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Grim Chieftain

(2,048 posts)
Tue Sep 23, 2025, 03:34 PM Sep 2025

I still have the name I was born with

I got engaged when I was finishing my PhD program, and several of my male professors encouraged me to keep my maiden name so my publications would follow me. I thanked them, but assured them I had no intention of changing my name.

Interestingly, when I was teaching a college class several years later, I mentioned that a female traditionally got her father's name at birth and her husband's name at marriage. One of my male students went ballistic and argued that the male name was essential. And yes, not long after he graduated, he ran for state representative as a Republican and won.

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