Mother Forced To Pay Spousal Support To Man Who Raped Daughter

[The Straight Story]

Mother Forced To Pay Spousal Support To Man Who Raped Daughter

CORONA (CBSLA.com) — A mother who was forced to pay spousal support to the ex-husband who was convicted of raping her daughter is speaking out to CBS2.

“Every time I wrote that check, I cried because I felt like I was paying the man that raped my daughter,” Carol Abar told CBS2?s Andrea Fujii.

Carol married Ed Abar in 1991, when her daughter, who wishes to remain unidentified, was 9 years old.

Carol’s daughter said Abar abused and raped her for 16 years before she told her mother.

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“The judge told me I had no proof. It was my word against him,” said Carol. “He had been raping her since she was little. Since I got married to him.”

http://losangeles.cbslocal.com/2013/05/06/mother-forced-to-pay-spousal-support-to-man-who-raped-daughter/

[geek tragedy]

1. Ugh. Hopefully the judge will make the right call and deny, nt

[uppityperson]

2. Misleading headline. Ex-husband, not just a "man". 2 separate issues here.

Spousal support and rape.

From your link

“Under the law, he is entitled to some relief from the higher income producing spouse, so that the marital standard of living can be maintained,” said Sherry Collins.
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Carol said, “He victimized a little girl all these years and I have to pay him for that behavior…it just doesn’t make sense to me.”

No, you don't pay him for raping your daughter but because according to the law, you make more than he does.

Sounds like a crappy situation all the way around and something to get a better lawyer for.

[The Straight Story]

3. Their headline. And term 'spousal support' pretty much denotes an Ex (nt)

[MattBaggins]

5. Hopefully California will react to this case and add child abuse

to the exemptions from paying support. From the article is seems that only direct spousal abuse is covered.

Perhaps the daughter can counter sue and take the money that goes to the ex-husband.

[uppityperson]

11. That would be good, laws sometimes need changing and modifying and this is one of them.

[geek tragedy]

12. The judge is still allowed--and SHOULD --deny his motion in the entirety.

Judges are allowed to specifically incorporate "equity and justice" into their decision.

[MattBaggins]

13. It seems strange that this is even a problem at all

Child abuse should have been added a long time ago.

[Nolimit]

4. Injustice!

How on Earth could anyone receive backpay from alimony when they were in prison? I thought they're needs were taken care of prison. The guy's a child raper, he shouldn't even be alive.

[MattBaggins]

8. We know it's neo-PC to beat your chest and want to kill everyone

but if you do that, rape will go from under reported to almost never reported.

You will hand these family members another tool to mentally bludgeon their victims with.

[hamsterjill]

6. Good grief! Sometimes common sense just needs to come into the courtroom!

I hope the woman has a good attorney and I hope the judge does his job - that job being "justice".

[geek tragedy]

7. The judge is allowed to deny his motion for "any other factors the court considers just and

equitable."

I would say this counts.

[LanternWaste]

9. A man of small character abuses children. A man of even smaller character expects to get payment...

A man of small character abuses children. A man of even smaller character expects to get payment from the abused child's family. And there are obviously, quite a few ex-spouses of small character.

[Cicada]

10. If unproven charges meant you don't have to pay alimony

Sometimes spouses lie in divorce matters. If making an unproven charge meant you don't have to pay money to spouse then a lot of spouses would be cheated out of what is due to them. My ex-wife stole $500,000 worth of coins my dad gave to me before he died so I don't have to give her anything for her community property interests. What would happen if that worked? Every husband would make that claim.