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choie

(6,906 posts)
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 07:28 PM Dec 2025

Ruben Gallego's leaked texts mocking Democrats' looks & masculinity intensify temperament concerns

First-year U.S. Sen. Ruben Gallego of Arizona is facing intensified scrutiny after leaked text messages showed the Democrat deriding the appearance of women and men in his own party. The comments mirror far-right rhetoric about gender and deepen concerns about his recent repositioning on LGBTQ+ issues.

In the messages, first circulated by a conservative outlet and reported by People last week Gallego, who started his first term in the U.S. Senate in January after previously serving in the House, complained that Democrats are “not allowing men to be men” or “women to be hot,” and wrote, “Dem women look like Dem men and Dem men look like women.” He also lamented that Democrats had become “the not fun party” and no longer embodied “sex, drugs, and rock and roll.”

He made some of these remarks after receiving a meme that included an image of 82-year-old Connecticut U.S. Rep. Rosa DeLauro, a fellow Democrat.

The remarks came at a moment of escalating political and legislative hostility toward transgender Americans. Seeing a Democratic senator, who replaced Democrat-turned-independent bisexual Sen. Krysten Sinema, use the same gender-policing language deployed by anti-trans commentators has alarmed advocates, who say the rhetoric legitimizes narratives that treat gender nonconformity as a cultural defect rather than a civil rights issue, independent journalist Erin Reed notes on her Substack newsletter Erin in the Morning.

The revelations about his texts also come after months of movement by Gallego away from previously held support for transgender rights. In May, The Advocate reported that Gallego described concerns about transgender girls in sports as “legitimate,” a shift LGBTQ+ groups warned would empower discriminatory policymaking. He later voted for a defense bill containing a ban on gender-affirming surgeries for military personnel.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/articles/ruben-gallego-leaked-texts-mocking-212113278.html

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Ruben Gallego's leaked texts mocking Democrats' looks & masculinity intensify temperament concerns (Original Post) choie Dec 2025 OP
Woah! Not good, Sen. electric_blue68 Dec 2025 #1
Which reminds me, why do people do such stupid shit? BeyondGeography Dec 2025 #2
They can't help but reveal choie Dec 2025 #4
His statements are as inane as they are ill-advised BeyondGeography Dec 2025 #5
Better to find out now. yourout Dec 2025 #3
Not to mention the millions in donations from the cryptobros for his yes vote on the GENIUS act. Nt Fiendish Thingy Dec 2025 #6
So men just need to look like men (whatever that means) senseandsensibility Dec 2025 #7
I Always Have To Question... ProfessorGAC Dec 2025 #8
This. mr715 Dec 2025 #12
How do you mean? choie Dec 2025 #13
I Said No Such Thing ProfessorGAC Dec 2025 #19
I wasn't accusing you of anything. choie Dec 2025 #21
This Ferrets are Cool Dec 2025 #55
You're correct and someone like me that grew up without email or texts knows implicitly never to put anything in writing Midwestern Democrat Dec 2025 #20
Disappointing. IcyPeas Dec 2025 #9
Golden! Don't forget about Golden! mr715 Dec 2025 #11
and jaymac Dec 2025 #51
With respect to Sen. Gallego mr715 Dec 2025 #10
Right! FHRRK Dec 2025 #33
Lol, you're right Polybius Dec 2025 #35
What is with Arizona Democrats aside from Mark Kelly? Ritabert Dec 2025 #14
Is it real... 2naSalit Dec 2025 #15
Real Polybius Dec 2025 #37
Yeah, He's Heartbroken Deep State Witch Dec 2025 #65
It seems more like criticism of feminists or women's rights JI7 Dec 2025 #16
Shame on him. La Coliniere Dec 2025 #17
When can we primary this jerk? intheflow Dec 2025 #18
5 years from now Anxy Dec 2025 #47
... Solly Mack Dec 2025 #22
Well said. Mocking people smells of exclusivity. Raven123 Dec 2025 #27
I could mock him, but I won't. I mean, men do come in all shapes, sizes, and levels of hotness. Solly Mack Dec 2025 #44
When did he make these remarks? If it was a while ago then we could cut some slack though LymphocyteLover Dec 2025 #31
The lack of an apology gave me pause too. Solly Mack Dec 2025 #43
"Does he mean let more people in who think as he does?" -- it sounds like it to me orleans Dec 2025 #36
I'm sure I wouldn't meet his definition of hot. Thankfully. Solly Mack Dec 2025 #45
as with Trump Skittles Dec 2025 #50
I was wondering since dem men look like women and he is a dem man, does he think he looks like a woman? Solly Mack Dec 2025 #57
I could be wrong, H2O Man Dec 2025 #61
heh Solly Mack Dec 2025 #62
I wonder what trump looks like to Gallego. Tikki Dec 2025 #23
Glad I never sent him any money. milestogo Dec 2025 #24
Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2025 #25
I've heard a Dem say something similar. But there's too much shit going on for this to be a major issue LymphocyteLover Dec 2025 #32
F him and I am so sorry for anyone that sent him money or ALBliberal Dec 2025 #26
I was one those who donated to his campaign. So disappointed. n/t iluvtennis Dec 2025 #29
Hey I was previously impressed by the guy ALBliberal Dec 2025 #30
😡 AllyCat Dec 2025 #28
disappointing Kali Dec 2025 #34
I'm sorry, but how is this not all over the news? Polybius Dec 2025 #38
Because there's a lot of other news maxsolomon Dec 2025 #58
But when Fetterman says something even mildly controversial, it's all over the news n/t Polybius Dec 2025 #59
Well, clearly, the news is biased in favor of Gallego maxsolomon Dec 2025 #63
Trojan horse? spudspud Dec 2025 #39
Rep. Grijalva looks great! What a stupid thing to say wolfie001 Dec 2025 #40
Do we HAVE to always have a DINO as a Senator from Arizona??? regnaD kciN Dec 2025 #41
What a pitifully shallow individual. lostnfound Dec 2025 #42
Sexist comments -- and denying civil rights to trans folks TommyT139 Dec 2025 #46
Disappointing, but better than Kari Lake. n/t Coventina Dec 2025 #48
The texts are cringey fujiyamasan Dec 2025 #49
Just looked up a picture of him and Luciferous Dec 2025 #52
He loves crypto. Another reason I'd never vote for him. It just keeps getting worse for him. I live in AZ. nt in2herbs Dec 2025 #53
I'm so glad someone posted about this shit. It's worse than disgusting. Ferrets are Cool Dec 2025 #54
Cringe Oneironaut Dec 2025 #56
Not a good look SunImp Dec 2025 #60
Meh. BannonsLiver Dec 2025 #64

BeyondGeography

(41,101 posts)
5. His statements are as inane as they are ill-advised
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 07:46 PM
Dec 2025

He’s better than that, but the internal wiring is obviously faulty. Instead of digging in deeper, which he does in that article, he needs to to do better or kindly fuck off from public life.

Fiendish Thingy

(23,240 posts)
6. Not to mention the millions in donations from the cryptobros for his yes vote on the GENIUS act. Nt
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 07:54 PM
Dec 2025

senseandsensibility

(24,978 posts)
7. So men just need to look like men (whatever that means)
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 07:57 PM
Dec 2025

but women need to be hot? Sexist BS in addition to everything else. Also, just plain stupid.

ProfessorGAC

(76,706 posts)
8. I Always Have To Question...
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 08:02 PM
Dec 2025

...the judgment of people who are foolish enough to think email & texts are private.
He needs to explain his poor judgment.
The topic, while inflammatory, is less relevant to me than the stupidity. In fact, the stupidity might be the cause of the questionable opinions.

choie

(6,906 posts)
13. How do you mean?
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 08:15 PM
Dec 2025

His stupidity in putting his thoughts in an email is second to the content of the email. His statement on "men being men and women being women" is almost neanderthallic. And put in the context of his horrible votes and views on transgender rights, paints a picture of intolerance and - in my opinion - a Democrat who under the guise of being a party who speaks to the needs of the working class, is actually moving us backwards.

Midwestern Democrat

(1,029 posts)
20. You're correct and someone like me that grew up without email or texts knows implicitly never to put anything in writing
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 08:56 PM
Dec 2025

that I would not be comfortable having publicly exposed - but for a younger person where email and texts were always the primary form of communication instead of the telephone, it's easy to see how they could slip every so often and say things in email and texts that an older person would only say in person or on a phone call.

 

jaymac

(267 posts)
51. and
Mon Dec 8, 2025, 06:19 AM
Dec 2025

Gillebrand..............who was the leading voice calling for Al Franken's ouster from the senate..........a low thinker

Polybius

(21,902 posts)
37. Real
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 10:07 PM
Dec 2025
Arizona Senator Ruben Gallego spoke with ABC15, responding to a recent leak of his text messages in which he criticized the Democratic Party. In the exchange on Tuesday, Gallego said he was "heartbroken" that a friend of 20 years leaked private communications.


https://www.yahoo.com/news/videos/senator-ruben-gallego-addresses-recent-011447851.html

JI7

(93,617 posts)
16. It seems more like criticism of feminists or women's rights
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 08:31 PM
Dec 2025

and women taking up certain roles. I could be wrong .

La Coliniere

(1,933 posts)
17. Shame on him.
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 08:37 PM
Dec 2025

WTF…I hardly see him as some paragon of adult masculinity…always seems kind of a schlub. He should know better than to continue to harm the trans community, let alone the Democratic Party, of which he owes his political allegiance to, with his unfortunate words. He needs a good talking to.

Solly Mack

(96,943 posts)
22. ...
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 09:17 PM
Dec 2025



In an interview with local ABC affiliate KNXV last week, Gallego confirmed the leaked texts were authentic and said he was “heartbroken” that a longtime friend shared them. But he did not retreat from their content. “I do think we have to be an open and bigger tent party,” he said, arguing Democrats “are not as inclusive as [they] should be” and must “expand the tent to allow more people in."

He added that the remarks were “a reflection of... everything I’ve said.”

What remains unanswered is how mocking Democrats’ attractiveness, or implying the party’s struggles stem from insufficient femininity or masculinity, aligns with a call for greater inclusivity.


Does he mean let more people in who think as he does?

Raven123

(7,797 posts)
27. Well said. Mocking people smells of exclusivity.
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 09:35 PM
Dec 2025

Now if I were going to mock him, I might say that he should buck up. This “heartbreaking” stuff isn’t worthy of a real man.

Solly Mack

(96,943 posts)
44. I could mock him, but I won't. I mean, men do come in all shapes, sizes, and levels of hotness.
Mon Dec 8, 2025, 12:35 AM
Dec 2025

LymphocyteLover

(9,848 posts)
31. When did he make these remarks? If it was a while ago then we could cut some slack though
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 09:50 PM
Dec 2025

he doesn't seem to be apologizing is more disturbing

orleans

(36,924 posts)
36. "Does he mean let more people in who think as he does?" -- it sounds like it to me
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 10:07 PM
Dec 2025

what a disappointment

why didn't he just come out and say: "i wish the democrat party would welcome more sexist assholes like myself"

ugh!


and if he thinks he's some hot shit stud he is horribly fucked in the head

(imo)

Solly Mack

(96,943 posts)
57. I was wondering since dem men look like women and he is a dem man, does he think he looks like a woman?
Tue Dec 9, 2025, 08:25 PM
Dec 2025

Because that sounds like he is projecting his own insecurities onto the rest of us.

Response to choie (Original post)

LymphocyteLover

(9,848 posts)
32. I've heard a Dem say something similar. But there's too much shit going on for this to be a major issue
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 09:52 PM
Dec 2025

for Dems to have it as a talking point

ALBliberal

(3,347 posts)
30. Hey I was previously impressed by the guy
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 09:43 PM
Dec 2025

HE is So fickle and short sighted

But you my friend? I was taken in just like you.

But we? Have good hearts and we will continue to believe in goodness

Polybius

(21,902 posts)
38. I'm sorry, but how is this not all over the news?
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 10:09 PM
Dec 2025

The article is days old, and this is the first time I'm hearing of it. Why was it barely covered? I would have loved to have posted this in LBN for more exposure.

maxsolomon

(38,729 posts)
58. Because there's a lot of other news
Tue Dec 9, 2025, 08:39 PM
Dec 2025

and it just wasn't strong enough to fight for space?

lostnfound

(17,520 posts)
42. What a pitifully shallow individual.
Sun Dec 7, 2025, 10:51 PM
Dec 2025

Disgusting to belittle people over their looks. Is he over the age of 15? I think he found the wrong party.

TommyT139

(2,357 posts)
46. Sexist comments -- and denying civil rights to trans folks
Mon Dec 8, 2025, 04:13 AM
Dec 2025

Not consistent with Dem party values.

in2herbs

(4,390 posts)
53. He loves crypto. Another reason I'd never vote for him. It just keeps getting worse for him. I live in AZ. nt
Mon Dec 8, 2025, 09:55 AM
Dec 2025

Oneironaut

(6,300 posts)
56. Cringe
Mon Dec 8, 2025, 10:31 AM
Dec 2025

If these statements were written, and, you didn’t know who wrote them, who would be the more likely author: Ruben Gallego, or, a teenage boy?

This is super cringeworthy.

SunImp

(2,706 posts)
60. Not a good look
Tue Dec 9, 2025, 11:09 PM
Dec 2025

I'm surprised there wasn't a lot of crying about Dem bashing or manufactured anger over purity.

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