Dear New College Student: Advice from a Professor
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I’ve posted versions of this over the past few years, but some of you expressed some interest in having it updated. And, frankly, the stridently anti-intellectual cant of the present administration – along with what it’s doing to international students – prompts me to add advice I never, ever, thought would be necessary.
I’ve been on the faculty at my current institution – a public research university – for the past 25 years. I was also an instructor while I was in grad school, also at a public university. Most of my classmates and friends have gone on to faculty positions at a wide range of institutions – private liberal-arts colleges, community colleges, and so on. The advice I provide comes largely through my own experience, along with knowing what my friends have been doing for the same amount of time.
This is primarily addressed toward two groups of readers – new college students and their parents or guardians.
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Being a first-year student is exhilarating! So many paths to choose! So many opportunities to make a real difference! So much freedom for self-assertion! You’re stepping forward not as adolescents, but as adults, and you’re taking more control over your personal time and direction.
But it can also be terrifying. You might be far from home for the first time. You might be the first member of your family to attend college. You might have been a stand-out in high school, but now you're surrounded by other stand-outs from other high schools. It's intimidating. You don't have Mom and/or Dad to keep your nose to the grindstone, and some aspects of being a college student - enrolling in classes, for example - are downright labyrinthine. And if you're a student of color or a member of the LGBTQ community, you'll be facing residual bigotry that lingers in spite of everything we're doing to combat it.
And there’s the cost. You may have already gone to buy your textbooks - it’s not like buying a few paperback novels. One can buy a functioning used car for the cost of a semester’s textbooks. Meals? Rent and utilities, if you’re not in a dorm? That’s all on you now – or on your family, at any rate.
You’ve probably been told that we professors don’t care about you. But you know what? We do. We really do. We wouldn’t be in this line of work if we didn’t. And we understand what you’re going through, because we’ve all been there, and times haven’t changed so much that we can’t help guide you through this massive transition.
In fact, seeing you through all of this is part of our job, and it’s a privilege to take it on. I take my mission as an instructor not only as a means to a paycheck, but as a moral obligation. The vast majority of instructors you’ll encounter on campus will feel the same way.
Thus, I’ve compiled some advice over the past few years that might help you as you get ready to dive in:
1. Be careful with assumptions, and always ask before acting. Exceptions can't always be made.
During the pandemic, I would get emails from incoming students to confirm that the lectures for my large-enrollment fall class were being recorded. I always responded that although my lectures were online (which I hated), they weren’t pre-recorded. They were “synchronous,” meaning one had to watch the lecture at the scheduled time, just as if they were attending the lecture in an auditorium
This would be followed by a request for accommodation because the student had another commitment when lecture was scheduled to take place.
In other words, the student had enrolled in a course they couldn’t actually attend, and they wanted me to change my procedures to match their faulty assumption.
I've encountered all kinds of bad assumptions. You can take a quiz late, even though I said there wouldn't be make-ups? That we’ll always accommodate requests for a makeup (see below)? That the exam will look exactly as you imagined? That what your roommate said about a specific professor or a specific course is accurate? That your parents’ experiences will mirror yours? Bad assumptions. And so it goes.
Not sure whether something will be allowed? Unsure if you’re facing a situation that calls for an exception to course policy? Please – ask! We’d rather work with you before something happens than after.
“It’s easier to get forgiveness than permission” is a nice quip, but it’s not always true.
2. Keep your life as simple as possible.
Extracurricular activities expand your horizons and can help you find a community far from home. They can be of tremendous benefit to your mental health. It is, however, easy to get roped in too deeply, especially when you’re just starting out. Overloading yourself with such things reduces the amount of time you have for your homework and studying.
This is why I encourage on-campus living when it's available for first-year students. It keeps life simple.
I'm not saying one should live a cloistered existence and ignore the rest of the world. But you'll still be getting your footing during your first year, so don't overdo it.
3. Learn some basic skills.
I mention these only because, as time has gone on, the number of first-year students arriving with these abilities has dwindled:
Learn how to take notes. Not all of us put our notes online. Some of us disallow recording of classes, and textbooks are not always the best fallback. (Indeed, I don't even use textbooks. Textbooks in my field suck.) This means learning to write down the important points quickly. Use abbreviations, and don't worry about proper grammar - just get the points down.
Learn how to manage your time. You won't have people checking in on you in the morning or evening.
Also learn how to manage your stress. This follows from the previous point.
Learn the difference between memorizing something and understanding it. Not all of us expect students to just barf out details on exams - we want evidence that you've absorbed their meaning and can apply them to address broader issues.
4. Save everything.
I once had a student approach me after classes were over, wondering why she got a C in my class. She was sure she'd be in solid B range. I pointed out that her final exam and one of her midterms were indeed in the 80's, but her other midterm was a 38. That, I explained, dragged her grade down.
"But I didn't get a 38," she replied. "I got an 83!" She showed me her exam, and sure enough, she did. The moron who entered the grades into the spreadsheet (most likely me) typed them in backward. It happens, and mistakes like this are easily corrected - and this is made easier if you can show your professor what you actually got.
Seriously - treat your homework assignments, quizzes, exams, and whatnot like receipts.
5. Keep your family posted about your classroom commitments.
If someone's planning a family event, it wouldn't hurt if they knew when your exams are scheduled. As detailed below, we cannot always make scheduling accommodations.
My ex used to teach a lab that met on Fridays at 4:30. There were quizzes every week. During the first week of class, she had to tell her students that "My parents already paid for the plane ticket " would not be accepted as a reason to miss lab on the Friday before Thanksgiving break.
6. Contact an instructor before missing something. Get some sort of documentation for the reason. And bear in mind – we can’t accommodate everything.
Here are some things we’ll accommodate:
- illness (psychiatric/mental or physical).
- family emergencies (funerals or sudden very severe medical incidents or accidents).
- religious observances (e.g. Yom Kippur).
- court date or jury duty.
- family event planned long in advance (e.g. wedding), provided we're notified well before the exam.
- job interview.
- transportation problems (e.g. missed bus, car broke down).
- conflicting institution-related event (e.g. sports, marching band, ROTC, or a required field trip for another class).
- computer problems (if the exam is online).
- work schedule conflict (though if it happens frequently, it might be good to take a different class or get a different job).
Here are some things we generally either can't or won't:
- oversleeping.
- routine as opposed to milestone family event (e.g. I'll accommodate you for your great-grandmother's 100th birthday party, but not your cousin's 8th).
- you missed a bunch of class, but haven't made an effort to speak to me or borrow someone's notes until minutes before or some time after the exam.
- not feeling ready and wanting extra time.
- travel preference (e.g. wanting to take a test early because it's scheduled late in finals week or right before Thanksgiving/Spring break and you want to get out of town).
Bottom line - we accommodate need, not convenience.
In the past, getting a doctor’s note was a routine request. Some institutions (including mine) now see such requests as HIPAA violations. But it would still be worth getting some sort of documentation. It doesn’t have to specify the reason you sought treatment, nor need it say what the treatment itself actually was. The bracelet you may have been issued as a patient would be more than enough, for example.
It should be possible to document pretty much any good reason to miss class - including a funeral. I, for one, would never ask for documentation for a funeral, but I know professors who do - and generally, it's not all that hard to get. If you can't bring in an obituary, most funeral homes and houses of worship are willing to provide a letter acknowledging your presence at a funeral service at their facility. (These used to be necessary when airlines offered lower "bereavement" rates for last-minute travel.)
And before I'm attacked for being hard-ass, please bear in mind - arranging a make-up exam really is an imposition. On our campus, instructors are responsible for scheduling exams for students who need an accommodation for a learning disability, such as extended time or a low-distraction environment, and 5 or 10 percent of the class may fall in this category. For a class of 200, that's 10 or 20 students who need accommodation. And that's on top of those who were bridesmaids, got sick, or had a family emergency. Every request for a makeup is a request to find a 1- or 2-hour slot that works for your busy schedule as well as mine, and depending on circumstances, it might require finding a time that hasn’t already been taken by another student. If you actually need the accommodation, no problem – that’s my job and responsibility. But if it’s for a non-essential reason, you’ll have to make a strong case.
7. Get to know your instructors.
This is arguably more important later in your college career, but it doesn't hurt to stop by during office hours. That's what they're for.
(My institution now wants us to call them “drop-in hours” on the theory that it sounds more inviting.)
This is good not only because you'll understand the material better by asking questions early and often, but because it helps us get to know you. Believe me - it's a lot easier to write a letter of recommendation if I know something about the student beyond his or her exam scores.
Students who come to know their professors tend to be asked to participate in research or creative projects. That looks really good on your resume, and it makes you better at what you do anyway. It also reduces feelings of isolation. We professors are no longer the terrifying, impersonal authorities who look down on our students - we're people.
Also, always remember – you generally don’t have to ask permission to meet an instructor during office hours. That’s what office/drop-in hours are for. If you show up, and we’re not there, you’re allowed to file a complaint about it.
8. (Perhaps a corollary to 7.) If you’re at a larger university where some classes are covered by teaching assistants, don’t complain. Rejoice.
Something I often say to prospective freshman or transfer students: you don’t have to have TA’s if you come here. You get to have them.
TA’s will be among your most treasured resources. They’re usually at least as good at presenting the material as a tenured professor. They may also be more tuned in to the latest developments in a field, especially if the primary instructor is close to retirement. But most importantly – they’ll be close to you in age. They’re of your generation. That makes them more relatable.
Seriously – when I stared my job, I was in my early 30’s, though I could pass for mid-20’s. My end-of-term evaluations often praised me for being approachable. I’m now in my 50’s, and my evals more frequently complain of just how unapproachable I am. I’ve gained some weight, and my hair isn’t quite as dark as it was, but my personality is basically the same. I’ve concluded that my age gives me the appearance of being a distant authority who doesn’t welcome dialogue with his students.
If you feel intimidated by older professors, work with your TA’s.
And if the TAs are in your major, spend time with them. They’ll be doing the cutting-edge work you’ll want to follow, and perhaps join.
Yes, you'll hear all kinds of horror stories about bad TA's. I had some myself. But I think you'll find most of your TA's to be competent and helpful.
9. Grades are goals to be achieved – not commodities to be negotiated.
About the only reason we’ll normally reconsider course grades or exam scores is if a scoring or data entry has been found.
We’re a lot less likely to consider the following arguments:
- A grade doesn’t reflect your own subjective assessment of the effort you put into the class.
- You’re applying for a highly competitive job or for some form of post-graduate education (grad school, med school, etc.), or you plan to join the military as an officer, and higher grades will improve those applications.
- Your parent(s) and/or guardian(s) will be so very disappointed if your grade isn’t improved.
- You had an exceptionally busy semester.
- You might lose your scholarship if your grade isn’t changed.
- You think I’m being unfair in assessing your grade based on what you actually turned in, and not on what you would have turned in if you’d done better.
- You're "just not a science person." (Do you know what my advisor would have said if I’d done poorly in a medieval lit class and tried “I’m just not a humanities person” as an excuse?)
- Can’t I be merciful in the spirit of the holidays?
You’re adults now. You work for what you earn, and you take your lumps if your effort didn’t earn you what you’d hoped.
There is something of a gray area between “data error” and “weak excuse,” but it’s narrow, and you’re going to have to bring some sort of evidence to back you up. I’m actually willing to consider ongoing health issues or job conflicts to help you out, but I’m a lot more likely to do so if you don’t wait until grades are submitted.
I’ve also heard students complain that an instructor was somehow biased against them. I’ve even seen a very small handful of cases where I believed it. But such cases are very rare, and they’re way more easily alleged than demonstrated. That your instructors’ politics are somewhere to the right or left of yours doesn’t mean the instructor can’t grade you fairly. Rule out other explanations for your performance before blaming others.
10. Know when to pull back.
Life happens.
A lot of students encounter mental or emotional problems they may not have anticipated, or the problems they already have might be exacerbated. You might feel isolated on campus. You might be overwhelmed with difficult classes. You may be trying to balance your classes with a job or the needs of a small child. Your financial situation may change. You, or a loved one, may be facing a very serious physical illness that draws much of your attention.
Sometimes, the best solution is to cut back on your classes. Staying in for the sake of completing the semester might be counterproductive if you fail everything. Do you want to graduate on time, or with a respectable GPA? Sometimes, these are mutually incompatible.
I'm not saying you should just drop out of school when things get tough. It's always going to be difficult. Besides, dropping below a certain number of credit hours can jeopardize your financial aid, and if the class you drop is a prerequisite for other courses in your major, you might end up extending your time to degree even further. But in consultation with academic and financial aid advisors, and perhaps a mental health professional, dropping one or two courses might not always be a bad idea.
I should acknowledge the counterargument I’ve heard, especially from parents or working students: dropping classes and not finishing in 4 years can cost a lot of dough. If you drop late enough in the semester, you might not get your tuition back, and you’d have to pay it all over again when you try again during a later semester. All I can say is this: I get it. I really do. But from my standpoint as an instructor, I think we all have to balance our priorities. Here’s a question only you can answer: Is it better to pay less for a less-competitive academic transcript and letters of recommendation that have to explain your qualities in spite of your GPA?
11. Know when to ask for help, and find out where it can be found.
We get it. All of us were students, and many of us needed help at times. That includes me.
There is no dishonor in asking for help, and there are places to find it. Most campuses have some sort of student counseling center - that, or they'll have resources to help you find a professional counselor. They're not there as window dressing - they're there because people need them.
Creating a sense of belonging can go a long way toward alleviating some of the pressure and stress of being a first-year college student. This is why I advise against overdoing it with extracurricular activities - not against avoiding them altogether.
This was especially true during the pandemic. Usually, out of a group of 200, I’ll get one or two reaching out to tell me they've missed some assignments because they're having a rough time. In 2020, in the midst of the pandemic, the presidential election, and social unrest, it was more like 15 or 20 of them. Some were students of color who felt the pressure of racism like never before. Others were failing to thrive academically in the on-line system imposed by the pandemic. It was bad.
A couple of things to bear in mind:
First, we all understand that health is health. There is no functional difference, when it comes to missing an exam, between the flu and a panic attack. We don’t need the specifics of any medical crisis, but don’t worry that we’ll look on a severe depressive episode as an excuse for laziness.
And second, we’ve been there. However much you wail out “No one understands what I’m going through!”, be assured that some of us actually do.
Personally, as a white, cis-gender, heterosexual, nominally Christian male who was born in the US, never been the victim of a serious crime, never been arrested or imprisoned, never served in the military, and never faced a potentially terminal illness, there are some issues I can’t address with any real authority – but others on campus can. Some of us are sexual assault survivors, or have experienced racism or bigotry in some form. Others, myself included, know what it means to live with poverty or food insecurity, or with chronic mental health challenges. We’ve been through major relationship breakups. We’ve lived through serious illnesses and injuries. We’ve cared for chronically ill relatives and had loved ones die unexpectedly. We live in the same material universe as you. We’re as human as you are, and we can listen. We can advise, or we can tell you who can.
As I said previously – we do this because it’s who we are. We embrace the whole of the academic profession, and that includes mentorship of our students. We take our jobs as a matter of pride, and if one of our students is struggling, we want to know so we can help.
Seriously – ask us. We’ll tell you.
12. Decide what you’re going to do.
What I posted above isn’t new, but this is.
I spent a month in Nairobi doing research this past summer. During that time, I was compelled to advise some students who wanted to join my program to look toward Europe, Canada, or Australia. Not my program. Not while Orange Julius Caesar is in charge. They can’t rely on student visas, even if they’ve never criticized Israel or said anything on social media about LGBTQ issues. Our country is now hostile to international students.
(Do you have any idea what that feels like? Telling someone with a real future in your profession that they shouldn’t apply to study with you because your head of state has the intellect and emotional range of a leech?)
Meanwhile, I was advised from multiple sources to delete social media apps from my cell phone before heading home, to clear the browsing history from my laptop, and to disable the face recognition function on my phone so immigration officers couldn’t open my phone by shoving it in front of my face. Academics who are US citizens have found themselves detained at the airport if they said something someone can pretend is offensive to the current administration. I didn't actually do these things, but I thought about it.
These are not normal times. Higher learning is under attack like never before.
This means, unfortunately, that we all have to be prepared.
What will you do if masked people claiming to be ICE officers walk into your classroom to seize someone they claim to be undocumented?
What wil you do if your instructor is hauled in front of an administrative body for teaching “woke”material?
No college instructor would tell you how to vote. But it would be an act of academic malpractice to accede to some of the demands some of us now face. I’m sorry, but atmospheric temperatures are rising because of greenhouse gas emissions. GMO crops are safe for consumption. Vaccines are safe, too. Our planet is around 4.5 billion years in age, and the living things dwelling upon it are all descended from a common ancestor. Matter is comprised of atoms, certain diseases are caused by microbes, and for the love of whatever deity or deities may or may not exist, the Earth is spherical. I'm going to say these things, and I might end up being reported to the Board of Regents because of that - but if so, it's because I made decisions knowing there might be consequences.
Unfortunately, we live during a time when learning is seen as “woke” and scientific facts can be treated like mere opinions.
All of us – faculty and student alike – may face situations where a decision must be made.
I cannot, and will not, advise anyone to break the law. But research these laws. What are your rights? If you feel the need to intervene in a situation, what can you legally do? What can’t you do? Who should you call if you see someone’s civil rights being violated?
Hand to heart, I never thought I would see Americans faced with these choices. But here we are.
I have no solid advice on this. I wish I did. But all of us live in a world in which moral decisions we thought were relegated to the mid-20th century have been resurrected. It sucks, but that’s where we are.
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In the past, I’d close with encouraging words. At a time when education is seen as a character flaw, it’s hard to do so. But this really is an opportunity for personal growth. You get as much out of it as you put in. It’ll be a defining period in your life. All of us on the faculty side wish you the best of luck and stand ready to help you on your way to your degree,
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not only for incoming students, but for LIFE itself.
Very interesting post.
