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Sexual Harassment Is A Grassroots Political Movement
By Amanda Marcotte
Thursday, June 13, 2013 11:17 EDT
One of the biggest misconceptions out there about sexual harassment is that its mostly intended as a kind of flirting, an attempt by the harasser to get positive attention and maybe even consensual sex. If you believe that, youre much more likely to be hoodwinked by pro-harassment arguments about how innocent men are getting castigated, thrown out of conferences and bars, blocked on Twitter, etc. because they are either socially inept (Aspergers is often trotted out as an excuse) or because hypersensitive bitches are freaking out because they love to play the victim. (Enjoy my take on this misogynist stereotype at the Daily Beast.) The reality is that harassment is usually about, well, harassing someone. Its often disguised as flirting, but only so the harasser can (oh irony) play the part of the victimized innocent when his target pushes back. Disguising it as flirting also helps draw out the harassment, because the target often doesnt want to be painted as hypersensitive and so she can be coerced with that into playing along and pretending shes being flirted with when she and the harasser both know that hes pushing her boundaries to get the pleasure of making her uncomfortable. Sometimes harassment is its own reward for harassers.
http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/06/13/sexual-harassment-is-a-grassroots-political-movement/
The Magistrate
(95,247 posts)An interesting and useful take on the subject.
MattBaggins
(7,904 posts)They do it, as you said, to see if they can get a rise. To see how far they can get and then turn the tables on the victim.
It is often a form of bullying.
annabanana
(52,791 posts)even been on the edges of the receiving end of that kind of "attention".
antigone382
(3,682 posts)This part especially:
This interaction doesnt demonstrate that the man sending the unsolicited cock shot is profoundly stupid or socially inept, but the opposite: Hes extremely well-versed in the unspoken rules of social interaction. Hes particularly aware of the profound pressure that women are under to play along and pretend that harassment is flirting for fear of being accused of hypersensitivity. Indeed, he demonstrates this awareness by promptly reminding her of her obligation to play along to prove shes not hypersensitive. He also knows that women are supposed to be ashamed of being harassed and to try not to draw attention to it, and when she rejects that rule by sharing his tests with his mother, he is genuinely freaked out because shes not playing by the script that his probably countless other targets have. He doesnt ask her to stop for his mothers sake. He says, Thats not right. He knows that the unspoken rules state that women are to turn inward with shame when sexually harassed, and when someone said to hell with those rules, hea guy who sends unsolicited cock shots!becomes All About The Rules.
It very effectively refutes the idea that harrassers are just trolls better off ignored. They have an agenda which is extremely toxic to women. It must be fought at all costs.
chervilant
(8,267 posts)the actions of the POS who harassed me, and explains why I got my own branch at least six months prematurely.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)A guy who's reasonably respectful in his social interactions, and knows when to lay off, probably has nothing to worry about.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)I'm honored to have had her come on my show twice, most recently last week.
antigone382
(3,682 posts)DirkGently
(12,151 posts)... an "accident." Sexual bullying would be the simplest reduction. Most definitely incorporating an attitude that "I can do this to you, because I am more powerful than you."
JDPriestly
(57,936 posts)demeaning the person who is being harassed. She doesn't dare say anything because people will ask what she did to cause him to do what he did. The man doing the harassing gets a thrill out of feeling that he could if he wanted to embarrass the woman at any time,