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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsRemember when a chaplin and other people came to your house to tell you your husband was killed
in (wherever)?
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Military Spouse Notified of Death By Text: http://spousebuzz.com/blog/2012/02/military-spouse-notified-of-death-by-text.html
Family of Text Messaged Spouse Speaks Out: http://spousebuzz.com/blog/2012/02/family-of-text-messaged-spouse-speaks-out.html?comp=1198882887570&rank=2
How despicable.
atreides1
(16,067 posts)This can't be blamed on DoD or even the Army...this was done at the unit level.
Someone got the information and probably thought it was a good idea to send the wife a text.
So, let's not put the blame on the DoD...
ArcticFox
(1,249 posts)The black sedan was on its way, but too slow. News leaked back from the scene through social media. Should the military ban communications?
enlightenment
(8,830 posts)Including the updates.
The Army process has not changed - a soldier in the unit contacted a spouse back in the US and divulged the information to her, something the soldier was not supposed to do.
The spouse then sent a message to the wife of the dead soldier on Facebook. Again, this is something they are told they should NOT do because of the potential harm it can cause.
The Army did not 'send a text'.
unhappycamper
(60,364 posts)My point is this: If your husband is killed in the line of duty, it is the responsibility of the DoD to telll the family. In person. Period. No exceptions.
obamanut2012
(26,047 posts)DrDan
(20,411 posts)Octafish
(55,745 posts)And there should be no men and women in harm's way for oil or logistics or unnamed ally.
Not many seem to get that anymore.
obamanut2012
(26,047 posts)This was someone on the unit level being "thoughtful." Ugh. How clueless.
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Raven
(13,879 posts)When my husband was in Vietnam, I received a call from someone purporting to be from the Army telling me that my husband had been killed in action and that if I sent them $500 they would begin the process of bringing him home and making military funeral arrangements. Fortunately, back then there was a monthly publication put out by the Army called "Waiting Wives" which talked about scams and gave a number to call to verify things like this. I called and within hours the Army confirmed that my husband was alive and arranged a phone call from him to me.
I imagine that the scams are even worse today.
MadrasT
(7,237 posts)I am sorry that happened to you. That must have been awful.
Raven
(13,879 posts)looking bac, I'm surprised I had the presence of mind to make the call. But the Army took very good care of its families in those days and I remember the article said that we would always be notified in person.