I rarely post on DU. I have less than 5000

[ALBliberal]

Posts tho I have been either lurking or a member for many years.

Why? Because many times people can be unnecessarily unkind.

Just put up a post and I am just deleting it.

Not worth the flack.

But I will continue to check DU daily and rec. and pay my dues.

[Celerity]

1. What was your post about? TIA

[hlthe2b]

2. I'd hope you wouldn't let a DUer's correction of spelling get to you. We all get it--whether typos or

grammar, or whatever. And we all make errors--especially (for me) if I post via cell phone.

Hang in there. DUers mostly don't mean to be unkind. I will say that right now, the stress of having TSF in office and MUSK destroying everything is really difficult for most here. We should support each other.

[Joinfortmill]

3. I hear you and it's getting worse.

[GentryDixon]

4. I was beat up by members here

for buying dog treats at a store (? can't remember), which was being boycotted for some reason. My dog at the time had a misaligned jaw and had trouble chewing, so the only place I could find these little bitty treats was at that particular store.

Another time it was for reheating my husband's coffee in the microwave.

I've been a paying member since 2008 & have just over 3000 posts, and that is one reason. Sometimes people can be so judgemental, it's just not worth the stress.

DU is always my first stop in the morning & I enjoy reading all the posts to keep informed, so that is good enough for me.

[ProfessorGAC]

5. This Is In Response...

...a one word reply? Or a reminder not to post politics in The Lounge?
You sure you're not overreacting somewhat?

[ALBliberal]

7. Wasn't about the lounge post. I reposted in gd misspelled

A word fixed it and was ridiculed. Still.

Why go through all that?

Not worth the effort.

[live love laugh]

28. And yet you have been here how long?

[ALBliberal]

33. Taking that as supportive not being sarcastic.

[ALBliberal]

6. Thanks for kind replies!

It was over a misspelled word. College educated cpa here and wanted to go with Martial and instead went with Marshall.

Sarcastic replies ensued.

Thing is? There may be more than a few of us that are leaving social media that might want to voice our opinions.

Every time I post it is with trepidation. Just wondering who will reply sarcastically unsupportively.

So I very rarely post. But it’s an excellent place for information and I remain a loyal member.

[claudette]

8. I try to

ignore any personal attack aimed at me but I do use the “ignore” feature if it’s too bad.

[ALBliberal]

10. Oh I will definitely use that!

[LuckyCharms]

9. Here's what you do when someone gives you shit.

You give it right back to them.

No one is better than anyone else.

Don't let ANYONE chase you off here.

Some people are thrilled to correct spelling and grammar mistakes, or to otherwise belittle you over something minor.

Respond in a way that will make them think twice about belittling you again.

[MayReasonRule]

17. Well Said Ya Crunchy Marshmallow Delight!!!

[True Dough]

27. I commend you

for spelling it "minor" instead of "miner" this time, Lucky. There's hope for you!

[MayReasonRule]

11. Don't Let The Dipshits Get Your Goat Y'all...

Stick around and share!! '
What are you currently doing?

I've got lamb breast roasting in the oven... My honey's playing Animal Crossing... And our 85 lb Gotti Pit Bull roo dog that takes care of his two kitty-kat friends is gently snoring on the couch...

There're are a ton of forums and a bunch of great folks.
You can ignore as many dispshits as needed... no limit...

Look me up on Blue Sky as well... ton of nice folks over there...

I'm 'We Are Stardust We Are Golden' on Blue Sky...

[Cirsium]

20. OK, sure

But are you reheating coffee in the microwave??? Hmmm??

[H2O Man]

12. Over the years

I have had numerous people point out when I mis-spell a word. Some are polite, some are rude. Either way, I let them know that being Irish (nature and nurture), I'll spell words however the fuck I want to at any given time.

Such things should bounce off our backs like a duck off froozen water. Bloody christ, years ago a former DUer said she had "proof" that I am Patrick Buchanan. I still laugh about that one.

[MayReasonRule]

16. Lol...

Personally I consider myself an Oregon-Coonass...

My heart's in Oregon but my ass is stuck in Louisiana...

[hlthe2b]

21. Hahahahahha...

Patrick Buchanan!

[Cirsium]

22. LOL

I ran into a botanist out in the field a couple of years ago, and we worked our way through plant id's. After a while I realized that she was just making up fanciful common names on the fly for the plants we were seeing. I thought maybe they were regional names, since she was from another state. I asked about that and she said oh, no, she just likes to make up names for the plants. That is kind of like an accountant telling you that they like to just make up numbers.

I found that strangely liberating and I still chuckle when I think about it. We don't want to take ourselves too seriously. "A rose by any other name..." and maybe "a word by any other spelling?"

[madinmaryland]

26. Seriously? Some thought you Buchanan? I been reading you posts for twenty years and

I don’t ever recall you posting any that resembles Patrick Buchanan’s world view. Hopefully that is a former DUer who was tombstoned.

[c-rational]

13. Keep posting. Most here appreciate the varied views.

[Deuxcents]

15. Don't let rude people keep you away..call em out but don't stay away.

When I stumble, I get zapped, too..and quickly but 99% of the people here are forgiving which I appreciate because I have learned a lot about many subjects/issues and there have been times I’ve altered my stance as I’ve learned from others and other times, I’ve been introduced to subjects I’ve never known about. Your opinion is worthy so please share 🌺

[ALBliberal]

19. You know? It's interesting the rudest

reply is from a member I always respect and rec. and generally give grace. I just looked at my profile I have less than 3000 posts in geez? Many years. Also have 100% chance of jury service. And you know it’s not easy to give that sort of time to be available for jury. But also the reason I love this sight. Because it cuts down on the crazy.

Yes I should toughen up. But I also believe that if the goal is to expand the sight? Maybe some should be more tolerant and kind. And I also believe that making people feel less than isn’t the way forward on this sight much less for the country.

[canetoad]

14. A lot of folk are touchy

Right now, and I really don't blame them given what's happening in the US. Still, unkindness is not what we are supposed to be about here. Try to see past it.

[SocialDemocrat61]

18. Sorry for your bad experience

It is unfortunate that some members are a bit arrogant and want to belittle others. But they are a very small minority.

[Niagara]

23. To me, correcting someone publicly it comes off as extremely Trumpian

On Friday, the majority of us just watched Trump and Vance go on an attack on Zelenskyy.


So when DU members attempt to degrade and belittle other members for any type of mistake, it comes off as Trumpian to me and it says more about them compared to the person who made the mistake.

There are members here who are near illiterate, some with handicaps, some with bad eye sight, and some like me who have chronic brain fog due to Fibromyalgia. And yet, here I am. I take care of clients who can't care for themselves due to age related conditions or who have dementia for my line of work.

I could type something out, and read it and reread a dozen times I won't catch my mistakes. It doesn't define me and doesn't make me unintelligent. It makes me a human being that makes mistakes. Whatever, it is what it is.

I have seen a few mistakes in OP's and I've privately message the creator of the OP to let them know about the mistake. I'm not making a big deal out of it and I'm letting them know like an adult would let another adult know, instead of belittling the person.

So please don't let them get to you, ALBliberal.

[crosinski]

24. Thank you for writing this post.

As you can see, my post count is much lower than yours and I’ve been here since 2010. I love DU and would like to participate more, but I worry about grammar and punctuation too much to write a lot. I just wanted to let you know that I understand what you’re saying and encourage you to keep posting now and then because your opinion is more important than your spelling.

[elocs]

25. I've been at DU for nearly 19 years, with almost 23,400 posts.

My signature at the bottom of my posts: "I'm not a DUer, I just post here. DU: You can check out any time you like, but you can never leave." That's my philosophy. My Ignore list is huge. I don't get into it with any DUer who pisses me off, I just put them on my Ignore list. It makes life easier here. I've been warned for posts, threatened with suspension--I really don't care much. These days, DU doesn't offer many threads or posts that make me feel better about American life, or lack of it.

[Wifes husband]

29. I agree

The trolls are getting to me. I recently let myself get involved in a discussion with a troll, and I am mad at myself.

Dealing with trolls irritates me, and I think I will just lurk around for awhile myself

[GreenWave]

30. There are more than typos, some times there are hearos.

Example: your analysis vs. urinalysis

Also spaceos: My pen is red. vs. My red.

[WarGamer]

31. DU is a wonderful resource for learning...

When it strays from reality... it's at it's worst.

Inexplicably... some tend to defend alternate facts.

[MuseRider]

32. I don't like that much either but

every check, complaint or mean response (I rarely see those) is a chance to learn. I know how icky and stupid that sounds but it really is true. It took me a while to ever post and I still do not post a lot but it is a great way to learn and check yourself. BTW I am older and it took me this long to work this out. I am sure this sounds stupid and that you have heard it before or I am being a jerk assuming things and all that can be correct but...flack can be good for you, really. We need all our voices to correct the wrongs and boost the right things we all believe.

This is hard for me because I just suffered a small stroke and could not even remember my name or words or how to spell (it took me about 6 tries to get the word *spell* right( head/desk).

We need everyone, let the flack slide. Most of us don't bite.

[Marigold]

34. I agree

I like to read what others have to say, but not comfortable posting. There is always someone who gets aggressive over semantics or something you said that didn't translate well. I do most of my posting on Blue Sky now. So far I've had few problems.

[SWBTATTReg]

35. Hey, the number of such people mouthing off ignorantly is very low on DU, if it even happens. 99.99% of the people

on DU are among the best audience one could ever wish for. And we have a MIRTs team, that will remove those who are just on DU to mouth off, just trying to stir up crap, when in fact, it makes them look even worse.

[usonian]

36. I oftrn tyoe on a tiny iphonr jeyboard. I

If anyone bitches, they can buy me a $1200 or more Herman Miller chair for my computer desk.

Sitting on a living room chair. Poking at the iphone.

I got dinged for a slightly nasty response in one thread. My reply wasn't to restore the post, but to point out that it was in response to someone whose troll-ish style reminded me very strongky of (redacted) user who was banned, and may have resurfaced under another handle.

No probs since then. Some styles are very distinctive.

Good luck.

Haopoy typoes!

[MLAA]

37. Hope you will reconsider and don't let the occasional snapping turtle or overly enthusiastic dictionary lover keep you

from posting.

[Avalon Sparks]

38. Nice to meet you!

I know exactly what you mean. Such snooty posters,, and of course the spelling poolease, lol.

Those spelling puleese always spell checking, such busy, little bees.

Thank you for calling them out! I just roll my eyes and scoff at them.

[NewHendoLib]

39. To contribute to any on line forums requires development of a thick skin.

I remember when I first found DU and joined in 2004 it was a bumpy ride for me for a bit of time. It is the same in a few gardening forums I participate in. Opinions are like assholes - we all have them. We also have a full range of personalities.

My view - if you have something to say, say it. If you are well within bounds of the guidelines, and someone comes back at you with sarcasm or disrespect - fuck em.

This place is quite outstanding - lots of great opinions, concern for our country and for each other. I think there is sensitivity about proper spelling. We can't pick on right wingers for spelling errors on their signs and their own sites if we get too sloppy. There is also likely a correlation with age and vocation. I am an old dude, and a writer - so spelling errors to me are like hearing an out of tune instrument on a song. But...I generally don't bring them up.

[Raine]

40. A couple of times I've had someone smart off to me in a rude way

I got so upset I didn't post again for weeks until something came up I just had to reply on. One other time someone decided to "school" me on the difference between your and you're. They made me feel like and illiterate because were so rude about it. I gave it back to them saying I hadn't the privilege of a "fine" higher education like they had.