Some Friends, Eh.

[MineralMan]

Over on a busy social media site I use. I mentioned that I was home from the hospital after being treated for a flare-up of COPD.

I have lots of friends there, or what that site calls people who follow you. My favorite eply about content about being glad I was home was this statement. "Well, you deserved t9hat for your filthy habit! Maybe it will get you next time." There were others that were similar. Who does that? Friends?

Nothing like that here on DU. THANK GOODNESS.

[underpants]

1. Jeez.

[Keepthesoulalive]

2. I wish for your healing

So many sites have disappeared because of toxic people. They live to disrupt and cause chaos, sounds familiar. They really don’t care about anything other than being assholes. Can you imagine being on an antique radio site and folks are arguing over which one is better Philco or Zenith. It was ugly.

[LoisB]

3. I am sorry. I will never understand the lack of empathy in so many people.

[some_of_us_are_sane]

4. Not helpful, just mean...

some folks are incapable of raising us up. They stomp.

[HeartsCanHope]

5. Sorry that happened to you, MineralMan.

What is wrong with those people?! We all do things that are unhealthy--bet most of those people could be called

out for any number of "filthy habits"! Hope you are feeling better.

[mr715]

6. Feel better.

Get well.

[littlemissmartypants]

7. If you don't have personal FTF contact with them they could be bots.

If you do, unfollow their asses.

[Skittles]

8. those kind of people can seriously go fuck themselves

what they think says nothing about you and nothing good about them

[AverageOldGuy]

9. COPD . . .

. . . as you know, is tough to deal with.

I"m an old EMT -- retired two years ago after running rescue in a rural VA county for 14 years. Several COPD patients, knew them all very well, helped them through some rough times and flare-ups. We were 30 minutes away from our little rural hospital so our intervention was critical.

Glad to hear you are back home and I'm certain you will follow the doc's orders, keep your concentrator in good shape, don't let anyone or anything kink or obstruct your O2 hoses.

Call 911 at the slightest discomfort. In fact, if you have not done so, contact your 911 managers -- local poiice, fire, or rescue -- and have them make a note on your address that you are a COPD patient as well as noting any special conditions. That way, when you call 911 and we are dispatched, the dispatchers wil inform us that there's a COPD patient at that address with XXXXX going on.

Welcome back home!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Skittles]

23. may I say, AOG

when I read our posts it strikes me there is NOTHING "average" about you

[3Hotdogs]

10. Whatever filthy habit you have, or don't have, you are one of my favorite posters on D.U. I always save a

Heart for you when they become available. But I do it anonymously so's you don't blush.

[cachukis]

11. Breathe well.

[PatSeg]

12. Whoa, that was brutal

I was a long time smoker and I have COPD. Everyone has vices or addictions. What makes some total strangers on the Internet think they can pass judgment on people they don't know?

Of course, I was raised at a time when almost everyone I knew smoked and there was little or no concern about health risks aside from an occasional nagging cough. Some doctors even recommended smoking to calm nerves or to lose weight.

Social media has allowed me to keep in touch with old friends and family. We share photos, life events, and memories, but there are people who go online without a filter and cut down people they don't know. It is unsettling and can even be dangerous. The lack of sensitivity and accountability is stunning. It is hard to imagine what could cause such mindless cruelty.

[FHRRK1]

13. Nextdoor?

I am constantly surprised by some comments I see on that site.

[Skittles]

24. omg

the "first world" angst I read on that site cracks me up

[FHRRK1]

30. And they really are neighbors

At first I thought fake accounts, but no, started seeing posts from people I worked with years ago, or were parents of kids I knew through school events.

We have a canyon area near us, filled with a lot of anti govt Libertarians. They had a wash run over a couple of years ago and some local was going off on the Governor, THIS IS ALL NEWSCUMS FAULT!

Now the area is next to Federal land, but even better, one of his neighbors stated, we told you not to dynamite the creek last summer so the water would flow right behind your house. All the debris caused the storm drains to clog!

Never saw another post from the guy. At a minimum I hope his neighbors forced him to move.

[nuxvomica]

14. Projection

People who write or say such things have a different, filthier habit that you probably couldn't even imagine. They live in such deep shame over it they need to palliate their discomfort by lashing out at others.

[EuterpeThelo]

15. Wow, I am so sorry

You don't deserve that at all! FWIW, I've been lurking here for 20 years so, despite the low post count, been reading your posts for about as long as that and agree with whomever it was that said you're one of my favorites. Always learn something from reading what you write.

Pray tell, if simply falling prey to the marketing machine leveraged against as by the manufacturers of a legal product that was essentially shoved down our throats and lied about for decades like good little consumers (sigh) means we deserve to die a painful, horrid death, what, might I ask, do people who, um, I dunno, r@p3 kids and cover it up or try to overthrow the government or have masked goons shoot people in the face and disappear children deserve?

Whoever said that to you, I hope they have exactly the day - and the life - they deserve. We here at DU love you!

As an aside - I'm a lifelong smoker as were both my parents. They were the BEST people I ever knew and I hope I'm anything like them.

[KT2000]

16. Could you imagine

waking up every day with so much hate in their heart? They live in their own prison.

[Skittles]

25. I was thinking that about the local "Karen" I am frequently mistaken for

it's like she has no joy at all in her life, it is quite pitiful really

[BaronChocula]

17. Explains a lot of where this country is today

Hope the patches are doing their work.

[Maraya1969]

18. I really hope you unfriend those people. And I wish you health and healing.

Edit: Just remembered I stopped smoking by using a book

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It really is excellent. Stopping is easy when you think differently about it.

[TheProle]

19. The cloak of anonymity gives people cover to be judgmental without

any self-reflection.

Sorry that happened to you.

[Totally Tunsie]

20. Glad to have you back with us, MM...

You're a treasure for us here at DU!

[Grim Chieftain]

21. Oh, dear MineralMan

I am so sorry! How awful. You deserve kindness, support and compassion at a time like this. Your DU family is with you, friend. Stay strong.

[hunter]

22. Sounds like some of trolls MIRT deals with daily.

It's sad they haven't got anything better to do.

Glad you are home from the hospital.

[markie]

26. so sorry...

well, we are glad you are home and that is what is important!!

[CozyMystery]

27. That is absolutely outrageous! I'd beat 'em up for you if I could. nt

[JoseBalow]

28. Filthy Habits

(7:33)

[MustLoveBeagles]

29. Ignore them

A real friend wouldn't say that.

[peggysue2]

31. Who does that?

Cranks and scolds. Unfortunately, the world has too many in both categories.

Just rest up, friend, enjoy your life and ignore the gnats.