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AverageOldGuy

(3,574 posts)
Sun Jan 18, 2026, 11:31 PM Jan 18

We have made a decision

We are in our 80's.

I'm in decent shape, work out 3-5 days a week, do all the driving and errands, though I have spinal stenosis, walk with a cane. and my hips hurt if I walk more than a block.

My wife of almost 60 years (60 years at the end of July) is not as fortunate -- Type II insulin-dependent diabetic, spinal stenosis, knee replacement, balance problems (two falls in past three years requiring surgery to correct), digestive problems, heart problems, walks with a walker.

We both understand that one or both of us could die in the next 15 minutes or we may make it another 15 years.

As college students in Alabama in the 1960's, we both marched in Selma, Montgomery, and Birmingham. We were knocked down by Bull Connor's firehoses and bitten by his dogs. We have marched and marched and demonstrated and volunteered for Habitat, in food banks, in homeless shelters, and you name it.

We recently moved from our custom-designed and custom-built home in rural Virginia into a small Northern Virginia apartment and are in a new United Methodist Church. During the morning prayer, the minister starts the prayer then members of the congregation can call out the name of a person for whom they want prayers and the congregation responds "Hear our prayers." Today I called out as loudly as I could "The People of Minnesota" and our congregation roared "Hear our prayers!!!" -- and after the service, damn near 3/4 of the congregation came up to me -- some with tears in their eyes -- thanking me.

Our decision is simple: We will NOT COMPLY -- we will not comply and we will let the world know it -- vocally, publicly, at every chance we get .

Our message to ICE is simple: Shoot if you must these old grey heads.

WE ARE NOT HEROES -- NOT AT ALL. But we have to ask ourselves: WTF WOULD JESUS DO?????


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We have made a decision (Original Post) AverageOldGuy Jan 18 OP
Great post. Sending good vibes to you and your wife spooky3 Jan 18 #1
Seconded. It really is a great post! Scott Alan Swaggerty Jan 19 #48
Certainly reflects my attiude. I didn't get this far in fear, I'm not fearful now. It's time to stand in any capacity we marble falls Jan 18 #2
Amen! Scott Alan Swaggerty Jan 19 #49
Thank you for sharing this! flamingdem Jan 18 #3
You're honorable, caring people, willing to stand up and speak out for what's right. And whether highplainsdem Jan 18 #4
+1 Scott Alan Swaggerty Jan 19 #50
Your post really touched me and I send my best wishes to you and your wife for a healthy new year. Deuxcents Jan 18 #5
I love this godsentme Jan 19 #6
I got chills down my spine reading this! ShazzieB Jan 19 #7
Every day I send my prayers. LOUD 'N CrLEAR. 3Hotdogs Jan 19 #8
I love this Joinfortmill Jan 19 #9
Check for PAD AncientOfDays Jan 19 #10
Your post is bringing tears... 3catwoman3 Jan 19 #11
Fellow 80+'ers here....thank you for this wonderful post! young_at_heart Jan 19 #12
Thank You For This. BurnDoubt Jan 19 #13
Thank You❤️ So meaningful.......So true. lucca18 Jan 19 #14
Thank you from an old woman Randomthought Jan 19 #15
I had Tears just reading you OP, AOG Cha Jan 19 #16
Thank you for thinking of us! dflprincess Jan 19 #17
Thanks for sharing AverageOldGuy Uncle Joe Jan 19 #18
Thanks! Now I know what to say to the "religiously insane" repukes I know. They figure that they have cornered the CTyankee Jan 19 #19
Today, I will be walking in the MLK rally hoosierspud Jan 19 #20
Our Daily Dread utherpendragon Jan 19 #21
Love you both malaise Jan 19 #22
. Loryn Jan 19 #23
Very cool, AOG. Timeflyer Jan 19 #24
Sounds like you are definitely above Average... Wounded Bear Jan 19 #25
"Who touches a hair of yon grey head.... bleedingulcers Jan 19 #26
Same decision I made. Live free or die. Irish_Dem Jan 19 #27
So great to see your post and know that people outside of adopted state for a long while support us...... riversedge Jan 19 #28
Thanks AverageOldGuy.... fantase56 Jan 19 #29
Not just a good poem, soldierant Jan 19 #54
Shoot if you must this old grey head, but leave your country's flag, she said. Good poem. n/t PatrickforB Jan 19 #30
Thank you for this. hamsterjill Jan 19 #31
Love ya, AverageOldGuy! Kid Berwyn Jan 19 #32
Thank you for this post AverageOldGuy. Right behind you. c-rational Jan 19 #33
Good for you! And glad to hear it was so well received. VTderry Jan 19 #34
You and your wife are good Americans. Americanme Jan 19 #35
We...also...will NOT COMPLY ret5hd Jan 19 #36
Tears here too. Well done AOG. Evolve Dammit Jan 19 #37
Message auto-removed Name removed Jan 19 #38
"WTF WOULD JESUS DO?????" OldBaldy1701E Jan 19 #39
Wonderful recounting of your life and a great spontaneous shout out for the folks of Minnesota. Fla Dem Jan 19 #40
Very touching post. llmart Jan 19 #41
According to MAGA, Jesus Quanto Magnus Jan 19 #42
God bless you samplegirl Jan 19 #43
That's the true fighting spirit we all need to be exemplifying. La Coliniere Jan 19 #44
Thank you for sharing and volunteering Bluewonder Jan 19 #45
Thank you for that, AOG LNM Jan 19 #46
Thank you for this. Scott Alan Swaggerty Jan 19 #47
get thee to the greatest page . ding this AllaN01Bear Jan 19 #51
Sorry to disagree, but YES, YOU ARE HEROES thought crime Jan 19 #52
You and your Mrs. are WAY ABOVE AVERAGE, my friend FakeNoose Jan 19 #53
Hugs to you and your wife. democrank Jan 19 #55
I don't know what to say that the other posters haven't already said MustLoveBeagles Jan 19 #56
Wonderful post! mountain grammy Jan 19 #57
JESUS would TEAR DOWN the Trump temple---- and the maggots would Jack Valentino Jan 19 #58
Thank you ahlnord Jan 19 #59
.. BlueWaveNeverEnd Jan 20 #60

highplainsdem

(60,852 posts)
4. You're honorable, caring people, willing to stand up and speak out for what's right. And whether
Sun Jan 18, 2026, 11:40 PM
Jan 18

or not you think the label "hero" fits, in a time like this - when our oppressors have made it clear that they're willing to shoot - that label fits.

Deuxcents

(26,049 posts)
5. Your post really touched me and I send my best wishes to you and your wife for a healthy new year.
Sun Jan 18, 2026, 11:55 PM
Jan 18

I’m knocking on 79 and our generation has been thru a lot of rocky times but we dealt with it and moved on, hopefully to make things better. We’ve worked hard and at this point in life, gray hair, walkers or whatever we’re dealing with, we have not forgotten our lessons..question authority. Verify and double check. Take care of our neighbors and we donate to causes dear to our hearts and convictions. Your prayer request said it all for this current situation and your decision for non compliance seals the whole point of what you’ve experienced and how you will live. I’m proudly in lock step with you. Thanks for your post 🙏

ShazzieB

(22,346 posts)
7. I got chills down my spine reading this!
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 12:06 AM
Jan 19

When I got to the part about the congregation roaring out their support for the people of Minnesota - SHIVERS!

Thanks for sharing this beautiful story!

3Hotdogs

(15,149 posts)
8. Every day I send my prayers. LOUD 'N CrLEAR.
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 12:10 AM
Jan 19

Jesus, please take the motherfucker home today, into your sweet, loving arms.

AncientOfDays

(258 posts)
10. Check for PAD
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 12:34 AM
Jan 19

I had pain like you describe - walk with cane, can't walk more than a block, spinal stenosis, etc. But my doctors did CAT/MRI scans and found blockages leading to the femoral arteries. I just had vascular surgery with stents installed and 80+% of the pain is gone.

Might not be your problem, but worth checking

BTW, I'm 84

young_at_heart

(4,022 posts)
12. Fellow 80+'ers here....thank you for this wonderful post!
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 12:34 AM
Jan 19

You speak for us....after all these years, we can't handle what is happening to our country, especially to those of us who just happen to be Democrats! I loved your post and applaud you and your wife for all you do. Those of us born in the 1930's may be struggling with a lot of health problems but WE WILL NOT COMPLY!

BurnDoubt

(1,579 posts)
13. Thank You For This.
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 12:50 AM
Jan 19

I need to hear more how People of Faith are finding their conscience and I fear so much of Christianity has been co-opted by the Prosperity Hoax.
It’s hard to hear the things I was taught as a child are mocked for being “Woke”. The only Anger I remember hearing of Jesus was vented on the Money-changers. And in our day they have perverted the whole message to take control of people’s lives and rob them of their Free Will in their desire to impose their Dominance Delirium on our Society.
So thank you for adhering to the Spirit of Christianity. I wish I knew more people like you.

Cha

(317,746 posts)
16. I had Tears just reading you OP, AOG
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 01:19 AM
Jan 19

Mahalo for you and your Wife's Dedication to Our Democracy.. ☮️🌺🌻🌸🕯️🕊️💜

CTyankee

(67,915 posts)
19. Thanks! Now I know what to say to the "religiously insane" repukes I know. They figure that they have cornered the
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 02:12 AM
Jan 19

market on anything to do with their Lord and Savior.

utherpendragon

(23 posts)
21. Our Daily Dread
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 09:59 AM
Jan 19

…and give us this day our daily dread,
and may we find the composure
to bear witness without becoming brittle.

For thine is the kingdom—
even now,
especially now.

bleedingulcers

(79 posts)
26. "Who touches a hair of yon grey head....
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 10:25 AM
Jan 19

dies like a dog! March on!" he said.

You touched an almost dead part of my brain (and my heart) with your post...

From the poem Barbara Frietchie by John Greenleaf Whittier. If you went to school in Maryland in the 60s and 70s, you very well may have memorized this!

riversedge

(80,047 posts)
28. So great to see your post and know that people outside of adopted state for a long while support us......
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 10:32 AM
Jan 19

I lived and worked in Mpls for decades. Loved the city and still have a few friends there.
One was out last week with the protestors.

soldierant

(9,304 posts)
54. Not just a good poem,
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 07:39 PM
Jan 19

whether or not it actually happened., it puts a finger on the pulse of patriotism and finds a heart still beating. (and it made me cry.) It is taught any more? Or has it vanished? Even if it's not historically accurate, I see no reason why it couldn't be taught as literature. Shakespeare is not historically accurate either, but we still teach him - at least I hope we do.

https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/45483/barbara-frietchie

hamsterjill

(17,196 posts)
31. Thank you for this.
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 11:19 AM
Jan 19

I'm so happy to hear that a congregation understands compassion, and the need for it. I am a believer, and it has been horrid the last decade watching what I consider to be the basic tenets of Christianity twisted and contorted into something that has nothing to do with what I believe it truly is. So many of the MAGA that I live around in Texas became that way BECAUSE OF their mega churches, etc.

I am happy to know that some are coming back and embracing the love, the compassion, the grace, the forgiveness and the actual teachings.

And I will not comply. I couldn't live with myself.

VTderry

(104 posts)
34. Good for you! And glad to hear it was so well received.
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 11:59 AM
Jan 19

And there is true heroism in speaking up and refusing to bow down.

ret5hd

(22,346 posts)
36. We...also...will NOT COMPLY
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 01:24 PM
Jan 19

I learned several things over my years:

1) the fear of getting kicked/punched is generally worse than the actuality
2) jail (short stints anyway) isn't as bad as you think
3) however, tear gas is pretty f'n bad...but survivable

Response to AverageOldGuy (Original post)

OldBaldy1701E

(10,647 posts)
39. "WTF WOULD JESUS DO?????"
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 01:49 PM
Jan 19

As I recall, he went into the temple and destroyed the moneylenders.

Can we expect that from everyone? Because that surely needs to happen around here. The corruption I speak of is a direct cause of where we are now. Greed and Envy. Seems I have heard of those things mentioned in Christian doctrine.

And Jesus went into the temple of God, and cast out all them that sold and bought in the temple, and overthrew the tables of the money changers, and the seats of them that sold doves, And said unto them, It is written, My house shall be called the house of prayer; but ye have made it a den of thieves.
— Matthew 21:12–13, King James Version

This is what has happened to our country. It is overrun with moneylenders and merchants. They have turned our once amazing society into a den of thieves. And, their thievery and corruption has created our current regime.

So, who is going to toss the first table?

llmart

(17,460 posts)
41. Very touching post.
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 02:20 PM
Jan 19

I'm with you. I WILL NOT COMPLY! Don't know if I'll ever find myself in that position with regards to ICE but there are other ways I will not comply.

Thank you and your wife for standing strong. I'm closing in on 80 myself and my attitude is that I've done everything I wanted to do in this life, and I'd rather leave it fighting for what I know to be right, just, compassionate and kind than sit back and let everyone else fight to save our democracy.

samplegirl

(13,827 posts)
43. God bless you
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 03:52 PM
Jan 19

both we are in our sixties and never thought retirement would be with such fraught.
I would like to wake up one morning without outrageous news and go to bed without such heaviness.
❤️

La Coliniere

(1,822 posts)
44. That's the true fighting spirit we all need to be exemplifying.
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 03:57 PM
Jan 19

Thank you for the emotional uplift your post is providing. You and your wife are extraordinary Americans and I hope you live to see this tide turn back to sanity. Bless you!

Bluewonder

(8 posts)
45. Thank you for sharing and volunteering
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 04:53 PM
Jan 19

Your post is very moving and inspires me to do something more to fight against this evil administration.
Thank you for all the volunteering you and your wife have done. You should be proud of all you have contributed.
Best wishes to you and your wife.

AllaN01Bear

(28,914 posts)
51. get thee to the greatest page . ding this
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 05:34 PM
Jan 19

i agreee 100% said horton the elephant. nor will i lower my head for this thing .

Jack Valentino

(4,636 posts)
58. JESUS would TEAR DOWN the Trump temple---- and the maggots would
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 11:33 PM
Jan 19

crucify him again for that, for being 'too woke' !


God bless you and yours!

ahlnord

(117 posts)
59. Thank you
Mon Jan 19, 2026, 11:37 PM
Jan 19

From the Twin Cities of Minnesota -- THANK YOU!

Yes, we must speak out. And we must continue to pray for each other. We must not lose our humanity, even as our "leader" is a madman. He is a madman, controlled by another madman whose goal is to destroy us.

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