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MissMillie

(39,702 posts)
Sat Aug 23, 2025, 05:48 AM Aug 2025

Update on sister-in-law

As her doctors were preparing to start chemotherapy, they determined that she is not healthy enough for it

She is being sent home for hospice care. The oncologist predicts that she has only a week or two.

Thank all of you who sent vibes and healing prayers. I guess the powers of the universe have simply decided to give her a swift end.

She and my brother will "celebrate" 46 years of marriage on Monday.

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Update on sister-in-law (Original Post) MissMillie Aug 2025 OP
That is so tough. Take care of yourself. Walleye Aug 2025 #1
Too sad malaise Aug 2025 #2
I will keep her and your family in my prayers. imanamerican63 Aug 2025 #3
I'm so sorry Raine Aug 2025 #4
🌸 Donkees Aug 2025 #5
So sorry SocialDemocrat61 Aug 2025 #6
I'm so sorry MissMillie. Holding you all in my livetohike Aug 2025 #7
I am so sorry for all of you. Dem2theMax Aug 2025 #8
I'm sorry your family is going through this. Emile Aug 2025 #9
We fight as long as we can. We are all the better for having fought, surviving or not. Thinking of your family ... marble falls Aug 2025 #10
Thank you for taking the time to update us. I am so sorry, Miss Millie. HeartsCanHope Aug 2025 #11
So very sorry, MissMillie gademocrat7 Aug 2025 #12
I'm so sorry. sinkingfeeling Aug 2025 #13
I'm so sorry MissMillie. FemDemERA Aug 2025 #14
I am so very sorry to read this Miss Millie. Deepest condolences irisblue Aug 2025 #15
So sad Johnny Noshoes Aug 2025 #16
So sorry, MissMillie. 70sEraVet Aug 2025 #17
I'm so sorry Danmel Aug 2025 #18
Sending a gentle hug 🫂 to you and yours. mwmisses4289 Aug 2025 #19
So sorry DownriverDem Aug 2025 #20
I'd get banned if I said what I actually think about cancer biocube Aug 2025 #21
I am so sorry. Strength for her journey. Peace for her family and friends. LoisB Aug 2025 #22
Sorry to hear this bluestarone Aug 2025 #23
I'm so sorry MissMillie debm55 Aug 2025 #24
This is always tough on a family peggysue2 Aug 2025 #25
I'm so sorry, Miss Millie. Sending hugs and prayers for all of you. sueh Aug 2025 #26
Damn, that is painful to hear Hey Joe Aug 2025 #27
Oh no. I so sorry to hear this, MissMillie. MIButterfly Aug 2025 #28

imanamerican63

(16,410 posts)
3. I will keep her and your family in my prayers.
Sat Aug 23, 2025, 06:03 AM
Aug 2025

It’s difficult time for everyone. Sorry anyone should have to suffer through this. Cancer is a terrible disease. We lost my aunt last, but she fought every day. Then losing my mother this year was even tougher (pneumonia). May she find peace soon and may God be with you all.

Dem2theMax

(11,005 posts)
8. I am so sorry for all of you.
Sat Aug 23, 2025, 07:11 AM
Aug 2025

I hope your brother will have a lot of support when she passes.

I will be sending all the energy I have in the hopes that they will see that anniversary on Monday, and celebrate
(I know it's hard to use that word at this time) together. What a bittersweet ending.
Makes you realize how precious life is.

Holding all of you in my thoughts.

marble falls

(72,531 posts)
10. We fight as long as we can. We are all the better for having fought, surviving or not. Thinking of your family ...
Sat Aug 23, 2025, 07:32 AM
Aug 2025

... and I pray for your peace.

HeartsCanHope

(1,763 posts)
11. Thank you for taking the time to update us. I am so sorry, Miss Millie.
Sat Aug 23, 2025, 07:36 AM
Aug 2025

You and your family will be in my thoughts.

FemDemERA

(905 posts)
14. I'm so sorry MissMillie.
Sat Aug 23, 2025, 07:57 AM
Aug 2025

We had hospice with my mother and they were so caring and helpful, assisting as needed, but also giving both space, and support to us throughout the time, so we could attend to her needs as she (and we) chose. Her end was very peaceful and surrounded by loving family. I hope your experience is the same. May her final days be pain-free and filled with love. Take care, and wrap yourselves in Love...

70sEraVet

(5,616 posts)
17. So sorry, MissMillie.
Sat Aug 23, 2025, 08:16 AM
Aug 2025

I hope she has lived a good full life. It sounds like she has been well loved.

peggysue2

(12,597 posts)
25. This is always tough on a family
Sat Aug 23, 2025, 11:48 AM
Aug 2025

Cancer is a terrible disease and the treatments are often just as bad. When the end presents itself, the best we can do is pray for a relatively peaceful and pain-subdued death.

Prayers for your family, your brother in particular. It's a rough, rough road.

MIButterfly

(3,142 posts)
28. Oh no. I so sorry to hear this, MissMillie.
Sat Aug 23, 2025, 01:34 PM
Aug 2025

I extend to you and your family my deepest sympathy at this sad time. I wish I had the right words to help ease your pain. Please know that I, like so many others, care.

May your sister-in-law's passing be painless and peaceful, surrounded by those she loves and those who love her.

Love,
MIButterfly



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