Restitution for my ex trying to kill me and "embezzlement" - Trial this Friday

[FirstLight]

Don't know how many of you recall, but my abusive ex tried to kill me in October.

She faces 2 felonies with added Great Bodily Injury ...maybe about 8-10 years per charge.
Trial is this Friday and I have to testify.

The DA sent me a 'restitution" form since I mentioned that she basically bullied me into payng for everything and sent money to her friends in GA and sent me the bills for her credit card etc...never worked and spent ALL of my parent's inheritance.

OK, so I found the page on restitution...so they will be garnished and the state will pay me.

https://victims.ca.gov/restitution/

I guess I am just posting here for solidarity... I need some love and support since I am testifying this week!

[Meowmee]

1. If it was due to fraud etc. I think you can get financial restitution

Otherwise it would have to be a civil suit.

https://www.justice.gov/criminal/criminal-vns/restitution-process

Good luck 😁

[FirstLight]

2. the DA in CA didn't say that... she sent me the form knowing what I said...

The "things" I got fer her are considered "gifts"...but her mooching off me and sending my money to people and making me pay HER creditcard bills, buying concert tix, shopping sprees... i guess that counts., etc.. She told me to print the venmo and paypal reciepts...

[FirstLight]

3. I even told them I think it was a "long-con/catfishiing" cuz she KNEW I had a house and $ in the bank,

She lived in GA and manipulated me into feeling sorry for her and flying her out here to "help" her...

[Meowmee]

4. Good, I hope you get some money back 😁🤗

[FirstLight]

5. I know it will only be a fraction of what I lost... but every little bit counts nowadays!

I added up *just* my Venmo to her in 2024 alone... $40K!!! Yes, she had me THAT brainwashed, never to question her, just send her $500 here, $1000 there... her kid needed to pay for the dorm cuz financial aid hadn't come, her other friend who got hit by a car needed help, "oh I bought this JUNK for US at Ross...$600" etc...

[Meowmee]

6. Whatever you don't get back maybe you can go to small claims court too

But I think the other party has to be there for that etc.

Yes, something is better than nothing for sure. 😁

[Ms. Toad]

16. $40,000 exceeds the small claims limitation in most jurisdictions.

The defendant doesn't have to be there, but has to be served. If they don't show up, the plaintiff can get a default judgment.

[Ms. Toad]

15. At least in some cases, criminal courts can order victim restitution.

Our home was broken into a number of years ago, and the court ordered the perpetrator to pay restitution for our losses.

[canetoad]

7. I remember your posts

I really hope you get some decent payback. Be strong, I'm sure DU is right behind you.

[FirstLight]

8. thanks so much!

I was talkinng to a buddy of mine this morning and he also assured me she'd most likely go to State Prison for the extended time...and the one in Chowchilla is horrific. So GOOD!!!

[Joinfortmill]

9. I am so sorry. Prayed for you (us old Catholic girls still do that)

And may karma visit this person soon. Maybe even next week

[FirstLight]

10. I may be a heathen but I appreciate your prayers!

I'm about baptized Lutheran which I always called "Catholic Light" ... All the ceremony and none of the guilt LOL

[Iggo]

11. Holy Moly!!!

I had my own shit going on in October and I missed a lot of stuff happening here.

But wow!

Sucks to have to go through this, but you’ll do it.

[CaptainTruth]

12. Wishing you the best of luck!

[MLAA]

13. Sending you strong vibes to help you face going to court. I am so glad this difficult time will soon be in the past.

Keep us posted, I know we are all cheering for you.

[GigiLeigh]

14. I am so thankful

that you got out when you did. I remember your posts about this and I know it was difficult and it is hard to stand up for yourself sometimes but you did it!

You saved your own life and perhaps future victims lives. You were very brave.

I will be sending good vibes for your court date. Just remember we are all behind you. Stand tall with your head held high. You got this!

[FirstLight]

17. Thank you for that ..

It's not always easy to give myself credit. If the cops hadn't shown up I don't know what would have happened honestly. I'm just grateful that I never looked back and I went deep into trauma therapy and got my shit together LOL so it's nice to hear someone tell me I'm strong, because I felt weak for so long.

[Karadeniz]

18. Glad youre not taking it lying down....and good luck !!!!

[mucholderthandirt]

19. Wishing you the best resolution you can ever hope for. May she spend her days in prison.

My ex was awful, but he never tried to kill me. Not that I know of, at least. I got to where I was always watching, though. We used to shop at the grocery store where local murderer Blanche Taylor Moore worked. Talked to her on occasion. When I found out she used ant poison, I dumped our bottle of Terro out in front of him, saying better to not have any ideas!

It's not easy when someone who is supposed to love you turns on you. I hope you have found, or can find, peace. I've mostly let things go, after many years of effort, but every so often it rears its ugly head.

[ismnotwasm]

20. My God that's horrible

I wish you the best, and I hope you have a strong support system