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(45,558 posts)
Tue Dec 18, 2012, 07:45 PM Dec 2012

When was a young man, I was mixed up. I was ravaged by acne and had parents

basically left us alone to grow up, using us pawns in a nasty divorce.

I'm not blaming them, my mom started a twenty year battle with cancer when I was in fifth grade. My dad was an alcoholic of the worst kind and was never able to break out of the family curse.

My Mother made a second mistake when she remarried when I was going into seventh grade. She was a fighter and a strong willed woman who tried very hard.

I just wanted to put that out here.

Thankfully, there were a few songs I remember that truly spoke to me.

This is one....

At 17...
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When was a young man, I was mixed up. I was ravaged by acne and had parents (Original Post) WCGreen Dec 2012 OP
You turned out okay, Chris. In_The_Wind Dec 2012 #1
Well, the jury may still be out... WCGreen Dec 2012 #2
Beautiful song, Chris... CaliforniaPeggy Dec 2012 #3
i can totally relate. nashville_brook Dec 2012 #4
oh, WC that one was my anthem riverwalker Dec 2012 #5
Ditto about the nasty divorce pawns and alchoholic mean parents. Dont call me Shirley Dec 2012 #6
I presume you are a boomer? ReRe Dec 2012 #7
I was seventeen when that song came out! lastlib Dec 2012 #8


(150,704 posts)
3. Beautiful song, Chris...
Tue Dec 18, 2012, 07:58 PM
Dec 2012

I think many of us, as teenagers, could identify with her. I know I did.

It was unfair, what was done to you, but nevertheless, you grew up with integrity and honesty inside you.

And those qualities have benefited everyone who knows you...


(20,958 posts)
4. i can totally relate.
Tue Dec 18, 2012, 08:39 PM
Dec 2012

my family was a wreck with alcoholism and major health issues. no divorce...just an angry, bitter parents.

one of the songs that truly spoke to me (i had no idea what the lyrics are until just now HA!


(8,694 posts)
5. oh, WC that one was my anthem
Tue Dec 18, 2012, 10:08 PM
Dec 2012

"brown eyed girl in hand me downs, whose name you never could pronounce"
'twas me

I loved her song "Society's Child" too..

Dont call me Shirley

(10,998 posts)
6. Ditto about the nasty divorce pawns and alchoholic mean parents.
Tue Dec 18, 2012, 10:12 PM
Dec 2012

To strive to be everything better than them, to grow beyond their hatred and indifference, to become your true self beyond the damage they caused you. Keep on going, your good karma makes this life worth it.


(10,597 posts)
7. I presume you are a boomer?
Tue Dec 18, 2012, 10:23 PM
Dec 2012

...I'd bet 95% of us lived through a ton of crap. Every family seemed to have it's own dysfunctionality. It's a wonder any of us lived thru it. But we did and here we are. Hope you're doing OK, Mr Green. Best wishes to you and yours and all of us hump-babies. And I loved Janis Ian.

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