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hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 01:09 PM Sep 2025

CNN: Who is Erika Kirk? (I gotta get this off my chest before I explode).

I wasn't familiar with her, so I watched this three minute clip. It made me want to puke. It's not that I don't feel sorry for her for having lost her husband; it's what she's spouting in the clips.

First of all, she's FIVE years older than him and she's admitting to voluntarily being "submissive" to him? Utter bullshit and I will not sit idly by and have this stuff normalized.

There is a massive movement right now to make women ashamed of being strong, tough, independent and competent. The majority of the women that I know would never consider being submissive to anyone, let alone some person who was supposed to be their equal partner and was supposed to love them. Why should we?

I am a practicing Christian and even I realize that parts of the Bible have been manipulated over the course of history to subjugate and control people. This is one of those times where I believe it happened. No loving God in my opinion would ever consider one of his creations above another. Just my opinion, and you're free to disagree. I am not here to convert anyone.

On top of this, someone like Erika Kirk could be preaching to some other woman who might be in an abusive relationship that the woman is supposed to be "submissive" to an abuser just because she's married to him? I don't think so. These people do not realize what their rhetoric can cause.

I am here to call this bullshit out every time that I see it. I will not ever stop. Women are equals and only weak willed men find that a problem. Stable, competent men welcome an equal partnership. That is what is normal and should remain normal.

I would say "rant over" at this point in the post, but I assure you that THIS rant will never be over for me.


https://www.cnn.com/2025/09/12/us/video/erika-kirk-charlie-kirk-wife-serfaty-dnt-digvid

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CNN: Who is Erika Kirk? (I gotta get this off my chest before I explode). (Original Post) hamsterjill Sep 2025 OP
Does she have the fundy baby voice? Justice Brandeis Sep 2025 #1
I'm familiar with what you describe. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #5
Mike Johnson's wife has the fundy baby voice too nt Bookreadingliberal53 Sep 2025 #11
I was just thinking that BonnieJW Sep 2025 #19
Jess piper UpInArms Sep 2025 #52
Thanks. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #59
Thanks. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #60
Justice Amy Coney Barrett has that voice Walleye Sep 2025 #103
She is needs to live her words. Blue Full Moon Sep 2025 #2
Meh, she'll re-marry some right wing nut democratsruletheday Sep 2025 #4
If that happens I wonder if she will turn over StarryNite Sep 2025 #7
Probably some older, Licknuts-type billionaire. She'll survive A-OK. allegorical oracle Sep 2025 #20
Yup...it won't take her long PortTack Sep 2025 #48
That is the best use of the phrase "Older Licknuts Billionaire" I have seen used on D.U. for the past week. Botany Sep 2025 #98
If she has family and trusted friends to help her Ilsa Sep 2025 #42
She and the dead one were/are wealthy, in case you did not know. niyad Sep 2025 #68
Knew he was; knew nothing about her 'til today. Thx. nt Ilsa Sep 2025 #74
You are most welcome. It never occurred to me that that misogynist, niyad Sep 2025 #75
She'll marry him right after he signs a big fat Pre-nup. Bengus81 Sep 2025 #63
She has gotten used to the money that comes with keeping up the facade and spreading hate Freethinker65 Sep 2025 #85
This message was self-deleted by its author PeaceWave Sep 2025 #3
I call bullshit on her being submissive. She's just spreading that shit. chowder66 Sep 2025 #35
She was Miss Arizona is 2012 womanofthehills Sep 2025 #91
Hmmm lonely bird Sep 2025 #96
Well said! StarryNite Sep 2025 #6
Thank yyou for confirming what I suspected without even looking her up. niyad Sep 2025 #8
You know, niyad, this Kirk thing has really caused me to look inward. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #15
Amen to that. Keep on rockin' it. Joinfortmill Sep 2025 #24
Think about the... littlemissmartypants Sep 2025 #25
To me drmeow Sep 2025 #40
I'm reminded of a couple of lines of "Eve of Destruction": lastlib Sep 2025 #67
I ask myself the same type of questions BlueKota Sep 2025 #34
I don't know if you quote the RWers and let the reader Ilsa Sep 2025 #43
I despise all right-wingers. PoindexterOglethorpe Sep 2025 #57
Not into organized religion myself either. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #61
Hugggggggs .PREACH IT, my sister!!! niyad Sep 2025 #100
She will be wealthier too as Tucker started a fund for her womanofthehills Sep 2025 #95
It says what it says. maxsolomon Sep 2025 #9
I've been married for almost 50 years. Anybody tries that with me learns 2 things. chowmama Sep 2025 #12
Jesus H. Christ. maxsolomon Sep 2025 #13
None. And only one husband. chowmama Sep 2025 #17
Amen, and welcome to DU. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #16
Admiration, here. My first husband failed the litmus test. Number two was a allegorical oracle Sep 2025 #21
That's how it should be (as you explain with your second). hamsterjill Sep 2025 #26
That's how our marriage is too Bettie Sep 2025 #30
I've got one of those, too. Grateful for it! calimary Sep 2025 #39
I don't either Bettie Sep 2025 #50
Excellent. SergeStorms Sep 2025 #36
As I said in a thread earlier this week, there are many uses for cast iron niyad Sep 2025 #55
I am not sure about Paul. I once told my pastor that if Paul is in heaven, I am not sure it is anywhere I want to be. efhmc Sep 2025 #29
Or the man who wrote using Paul's name. maxsolomon Sep 2025 #32
Paul is a big part of the reason stage left Sep 2025 #37
Pastor just laughed. He knew what a feminist I was and still am. efhmc Sep 2025 #69
Yup the bible says a lot of awful stuff Farmer-Rick Sep 2025 #33
I wouldn't be surprised if she becomes the orange pedo felon side chick like Laura Lunatic! kimbutgar Sep 2025 #10
They will definitely use her to whatever means benefits them. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #18
I think Trump and Vance should support the Kirk family till the kids are 18. sop Sep 2025 #14
But then they'll expect favors in return SouthBayDem Sep 2025 #31
OMG! If that's her choice, fine, but don't push that submissive bullshit onto others. Joinfortmill Sep 2025 #22
I'd like to know... littlemissmartypants Sep 2025 #27
Everytime we move closer to that "civilized society" drmeow Sep 2025 #41
See posts 35 and 91 for a litle bit about that f'n hypocrite. niyad Sep 2025 #102
So glad somebody is standing up. creeksneakers2 Sep 2025 #23
"This rant will never be over for me " - + 1 zillion. ms liberty Sep 2025 #28
Erika Kirk. Before the next election I've got $10.00 that says she'll be "Erika Lewandowski"... SKKY Sep 2025 #38
Perhaps, but don't forget that Steven Miller may be available soon! Totally Tunsie Sep 2025 #46
Did you forget about him and puppykiller? niyad Sep 2025 #51
Nah, Corey is allegedly banging Kristi Noem. Dulcinea Sep 2025 #58
IMO pat_k Sep 2025 #44
.. justsomeguy01 Sep 2025 #114
Not much difference between Figarosmom Sep 2025 #45
The final straw in my religious belief... hurple Sep 2025 #47
I hope you told that preacher he could... 3catwoman3 Sep 2025 #54
I separated from my first husband Tree Lady Sep 2025 #65
If she willingly married this man and accepted his "rules" TNNurse Sep 2025 #49
"Men of quality are not threatened by women for equality" . A statement niyad Sep 2025 #53
I married my husband at 37 Puppyjive Sep 2025 #56
According to Charlie Kirk radical noodle Sep 2025 #90
What Paul wrote was his opinion mb40 Sep 2025 #62
welcome to DU! RussBLib Sep 2025 #73
I don't feel sorry for her. Well, I sort of do, but not because her fascist, misogynist husband died. Crunchy Frog Sep 2025 #64
well said...and thank you for saying it. dawn5651 Sep 2025 #66
The age difference between them isn't remarkable (to me, at least) FakeNoose Sep 2025 #70
I mentioned the age difference because to me someone older should be LESS inclined to be submissive. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #77
Yes definitely, we've been lucky FakeNoose Sep 2025 #82
See posts 35 and 91 for a brief bio of that f'n hypocrite! niyad Sep 2025 #99
It is a about a monster..... DanielCronk Sep 2025 #71
Excuse me?? hamsterjill Sep 2025 #78
As a matter of curiosity did you, in fact, read her entire OP before you niyad Sep 2025 #106
I also stumbled on the clip about her, accidentally. yellow dahlia Sep 2025 #72
See posts 35 and 91 for a brief bio of that f'n hypocrite. niyad Sep 2025 #104
She does fit the template, doesn't she? hamsterjill Sep 2025 #115
So , these Christians are into S&M and Bondage! .... Bread and Circuses Sep 2025 #76
I am so glad I was raised without religion. llmart Sep 2025 #79
I am a Christian by choice. hamsterjill Sep 2025 #87
I don't understand why you would explode MorbidButterflyTat Sep 2025 #80
Okay.... hamsterjill Sep 2025 #88
This 1700s view of women kwolf68 Sep 2025 #81
Her shrillness is extremely off-putting SleeplessinSoCal Sep 2025 #83
I'm going to guess... Queso Delicioso Sep 2025 #84
Well....she was "Miss Arizona"!!!! LOL hamsterjill Sep 2025 #89
She was ok with what her husband did. Aussie105 Sep 2025 #86
It's all about the benjamins mdbl Sep 2025 #92
0Due respect and compassion for the widow but a "submissive woman" RVN VET71 Sep 2025 #93
I heard her on NPR this morning tonekat Sep 2025 #94
Well said Kammer Sep 2025 #97
Erika Kirk is a raging hypocrite. SunSeeker Sep 2025 #101
+1, I just saw an article that she's going to carry on her husband's Nixie Sep 2025 #107
I'm sure she already has nannies, and has been using them since giving birth. SunSeeker Sep 2025 #108
You nailed it. Nixie Sep 2025 #109
Great perspective! hamsterjill Sep 2025 #110
Post removed Post removed Sep 2025 #105
'Movement' or not all of us should make our own lifestyle choices ClaudetteCC Sep 2025 #111
"adults" justsomeguy01 Sep 2025 #113
Many people make bad choices in a world with constant competition ClaudetteCC Sep 2025 #116
"Women are equals and only weak willed men find that a problem." As a woman, I would posit that women Texin Sep 2025 #112
 

Justice Brandeis

(405 posts)
1. Does she have the fundy baby voice?
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 01:23 PM
Sep 2025

That's a common signal with those people, that crowd, that you are a good submissive wife.

Jess Piper has made some clips about this.

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
5. I'm familiar with what you describe.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 01:30 PM
Sep 2025

I don't find Ms. Kirk's voice to be particularly that way, but she's giving an interview and it may be different in a different setting.

The voice you describe is evident in someone like Michelle Duggar, and that always and entirely gives me the creeps.

I'm not familiar with Jess Piper, but I will make myself familiar later this afternoon.

Thanks for your reply!

BonnieJW

(3,139 posts)
19. I was just thinking that
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 02:11 PM
Sep 2025

She looks and sounds like Tinkerbell, except Tinkerbell is feisty. She's a Wendy

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
59. Thanks.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 05:35 PM
Sep 2025

I spent a little time reading her stuff and I will definitely be spending more time. She’s great.

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
60. Thanks.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 05:35 PM
Sep 2025

I spent a little time reading her stuff and I will definitely be spending more time. She’s great.

Blue Full Moon

(3,649 posts)
2. She is needs to live her words.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 01:27 PM
Sep 2025

Charlie and her wanted others to live by their words, while they did not.

democratsruletheday

(1,921 posts)
4. Meh, she'll re-marry some right wing nut
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 01:29 PM
Sep 2025

sooner rather than later cuz she's been brainwashed to believe she needs a man to survive. Pathetic.

StarryNite

(12,167 posts)
7. If that happens I wonder if she will turn over
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 01:34 PM
Sep 2025

all her wealth to the new guy? Methinks not. She will just use that religious BS when she thinks it benefits her.

Botany

(77,852 posts)
98. That is the best use of the phrase "Older Licknuts Billionaire" I have seen used on D.U. for the past week.
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 10:09 AM
Sep 2025

Ilsa

(64,566 posts)
42. If she has family and trusted friends to help her
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 03:49 PM
Sep 2025

with the kids, she may decide not to remarry until later, unless he's very wealthy. She will have Social Security Survivors Benefits rolling in for herself and two kids. I suspect it is not insignificant. Her benefits could be at risk, couldn't they?

niyad

(134,024 posts)
68. She and the dead one were/are wealthy, in case you did not know.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 07:22 PM
Sep 2025

Several sources say the dead one was worth about 12 mil. I don't think she has to worry about help or losing benefits.

niyad

(134,024 posts)
75. You are most welcome. It never occurred to me that that misogynist,
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 09:27 PM
Sep 2025

hate-filled scum was married. The mind reels!

Response to hamsterjill (Original post)

chowder66

(12,509 posts)
35. I call bullshit on her being submissive. She's just spreading that shit.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 03:19 PM
Sep 2025

In the linked video she says she went for an interview and he said "I'm not going to hire you, I'm going to date you".

He called himself a moderate compared to her (in the video). She sounds violent and ball-breaking to me.
I don't think she is "submissive" at all. Her definition seems to be that she's supportive of him.
Most partners are supportive of each other.

She went to Liberty University.

In 2019, she launched the podcast Midweek Rise Up.[2] Frantzve is the CEO of Proclaim Streetwear, a clothing brand,[9] and Bible in 365, a ministry project.[12] As of 2025, she works as a real estate agent at the Corcoran Group in New York City.[13]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Erika_Kirk

womanofthehills

(11,032 posts)
91. She was Miss Arizona is 2012
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 01:34 AM
Sep 2025

And represented Arizona in Miss Universe

She went to Notre Dame Prep high school Has a double major in political science & international relations from Ariz State University and a Juris Masters Degree from Liberty University and perusing a Doctorate in bibical studies at Liberty University.
( interesting - Charlie never went to college)

She appears to be very busy -

Played NCAA women’s basketball for Regis Univ,

You mentioned her podcast “Midweek Rise Up” - twice weekly , She also has a “faith inspired “ clothing brand and the list goes on with a ministry program and a charity etc.

Sounds like he met her and was instantly obsessed with her.

She does not come off as submissive but as someone with high self esteem in interviews - like someone who knows she is very pretty, beautifully dressed & who has had a busy life.- but it’s that super religious stuff that flavors her life.

I looked up her clothing store - boring - mostly t shirts with bibical sayings and images. Very uncreative.





lonely bird

(3,034 posts)
96. Hmmm
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 09:58 AM
Sep 2025

Sounds like being submissive to her husband was a schtick. Do as I say not as I actually do. In point of opinion, she would not have been working but staying home with the kids if she were actually submissive.

niyad

(134,024 posts)
8. Thank yyou for confirming what I suspected without even looking her up.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 01:42 PM
Sep 2025

Unlike you, however, I don't even feel sorry for her new status as widow. She knew what he was, so I would conclude that she is just as bad as he was. And now she is, by some accounts yesterday, a wealthy widow.

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
15. You know, niyad, this Kirk thing has really caused me to look inward.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 02:02 PM
Sep 2025

I lost a good friend yesterday over a social media post that she didn't like about Kirk. She accused me of spewing hate. I solved the problem real quick. I deleted her comment and blocked her. But I did spend some time wondering if her comment had any merit.

Sometimes, I think I do hate them. If it's not hate, it's something very, very close. I don't like that about myself. I really don't. But how I feel about "them" is because of what "they" have done. It's not what I've done. It's them and their actions, and their need to control, etc.

I don't feel safe in my country any more. I don't feel hopeful. I can't take it for granted that tomorrow I'm going to have the same freedoms that I have today with these idiots in charge. I worry about money. I worry about healthcare. I worry about my adult child. All because of THEM. The stupid Christian White Nationalists.

I worry that all of us who believe in Christianity will be lumped into the same category as these idiots. Hell, we have been for years, and only with the likes of people like Reverend Barber, etc. has there been any differentiation in my opinion. We're not all like them.

So after yesterday's self reflection, I decided that I needed to practice what I'm preaching. Grace, compassion and truth. So I'm giving myself that today. I'm giving myself a little grace for simply being human. I'm giving myself a little compassion, and giving compassion to the likes of the DU poster whose sister is in surgery today for a brain tumor. And I'm giving myself truth. I'm not afraid to look into the mirror and see who I am. But I am afraid to look out into the world and realize who "they" are.

That tells me what I need to know about "me".

littlemissmartypants

(34,344 posts)
25. Think about the...
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 02:42 PM
Sep 2025

Last edited Fri Sep 12, 2025, 04:09 PM - Edit history (1)

Hate in the same way as one would if they consumed something toxic. Like drinking poison.

You'd hate it if you ate a deli sandwich full of Boar's Head cold cuts and got deathly ill or heaven forbid, died. Or if someone else did the same.

Some things, especially things that are toxic and deadly are OK to hate.

It's a case of survival and self preservation.

❤️

drmeow

(6,019 posts)
40. To me
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 03:38 PM
Sep 2025

there is a big difference between hating someone for a group they were born into that they can't control and hating someone for what they do or have done. I have no bad feelings about hating Hitler, Stalin, and Pol Pot.

I don't hate my house cleaner who voted for Trump. I am angry at her and do not intend to support her anymore but I don't hate her.
I don't hate my friend who wrote in McCain rather than vote for either Trump or Harris. I am angry at her ignorant (but typically American) attitude that "Biden didn't fix the health care system and my kids still don't have health care and Harris claimed that they capped insulin at $35 but that was only for Medicare not everyone" stupidity and her "I'm not actually sexist but Harris wasn't a dynamic enough speaker" bullshit but I don't hate her.

The Charlie Kirk's of the world who actively promote and incite hated and violence aimed at people simply for the way they were born deliberately set out to cause pain and suffering of other people. The fact that they do it in part to increase their own power and wealth just makes it that much worse. Their goal is to hurt, kill, or otherwise destroy the lives of as many people as they can - deliberately and with malice aforethought. To me they are uncivilized, inhumane, and truly evil, and I have no problem hating evil people.

lastlib

(28,604 posts)
67. I'm reminded of a couple of lines of "Eve of Destruction":
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 07:19 PM
Sep 2025
"Think of all the hate there is in Red China,
Then take a look around to Selma, Alabama.....
You can bury your dead, but don't leave a trace,
Hate your next-door neighbor, but don't forget to say grace....."

BlueKota

(5,552 posts)
34. I ask myself the same type of questions
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 03:18 PM
Sep 2025

because I'm torn. I know as someone who was raised Catholic we are supposed to turn the other cheek and forgive. Yet, I always think when Hitler and Stalin died, were people supposed to feel sorry for their passing instead of relief that they weren't going to be around to kill anymore innocent victims? They were both responsible for millions of deaths of people, for no other reason than their own perverse world views.

Their passing didn't suddenly undo all the horrific things they did in their life & turn them into innocent souls. They used their lives to spread evil of their own free will yet others are supposed to just forget and forgive that?

Ilsa

(64,566 posts)
43. I don't know if you quote the RWers and let the reader
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 04:00 PM
Sep 2025

come to their own conclusion. It can't be hate speech on your part if you are giving them factual information. If they find it hateful, that's on the RW speaker not the one quoting them.

You and I have alot of the same worries. Hang in there. We'll make it better, somehow. I'm staying hopeful, for now.

PoindexterOglethorpe

(28,493 posts)
57. I despise all right-wingers.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 04:58 PM
Sep 2025

I'm also down on any and all organized religion because of the way it is used to dominate people, make them behave badly to those not of their beliefs.

Okay, so you yourself, and for the most part people here aren't that way, but I really hate the way some people think their religion should rule everyone.

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
61. Not into organized religion myself either.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 05:48 PM
Sep 2025

Honestly, I never understood why I have to "pay" to be a part of it (i.e., tithe), and I'm not one to get up early on Sunday morning and go socialize. But I am a believer. I posted this yesterday that explains how I look at it, etc.

https://democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=20623792

womanofthehills

(11,032 posts)
95. She will be wealthier too as Tucker started a fund for her
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 09:53 AM
Sep 2025

- with an initial donation of a million dollars. I read much of Charlie Kirk’s wealth was connected to Turning Points - which has $100 million in revenue and assets and that she pulls in one to three million on her religious businesses.

Erica has plans to continue Turning Points so I’m sure she will have lots of money.

maxsolomon

(39,120 posts)
9. It says what it says.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 01:50 PM
Sep 2025
Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.


That was written by a man, no doubt, and unlikely that it was Paul. A Loving God didn't write any part of the Bible.

chowmama

(1,117 posts)
12. I've been married for almost 50 years. Anybody tries that with me learns 2 things.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 01:56 PM
Sep 2025

1) I own a cast iron skillet.

2) He's gotta sleep sometime.

allegorical oracle

(6,584 posts)
21. Admiration, here. My first husband failed the litmus test. Number two was a
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 02:27 PM
Sep 2025

wonderful human being who treated women the way we want...equal. Neither of us ruled the roost -- was always a mutual decision.

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
26. That's how it should be (as you explain with your second).
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 02:47 PM
Sep 2025

A partnership where both individuals bring their strengths, talents, and faults, but are equals.

Always makes me smile to know that exists. Congrats on finding number two!!!

Bettie

(19,872 posts)
30. That's how our marriage is too
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 02:59 PM
Sep 2025

we each have things we're good at, things we're bad at and we still make each other laugh until we snort.

After 36 years, he's still my best friend.

calimary

(90,775 posts)
39. I've got one of those, too. Grateful for it!
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 03:34 PM
Sep 2025

We think alike, politically, and that’s probably a large part of it.

I don’t think I could ever have married a Republican.

niyad

(134,024 posts)
55. As I said in a thread earlier this week, there are many uses for cast iron
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 04:40 PM
Sep 2025

skillets, and rock maple rolling pins in various sizes.

efhmc

(16,988 posts)
29. I am not sure about Paul. I once told my pastor that if Paul is in heaven, I am not sure it is anywhere I want to be.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 02:54 PM
Sep 2025

maxsolomon

(39,120 posts)
32. Or the man who wrote using Paul's name.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 03:08 PM
Sep 2025

Ephesians is problematic, to put it mildly.

Like Revelation, it the cause of much suffering throughout history.

Farmer-Rick

(12,786 posts)
33. Yup the bible says a lot of awful stuff
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 03:16 PM
Sep 2025

That's why I don't believe a god exists.

What kind of god would allow that crap to be written in his name? Many of the other religions are the same way. It's all about control.

kimbutgar

(27,555 posts)
10. I wouldn't be surprised if she becomes the orange pedo felon side chick like Laura Lunatic!
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 01:54 PM
Sep 2025

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
18. They will definitely use her to whatever means benefits them.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 02:08 PM
Sep 2025

And she will obediently comply...for the right amount of money, of course.

Joinfortmill

(21,668 posts)
22. OMG! If that's her choice, fine, but don't push that submissive bullshit onto others.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 02:27 PM
Sep 2025

These people are so unlikeable, it's hard to find any sympathy for them. That said, there is no place for murder in civilized society.

littlemissmartypants

(34,344 posts)
27. I'd like to know...
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 02:48 PM
Sep 2025

Where and when that "civilized society" existed. I'm having trouble finding the evidence.

drmeow

(6,019 posts)
41. Everytime we move closer to that "civilized society"
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 03:47 PM
Sep 2025

(i.e., passing the civil rights act, passing laws against marital violence and rape, etc.) the Reich wing makes it their unrelenting goal to undo it as fast as possible.

Removed from rhetoric, humans want a more civilized world (fair, egalitarian, more equal than it is, safer, etc.) - if we could muzzle the extremists, we might actually achieve it - too bad muzzling the extremists is almost impossible in today's day and age!

SKKY

(12,811 posts)
38. Erika Kirk. Before the next election I've got $10.00 that says she'll be "Erika Lewandowski"...
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 03:27 PM
Sep 2025

...and will move to Florida.

pat_k

(13,839 posts)
44. IMO
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 04:03 PM
Sep 2025

Some on "our side" need to do a much better job of making it clear that it is Christian Nationalism that we oppose, NOT Christianity. In America, people can believe whatever they want. But it is Un-American to pass laws that impose our beliefs on people who do not share those beliefs.

Something I posted earlier in another thread:

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100220634332#post6

hurple

(1,362 posts)
47. The final straw in my religious belief...
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 04:13 PM
Sep 2025

Was when I met a wonderful woman who had been married before I knew her. But, she left that marriage because he beat her (to the point she was once hospitalized.)

My church refused to accept our relationship because that was not grounds for divorce in their interpretation of the Bible. And the preacher actually told her that she should have been more submissive to him.

I never went to another church again after that meeting...

Tree Lady

(13,384 posts)
65. I separated from my first husband
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 06:05 PM
Sep 2025

I met in church young when I was 20. The kids were 2 & 4, I went for counseling and he basically told me divorce was a sin and to go back to my husband. I did after he got off drugs and I told him if he ever did again I would leave him.

I wish I had better advice to just go, wasted time in my life. I ended up leaving him when kids were 10 & 12 when he got back into drugs.

After we got back together I did it for kids & church only felt nothing for him, and I left the church within a few years.

It does nothing but harm to encourage women to stay in a bad marriage.

TNNurse

(7,549 posts)
49. If she willingly married this man and accepted his "rules"
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 04:29 PM
Sep 2025

I suspect she will make being a martyr her career and will do well financially. Professional victim is apparently a job.

niyad

(134,024 posts)
53. "Men of quality are not threatened by women for equality" . A statement
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 04:37 PM
Sep 2025

from the early years of feminism's second wave.

Puppyjive

(1,005 posts)
56. I married my husband at 37
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 04:51 PM
Sep 2025

Our son was born when I was 35. So prior to those years, who should I have been submissive to? I dated guys that were complete jerks on every level. I never submitted to them. I needed to support myself. I didn't want my parents to support me, so I joined the military. Just because your single, doesn't mean you don't need to keep a roof over your head.

mb40

(15 posts)
62. What Paul wrote was his opinion
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 05:55 PM
Sep 2025

He also said in that same letter that it was far better to not marry. Something along the lines of its better to focus on serving the Lord instead of a husband(or wife). Funny how this movement ignores that advice and ostracize unmarried women.

Crunchy Frog

(28,299 posts)
64. I don't feel sorry for her. Well, I sort of do, but not because her fascist, misogynist husband died.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 06:01 PM
Sep 2025

FakeNoose

(42,391 posts)
70. The age difference between them isn't remarkable (to me, at least)
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 08:09 PM
Sep 2025

I've known liberal, D-voting couples in which the wife is older. However they make it work is fine with me.

But if Erika Kirk was and is constantly referring to Charlie's judgment, abilities and his feelings, and she has no input at all, that's not a partnership of equal adults. It's a daddy-daughter relationship, or there's some other kind of unequal dynamic going on. Some girls were raised to behave this way, and in many cases their mothers and/or older sisters were also like this.

I'm a baby-boomer and this behavior was expected among younger women in the 1950s and 60s, not so much in the 70s and 80s.

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
77. I mentioned the age difference because to me someone older should be LESS inclined to be submissive.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 09:34 PM
Sep 2025

In a normal situation, the older person would be more experienced, etc. I happen to know one couple where the wife is 12 years older than the husband and they also do just fine. She worries about "looking older" than him, but that's just superficial. Their relationship is sound in my opinion. They have twin boys and they shared the chores during their upbringing.

I'm a late-end baby boomer myself and I know what you're saying about the history. But that still doesn't make it right. We don't want to go back to that crap. Women were powerless and stuck in relationships with no way out many times. It wasn't all Donna Reed and Father Knows Best. There was a lot of excused and/or hidden abuses and a lot of unhappiness.

I pity the women who haven't had the opportunity to make decisions for themselves, make mistakes, learn from those mistakes, have freedoms, etc. I see SO many young women today on social media glorifying having a bunch of kids. And that IS their choice and their right. But what are they going to do when the husband decides their bodies are fat and flabby from childbirth, they're tired all the time from juggling six kids, they are disinterested in him from their weariness, and he goes looking elsewhere? It does happen, you know. They will have no work experience and no independence. And they will be stuck. That's what men like Charlie Kirk want. They want women to be dependent. Independence scares them.

I totally and completely disagree with Charlie Kirk about women being able to "go back to their careers". I've seen women attempt that too many times and be denied the opportunity because others in their field were more qualified and knowledgeable when these women chose to try to start again. I'm sure there are success stories, but I'm not aware of many in my own circle of friends and acquaintances.

Guess you and I were lucky to have lived through the 70's and seen the positive change!!!

FakeNoose

(42,391 posts)
82. Yes definitely, we've been lucky
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 10:44 PM
Sep 2025

I have several woman friends who took time off to raise their families, and then tried to resume their careers. For most it was disappointing to learn in their middle age that there was no "fast track" open to them, and many were relegated to minor roles in their companies. I've always tried to give encouragement to these "back to work" mothers, but it isn't easy.

DanielCronk

(2 posts)
71. It is a about a monster.....
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 08:23 PM
Sep 2025

Sorry, but you have not read the Bible - it is the source of most of this horror.

niyad

(134,024 posts)
106. As a matter of curiosity did you, in fact, read her entire OP before you
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 10:46 AM
Sep 2025

chose to castigate her? Not really a good look.

yellow dahlia

(6,453 posts)
72. I also stumbled on the clip about her, accidentally.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 08:23 PM
Sep 2025

Republican Stepford Wife Barbie. Aaaargh!

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
115. She does fit the template, doesn't she?
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 06:21 PM
Sep 2025

I thought the same thing. Always blonde, always long hair, thick makeup, etc. Yech!

Bread and Circuses

(2,121 posts)
76. So , these Christians are into S&M and Bondage! ....
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 09:31 PM
Sep 2025

OK,

Yes I know they say that a woman submits to a man per God… or whatever .

BUT, seriously ….i suspect there’s a lot of implied threats if the Christian women don’t obey.

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
87. I am a Christian by choice.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 11:45 PM
Sep 2025

And I happen to believe that you will be just fine!

I have no desire to push my beliefs on anyone. We all go our own paths and we should respect one another for the right to choose that path.

MorbidButterflyTat

(4,742 posts)
80. I don't understand why you would explode
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 10:12 PM
Sep 2025

Everyone knows what Kirk was, of course his wife would be outrageous.

But other people's choices whether hypocritical or not, are not gonna wreck my day or make me explode.

I know of no movement to make women ashamed of being competent...? And I know of no women who would be. I guess that's another right wing thing I have no interest in getting upset over.

No one can change anyone but themselves. Trying to or thinking you can or should is a useless waste of time.

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
88. Okay....
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 11:48 PM
Sep 2025

I guess it takes all kinds to make the world go around.

I think you've over-reacted a bit to my comment about "explode". And honestly, I wasn't that familiar with Charlie Kirk before he was killed. I had heard of him, but I hadn't followed him. So, I wasn't familiar with his wife either.

Have a great evening!

kwolf68

(8,452 posts)
81. This 1700s view of women
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 10:35 PM
Sep 2025

Is horrible, but I wanted Kirk to keep spouting off that women had no choices in their life, that their station was pre-ordained simply because they had a vagina. I am fine with Kirk promoting it, because it's twisted draconian shit. And I am also fine if he found a lady that on her own free will chose to be "sub" to him. If she wants that and is good with it, go for it.

I draw the line at legislation.

Funny thing is the ONLY possible way Kirk's dreams of "women at home in the kitchen" could EVER be realized would be with a guaranteed minimum income. Only way. Many families need two bread winners. That's not even taking into consideration women should fucking have the choice how they live their lives, with who and what model.

SleeplessinSoCal

(10,438 posts)
83. Her shrillness is extremely off-putting
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 10:57 PM
Sep 2025

She's way too filled with retribution against who she's decided is her enemy. Whether or not it is.

Aussie105

(8,173 posts)
86. She was ok with what her husband did.
Fri Sep 12, 2025, 11:12 PM
Sep 2025

That's all I need to know about her.

How does a reasonably well to do country like America breed individuals and families like this? Mind boggling!

mdbl

(8,737 posts)
92. It's all about the benjamins
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 08:15 AM
Sep 2025

Early on they realize their weird cult-like behavior can make them rich. Then the meme turns into a bizarre reality in their minds as if it's all normal. Same process with these religious cults.

RVN VET71

(3,216 posts)
93. 0Due respect and compassion for the widow but a "submissive woman"
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 09:07 AM
Sep 2025

means, umm, different things out in the world than obeying the will of the Creator and loving God through their husband. Look it up.

SunSeeker

(58,374 posts)
101. Erika Kirk is a raging hypocrite.
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 10:37 AM
Sep 2025

Even though she waited until 31 to get married, she lectures women to to get married well before 30 and have lots of babies. She tells women they can't have a carreer and marriage, but that is exactly what she did, earning a masters degree, starting a clothing line and religious podcast, among other entrepreneural ventures.
https://www.huffpost.com/entry/charlie-kirk-erika-kirk-first-public-remarks-fatal-shooting_n_68c4a04be4b0efc9da5fcb0f

This all comes down to grifting. Her right wing religious shtick sells to the proles, and she intends to mine it for all she can.

Nixie

(18,105 posts)
107. +1, I just saw an article that she's going to carry on her husband's
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 11:00 AM
Sep 2025

“work.” So who is going to take care of her toddlers. She has $100 million from grifting, so it looks like she’ll be hiring nannie’s. Rules for thee, but not for me.

SunSeeker

(58,374 posts)
108. I'm sure she already has nannies, and has been using them since giving birth.
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 11:20 AM
Sep 2025

She and her husband jet setted all over the world for their business and political ventures. She did not stay home with the babies.

When she got off Air Force Two with JD Vance, she did not have her babies with her.

Nixie

(18,105 posts)
109. You nailed it.
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 11:23 AM
Sep 2025

This is just more evidence of their grifting. She’s too important to take her own advice.

hamsterjill

(17,747 posts)
110. Great perspective!
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 11:31 AM
Sep 2025

Thank you for your post. It is absolutely true and correct! Well said!

Response to hamsterjill (Original post)

ClaudetteCC

(188 posts)
111. 'Movement' or not all of us should make our own lifestyle choices
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 11:34 AM
Sep 2025

Consenting adults should not easily be swayed by 'movements' to do something not in accord with their nature.

justsomeguy01

(53 posts)
113. "adults"
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 01:11 PM
Sep 2025

It seems many "adults" are scared traumatized children PRETENDING to be adults.
In the case of Maga's, often desperately yearning to belong to a "strong" group that claims to care about them. And within which they can disappear and just be part of the crowd - with no agency or thought.

Boys play-acting at being men by being loud, aggressive, having loud cars, responding with rage to many interactions, plus many other un-wise behaviors.
Same for women, but manifests a bit differently.

Preface : I almost never mention anybody's appearance. But this was "striking".
I was at the gym as Ms. Kirks image was on the big TV's in front of me. I looked up, saw the split screen with a fox "host" on the left, and what I assumed was a still photo of some Maga woman on the right. Eventually she blinked. Otherwise it could truly have been a still image of a mar-a-lago maga woman - complete with all the fillers, injections, procedures, etc Then she started talking. Until the blink - which took a while - I truly had not realized that was a live shot of a guest.

ClaudetteCC

(188 posts)
116. Many people make bad choices in a world with constant competition
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 08:11 PM
Sep 2025

for one's time, money, attention, fealty, and soul. I'm not sure who to anoint with the power to determine and correct other people's bad decisions. The best we can rely on is the individual and care from their immediate personal community.

Texin

(2,868 posts)
112. "Women are equals and only weak willed men find that a problem." As a woman, I would posit that women
Sat Sep 13, 2025, 12:17 PM
Sep 2025

may be stronger than men inasmuch as her creator made women strong enough to carry her offspring to term for nine months and give birth. Most men I've known get a low grade fever and they act like they've got the bubonic plague and are about to die. Some guys get a paper cut and get light headed from the sight of blood. Can anyone really imagine a man being able to handle menses every moth with the attendant blood and monthly physical changes that accompany that? And for more or less 20-30 odd years? Only to be followed by all the fun times women go through with menopause which can last for a decade?

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