in the new authorities. Be prepared.

[Demobrat]

9. I have other reasons to not engage

so I just keep contact as low as possible - and that is very low. No fight. No drama. No big announcement. Just a call on Xmas and off the hook for another year.

[OMGWTF]

10. I weeded out all Rethuglicans from my life a while ago and my New Year's resolution for the last ten years

has been to keep idiots and assholes out of my life (I know, same difference). I recommend it highly.

[CTyankee]

44. I have only one, being retired and living in a very blue state....

but that ONE is working with me on producing my book and so I have just decided not to engage in anything but business at hand when we have a meeting. I actually feel sorry for him as I know Trump is gonna screw him and his family over.

LET THEM FIND OUT THEMSELVES AS THEY GET ROYALLY SCREWED BY THE MONSTER THEY VOTED FOR!
It's the only way. The hard way. Don't worry, they'll get theirs and it won't be pretty.

[Emile]

12. I haven't had anything to do with my right wing cousins

since President Obama. I don't miss them one bit. Disrespectful, hateful, racist pieces of shit.

[Buddyzbuddy]

13. It doesn't get any worse than leon claiming his son

is dead to him.

[NoMoreRepugs]

14. To the cookie bakers here working hard to mend fences I have to ask - are you following up on the

initial gesture made by the MAGAT or are you the instigator??? Huge difference, HUGE.

[womanofthehills]

15. I never had a fallout with Reputation friends or family

The majority of my friends & family are Dems but in the past, 2 Republican girl friend were there for me big time.

I feel as I get older, I need all the friends I can have as some have moved away or died.

One friend was putting down Bernie and I told him about all the good things Bernie is for - the guy is quiet and then days to me - “So Bernie is your Rand Paul”. He told me he enjoys talking to me.

Mostly, my Republican friends are not very into politics like I am - so they don’t even bring politics up.

[Joinfortmill]

16. There's no going back from this election. They own their votes and the consequences.

Speaking for myself, I'm hoping I'll be brave in the face of what's coming.

[calimary]

18. Sometimes that's about all you can do.

[yankee87]

19. LGBTQ Parent

I cut off ties with my only sister, whose husband is a retired NYC police officer. Screw them.
I am looking at how to get my daughter and her partner to go to Ireland. My parents came after the war therefore they can go back. I can’t believe this is happening.
Also, my wife’s maga brothers.

[Conjuay]

34. Documentation.

You parents birth certificates. Marriage certificate, your birth certificate - all That stuff. The documents have to be originals.

[D23MIURG23]

20. I could articulate reasons not to cut them off, but I really don't care at this point.

When no amount of reasoning, appeals to humanity, or friendship have an effect, I have to ask what the point is. I don't need them, and I don't owe them anything.

[paleotn]

21. Life is too short to be spent with jackasses.

Interesting thing is, mine were jackasses even before Donny Poopy Pants. So nothing of any value lost, really. Told to go fuck themselves during his first term. Reiterated in 2021. Some I've not seen in nearly 8 years and don't care to ever see again.

[Unladen Swallow]

22. I would like to think I can find something in common with EVERY American

The last thing we need is more division.

[Conjuay]

35. They're the ones that demonized us,

Fuck them all with a hat stand.

[travelingthrulife]

37. Awesome. You can discuss the weather thoroughly. Wait. You can't discuss the

weather because of climate change.

[Arazi]

38. Yup. A Trumper family member went off on Biden controlling the weather

When someone innocuously commented on how lovely the day was on Thanksgiving. This was despite explicit directives to everyone to avoid politics.

There is literally nothing the cult won’t turn into a RW rant.

Nothing.

I’m so sick of it. My trans cousin was deliberately misgendered and dead-named the entire day at Thanksgiving by the Trumpers and (rightfully) will never return to another family gathering.

Those folks scolding the rest of us irritate the shit out of me. I’m not confrontational, the Trumpers are spoiling for it though

[mahina]

24. We're all different. My approach is to seek a way to calm the waters as I am finding people seem ready to escalate into

dramas at the drop of a hat. The screen door repair guy at the hardware store just now for example. If he's not on something, he should see a doctor. As my sweet funny WWII vet grandad used to say, "relax. a guy died once."

I try to leave space for redemption and realize how hard that is to accomplish.

A long time ago I came across a nurse who let me know she thought it was a good thing that President Kennedy was killed. Horrifying. This was in the 80's. I had never come across a person like this.

It is hard to change the minds of people who grew up with hatred. It's going to be harder I imagine. No reason to give up now, or ever, in my view. We are all so much greater than hate- all of us.

[Unladen Swallow]

50. I agree

Saying that JFK was killed is a good thing IS horrifying, yet I see dozens of people here daily pray for Trump to meet the same fate.

I try to maintain a 50,000ft view on everything I can.

Life's too short. I'm going outside to enjoy the sunshine.

[Arazi]

25. No apology for prioritizing your peace

The MAGAts in my life seize any stupid conversational opening to launch into a RW tirade just like an evangelical who fervently believes that if they just keep preaching, you’ll somehow come to Jesus.

It’s exhausting, impossible drama and I refuse to apologize for minimizing contact. Those of you with civil MAGA friends and family are very very lucky. Maybe cut the rest of us unlucky ones some slack 🙄

[Skittles]

30. I've noticed that too

they are fucking NUTS

[Dan]

26. I sometime think that we're at a point in time

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Just before Ft. Sumter.

I sadly think that Trump is going to do or act on something that really going to force people to reveal - just what side are you on. Trump will push things just too far, it’s what he has always done and will do. He will break the social contract between the nation and its people.

[slightlv]

40. The repugs gave him ample room to finish breaking the

social contract. They've been actively working on it since at least the days of FDR.

I know not everyone around here is into Astrology... and I'm a complete amateur... but I've been told by those I respect that the alignments now are tracking with what they were back in the days of the start of the civil war. Also, during WWII (although I'm less certain of that).

What do they say? History doesn't repeat, but it sure rhymes a lot of the time!

[Meadowoak]

27. There's no room in my life for any Trumper. Trash day is on Tuesday.

[Katnip.]

28. I no longer speak with my older sister

Our father died about 2 years ago and we'd grown closer over it but somehow she became a Trump supporter and I cannot stand her. I told her not to bring up politics because we're polar opposites. But she kept doing it so I no longer speak with her. She used to be normal and I considered her smart. I think she was indoctrinated alongside her husband during the pandemic when she was isolated inside her house.

[Skittles]

32. jeez

it's seriously bad when they refuse to respect your wishes

it is sickening, the damage Trump's penchant for hatred and fear and ignorance has done to America

[Kaleva]

29. When climate change gets bad, I'll need them and they'll need me.

[Meowmee]

31. I don't have any R family or friends

So I consider myself fortunate there. I would like to see d leaders start fighting, I don't see it very much at all≥ 

[slightlv]

41. Meowmee,

I'm so with you. I've got one brother who, I have no doubt, is a trumper -- simply because he has never trusted a democrat. He's a one issue voter - no one is going to take away his guns (sigh). After several blowups and blowouts over years, even long prior to trump, I made it a point to never talk anything slightly political in his presence. If he starts, I walk away. I do the same thing when he starts the cat barbcue jokes, or other comments about my babies. How we ever came out brother and sister, I'll never understand. We're not even the flip sides of the same coin, we're so different!

But like you, I want to see some fight from our democratic leaders. They want our support... they certainly want our money... it's about time for them to really get down and dirty and start fighting for us, our country, and our democracy. I was so embarrassed that not one democrat (or anyone else) raised a protest at trump certification.

[Meowmee]

53. Sorry about your brother

That must be so hard. 🤗

I wonder if d leaders know that their non actions and capitulation bring a sense of betrayal and despair. I stopped donating a long time ago. Never again.

[slightlv]

54. You hit the two perfect words, AFAIC...

"Betrayal" and "Despair". The first being the one that hurts the worst. As much I liked Harris, I did notice that all the attention and news was on the stars or VIP people who would appear with her. Harris' plans and policies got totally drowned out by the typical female crap such as what clothes she was wearing, and also by the Magas deriding the star power she had. It also made more than a few of us feel left out because of our no-money, no-power situation. We were just lucky enough that those stars usually were saying what we would have said. Still... I have to wonder how much of that played into her fragile loss. I swear, this country will never vote a woman into office unless she's a Reagan/Thatcher Republican-Libertarian.

Most of us live in third world status in this first world country. It goes downhill from here. That's truly scary, because you then get into talking about countries like those on the African and Middle Eastern continents. I didn't serve my country to be treated like this, or see my fellow citizens treated as bad and worse. Despite the Maladministration, I will still practice kindness to those around me, and who are even more vulnerable than I am.

[William769]

33. I have had a tenuous relationship with m brothers & sisters over the years

Because I am Gay & we are so far apart politically. This past Christmas I have cut all ties & do not see a way of ever reconciling.

[Happy Hoosier]

36. No close MAGA friends....

I can't be "friends" with a MAGAt. They actively support harm to people I love. Fuck 'em.

We (my wife and I) don;t maintain close ties with MAGAt family memebers EXCEPT her Mom. Her Mom is 93 and needs some assistance and she feels an obligation. Her insane super-right-wing brother is basically a non-functional person and can't/won't help her. A right-ish wing cousin is helping insofar as he can.

The rest? Fuck 'em. I can't play nice with people who actively are supporting suppressing my daughters' rights.

[Devilsun]

39. A guy I've been friends with for 40+ yrs.

Sent me a text yesterday. It said. "It was nice to see Kamala Harris officially certify the insurrection today" 😡 That was the proverbial straw!!!

[CTyankee]

45. Text him back: Yes, it was nice to see her follow the Constitution of the United States of America. Probably the last

time you'll see someone follow the Constitution until we get a Democrat back in the White House.

[KT2000]

47. One conversation with cousin

and I realize I cannot talk to her again. I am too polite for the sake of "family." I end up seething that she can accept this disgusting piece of crap. I always knew she could be thoughtless but now I see she is cruel. She knows my position but does not respect it. That is their theme.

Checking out at the grocery store, it was obvious the checker was upset. She finally revealed that a MAGA had been through her line and bellowed his love for the dumpster and how awful President Biden is. No respect for the fact she may have a different opinion and knowing that she could not just walk away.

How to confront this - because these people are crazy - do we just put up with it? I say no.

[NameAlreadyTaken]

48. Republican voters are deadly toxic poison.

The Republican voters are the ones responsible for this mess, starting with Reagan voters in 1980.

There is no such thing as a "good person who happened to vote for Trump." If they voted for Trump, they are evil, period. And toxic to anyone around them.

Cut off all contact with these people, even if they are immediate family or longtime friends. Don't explain why. Just block all channels of communication, lock that door and throw away the key.

You will find that your life improves without those toxic people in it. If you continue to allow them even one inch into your life, they will continue to poison you through that inch.

No communication whatsoever.

[CaptainTruth]

49. Well said!

[The Wizard]

51. Armed with disinformation from Pox News

they eagerly turn an amicable conversation into a political debate. My response is usually along the lines of "you will not get a response from me regarding politics." They often do the broken record routine of repeating what they said in the first place. Sometimes I ask the about their relationship with Jesus or if they believe in Zeus.

[kimbutgar]

52. On Threads a troll attacked me for saying how the repukes and their media has divided us and then said I was also a

Divider to make a disparaging comment about how I don’t want to be around magaloons. I looked at the profile no pic and no other posts I posted a troll meme I use now a lot and then blocked them.


That said my days are numbered on threads and Facebook because zucky bowed to the devil and will not have employees monitoring dangerous posts. I love keeping in touch with friends on Facebook but I think my days are over there are going to be ending soon after the day the USA dies on 1/20/25.