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cali

(114,904 posts)
Wed May 8, 2013, 11:19 AM May 2013

Cleveland kidnapping: The women were kept bound with chains and ropes

As authorities prepare charges against three brothers suspected of keeping three women captive for nearly a decade, police said they found chains and ropes used to bind the victims inside the Cleveland house where they were held.

Some details about the women's ordeal began to emerge as euphoria over their rescue on Monday evening gave way to questions of how their imprisonment inside a house on a residential street in Cleveland, Ohio went undetected for so long.

Several neighbors said they had called police to report suspicious activity at the house in a dilapidated neighborhood on Cleveland's West Side, where Amanda Berry, Gina DeJesus, Michelle Knight and Berry's 6-year-old daughter escaped from their captors.

<snip>

"We have confirmation that they were bound, and there (were) chains and ropes in the home," he said.

<snip>

http://www.chicagotribune.com/news/chi-cleveland-kidnappings-20130508,0,1021071.story

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Cleveland kidnapping: The women were kept bound with chains and ropes (Original Post) cali May 2013 OP
Message auto-removed Name removed May 2013 #1
Welcome to DU but how do we know this is for real, the money will get to him? uppityperson May 2013 #8
Message auto-removed Name removed May 2013 #35
Charles Ramsey has said he doesn't want money. ellisonz May 2013 #43
Excellent advice and indeed, he doesn't want money. Give directly to an established place uppityperson May 2013 #46
Excellent. ellisonz May 2013 #47
Thanks for the info, and good job with the removal. Could be real but........ uppityperson May 2013 #54
+1 pinto May 2013 #48
This is certainly going to deflate the "blame the victims" (they could have left but didn't) people. monmouth3 May 2013 #2
Tell me persons here weren't saying that! PLEASE! nt boston bean May 2013 #3
I saw an OP here yesterday questioning why these women "did not leave when they could have."...n/t monmouth3 May 2013 #4
Ugh. Victims have a hard enough time with that when they *aren't* physically restrained. Posteritatis May 2013 #75
Right here on DU. "Why didn't they try to escape?" or "Why didn't they just leave?" or kestrel91316 May 2013 #41
They're implying it right here in this thread ismnotwasm May 2013 #60
There are always, ALWAYS, people who go right there when these stories break. Posteritatis May 2013 #74
We forget that some people are armchair Ninjas. liberalmuse May 2013 #77
I in know way intend to blame the victims, as you say. But, I am definitely curious since Laura PourMeADrink May 2013 #5
one of the talking heads on MSNBC OKNancy May 2013 #6
Yes, she had probably been told by her captors that there was no help siligut May 2013 #24
Yes, I can see how it took three people treestar May 2013 #7
His brothers were not living with him. And up until several months ago, he had a job. LisaL May 2013 #10
They still must have helped treestar May 2013 #11
It appears only Ariel Castro is being charged. LisaL May 2013 #65
Not even alleged to have. LisaL May 2013 #67
No it doesn't. If they were literally chained up for 10 years you would think they would sound Laura PourMeADrink May 2013 #12
I agree. I don't think they were literally chained up for the whole 10 years. LisaL May 2013 #14
Yes, this is what I believe siligut May 2013 #25
Most likely used the girls connections to control them MattBaggins May 2013 #37
I just heard that one method he used to keep them truegrit44 May 2013 #86
There's one thing I can guarentee about such situations jeff47 May 2013 #30
Don't you DARE go blaming those women in any way for their situation. kestrel91316 May 2013 #42
Thank you get the red out May 2013 #56
I don't need any lectures from you. LisaL May 2013 #63
Geez - it's amazing how people jump for just discussing the situation. Thiought it went without Laura PourMeADrink May 2013 #69
Exactly. LisaL May 2013 #71
of course you don't ! no one does. no one ever has blamed them. nt Laura PourMeADrink May 2013 #76
Jibe, the word is Jibe, not Jive CBGLuthier May 2013 #90
if they were kept locked up in the a soundproofed attic or basement magical thyme May 2013 #36
How do you think she should have sounded? Brickbat May 2013 #44
Deserves Severe Punishment ibjensen May 2013 #9
They can't get the death penalty for any of these three cases. treestar May 2013 #13
Ohio includes fetal protection in its murder statutes. geek tragedy May 2013 #16
So what are you getting at? treestar May 2013 #17
5 pregnancies, one child born. Frequent beatings. geek tragedy May 2013 #22
I would wonder though if Ohio would apply the death penalty treestar May 2013 #50
Lots of factual details to be sorted out. geek tragedy May 2013 #52
Some more on that treestar May 2013 #92
(A) would cover it as well. geek tragedy May 2013 #93
Thanks for the information! Rhiannon12866 May 2013 #94
I do believe kidnapping is a Capital Offense... Bandit May 2013 #18
I don't think in the US one can be executed for anything less than murder treestar May 2013 #20
Might wanna read your link jeff47 May 2013 #31
If those states try it they will be stopped treestar May 2013 #49
Why would the SCOTUS stop it? jeff47 May 2013 #80
The death penalty was illegal for a while treestar May 2013 #85
Your argument is "treestar says so". jeff47 May 2013 #91
No, never heard of a death penalty for kidnapping unless a victim died. LisaL May 2013 #21
Wasn't there something about the girls getting pregnant? LiberalFighter May 2013 #29
Yes, see geek tragedy above treestar May 2013 #51
Welcome to DU! Life in prison, and nothing less. Quantess May 2013 #23
Sounds good when said, but, how many victims will be murdered when the punishment blm May 2013 #28
Excellent point Art_from_Ark May 2013 #95
As these details come out, it's like some people forget that they are cumulative. Brickbat May 2013 #15
You're right treestar May 2013 #19
I am not loving the categorization "blame the victim". It's really quite natural & non-accusatory Laura PourMeADrink May 2013 #26
This message was self-deleted by its author jeff47 May 2013 #32
Many live in marriages with their abusers and tell no one for decades. boston bean May 2013 #45
But these are not battered wives treestar May 2013 #53
No, there is much more to it, than staying with someone in hopes they change. boston bean May 2013 #55
Oh that is wayyyy too simple "hold onto hope he will change" for DV survivors. uppityperson May 2013 #57
This case though is really about people who were actually kidnapped treestar May 2013 #66
I agree there are differences, not arguing that. Simply trying to address a point you wrote about DV uppityperson May 2013 #82
I actually meant that sympathetically to avoid blaming them for staying treestar May 2013 #84
wow, didn't expect such assholery from you. I would hardly compare a battered wife to a kidnapping Laura PourMeADrink May 2013 #68
You wouldn't? Not one that was afraid to leave. To much of a leap for you to make? nt boston bean May 2013 #72
Psychological or emotional chains are often even stronger than physical ones opiate69 May 2013 #73
They only were allowed out of the house twice in two years BainsBane May 2013 #78
Bingo! And the corallary to this is that calling the criminals animals or worse, hedgehog May 2013 #27
They are NOT animals get the red out May 2013 #58
you got it. magical thyme May 2013 #40
And we don't know yet Tansy_Gold May 2013 #61
and wasn't one of them 14 when it happened, they are women now JI7 May 2013 #70
Interesting Kelvin Mace May 2013 #33
"a call" - which are you referring to? the other day? or in the past? Laura PourMeADrink May 2013 #34
The neighbors say Kelvin Mace May 2013 #38
thanks...hadn't heard that. Only that the police did respond once and no one Laura PourMeADrink May 2013 #39
According to this article the women only went outside twice and neither tammywammy May 2013 #83
Which is why Kelvin Mace May 2013 #89
increased activity now at house riverwalker May 2013 #59
checking abandoned house 2 doors down riverwalker May 2013 #62
The Cleveland Chief of Police was on the news this morning saying that they had no toby jo May 2013 #64
I wonder how many guns the Castro Bros. had? baldguy May 2013 #79
Now the police are saying only one brother was actually involved. pnwmom May 2013 #81
I have a question? truegrit44 May 2013 #87
Just answered my own question truegrit44 May 2013 #88

Response to cali (Original post)

Response to uppityperson (Reply #8)

ellisonz

(27,776 posts)
43. Charles Ramsey has said he doesn't want money.
Wed May 8, 2013, 01:36 PM
May 2013

If people are looking for some way to give, I suggest donating to the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children at this point: https://secure.missingkids.com/Donate/Online

uppityperson

(116,020 posts)
46. Excellent advice and indeed, he doesn't want money. Give directly to an established place
Wed May 8, 2013, 03:37 PM
May 2013

hey, hi, how's it going?

ellisonz

(27,776 posts)
47. Excellent.
Wed May 8, 2013, 03:45 PM
May 2013

Also, they're setting up a fund to give to the victims - the Cleveland Courage Fund. I'll post a link when it's available.

monmouth3

(3,871 posts)
2. This is certainly going to deflate the "blame the victims" (they could have left but didn't) people.
Wed May 8, 2013, 11:34 AM
May 2013

monmouth3

(3,871 posts)
4. I saw an OP here yesterday questioning why these women "did not leave when they could have."...n/t
Wed May 8, 2013, 11:51 AM
May 2013

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
75. Ugh. Victims have a hard enough time with that when they *aren't* physically restrained.
Wed May 8, 2013, 06:22 PM
May 2013

That OP's a slap in the face of any abuse victim out there, and god knows they've had too much of that to begin with.

 

kestrel91316

(51,666 posts)
41. Right here on DU. "Why didn't they try to escape?" or "Why didn't they just leave?" or
Wed May 8, 2013, 01:19 PM
May 2013

some such crap.

Posteritatis

(18,807 posts)
74. There are always, ALWAYS, people who go right there when these stories break.
Wed May 8, 2013, 06:21 PM
May 2013

DU's not nearly as hot at avoiding that as people often like to think it is, and that tendency people have in big lurid stories where everyone becomes an expert in What Was Really Going On usually makes it uglier.

liberalmuse

(18,881 posts)
77. We forget that some people are armchair Ninjas.
Wed May 8, 2013, 06:33 PM
May 2013

They can dodge bullets, take out the perp with a single shot and escape kidnappers quite easily. They do not understand that not all of us possess their special powers. The internets have many armchair Ninjas. Real life? Not so much...

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
5. I in know way intend to blame the victims, as you say. But, I am definitely curious since
Wed May 8, 2013, 11:57 AM
May 2013

when she freed herself she sounded very much like someone totally aware of her situation (kidnapped and trying to get free) and not someone brainwashed into total slavery..if that makes sense. Like is this the second time only that there was an opportunity to be unchained or unguarded enough to get help/awareness to be free. If yes, that's quite an accomplishment on the part of the captors to keep them unseen and unheard.

OKNancy

(41,832 posts)
6. one of the talking heads on MSNBC
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:02 PM
May 2013

some sort of expert said that she probably rehearsed over and over in her mind what she would say if given a chance.

siligut

(12,272 posts)
24. Yes, she had probably been told by her captors that there was no help
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:29 PM
May 2013

That no one would believe her, that no one cared. So when she finally decided to try, she had retained hope and she had her daughter to take care of, it bolstered her will to free herself. It also seems that Amanda had been loved and valued before her kidnapping, so the mind manipulation of her captors wasn't as effective.

But she had to pull out all the stops to get that help, and that is what you are hearing in the 911 call. And the 911 operator is being rather perfunctory if you listen closely, though I understand that having worked in emergency situations.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
7. Yes, I can see how it took three people
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:04 PM
May 2013

if the brothers helped him. They must have almost never left them alone. So this one occasion was rare enough that they did.

LisaL

(47,423 posts)
10. His brothers were not living with him. And up until several months ago, he had a job.
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:07 PM
May 2013

So that doesn't jive.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
11. They still must have helped
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:09 PM
May 2013

Or are alleged to have.

He tied up three women and left them alone every day for upwards of ten years. And then went about his business as if all was normal. What a guy.

LisaL

(47,423 posts)
65. It appears only Ariel Castro is being charged.
Wed May 8, 2013, 05:14 PM
May 2013

So not clear or even alleged that brothers knew about it or helped. At least at this time.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
12. No it doesn't. If they were literally chained up for 10 years you would think they would sound
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:09 PM
May 2013

like living zombies and not like Amanda did on the phone call. Yikes, and how did she go thru pregnancy and child birth.

LisaL

(47,423 posts)
14. I agree. I don't think they were literally chained up for the whole 10 years.
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:11 PM
May 2013

Sounds like it was more psychological, that they were scared into submission.

siligut

(12,272 posts)
25. Yes, this is what I believe
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:33 PM
May 2013

Who knows if it will come out in the media, but I am sure that mind manipulation was used to keep these women obedient.

MattBaggins

(7,948 posts)
37. Most likely used the girls connections to control them
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:58 PM
May 2013

They would have developed some form of sisterhood over time that they most likely played against them. Threatened to harm the others if one of them tried to escape.

truegrit44

(332 posts)
86. I just heard that one method he used to keep them
Wed May 8, 2013, 11:03 PM
May 2013

from leaving was.........he would pretend to leave, but hide and watch and if he saw any of them trying to leave he would rush back in and beat the shit out of her. Did that numerous times so after awhile they could never trust that he was really gone.

jeff47

(26,549 posts)
30. There's one thing I can guarentee about such situations
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:39 PM
May 2013

Is that statements with the phrase "you would think" are almost always wrong.

 

kestrel91316

(51,666 posts)
42. Don't you DARE go blaming those women in any way for their situation.
Wed May 8, 2013, 01:21 PM
May 2013

You should hang your head in shame.

Their captivity was 100% the fault of their captors. PERIOD.

get the red out

(14,031 posts)
56. Thank you
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:12 PM
May 2013

Anyone who blames these women should hope they never suffer captivity and have to find out personally how psychological horrors can be inflicted.

LisaL

(47,423 posts)
63. I don't need any lectures from you.
Wed May 8, 2013, 05:05 PM
May 2013

And discussing details of the case does not equal blaming the victims. I don't blame the victims.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
69. Geez - it's amazing how people jump for just discussing the situation. Thiought it went without
Wed May 8, 2013, 05:58 PM
May 2013

any explanation that 99.9% of DUers understand and fully sympathize completely with a battered women's situation.guess not

LisaL

(47,423 posts)
71. Exactly.
Wed May 8, 2013, 06:04 PM
May 2013

Stating the simple fact that the suspect had a job until recently and was not at home all the time does not in any way suggest blaiming the victims.
I don't blame the victims one bit.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
36. if they were kept locked up in the a soundproofed attic or basement
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:56 PM
May 2013

there may well not have been many opportunities.

A 4th woman disappeared early on. On the walls of the basement are the words, "Rest in peace, [name]."

So beatings, torture, overt threats and covert threats would tend to make one very, very careful of planning escape.

Obviously they were very aware of their situation. Aware enough that at least 3 of the women managed to survive it.

Their captors didn't allow anyone in the house. They were on occasion seen, forced to crawl around the back yard naked, wearing dog leashes. The police were called repeatedly and didn't do anything.

 

ibjensen

(2 posts)
9. Deserves Severe Punishment
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:06 PM
May 2013

This is a classic case for the return to an expanded death penalty. These three perverted animals deserve nothing less than to be hanged by the neck until dead. Why warehouse these three until they die of natural causes?

Ten years times three lives had to be an eternity to these young victims.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
13. They can't get the death penalty for any of these three cases.
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:10 PM
May 2013

Strangely, but so many of these cases are murders, so it can be said, "at least he didn't kill them." There are at least alive, so his status as sociopathic monster is oddly on a lower scale than others.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
17. So what are you getting at?
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:15 PM
May 2013

Did any of them lose a pregnancy?

The odd thing too is who is the father of the 6 year old girl? Likely the perpetrator or one of his brothers.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
50. I would wonder though if Ohio would apply the death penalty
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:01 PM
May 2013

in those cases. Then there are proof problems.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
52. Lots of factual details to be sorted out.
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:03 PM
May 2013

I would think victim testimony would be enough evidence.

As far as death penalty is concerned, hard to resist that temptation if you're a prosecutor in a case like this.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
92. Some more on that
Thu May 9, 2013, 05:52 PM
May 2013

2929.02 Murder penalties.
(A) Whoever is convicted of or pleads guilty to aggravated murder in violation of section 2903.01 of the Revised Code shall suffer death or be imprisoned for life, as determined pursuant to sections 2929.022, 2929.03, and 2929.04 of the Revised Code, except that no person who raises the matter of age pursuant to section 2929.023 of the Revised Code and who is not found to have been eighteen years of age or older at the time of the commission of the offense shall suffer death. In addition, the offender may be fined an amount fixed by the court, but not more than twenty-five thousand dollars.

2903.01 Aggravated murder.
(A) No person shall purposely, and with prior calculation and design, cause the death of another or the unlawful termination of another's pregnancy.

(B) No person shall purposely cause the death of another or the unlawful termination of another's pregnancy while committing or attempting to commit, or while fleeing immediately after committing or attempting to commit, kidnapping, rape, aggravated arson, arson, aggravated robbery, robbery, aggravated burglary, burglary, trespass in a habitation when a person is present or likely to be present, terrorism, or escape.

(C) No person shall purposely cause the death of another who is under thirteen years of age at the time of the commission of the offense.

(D) No person who is under detention as a result of having been found guilty of or having pleaded guilty to a felony or who breaks that detention shall purposely cause the death of another.

(E) No person shall purposely cause the death of a law enforcement officer whom the offender knows or has reasonable cause to know is a law enforcement officer when either of the following applies:

(1) The victim, at the time of the commission of the offense, is engaged in the victim's duties.

(2) It is the offender's specific purpose to kill a law enforcement officer.

(F) Whoever violates this section is guilty of aggravated murder, and shall be punished as provided in section 2929.02 of the Revised Code.

It would thus have to be under section (B). They would also have to show he was committing or in the process of committing the kidnapping over 10 years - that might not be seen that way.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
93. (A) would cover it as well.
Thu May 9, 2013, 05:55 PM
May 2013

(A) is premeditation, (B) includes other associated offenses as aggravating factors

Rhiannon12866

(255,525 posts)
94. Thanks for the information!
Fri May 10, 2013, 01:42 AM
May 2013

They were discussing that this could be a death penalty crime on MSNBC this afternoon, but I wasn't sure why, either. I did think they meant because his abuse resulted in numerous miscarriages by one of the victims. Whatever happens, this is a monstrous crime.

Bandit

(21,475 posts)
18. I do believe kidnapping is a Capital Offense...
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:15 PM
May 2013

I think it was made so after the Lindberg kidnapping.....

treestar

(82,383 posts)
20. I don't think in the US one can be executed for anything less than murder
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:17 PM
May 2013

with aggravated circumstances of some kind in the statute.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Capital_punishment_in_the_United_States

jeff47

(26,549 posts)
31. Might wanna read your link
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:43 PM
May 2013
Crimes subject to the death penalty vary by jurisdiction. All jurisdictions that use capital punishment designate the highest grade of murder a capital crime, although most jurisdictions require aggravating circumstances. Treason against the United States, as well as treason against the states of Arkansas, California, Georgia, Louisiana, Mississippi, and Missouri are capital offenses.[45]

Other capital crimes include: the use of a weapon of mass destruction resulting in death, espionage, terrorism, certain violations of the Geneva Conventions that result in the death of one or more persons, and treason at the federal level; aggravated rape in Louisiana, Florida,[46] and Oklahoma; extortionate kidnapping in Oklahoma; aggravated kidnapping in Georgia, Idaho, Kentucky and South Carolina; aircraft hijacking in Alabama; drug trafficking resulting in a person's death in Florida;[47] train wrecking which leads to a person's death, and perjury which leads to a person's death in California.[45][48][49]

Additionally, the Uniform Code of Military Justice allows capital punishment for a list of offenses during wartime including: desertion, mutiny, spying, and misconduct before the enemy. In practice, no one has been executed for a crime other than murder or conspiracy to murder since James Coburn was executed for robbery in Alabama on September 4, 1964.[50]

treestar

(82,383 posts)
49. If those states try it they will be stopped
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:00 PM
May 2013

by appeals to the Supreme Court. And "involving death" means there was a murder.

Execution for anything other than causing a death should be left back in 1964 and earlier.

jeff47

(26,549 posts)
80. Why would the SCOTUS stop it?
Wed May 8, 2013, 08:38 PM
May 2013

What, exactly, would the basis for blocking it? "Because treestar says so"?

There's nothing requiring the death penalty to only be for some murders. And if you do so, it becomes unusual. Which now means it's against the 8th amendment.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
85. The death penalty was illegal for a while
Wed May 8, 2013, 10:38 PM
May 2013

Because the SCOTUS ruled that the statute under which it is imposed could not be vague and had to contain standards. I can't see anything that did not involve death/murder meeting that standard in our society. It's not just that I say so, it's in our history. As you contributed, 1964 was the last time it was done.

My state had a whipping post until some God-awfully advanced year. Some things just go by the wayside. Death for less than another death is one of them.

jeff47

(26,549 posts)
91. Your argument is "treestar says so".
Thu May 9, 2013, 09:39 AM
May 2013
I can't see anything that did not involve death/murder meeting that standard in our society.

Except if you ask the death penalty's fans, they'd like to expand its use.

As you contributed, 1964 was the last time it was done.

Laws are still on the books to allow it.

The fact that treason is uncommon doesn't mean it can't result in the death penalty.

LiberalFighter

(53,544 posts)
29. Wasn't there something about the girls getting pregnant?
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:34 PM
May 2013

If any of them came to term and were killed that would up the charges. Of course, they need to find evidence.

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
23. Welcome to DU! Life in prison, and nothing less.
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:21 PM
May 2013

Myself, I'm against the death penalty as a matter of principle. But there are certain cases, like this one, where I wouldn't bat an eyelash if the perps were put to death.

blm

(114,658 posts)
28. Sounds good when said, but, how many victims will be murdered when the punishment
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:34 PM
May 2013

for kidnapping and abuse becomes no different than the punishment for murdering the victim?

Art_from_Ark

(27,247 posts)
95. Excellent point
Fri May 10, 2013, 02:17 AM
May 2013

If kidnapping alone carried the same death penalty as murder, then that could reduce a kidnapper's motivation to keep the victim alive

Brickbat

(19,339 posts)
15. As these details come out, it's like some people forget that they are cumulative.
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:13 PM
May 2013

It comes out that the captives were held against their will.

Someone's there to say, "I would have fought and got away!"

It comes out that they were tied up all day.

Someone else says, "With all that free time, surely they could have worked on the ropes."

It comes out that they were beaten frequently, hard enough to cause miscarriages.

Some winner figures there has to be a way that three strong, smart young women could have made some kind of plan to defend themselves.

It comes out that they were fed poorly, raped repeatedly, threatened with death.

For some reason, it's difficult for people to imagine all of that happening to someone every day, day after day, on your birthday and Christmas and the third Tuesday of every month. For years. Through adolescence into adulthood.

None of us can imagine it. It bizarre and sick to question why abused women don't escape their partners -- there are psychological reasons why they don't. When people "just ask questions" or "just wonder" about abducted people in situations like this? It's beyond anything I can understand. Some people just know everything, I guess.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
19. You're right
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:16 PM
May 2013

The Blame the Victim thing is usually not so much about blaming the victim as the person trying to reassure themselves this Cannot Happen to Me.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
26. I am not loving the categorization "blame the victim". It's really quite natural & non-accusatory
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:33 PM
May 2013

to be immediately curious and think WOW ten years is a very very long time that it's amazing there weren't more opportunities. It's also quite human to think that if it were you it would be hard to imagine not figuring out a way out. But, think a lot of it is because Amanda sounded so normal on the 9-11 call and on the call to her grandma. Like she got kidnapped two days ago. Of course we all know she couldn't possibly be normal anymore - but initially, she sounds like that.

Response to Laura PourMeADrink (Reply #26)

boston bean

(36,931 posts)
45. Many live in marriages with their abusers and tell no one for decades.
Wed May 8, 2013, 02:41 PM
May 2013

WTF is so difficult to understand about this? If one can't come to grasp with the concept, it starts coming off as "blame the victim".

sorry, but that's what you are sounding like. It is not natural to wonder all of these freaking things. Not if you can bring yourself to understand batterd wives syndrome.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
53. But these are not battered wives
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:06 PM
May 2013

There is a different psychology where you were kidnapped and forced into it than if you choose the guy, turned out to be wrong about him, and hold onto hope he will change.

There could be a Stockholm Syndrome in this case, too.

But the point of these things usually is not so much to blame the victim as to reassure oneself that it "won't happen to me." I'd have gotten out, etc. It's a natural defense mechanism to attempt to believe you have control over your life and random things can't happen - but the person will never really be tested and they could be wrong. They just say it to reassure themselves regarding that mental discomfort.

boston bean

(36,931 posts)
55. No, there is much more to it, than staying with someone in hopes they change.
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:10 PM
May 2013

Fear of what they are told by the abuser will happen to them or their children or family, being a big part of it.

uppityperson

(116,020 posts)
57. Oh that is wayyyy too simple "hold onto hope he will change" for DV survivors.
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:19 PM
May 2013

It may start that way, but eventually you have lost all your friends, live with a control freak who punishes you for pretty much anything, threatens you and your child(ren) (if any), perhaps others also. You think so little of yourself, who COULD love or even want to help such a wretch as you you stupid ignorant ugly unlovable person you?

It starts slowly and one day you find yourself in hell and refusing help out of fear of further pain (physical and emotional) or because you can't trust anyone or because you are not worth anything.

"if you choose the guy, turned out to be wrong about him, and hold onto hope he will change" is way too simplified for DV issues.

treestar

(82,383 posts)
66. This case though is really about people who were actually kidnapped
Wed May 8, 2013, 05:38 PM
May 2013

And people saying they'd have gotten away, etc. It is the same in that others claim it would not have happened to them because they would have controlled their situation, that they are not blaming the victim in intent, just trying to tell themselves it would not happen to them. Or, that's why people blame the victim.

Yet it would be different for someone who married the guy and for someone who was kidnapped by the guy. Similarities may exist, but there's a big difference there, too.

uppityperson

(116,020 posts)
82. I agree there are differences, not arguing that. Simply trying to address a point you wrote about DV
Wed May 8, 2013, 08:58 PM
May 2013

Trying to show that DV isn't just "you choose the guy, turned out to be wrong about him, and hold onto hope he will change".

treestar

(82,383 posts)
84. I actually meant that sympathetically to avoid blaming them for staying
Wed May 8, 2013, 10:36 PM
May 2013

But I guess it didn't come out clearly.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
68. wow, didn't expect such assholery from you. I would hardly compare a battered wife to a kidnapping
Wed May 8, 2013, 05:47 PM
May 2013

victim. whatever.

BainsBane

(57,757 posts)
78. They only were allowed out of the house twice in two years
Wed May 8, 2013, 07:33 PM
May 2013

They are chained up, locked in separate rooms. Then there is the fact they lived in terror. These sorts of situations are uncommon but not unprecedented. The horror these women live through is indescribable. I find it amazing that they survived at all. That's more than I could do.

hedgehog

(36,286 posts)
27. Bingo! And the corallary to this is that calling the criminals animals or worse,
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:33 PM
May 2013

and calling for the death penalty, is partly people reassuring themselves that they are incapable of evil.

get the red out

(14,031 posts)
58. They are NOT animals
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:21 PM
May 2013

I would not insult animals by calling these horrible humans animals.

No on the death penalty, that's way too easy.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
40. you got it.
Wed May 8, 2013, 01:11 PM
May 2013

"It bizarre and sick to question why abused women don't escape their partners -- there are psychological reasons why they don't."

And to the victim, it comes across as blame and a total lack of compassion. Everybody else in the world would have found an escape, what's wrong with you that you didn't.

The simple fact is that when you are forced by circumstances to live with a serial abuser, your first priority is survival. Your second priority is to find a way out, but it must at all costs succeed. So you wait and watch, learn habits, find the weaknesses in the "system," and wait for the right opportunity.

There is huge pressure to succeed on the first try at escape, not only because they will beat you up or kill you if you fail, but, because they will have learned from the experience as well and that opening will be closed off for good.

Tansy_Gold

(18,167 posts)
61. And we don't know yet
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:31 PM
May 2013

If in fact they did make earlier attempts that ended in failure.

Plus there are the circumstances that one of the victims was only 14, the other just a day short of 17, so their powers of rational thought were still immature, and their terror magnified proportionately. What "we" might do as adults in similar circumstances can't be compared fairly to what a terrified and terrorized 14-year-old would do.

But I think it speaks to the enormous power of the human spirit that these three women did survive, and that Amanda Berry not only survived and helped her fellow captives escape, but that she -- like Jaycee Dugard -- became a mother and actually raised a child under those circumstances.

Unless a person has experienced something even remotedly similar, they really have no right to say what Amanda or Gina or Michelle "might have" or "should have" or "could have" done. They survived, and now they're free. No one should expect any more.

JI7

(93,615 posts)
70. and wasn't one of them 14 when it happened, they are women now
Wed May 8, 2013, 06:02 PM
May 2013

and i think amanda berry was 17 so just before or around the time she is really becoming a woman.

they refer to them as women but they were not really women when they were first kidnapped.

think of all the changes you go through during those ages in your life . you are just starting to experience and see things in a way different from when you were a kid.

 

Kelvin Mace

(17,469 posts)
33. Interesting
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:47 PM
May 2013

They say there is no record of a call in the police database. I wonder if anyone will search the 911 call, which is usually a different database.

 

Kelvin Mace

(17,469 posts)
38. The neighbors say
Wed May 8, 2013, 12:59 PM
May 2013

they called police to report naked women in dog collars in the backyard of the house. These days when people say they call the police, they usually mean 911. Also, phone records of the neighbors will probably show an 911 call being made, since these calls are tracked and retained by the phone company.

If the police are lying, this will go badly for them.

 

Laura PourMeADrink

(42,770 posts)
39. thanks...hadn't heard that. Only that the police did respond once and no one
Wed May 8, 2013, 01:10 PM
May 2013

answered the door. duh

tammywammy

(26,582 posts)
83. According to this article the women only went outside twice and neither
Wed May 8, 2013, 09:02 PM
May 2013

was what the neighbors described.

http://www.reuters.com/article/2013/05/09/us-usa-missing-ohio-idUSBRE94600620130509

Authorities said the women recalled leaving the house twice, only to go to the garage on the small lot, when they were disguised in wigs and hats.



I am personally going to wait for more information before assuming the police or the neighbors are lying.

riverwalker

(8,694 posts)
59. increased activity now at house
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:21 PM
May 2013

initially they said no human remains found. Reporters are now saying a sudden increase in activity, the cadaver dogs are back, FBI evidence recovery teams arrived, people with shovels.

riverwalker

(8,694 posts)
62. checking abandoned house 2 doors down
Wed May 8, 2013, 04:43 PM
May 2013

Sara Shookman‏@SaraShookman 22m
Now FBI teams with mag lights going inside 2221 Seymour -- the abandoned house two houses to the west.

Sara Shookman‏@SaraShookman 34m
Shovels and rakes removed from white evidence van. Crews in white evidence suits walking down the driveway.

Sara Shookman‏@SaraShookman 37m
Hard to tell but seem to be in backyard, not inside the house?














 

toby jo

(1,269 posts)
64. The Cleveland Chief of Police was on the news this morning saying that they had no
Wed May 8, 2013, 05:07 PM
May 2013

recorded calls coming in about "that address".

So somebody is off in their recollections.

As for punishments, they'll get what they deserve where they're going. It'll be more sweet than the death penalty.

pnwmom

(110,260 posts)
81. Now the police are saying only one brother was actually involved.
Wed May 8, 2013, 08:43 PM
May 2013

The other two were released with no charges.

truegrit44

(332 posts)
87. I have a question?
Wed May 8, 2013, 11:16 PM
May 2013

Has anyone heard how Ariel Castro was caught? It seemed he was arrested very quickly and wondering if they found him at the location Amanda thought he was or did they grab him upon returning? I mean if he was coming up the street and saw a zillion cop cars in front of his house it would be a real tip off as to what had happened. Did he try to run or just walk up and say "hey what's going on here?"

Just curious????

truegrit44

(332 posts)
88. Just answered my own question
Thu May 9, 2013, 01:27 AM
May 2013

can't reply to myself but he was arrested at the McDonalds where he went to get food.

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