Could we be kind to Noem's husband?

[KT2000]

This is not about politics. Kristi is fair game as she is a politician. Her husband is not. This man is being publicly humiliated because of his private behavior - not political behavior. This is not the age of the Scarlet Letter. Let's let him be. So many in the country are enjoying his pain right now and we are not sure if it may have dire consequences for this man.

[._.]

1. No.

He'll have to suck it up.
If he is tough enough to be married to that piece of trash he's tough enough to take a doxing.

[agingdem]

65. Agree..

I don't care if he dresses like Little Bo Beep and has a Dominatrix on speed-dial ..that's irrelevant..the guy is a male cuckold.. wife, Kristi, has been (allegedly???) screwing the also-married Corey for years before/during/after her DHS stint..hubby had to have known (the entire world knew!) unless, of course, his trashy cosplaying wife gaslit him into believing she and kickback Corey were just really good "friends"...btw, Mr. Noem..the internet is forever...

[agingdem]

81. I could be wrong but there's something called divorce and

self-respect as opposed to humiliation and public ridicule..

also..remember MAGA reaction to Paul Pelosi's savage beating?...Trump and his cohorts mocked him..blamed Nancy, praised the attacker...so sorry if I'm short on compassion for a guy who watches his loathsome wife openly parade her sidepiece...but I'm sure they have an "understanding"...

[ForgedCrank]

85. I see

this sort of thing while working with the Church and the shelter system. That is, women who are beaten to a pulp by their drunk asshole husband. They run away with their kids and hide. Then what do they do? The go back, it happens more frequently than not.
To you and I it appears illogical and self-destructive. I would guess there are various reasons that they keep going back, but should we also chastise those women for not divorcing?
I say no, and in the case of the topic here, I also say no. We either believe in an idea or we don't. Applying a political variable to it is not honest or genuine. These are humans.

[surfered]

90. Of course, the right's criticism of progressive politicians spouses is off limits. And if she loves him,

why is she bonking Lewandowski?

[obamanut2012]

82. Welcome to DU, enjoy your stay

[Torchlight]

86. Sounds seriouhs (sic)

Good luck

[LetMyPeopleVote]

92. Welcome to DU

[AncientOfDays]

2. She had to know

She had to know about her husband's proclivities, and still signed on to an administration that politicizes against that sort of behavior. In fact, she may have literally bought herself a place in that administration. I say she's fair game.

[Intractable]

3. "his private behavior" -- He's public-figure adjacent.

I'm sure he has benefited much from Kristi's political positions.

He put himself on internet chats showing the boobs. He forfeited his privacy at that moment.

[CTyankee]

99. So he's "outed" himself. What is he complaining about?

[Mariana]

116. Exactly.

He knowingly and voluntarily turned on the camera and sent these images out into the world. He can have no reasonable expectation of privacy.

[Shellback Squid]

4. no quarter

[J_William_Ryan]

5. "This is not about politics."

Actually it is.

It’s the hateful, bigoted, authoritarian right that’s hostile to expressions of individual liberty, seeking to compel conformity and punish dissent – by opposing the right to self-determination.

Liberals have no problem with men dressing like women and defend the individual right to do so.

In a society that celebrates diversity and inclusion – a society opposed by conservatives – this wouldn’t be an issue.

Noem and others on the fascist right have only themselves to blame.

[KT2000]

7. So we do to him what they do?

We are better than that.

[NJCher]

15. Who is this "we"

of whom you speak?

This person did what he did publicly. Not only that, but he even made references to his notorious wife. That alone is a judgment error that makes him deserving of nothing but scorn.

I'm not up for being "kind" to another moronic republican, especially one who puts balloons in his T-shirt and puckers up for the camera.

I'll save my kindness for a more deserving person or animal.

[Scrivener7]

45. I'm actually not better than that, but this story is Stephen Miller

manipulating us to take attention from things that actually matter.

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100221138717

So I'm with you. We should drop this and not play into his hands.

[GenThePerservering]

100. I have NO sympathy for these bozos

But you make an excellent argument.

[Happy Hoosier]

72. Better than what?

His behavior is not the issue here. His rank hypocrisy and support for oppresion IS.

[jrthin]

107. I am not better that that.

[H2O Man]

6. Does he read DU?

[KT2000]

8. Who knows

The point is about who we are.

[H2O Man]

23. We are a group of individuals.

Some find the situation as a source of humor, just like some laugh at Druski. Others don't. That tends to happen when it comes to groups of individuals. It's who we are.

[H2O Man]

24. PS

I think you likely know he isn't a DU community member.

[C Moon]

9. Yeah, I just don't see the big deal. It's his choice and it's not harmful.

[LeftInTX]

10. Hey, this is the best thing that's happened in the last month! I'm enjoying it!

Kristi Noem deserves this.

No one will remember him, but they will remember her. This is her downfall.....

She's destroyed so many lives....

I bet he's also into BDSM and other things and only acceptable images were released.

[pat_k]

11. People who have no problem with cross-dressing are shrugging.

And I don't imagine there are many people on DU that have a problem with cross-dressing.

Who is being "mean" to Byron anyway?

His cross-dressing is only "inappropriate" to the vile people with their fixed notion of "appropriate" gender roles who are hellbent on dictating what is "appropriate" or "inappropriate" to every other human on the planet.

Yeah, Kristi Noem is one of those vile people.

And apparently Byron pretended to be one of those vile people too.

It's the pretense that's the problem. For his sake, I hope he sheds that persona.

If he does, I imagine the cross-dressing community would welcome the guy.

[B.See]

20. This is along the lines of what I was thinking.

From the few comments I read, seemed the ridicule wasn't for him (you do you, as long as you do no harm), but for Noem's and the right's hypocritical ideology of hate and exclusion that deigns to determine for all, what gender people must be, what constitutes a family, a marriage, what people shouldn't read or learn, who is acceptable and who is not. Quite a comeuppance, I think... for HER.

[GoCubsGo]

58. Yes, these are the same people who scream about drag queens.

And, here we are again. It's just another iteration of "Every accusation is a confession."

[displacedvermoter]

108. Which is why I don't give a shit if Lindsey Graham

and/or Tim Scott or anyone else are gay, or make any other sexual choices in their lives, but it is the goddamn hypocrisy that says it is Ok for certain folks to live one way, in their private lives, while in their public lives they preach fire and brimstone and enact legislation that penalizes people for their life choices.

[RockRaven]

12. No. They are married. That makes him involved w/ her decades-long political activity.

They married in 1992. She's been in political office since 2007. South Dakota is a no fault divorce state, with a 60 day period between filing and finalization. Either one of them could have split with the other at any time. They didn't. And since they are married, she is involved with him, and he reflects on her. That's just how free association and partnerships work.

We can, and should, avoid kink-shaming.
We can, and should, respect the sex workers he was interacting with as workers.

But the hypocrisy, the security risk (creating blackmail fodder because of the hypocrisy and secrecy), and their vile political positions mean that we do not have to be kind to them. Fuck them.

As for him being humiliated by this: a) some people are into that, but if he isn't then fine, moving on, and b) if he is ashamed of what he gets up to during his sexy time with other consenting adults, that is a him problem not an us problem, we aren't responsible for his hang-ups.

[poli-junkie]

13. It's the fake Christian

hypocrisy that we’re all condemning — especially from this christofascist regime!

They’re all repressed, mentally ill m’fers!

Can’t stand them

[hunter]

73. It's the hypocrisy.

For all we know, Kristi Noem has got a complimentary kink she doesn't want anyone asking about.

Could be that her Sheriff Long Johnson makes all the Ladies and Fancy Boys swoon.

There's nothing wrong with kinky unless one's a Republican persecuting others with similar kinks.

I doubt Noem's suppressing anything, or that she suffer any kind of mental illness. Rather she get's her kicks by getting away with it.

[Phoenix61]

14. Nope. I couldn't care less what he likes to dress as

I do care that he aligned himself with someone who spews hate. Maybe he should have thought about that a little harder.

[JHB]

16. No, we can't

I appreciate your appeal to better angels, but they're not here right now, the worse demons are, so the right course of action is to curbstomp them at every opportunity.

[choie]

55. Yeah, my better angel flew away

on Nov 4, z024.

[JMCKUSICK]

17. I'm with you KT2000,

This sounds like a hatchet job on Noem. Done solely to hurt her, especially with the lewendowski rumors.

Using another person's hidden secrets to bring pain to her is out of bounds for me too.

I don't know who this man is, the fact that she's been openly treating him like a cuck with her affair and the unnecessary details of private bedrooms in jets etc...makes this even more painful to imagine.
I only wish there would be a way to force her to explain her hypocrisy and shame her.

[Billsdaughter]

18. I hope in some aspect he feels a bit

more free to be than he did yesterday.

As for her, this "scandal" is the least of her problems. And yes, the scheuden freude is delicious.

[Pototan]

19. Ya, like they all left Hunter Biden alone

Fuck Byron. Let him face his humiliation for marrying an evil person. After all, he is not humiliated in my eyes, only in the eyes of the people he voted for and associates with.

Who do you think he voted for? The same people who publicly humiliate and torture perfectly innocent people in America. Again, I say, fuck him.

[SomedayKindaLove]

71. Sounds like they own and control you

Since they do it you need to as well? Eye for an eye leaves two blind.

[Pototan]

74. No Sir (or Mam)

As I said in my reply, I pass no judgement on Byron. But just as I rejoice in a MAGAt who supported Trump and now later finds out his father gets deported. They didn't know that the harm would come to them and theirs, but were fine when they thought it would happen to others. Do I feel bad for the father. Sure, but not for the MAGAt.

That's where Byron now finds himself. Sorry, but I have no sympathy for him. As I said, fuck him.

[Skittles]

21. I saw where a DUer called him a freak

I don't think he is anywhere near as freaky as Kristi or Donald

[rampartd]

29. "freaky" sounds like a terms and conditions thing

but if the only choices are "freaky" and "not freaky" there but for the grace of god go i.

sarah longwell said "noem wasn't protecting her own homeland" but

gov noem seems to like "dressing up" as fetish. maybe how she and husband made 30 years?

[Skittles]

34. oh for sure it's a spectrum

it ain't an us vs them thing for sure

[rampartd]

37. spectrum

that is when i began to think that i am in no position to judge how far out on the kinkometer each of us might fall.

we are all bozos on this bus.

[Skittles]

39. everyone is weird in their own way

yes indeed

[meadowlander]

30. To me that's where the discussion has been crossing the line into kink shaming

because what that person is saying to anyone else in the world that is into bimbo-ization as a kink is that they're freaks too, and by extension lesser humans.

I don't care what Bryon wants to do in his free time that doesn't hurt anyone else. He's fair game to the extent that he was a hypocrite and apparently on board with persecuting trans people with his vile wife. But he isn't a "freak" because he has a fetish and neither is anyone else who does (at least 50% of the population).

I guess my other general suggestion would be that kindness is free and about the sort of person you want to be, not the target of scorn (and other people like him). Maybe think about how you'd feel if you found out tomorrow he killed himself over this and then have a second think about any comment you might feel doesn't represent your best self.

[haele]

66. I grew up in the 60's, freak has several different contexts...

There's the violent or hateful social deviant who enjoys inflicting pain on others they don't approve of - like Stephan Miller.

There's the freak who is an "outsider" or otherwise not socially conforming; who does their own thing within legal limits, not really caring what anyone thinks so long as no one gets upset or chaos develops - every loner or those who are called deviant but aren't hurting anyone, except maybe themselves ..."Tomcat" - a local shaman type with tattoos, implants, and surgeries to look like a tailess lizard-cat-man - including claws and sharpened teeth - but went about his own daily business as a really good, certified aircraft engine mechanic and junk parts recycler or "repurposer"...
(He was called a freak by those who didn't know him, but he was a really friendly, peaceful guy who cared about the environment)

And then there's the freak who does their own thing not caring about legal limits or who is affected or gets hurt by their actions.
(The after work late night barfly drunk driver, the Libertarian, the immature Nepo-baby...)

As you said later on this thread being a freak is on a spectrum.
From people like TomCat, goth kids, and drag queens to Stephan Miller, Youth Pastors, and other sharp dressed Predators.

If no one is hurt in a serious, unwanted way and all messes that can affect others or the environment are cleaned up afterwards, who should care about another's freak?
Let that flag fly high - and if it brings joy, wonder, or exposes hypocrisy - good on ya, freak friend.

[Wednesdays]

97. I just remember this, from ca. 1979:

[Skittles]

111. well said

Zippy the Pinhead was always a hero of mine

[ecstatic]

22. I think the focus is probably on kristi not him

I truly don't give an f about him.

I don't give an f about her either but I will say that I had a good chuckle when I heard the news tonight. It's not like she cares anyway. She's having an affair herself. Smh.

[pnwmom]

25. The only ones I feel for are their 20-something kids.

[Wednesdays]

98. They have that many kids?

[pnwmom]

122. 3 of them, all in their 20's. The youngest is 22.

[Raine]

26. No, absolutely not

I wonder what his thought was about the dog she murdered, did he care about that.

[rampartd]

32. the husband knew that it was a demonsreation of

what might happen to him if he didn't wear the panties.

gov noem seems to like "dressing up" as fetish. maybe how she and husband made 30 years?

[Lars39]

27. He was "outed" so that the trans-phobic

would have a specific target on International Trans Visibility Day. Whoever did this wanted him to be the topic of the day, and they succeeded.

[SunSeeker]

28. He deserves approbrium for his hypocrisy.

Like so many closeted evangelicals who shame gay and trans people, this guy was aligned with a bigoted cabinet member who serves in an administration that has done everything it can to hurt men who don't dress like society expects men to dress.


They are both hypocrites and right wing nut jobs.

The above picture is from this NY Post story: https://nypost.com/2026/03/31/us-news/kristi-noem-weighs-in-on-report-husband-bryon-lives-cross-dressing-double-life/

[SomedayKindaLove]

67. For my $ this pic is WAY more troubling

Than her husband with bigger boobs than her.

Give me your tired, your poor, Your huddled masses yearning to breathe free…and we’ll dehumanize them as much as possible and put them in concentration camps???

How do these people not smell their own hypocrisy?

[SunSeeker]

75. Exactly. With their ilk, it's "Liberty for me, but not for thee."

[sfdennis1]

31. Sorry but nope

I’d bet my last dollar that the cross-dressing cuck voted for Trump…I have NO moral judgement on his bimbo cross dressing fetish, but to support MAGA while being a closeted freaky-deaky person??? That’s just your own karma literally BEGGING to be revealed. Total FAFO situation and I have ZERO sympathy left for ANY of them.

[Mister Ed]

33. Thank you for your kindness. I'm surprised, sickened, and saddened by most of the replies on this thread. n/t

[MustLoveBeagles]

126. As am I

[Roy Rolling]

35. The Word "Kind" is the Problem

To answer your question, “of course I can be kind”.

This isn’t on me and my views on his cross-dressing (which I didn’t know until this article).

I don’t think editorial censorship is the solution here (to the “problem” that Noem is unfairly portrayed in mass media). Manipulating the news to be friendly or unfriendly to particular issues is the problem, more coverup isn’t the solution.

A person cannot be any more fairly portrayed in media than to be quoted verbatim with pictures. There is no measure of kind or not-kind about it. It’s like trying to measure sound decibles with a meat thermometer.

[eShirl]

36. I'm worried he may now end up like Cricket and the billy goat.

That woman likes to gun down living things when she gets pissed off.

[Aussie105]

38. A better hobby choice may have helped.

Stamp collecting or collecting He-Man figurines.
Or model cars.
Even gun collecting.
Building model aeroplane or ship kits from plastic bits and painting them up, perhaps?

Someone one step removed from a public figure really should know better!

Who is to say he is feeling shame, remorse or pain?
Or even capable of such feelings?
I mean, look who he is married to!

[Irish_Dem]

40. We give no quarter to our enemy.

They will kill us all in our beds if they can figure out a way to do it.

And we are supposed to nice to the bastards.

No way in hell.

We fight.
And we gd fight to win.

[Irish_Dem]

41. I don't care if the man uses balloons as sex toys.

But his wife is murdering American citizens in cold blood and terrorizing the world.

[Scrivener7]

42. I assume he's as bad as she is, but I do agree with you. And this article says

the "outing" was engineered by Stephen Miller to take attention off him and blame Noem for the deaths of Pretti and Good in Minnesota, for which Miller was to blame.

https://www.democraticunderground.com/100221138717

Thoughts about the husband aside, I don't want to be a pawn in Miller's ratfucking.

She's gone. He's still wreaking havoc. Let's put our attention there.

[Celerity]

43. No. He married ICE Nazi Barbie, a horrific human being. He gets no pass. Fuck him and the tits he rode in on.

[Sympthsical]

44. Worst. Rodeo. Ever.

[WSHazel]

46. Celebrate his choices

And celebrate how Noem, Lewandowski, and everyone else that knew about his fetish is so tolerant.

That is all bulls*** of course, but by taking that approach we don’t kink shame while simultaneously humiliating everyone around Trump for their obvious hypocrisy. Assume everyone knew, and then make them deny it. The more they talk about it, the more they piss off their intolerant base.

[mainer]

47. I agree.

His private behavior doesn't affect us. Give him some grace.

[Blues Heron]

48. Im not sure starting another thread on him is the best way to achieve that, but thanks for your concern?

[EdmondDantes_]

49. That would be nice

But it's unlikely. People like to see their opponents embarrassed no matter what the reason.

[Cherrycheeks]

50. Nope

[sop]

51. I'm enjoying Kristi's pain and humiliation, not his.

[bearsfootball516]

52. Nope. He chose to be married to a Nazi.

No quarter to anybody who associates with this administration.

[BlueKota]

53. My issue is with her not him.

[Lovie777]

54. To each its own...............

"C'set la vie................such is life....................

As long as it does not harm others.

[Torchlight]

56. I think the lion's-share of criticism is being directed at Ms. Noem.

her husband merely being the vehicle of her hypocrisy, and noted as such; the ire directed at her husband coming from vastly fewer voices and not really indicative of the greater whole.

[yardwork]

57. I'm with you on this.

The guy's private sex habits aren't any of our business. Noem is horrible but that's not her husband's fault.

[purr-rat beauty]

59. I could care less about their kink

But when they are part of a hateful group who judge others for their kinks and quirkiness I find they're fair game.

It might humiliate him, it's excoriating to her and I support that

Collateral damage will occur in these cases because it shows how fucking hypocritical and absurd these people are ( and vulnerable as well ) for attacking others ( including the children and relatives of our dem leaders )

So, no hard feelings here if he's made fun of, being married to NAZI noem makes him fair game.

[delisen]

60. I am sympathetic to Mr. Noem

There is no evidence that he participated in or approved of Kristi Noem’s behaviors. He does not seem to have do illegal or hateful.. He did not even seem to hide his identity in his online activities.

I hope is that he not let his public shaming define him and that he goes on to lead a full and happy life.

Given what I know at this point of both Noems .I am inclined to consider Mr. Noem another victim of Kristi Noem.

[JustAnotherGen]

61. Absolutely not!

My name isn't Michelle Obama.

When they go low - I get lower and pull out their intestines.

He's an enemy of America. Oh yeah - Remember - I believe Katie Miller should await trial in Gitmo with her husband.

[Solly Mack]

62. It's consensual and doesn't involve children. The man likes ginormous breasts. It is not as if he's Epstein or Trump.

Put that in the win column.

I don't believe for a second that Noem didn't know.

[Autumn]

63. If you want to be kind please do. I have no relationshit with either of the creeps.

IMO they can both fuck off. He's no better than she is. You marry a politician you get the benefits, you also get the shit that rolls down.

[spooky3]

64. I hope you vocally opposed the right's attacks on Dem

Spouses and family.

[Zambero]

68. In 2016 Hillary was condemned for not having dumped Bill

No points for having salvaged their marriage. The right's answer to Trump's Access Hollywood revelation was that Hillary was no better, and they succeeded in neutralizing what should have been a lethal blow to the Trump campaign. The point I would make is that Dem's tend to play by the rules and steer clear of exploiting personal "lifestyle" issues. Republicans on the other hand exploits it to the max, coupled with family values hypocrisy as they selectively target while excuse their own. Hypocrisy is indeed the issue here. Michele Obama once urged us to go high when they go low. In this instance, given the targets placed on the backs of the Trans community, a pass should not be granted.

[Happy Hoosier]

69. Why?

I have no sympathy at all for people who pretend to be someone their are not while enabling the persecution of others. Not just just ignoring and surviving. That's understandable. But actively supporting the forces of oppression. I'm sick of it. I will call out hypocrisy.

[displacedvermoter]

70. Remember the video from when she was governor

and some asshole gave her a flamethrower as a birthday present, and they made this video of them firing the stupid thing off, and using it as some symbol of their longstanding -- and clearly phony -- love and devotion? I do, and I knew they were both off their rockers, there and then.

Guy was in on his wife's chicanery, and has likely made out well on any number of her shady dealings.

Don't care a bit about his, or her sexual choices, except in that it again highlights the utter hypocrisy of this Christofascist cult.

[Ocelot II]

76. The outing was apparently engineered by Stephen Miller,

as revenge for KKKristi blaming him for the DHS mess she stirred up. I don't really care how her husband got his jollies while she was off somewhere bumping uglies with Corey Lewandowski, and I find it deliciously ironic that the trans haters are freaking out over Byron's bodacious boobies. I don't enjoy his embarrassment - people are entitled to their harmless private kinks - but I do enjoy hers. Somebody who managed the goons who terrorized my city, kidnapped people, took kids away from their parents and executed innocent observers has a lot of nerve asking for prayers and pity.

[dalton99a]

136. +1

[NoRethugFriends]

77. Shirley you jest.

He stayed married to the dog and people killer all this time.
Gets the same sympathy as Trump's stripper wife.

[58Sunliner]

78. Fuck Byron for not filing charges when that #itch killed the family pets.

He's a pos without a spine who can't speak up for basic decency.

[NoRethugFriends]

80. Shirley you jest.

[MineralMan]

83. I. Do. Not. Care. What. He. Wears.

He is not even material in all of this. Kristi Noem is the subject. She is a horrid human being, and dangerous. Her relationship with the person she married is none of my affair at all. She is who she is. I'm grateful that she is now mostly irrelevant. I see no path to power for her ever again, and that is a wonderful thing.

With that, I am out of this discussion. It's a waste of time.

[gay texan]

84. No.

These people go out of their way to make my LGBTQ brothers and sisters lives miserable.

I like wearing things from the opposite gender because they make me feel amazing and not in a fetish way.

They get every fucking ounce of misery they deserve.

[thebigidea]

88. Maybe we can all chip in to help him achieve his dream, 2500cc to start with

Who wants to setup the Gofundme?

[MichMan]

89. Cross dressing has a long tradition of comedic value

Flip Wilson, Milton Berle, and Jamie Farr on Mash all used it for lots of laughs

[LeftInTX]

121. Hubby said that he could have said, "I was drunk", "It was a prank"

But he didn't. So, this is an ongoing thing with him. He also paid sex workers thousand of dollars.


But you are true that drag and sex pranks exist for fun and entertainment.

In 1978, a group of us went to an adult book store. My first time. We bought a bunch of "sex toys" for a party we were planning. We bought huge dildos. I'm a straight female BTW, who was still a virgin at the time. I had an ex who was stalking me and we figured a "sex party" was a way to get rid of him. We dressed up a straight guy that who liked to have fun in a negligee and put the dildo in his fly. Another one of us was grabbing his breasts. My friend was grabbing the huge dildo. Picture time!! We also had oral pics on the dildo. The thing looked real. We laughed the entire time. Someone warned us not to get the pics developed, but we did anyway.

Ex stood outside the house the entire time watching the spectacle.

At one point, I went in the bedroom with the negilgee guy and made a bunch of sex noises. I sounded like Donna Summer.

I was only friends with the guys at the party, so nothing happened with me and any of them. They were "all in" to get rid of my stalking ex. I can't remember whether the party detered my ex. But we sure had fun creating this "comedy".


No repercussions ever happened. The pics got tons of laughs. I finally discarded them after I got married and pregnant.

Yes, our pics looked bad!! We could have gotten in trouble somewhere if someone wanted to use them against us.

But I don't think that's what was going on with Bryon Noem.

[DBoon]

91. It's not like he murdered a puppy in cold blood

[xmas74]

93. I don't care about his kinks

And I'm not a fan of outing others. I do see the irony in him paying an illegal worker to give him this service.

He's fair game but I hate that this is how it's happening. It makes others who see this feel ashamed and try to hide themselves further.

[LuckyCharms]

95. You hit the nail on the head.

The problem here is this...

Whether or not he deserves scorn is irrelevant...it's not the issue.

The issue is how the scorn that is directed toward him is making others here feel.

[RT Atlanta]

94. Nah....

He could leave anytime he wanted and by staying, he thereby approved who/what she was and how she treated people. This is the rankest hypocrisy and is absolutely 'fair game'

[liberalhistorian]

96. While I agree that, in normal

times, this would be his own personal business and no one shouldcare, , these are not normal times. He is married to a woman who rained down hell on the LGBTQ community and transgender individuals in particular and called them terrorists.

And he is a member of a party that would gladly and gleefully commit and support genocide against these people. And he has not once said one word against them when he could easily have done so. He is not a helpless child, he is a grown adult with agency and privilege. So no, I will not spare him any sympathy.

[GenThePerservering]

101. No. nt

[RandySF]

102. Honest question.

Did he say or do anything to harm the LGBT community or any other marginalized people (besides marry Noem)?

[walkingman]

103. Birds of a feather.....

[GenThePerservering]

104. I think the laughter and scorn is mostly at Kristie Noem

TBH, Bryon's bubbie bumping is almost on the level of a practical joke.

Comparing this to the reaction to the attack on Pelosi is absurd.

[jrthin]

105. No!!!! These are sanctimonious people

who are advocating or making laws to squash the rights or anyone who isn't white, male and christian. Let's stop with this over virtuous nonsense.

[FullySupportDems]

106. We could

But we won't. And I don't care what he looks like, he's married to a monster who supports people who would gladly ridicule and target him with violence. Hypocrites like him help people like her hurt people. That's why he deserves our condemnation.

Editing to add, I have similar feelings for JD Vance's wife, for the same reason.

[orangecrush]

109. I don't like the demonizing of crossdressing at all

Under other circumstances I'd be sympathetic.

I've heard conjecture that Miller leaked this.

[Mariana]

117. I don't think anyone here is demonizing crossdressing.

We're demonizing hypocrisy.

[orangecrush]

124. Understood

[karynnj]

110. It would be better for us to simply ignore this.

To some extent, that would be "kindness". Leave the right to condemn him and show their outrage at his behavior. I can think of no reason for us to say or do anything. No reason to defend really stupid online behavior.

[edbermac]

112. No. If he married her, then he agrees with her values.

When she was going on ICE raids, I didn’t hear him complaining about it.

[Ilsa]

113. I don't mind or care that he plays dressup. I dont know why

anyone outside the family should feel compelled to pray specifically for their situation.

I wish GOPers would be less judgmental about other people's sexuality when they clearly have the same human issues. Puppy-killer Noem deserves criticism for her hypocrisy.

[KentuckyWoman]

114. It is none of my damn business

What he does is meaningless to me. I already on record that Kristi Noem and the rest of her ilk are barely fit for humanity let alone public office. The fact she's a 2 faced hypocrite is just one more reason.

[JBTaurus83]

115. No

He supports the death cult and his psychotic wife. He’s fair game, and I’m glad he was exposed.

[Queso Delicioso]

118. Given what we've learned...

I'd much rather hang out with him than her. At least he seems to know how to party.

[Rob H.]

119. No

I don't care one whit that he likes to cross-dress. He's known what she's really like--as in, he's been aware that she's a terrible human being--for 30+ years now and chose to stay with her anyway, so I can only assume that he's just as awful as she is in other areas of his life.

[betsuni]

120. It's hilarious, more fictional than real fiction.

He'll be fine. In fact, he's probably on the phone right now pitching a reality show or a memoir or the spokesperson for a balloon company or something.

[MorbidButterflyTat]

130. "...the spokesperson for a balloon company..."

[kerry-is-my-prez]

123. I could give a rip that he likes to cross-dress - it makes me like him more.

It makes him more human in my eyes. At least he’s not running around naked in front of small children like Trump and others did.

[ColoringFool]

125. NO CAN DO. ENABLER IS AS ENABLER DOES. RIP, CRICKET. 🐕

[pwb]

127. Would they be kind to me?

There's that.

[Ruby the Liberal]

128. Calling out hypocricy isn't kink shaming

[MustLoveBeagles]

129. Your a kind person

I don't care what he does. My problem is with her and her alone. Don't be discouraged by the responses.

[KT2000]

133. Thank you

It has made me think our whole country has been infected.

[MustLoveBeagles]

137. People are rightfully angry with the RW

I just think this guy is the wrong target.

[Keepthesoulalive]

131. No

He benefited from her cruel policies and sat beside her during the hearings. Anyone who holds or stands by an immoral person gets no quarter from me. Cricket, children in cages, people being snatched off the streets and sent to foreign prisons also murdering American citizens and justifying it. No he supported and profited from her crimes.

[UpInArms]

132. two words

Hunter Biden

[Progressive dog]

134. I don't know enough about him to

be nice to him. I don't care enough about him to pay attention to whatever is said about him. But I am sure there are millions of people more deserving of my sympathy than him.

[RainCaster]

135. Hell No

He's a right wing nut job who is firmly a part of the GOP Gestapo by his association with RW Barbie.

[Blue Full Moon]

138. Reason why

https://emptywheel.net/2026/03/31/days-after-daily-mail-implicates-stephen-miller-in-alex-pretti-murder-daily-mail-responds-with-boobies/

[Iggo]

139. Be kind? Nah. Refrain from kink-shaming him? Sure, okay.

[BannonsLiver]

140. Fuck no. What a silly question.

Give me a fucking break.