It feels like an abusive marriage.

[sheshe2]

They beat you over and over, they demean you. They verbally abuse, scream and emotionally torment you. They lie, cheat and steal.

They cut you off from all avenues of assistance. Isolation.

That is what trump and elon are doing to America.

I know the signs.

[kimbutgar]

1. Sadly true 😭

[NameAlreadyTaken]

2. LIkely what Elon is doing to Trump.

[sheshe2]

19. Frankly, I don't give a dayum what he does to trump.

I do care what they are doing to America. He/They are raping America and we have to stop them or many of us will die without the rule of law and our Democracy.

They are isolating us as they take away our choice.

[milestogo]

3. And then they do it again the next day.

And the day after that...
And the day after that...
And the day after that...
And the day after that...
And the day after that...
And the day after that...
And the day after that...
And the day after that...
And the day after that...
And the day after that...And the day after that...
And the day after that...And the day after that...
And the day after that...And the day after that...
And the day after that...And the day after that...

[elleng]

4. after 'you' paid the lion's share of the mortgage, and had kids.

(Been there.)

[sheshe2]

6. I hear ya, elleng.

💙

[SheltieLover]

5. Yup. 1st action is always isolation of victim, in this case our country.

[bucolic_frolic]

7. Entirely correct. Narcissistic abuse is the basis for an abusive marriage.

Borderline boundary issues. Sociopath tantrums. Infallibility. The various forms of gaslighting. You never know what you're talking about.

That's how narcissists control their world. This world is the largest world.

[yellow dahlia]

8. Wrapped in SO much gaslighting.

[Bernardo de La Paz]

9. Bully tRump inflicts TrumPain and his minions and cult members delight in doing the same. . . nt

[sheshe2]

22. Yes, because the cult members are to stupid to realize...

that they are coming for them as well and when they do it will be too late.

[GP6971]

13. Well, OK then.

[sheshe2]

32. They came to visit not to stay.

[PatSeg]

15. I don't know of any liberals or Democrats

who thought America was all "sunshine and roses before Trump and Musk arrived". Most have been out there striving for constructive and progressive change, while battling right-wing policies and corporate greed. Trump and Musk just accelerated the destructive policies of the conservative and corporate agenda 1000 fold.

[PatSeg]

11. Oh yes, in so many ways

[MustLoveBeagles]

12. A very on point analogy

I wish this wasn't the case 😔

[sheshe2]

26. I know hon.

[wordstroken]

14. Absolutely!!! Been there.

[KS Toronado]

16. And all the elected Rs are the enablers

giving them a green flag to abuse us. Very very very little push back from any R. Everybody
with an R congress critter needs to voice your opinion to them.

[Junipercity]

17. Very much so, and there's a reason.

I had to give up everything to escape such a relationship. It almost cost me my life. In a way, it did cost me my life.

I can not put in to words what I am feeling right now. Spring will be here soon.

It's so damn cold tonight.

[sheshe2]

27. I am so sorry, Junipercity.

[Junipercity]

40. It will be ok.

I talked with a couple of friends tonight. I'm not as bad off as they are.
I've been noticing that people seem to be very fragile right now, very weary.

I'm wise enough, (read traumatized enough), to know when I'm being gaslit. But many people haven't had the experience to cope with this onslaught. They're confused and badly destabilized. I'm seeing people lash out in all directions. And at the drop of a hat.

Me, I guess I must just be running the same script that kept me alive before. Kind of numb. Not a lot of joy. I finally got the place warmed up a bit. Oddly enough. The cat chose to sleep on my head tonight, whereas he virtually always sleeps at my feet.

Thanks for the hugs.
And for the 💕.

[KT2000]

18. You are exactly right

The rest of the world hates us now so I can't imagine what foreign travel is like. I don't even feel good about going to Canada because they are in the process of redefining their relationship with us.

Totally devoid of empathy, musk has adopted the Nazi manual of efficiency. The goal is to do away with those they consider useless and the non-whites. To so willingly lie is what abusers do to show total disrespect and dehumanize.

This is the reign of the psychopaths.

[DSandra]

31. Wait till they put together the federal police, including their Gestapo...

[Sucha NastyWoman]

37. A terrifying thought

You know it’s coming.

[DSandra]

39. Not to mention that it's part of Yarvin's plan, the philosophical leader of the technofascists (incl. Thiel, Musk)

[KPN]

20. Perfect analogy.

[Aussie105]

21. America was never perfect.

Anyone who claims there was a golden age where everything was perfect is just deluding themselves.
MAGAts think there is, and we should go back 'there'.
Delusional!

But we have (had?) good people working to make it better, unlike now.
That is a difference.
Like a marriage where people work together, rather than one trying to destroy the other.

We know what the problem is, we know who is causing it.
What to do about it? That is the question.

[Efilroft Sul]

23. It's full-spectrum enshitification.

[Solly Mack]

24. Cast iron skillets aren't just for corn bread.

Everyone sleeps.

Those are merely observations.


I agree with you, btw. Said the same thing the other day.

[FirstLight]

25. Yep I've been saying it for a long time...

And now that there's two of them it's only worse. And they have cut off most avenues for relief. Unless the rest of the world comes to our aid, what is our respite?

I definitely feel beaten down. And I just got out of an abusive marriage in October where she tried to kill me and the trauma daily is really wearing me down I thought I was free..... LOL.... What a joke

[MustLoveBeagles]

28. I know it's not much but I can offer you a virtual hug

I'm sorry for what you went through.

[FirstLight]

30. Thanks, therapy is a godsend

But I also realize how many patterns have been set generationally. This is bigger than all of us I feel. That's why it's having this effect on such a massive scale. We all have so much generational trauma and the patriarchy is not okay. We have got to get back to some kind of better and more equal holistic ground in our world. I pray for peace ....SO much!

[wendyb-NC]

29. All of his provocative public edicts,

Or his rally rants, have felt like that, ever since he hit the public scene, have been like that to me. Of late, since day one of tsf's 2nd term are like that. He embodies, his said mission, of retribution and destruction.

[electric_blue68]

33. Hugs to all who have suffered such emotional, and physical harm in those relationships!

While not the same I was in a complex roommate situation, couldn't find a new place for a long time, and she turned very verbally abusive, and even physically at times about 2 years in of a ?9 year stay.

🚨 might be triggery...
.
.
.
First several months when I was finally in my own place, and had left something dark, and big on a set of portable, stacklable shelves near the corner into rest of the hallway going to the living room & kitchen I'd sometimes flinch thinking it was her coming around the corner. Eventualy that reaction did go away! 👍

So yeah...

[MiKenMi33]

34. You are 100% right.

I feel like I have a constant dread inside. Wondering what he’s going to do next.

[yaesu]

35. And we can't even get a restraining order. nt

[brer cat]

36. ita. K&R

[slightlv]

38. Most women today know the signs... we've lived through it, too...

and now we're just trying NOT to get triggered by the mention of his name, his face, or seeing what next he's done to drive us into the dirt. It's hard. I don't think there are walls high enough that I could build to protect my psyche from him and co-prez.

[Hekate]

41. She...

[sheshe2]

42. 💙

Love ya, Hekate.

[BurnDoubt]

43. Yep

Sixty-seven years ago chronic domestic unrest in my family morphed into manslaughter when a tussle over my mother's firearm resulted in her being shot in the chest. My four-year-old brother and I were placed with my grieving maternal grandmother and her second husband, upending lives and plans for good. In a relatively short time, step-grandfather's patience began wearing thin and his drinking increased and his narcissism and abuse ruled the roost from Friday night until remorse and apologies on Monday morning. This was life for more than ten years... hostages in our home. This was back when America was Great, and because my Grandmother was our legal guardian, she was compelled to stay with him and make no mention of the condition of our life out of fear my brother and I would be separated and placed in other foster-care. This, because single women, much less divorcees, were routinely denied credit, or even a bank account, or many of the rights and privileges eked-out over the years since. I mention this because I share my vivid memories and emotions with a great many of you, and I'm sure you are triggered by the oafishness strutting around in the name of America just as I am and have been since he started chewing the scenery. And when he breathes his last, all my tears will have been spent on his victims. In the meantime, we have to find a way to survive and resist the No-Normal.

[no_hypocrisy]

44. This is so real that I'm getting flashbacks from PTSD.

Grew up in an abusive, narcissistic, dysfunctional family. Father believed he had to destroy me because I challenged him. And I was the only one to do it.

But I also feel empowered to fight this fight too. I'm not a victim and I have more experience than a lot of people.