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MarianJack

(10,237 posts)
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 11:03 PM Feb 2013

Earlier tonight, another DUer apologized for a "hidden by jury" post. A few thoughts...

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...about that action of great integrity and candor.

In this site, I am not, haven't been and will never be a bomb-thrower. In almost 10 years here, I have been in exactly ONE flame war. I will admit that the person with whom I had that exchange is not my favorit person here. However, I have only 6 people on my ignore list and that person isn't one of them. I go out of my way to be civil, even when in disagreement and I avoid the most contentious threads with a pasion.

I've had 3 posts hidden by jury or deleted by the moderators since I've been here. 2 were OPs in the old DU and 1 hidden by jury here. The 2 ops were about the rather easy virtue of george w shithead"s spawn and the other was an inappropriate comment about an alleged lack of grace when I saw an old video of Natalee Halloway in a cheerleader routine. The post that was hidden by jury was one where I used an inappropriate term or 2 about the wicked witch of the west (AKA Jam Brewer).

I agree that the post about george w shithead's daughters was out of bounds, not because I have anything even remotely resembling an iota of respect for them, but because I believe that the children are off limits in a political debate. That was made difficult becaue of sarah palin(comparison)'s kids and the entire romney family.

I was wrong with the Natalee Halloway post because she was a CHILD who went on a vacation to have fun and was (most likely) murdered by a rich little shit who seems to portray a romneyesque attitude of entitlement. I think he probably thought he had a right to kill her.

In each of these cases, I should have heeded my mom's old advice of "weigh it before you say it".

I guess that my point is that we all are human and we all make mistakes now and again. I am nowhere near stupid enough to say I won't do something that I regret again.

That's my 2 cents, and quite probably overpriced at that!

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Earlier tonight, another DUer apologized for a "hidden by jury" post. A few thoughts... (Original Post) MarianJack Feb 2013 OP
I've had a couple hidden. None so far on DU3 Warpy Feb 2013 #1
Wow, Warpy! MarianJack Feb 2013 #2
Message auto-removed blacksheep2013 Feb 2013 #3
This message was self-deleted by its author uppityperson Feb 2013 #7
This message was self-deleted by its author MarianJack Feb 2013 #9
Great post. We all have our days, Curmudgeoness Feb 2013 #4
Thank you for those wise words! MarianJack Feb 2013 #6
The thing is, a person really cannot tell whether some statements are hilarious or offensive. dimbear Feb 2013 #10
I have had only one post hidden here and it was a learning experience. hrmjustin Feb 2013 #5
Thanks, hrmjustin MarianJack Feb 2013 #8
Locking zappaman Feb 2013 #11

Warpy

(114,564 posts)
1. I've had a couple hidden. None so far on DU3
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 11:09 PM
Feb 2013

but I'm certainly capable of being tactless enough, so I'm sure it's coming sooner or later.

Yes, people have bad days and let fly. In some cases, people let fly when some other person has it coming and it has to be said and getting a post hidden is worth it.

Walking away from a flame war before it really gets going is hard to do. I don't make it out 100% of the time, but I'm working on it.

However, we need to be as tolerant of ourselves as we try to be of others. That's the hardest thing to do, whether or not someone manages to get our posts hidden.

Having posts hidden won't get anyone on my ignore list. Trying to treat me like shit does.

MarianJack

(10,237 posts)
2. Wow, Warpy!
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 11:12 PM
Feb 2013

That's EXACTLY how 5 of the 6 got there. #6 I just plain don't like!

PEACE!

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Curmudgeoness

(18,219 posts)
4. Great post. We all have our days,
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 11:21 PM
Feb 2013

and knowing that what we said was wrong and apologizing is a good thing. I have not had a post hidden yet, but I have made some questionable comments, some because I was in a bad mood, some because the subject was one that really angers me, and some because I was trying to be funny in the wrong thread or forum (some places, you just can't joke).

We all have bad days, and if you say you don't, you are fooling yourself.

MarianJack

(10,237 posts)
6. Thank you for those wise words!
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 11:23 PM
Feb 2013

PEACE!

dimbear

(6,271 posts)
10. The thing is, a person really cannot tell whether some statements are hilarious or offensive.
Sat Feb 2, 2013, 02:26 AM
Feb 2013

Standup comics know this, they just have to try the material. The post that ended my posting career over at the Ed Schultz board still seems to me to have been funny.

Uh uh.

 

hrmjustin

(71,265 posts)
5. I have had only one post hidden here and it was a learning experience.
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 11:23 PM
Feb 2013

It was a dumb joke about prison sex, and it got hidden 6-0. We all make mistakes as you said. Great post my friend!

MarianJack

(10,237 posts)
8. Thanks, hrmjustin
Fri Feb 1, 2013, 11:25 PM
Feb 2013

PEACE!

zappaman

(20,627 posts)
11. Locking
Sat Feb 2, 2013, 03:15 AM
Feb 2013

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