General Discussion
Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsMy wife, home alone, opened the door to a door-to-door salesman.
(I know. I've tried!)
She made an appointment for presenters to return. They were from Power Home Remodeling. Two upper 20s or 30 something men. One selling insulation, the other selling Pella Windows. We've been wanting/needing better windows, so the product was of interest.
The insulation salesman was fairly courteous. The Pella salesman was the type of sales person that makes me hate salesmen. Aggressive, fast talking, diverted from my questions to something else. Ignored my questions. Not particularly courteous. Aggressive!
My wife is the daughter of an Air Force Chaplain. I think there is no door-to-door sales on Air Force bases. When someone came to their door it was to see Chaplain Smith or his wife. Be nice. Be sweet. Be kind, etc. The safety and security of a military base officer's quarters is not the real world.
My advice - probably not needed by most people.
Never do business with a door-to-door sales person.
If the product is of interest, get a card or brochure so you can explore the company or product on your own terms.
Say no thank you and close the door. Their goal is to keep the door open.
Just CLOSE THE DAMN DOOR.
ColoringFool
(1,425 posts)Card? Leave one on the porch.
You're welcome.
I speak as a woman living alone.
SheltieLover
(82,810 posts)riversedge
(82,313 posts)through a small side window. But moons ago when I lived in an apartment--there are peepholes.
calimary
(91,549 posts)Highly recommended!
AZ8theist
(7,781 posts)NEVER open the door, even for law enforcement.
If they "just want to ask some questions, or just talk", say NO THANKS. Or just close the door without uttering a word.
If they persist, tell them to get a warrant.
With the ICE goons kidnapping people left and right, just keep your door closed. Don't take any chances.
MineralMan
(152,101 posts)Use Google. Read reviews. Get at least four bids on any complicated or large job you need done. You'll be shocked. You can also get a bid from one of the the TV Ad companies. You'll be more shocked. You're going to pay for those expensive ads you see over and over again. Yes, you are.
Choose your contractor on the basis of price, published reviews, and the sense their proposal makes. Don't use the reviews on their websites, either. Read Google reviews and lots of them. Don't just read the good reviews. Read them all.
If you take the time to choose a good, honest contractor, you'll get good, honest work at a price that you can afford.
dalton99a
(96,395 posts)at exorbitant prices
And there is a reason they have to run TV ads
Conjuay
(3,127 posts)Not on repairs.
PatrickforB
(15,559 posts)dalton99a
(96,395 posts)Last edited Wed Jul 1, 2026, 03:11 PM - Edit history (1)
Most door-to-door salespeople are losers. Some have criminal backgrounds.
Some of them pretend to be a utility worker by wearing a reflective vest.
They have no business knowing who lives in your house or what you have or your daily routine.
Diamond_Dog
(41,556 posts)Unless I can plainly see that its my neighbor or Im expecting someone.
I used to when I was young and naive but I quickly learned how to shut the door on Jehovahs Witnesses while they were in mid sentence.
SheltieLover
(82,810 posts)Permanut
(8,740 posts)Well, I've thought about doing it anyway. Plus I don't have any Amway stuff, don't know if they're still in business.
SSJVegeta
(3,450 posts)spooky3
(39,027 posts)Selling steaks (Trump steaks?). I said no thanks and he asked me why my husband wasnt doing the yard work. I said because I like doing it, which is true, but I wasnt about to tell him there is no man in the house.
Diamond_Dog
(41,556 posts)spooky3
(39,027 posts)Ordered groceries to be delivered by Instacart. The very pleasant looking delivery guy offered to bring them in my house and set them on the kitchen counter. I thanked him but said Im happy to take them from him.
I soon learned that he had put all the meat and fish in one bag, and did NOT deliver it. I reported it to Instacart and they issued a credit but seemed unconcerned. The grocery store later started their own delivery service; employees said Instacart doesnt screen employees carefully. No shit.
Diamond_Dog
(41,556 posts)I dont care what the reason. Its just called being smart.
Was reading a Reddit thread not long ago about the safety precautions women must think of these days that most men wouldnt ever consider.
niyad
(135,485 posts)teens, wayyyyyyy back in the last millenium, after an ex tried to kill me, I have advocated for all women and girls to take martial arts training, or, at the very least, basic self defense classes.
I do not open my door to anyone unless I am expecting them. I do not leave my dooor open if it will be out of my sight. Heck, I do not even answer my phone unless the number is in my contact list. My insurance company has a visiting nurse wellness check thing, which I refuse. They finally stopped calling and annoying me about them.
"Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women (with good reason !!! ), are afraid men wiil kill them."
raccoon
(32,509 posts)Joinfortmill
(21,967 posts)nilram
(3,593 posts)Smoking a cigarette, shirt unbuttoned halfway, really full of himself. He held his fingers a couple inches apart and asked, "How would you like a steak that's this thick?" I replied, "Not much, I'm vegetarian."
He just totally deflated and had no comeback. I've felt a twinge of guilt because it wasn't true, but really, more amused than anything.
spooky3
(39,027 posts)3catwoman3
(30,259 posts)...from companies wanting to sell us a side of beef. Works like a charm. Typically, the caller would say some version of, "Oh, I'm so sorry," and hang up immediately. never felt guilty about it.
Nor have I felt guilty when telling sales people at the perfume counter that I'm allergic. I'm not, but it makes them back off immediately.
helpisontheway
(5,396 posts)One day a salesman walked up while my husband was working in the yard. He walks up and tells my husband, I see that you need a new roof. My husband told him that we just replaced our roof a few months ago. He was embarrassed and did not know what to say.
RVN VET71
(3,247 posts)We bought some chop-meat and stew meat from him a few times.
It was delicious. We loved it.
Turned out it was horse meat. He went to jail and my 'rents never bought from a door-to-door guy again
Now, today, with so many of these young and affable charlatans knocking on doors to sell dubious services, and mindful of my family's unwitting plunge into the joys of equine flesh so long ago, I have a sign on my door that says:
NOTA BENE:
NO solicitors,
NO salespeople,
NO representatives of any company or charity
If we havent contacted you and requested to meet with you, please do not disturb us, do not knock on our door, do not ring our bell or summon us in any way to speak with you.
Abeas!
Ne excites daemonia intus!
I know they won't know the latin, but they'll probably understand that the message is neither pleasant nor intended to be. (Basically, it means "Go away! Don't arouse the demons inside!"
It works.
hlthe2b
(115,270 posts)So, if she opens the door to them, they may still be there trying to "convert" her three days later... Beware! (they are quire earnest, I'll give them that)
dalton99a
(96,395 posts)hlthe2b
(115,270 posts)Those years working in the Middle East were quite helpful. They could not find an excuse fast enough to get out of there--especially after I asked them to wait so I could get my Koran! LOL
Intractable
(2,609 posts)Nowadays, for most of us, it's potentially unsafe to open the door to strangers.
Even Fuller Brush does it mostly online now.
From Google:
Yes, the iconic door-to-door "Fuller Brush Man" is extremely rare, but a few independent dealers still make rounds in local neighborhoods.
The profession has largely transitioned online. You can purchase their signature cleaning supplies and personal care products directly through the Fuller Brush Company website or via Amazon.
Maru Kitteh
(32,117 posts)Home ALONE? My goodness. How does the poor dear survive in the wild without your guidance? I just find it kind of gross that, because she has made a choice that is obviously way outside of your comfort zone, youve decided its because something about her daddy and she doesnt understand the real world because you dont live on an Air Force Base. How demeaning. Then you come to DU and berate her and make it clear when you explicitly state that most people wouldnt need to take your advice because they presumably already know - but not your wife!
Just gross. Rethink this. See what you are doing here. Self-delete. Thats MY advice, Probably not needed by most people.
leftstreet
(41,392 posts)Like comparing the Trump Admin to door-to-door people, or something
Joinfortmill
(21,967 posts)Trust_Reality
(2,305 posts)But I like post #1 better.
Trust_Reality
(2,305 posts)I will also try to get useful perspective from it. So there's that.
TBF
(37,696 posts)the first thing I taught my kids was "we never open the door" unless it's friends/neighbors we know well.
kimbutgar
(27,743 posts)When sales people come I can open my door and still be safe from them and get rid of them quickly.
usonian
(27,262 posts)Out in the woods, few people show, mainly because every house is heavily armed.
In the suburbs, the last person who knocked at the door was ... (story follows)
I was downstairs, and my wife was sitting on the stairs.
I heard the door knock, and said "I'm not opening it"
My wife said "It's OK"
It was a process-server from the court with divorce papers.
I never open the door for anyone.
(and bear spray is at the ready, for bears, though it makes a nice deterrent)
Now here's what NOT to do, unless you're into a certain lifestyle.

madinmaryland
(65,829 posts)Cable companies and utilities companies. Had a security contractor pester us a few time whe we moved into the place we are now.
Stacey Grove
(176 posts)I don't answer the door.
Strangers are NOT invited, desired, or wanted.
Too many nutbars and shitbirds out there to take unsolicited offers.
Anything I do comes by referral from within my network.
LT Barclay
(3,233 posts)We have Pella Windows in our 2006 house. They are hard to close, harder to latch and dont lock properly.
And our Pella sliding glass door has a dead wheel that cant be replaced, so we have to install a new door for $2000 instead of replacing a $2 part.
The Champion sunroom is another horror story.
twodogsbarking
(19,912 posts)signature to do a credit check. They want to put a lien on your house. If you tell them you are not interested they will keep talking while closing the door. Tell them you can't talk now because your parole officer is in the house because you previously assaulted a door-to-door saleman. Anderson Renewal are the biggest pests. Have a wonderful day all int is 91 farenheit here Stay cool.
dalton99a
(96,395 posts)FakeNoose
(43,150 posts)Most folks are either (A) not home during the day ... or (B) not gonna waste time talking to any door-to-door salespeople ... or (C) actually afraid to open the door because they might get robbed or molested.
If someone rings your doorbell and it's unexpected, you can be sure it's not a person you want to talk to.
Ohiya
(2,792 posts)I ordered a "NO SOLICITING" sign from Home Depot. I got two stick on signs for less than two dollars and they delivered them for free the same day! I stuck one on the front door and it has worked like a charm.
llmart
(17,783 posts)Also, our township has a No Soliciting without a permit from the township law. We still get the occasional salesperson and I always inform them that there is no soliciting in our sub or township unless they have a permit. Sometimes they get sneaky and say they have one, but I ask them to show it to me and then they say, "Well, it's in my truck and I have to go back and get it" to which I respond, "OK. I'll wait here for you to get it." Of course they never come back.
This doesn't happen when I open a door. In the good weather I'm almost always out in my yard so I can see them going house to house before they get to mine. After I do all this I call the condo board president on the other side of the sub from me and tell him there's a guy going door to door and I've already informed them they are to leave, but if you see them coming down your way tell them you are calling the township and reporting them. I live in a complex with mostly older people and people coming to your door just isn't safe but a lot of them are gullible or too trusting.
SeattleVet
(5,967 posts)There is a door-to-door pest control 'subscription' company that goes through the neighborhood every year harassing homeowners and renters. "We're doing your next door neighbor and 8 other houses on the block. Ants around here are a real problem
yada yada". Online reviews of this company are abysmal - people sign up for a one year contract for quarterly service, and they either don't show up or come by and do an absolutely minimal job, and the contract has a massive cancellation fee buried in the fine print. There are dozens and dozens of reviews about them breaking local laws by ignoring the NO SOLICITING signs, but they never address that aspect and seem to encourage it.
First I ask to see their permit (which they are supposed to wear visibly on their clothing). Somehow it's always 'around the corner in the truck'. I point to the NO SOLICITING sign and tell them that I would NEVER consider hiring a pest control company with employees that are SO illiterate that they can't even understand a simple two-word sign, because there's obviously no way that they could possibly understand all of that complicated safe application information or MSDS information on the products they might be using.
TommieMommy
(3,237 posts)allegorical oracle
(6,713 posts)have been women who live alone and they're followed while shopping at high-end grocery stores. The perps look for women wearing expensive clothing/jewelry, follow them out to the parking lot, and to their home. They come back later, break into the home to steal whatever is valuable. In at least two cases, the homeowners were killed.
Women have to stay vigilant.
Joinfortmill
(21,967 posts)Response to Trust_Reality (Original post)
LogDog75 This message was self-deleted by its author.
Initech
(109,710 posts)Doesn't matter if it's in person, on the phone or online. Nope. Just show them the door and be done with it.
xuplate
(263 posts)A reputable contractor doesnt do business this way. They very probably would have taken a deposit check and never be heard from again.
LogDog75
(1,485 posts)Where I live, you have to have a license to do door-to-door sales. I've had people come to my door trying to sell something and I ask to see their license. Some have them and other don't but I tell them I'm not interested.
If you do express interest in buying contracting services, check with your state contractor licensing board for the following:
1. The classification of the business
2. Current contractor's license
3. Current bond with an insurance company
4. Current Workman's Compensation insurance
I was the president of our small 1-unit HOA and when I went out for bids I ask for their contractor license number so I could check them out.
Also, lowest bidder or highest bidder doesn't mean you get you're money's worth so weight each contractor carefully to ensure you're not overspending.
ananda
(35,856 posts)...
SocialDemocrat61
(8,415 posts)PornHub that started exactly like that 😉😉
FoxNewsSucks
(12,012 posts)I think I saw the same one!
LeftInTX
(35,008 posts)If needed, be home with her.
Give her a script if necessary.
Just don't open the door to them again.
When we were first married, we fell for some people who came into our home (However, they were friends from church selling vacuum cleaners, water softeners, financial services, etc though, not door-to-door.. We would see them at church and they would invite themselves over other pretenses like "getting together for coffee".) It was a real pain. Basically, after that type of pitch, they were no longer our "friends". We cut them off. We were Catholic, but even in that circle there were also charismatic Catholics, who pull the same stuff with religion.
We were never scammed. Just wasted our time....
cab67
(3,940 posts)There's an active Facebook page for residents of our subdivision. That makes it easy for someone to ask if a given vendor or company is reliable, or even legitimate; or if they're reliable, if there are other companies that are just as reliable, but less expensive; or if a company is reliable, but a particular employee should be avoided.
We really don't get door-to-door salespeople here. We get flyers in our mailbox, which is just fine.
GoodRaisin
(11,206 posts)My life stays simple and enjoyable that way.
JoseBalow
(9,940 posts)
Although, I might consider making one exception...

ReRe
(12,200 posts)murielm99
(33,170 posts)That way, we can see who is at the door. I seldom answer.
moonshinegnomie
(4,165 posts)when i ask them for payment its amazing how fast they scurry away. I also tell them why would i buy from a company whos employees ignore no soliciting signs.
Ive actually called the company before and asked for an address and have send an invoice to them.
Raine
(31,272 posts)the door till their knuckles bleed .... I'm not opening the door!
Faux pas
(16,624 posts)in the 50's and 60's the Number One Rule was NEVER open the door to people you don't know. Those were much safer times, ya know?
hamsterjill
(17,977 posts)And I'm not even nice to Jehovah Witnesses. I can speak to them through the door bell camera. They don't seem to like that.
usonian
(27,262 posts)
BETTER

BEST

FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES ONLY
DO NOT TRY ANY OF THESE AT HOME.
Rebl2
(18,011 posts)Dont answer the door. Thats what I do, especially if I am home alone. If its someone I know, well they know better. Call me first.
orthoclad
(5,259 posts)from the Captain Beefheart wiki
Van Vliet enrolled at Antelope Valley College as an art major, but left after one year. He worked as a door-to-door vacuum cleaner salesman, and sold a vacuum cleaner to the writer Aldous Huxley at his home in Llano, pointing to it and declaring, "Well, I assure you sir, this thing sucks."[
lastlib
(28,879 posts)wanting to sell a home security system. First thing he said was, "My boss was in your neighborhood yesterday, and noticed there weren't any of our signs in the yards there." Wanting to go eat, I cut him off fast. "REALLY? You don't suppose someone's STEALING them, do you?" He started laughing, and I hung up before he could say anything else.
rampartd
(5,584 posts)demanded of a chief execvutive in today's business climate
"sarcasm" as needed
Monsieur_Grumpe
(192 posts)Wonder Why
(7,437 posts)dawn5651
(830 posts)that i reported them for to our crtc--canadian radio and telecommunications commission- when approaching a business here to go on a contract this was for television and internet you expect them to run your credit to make sure you are not a deadbeat...i caught them running my credit more than once..i have told them repeatedly to leave me alone....i am staying where i am for tv and internet..some of the prices they have given me if i would just change are a dammed joke...
radical noodle
(10,752 posts)but I never knew them to do door-to-door. I hate that sort of thing.
Bread and Circuses
(2,122 posts)I hope she is learning some basic safety techniques now that she no longer lives on a military base.
In the future you may have children and they will need to be taught about keeping doors and windows closed and locked, not answering doors to strangers or inviting them back for appointments , etc.
I dont know her educational background or work experience, I do hope that you find some local resources for her.
We need not live in fear as we should be cordial to all people. At the same time we need to be Safety-Wise, whether female, male, or child.
Aussie105
(8,370 posts)Easy way to get rid of them . . . (Front door open, screen door stays locked.)
'We are renters, I'm sure our landlord wouldn't pay for a new roof/new windows/yard work/whatever.'
and
'Habla Espanol?'
Or whatever language you are vaguely familiar with. German, Russian etc- not too hard to look up the appropriate phrase.
Norrrm
(6,167 posts)DFW
(60,844 posts)We have a decent sized circle of friends in our immediate neighborhood, and its rare that someone ringing the doorbell isnt one of them, or else FedEx with my weekly mail from Dallas.
However
If its someone from some religious cult (and to us, thats all of them), I get instant selective amnesia and can speak only Catalan or Swedish. Russian is dicey, due to the large number of recent Russian immigrants. Swedes and Catalans do not come to Düsseldorf in great numbers.
Then there was the time some traveling Irish roofers wanted to redo our roof and attic. The guy DID speak good English, but if he was Irish, then Im Idi Amins grandson. I said I couldnt let anyone into the attic, because I had built booby traps similar to ones I had heard about installed by a break-in victim in Iowa. They were modified hunting traps with power blades that cut off an intruders feet at the ankle. Horrified, the guy reminded me that anything like that was illegal (well versed in German law for an itinerant Irishman, but Ok). I answered, yeah, I know, but if someone breaks into our house through the roof, and has to be carried out minus his/their feet, it will only cost me money, whereas it will cost him/them their mobility for the rest of their lives. He decided that there must be houses in the neighborhood far more in need of roofing than ours.
Orrex
(67,567 posts)Their lips are moving.
(This joke is certified "ancient" )