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http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2465639/Rachael-Sacks-Wealthy-college-student-pens-essay-complaining-poor-people-making-feel-bad.htmlA 20-year-old New York college student is facing heaps of Internet scorn after she published an essay demanding that poor people stop making her feel bad because she's so rich.
Rachael Sacks describes how a cashier at her local grocery store in the affluent West Village neighborhood was unfriendly and frowned at her because she was carrying a large shopping bag from the high-end handbag designer Mulberry.
'I am sorry that I was born into great financial circumstances and my father likes to provide for me. I am sorry I dont have to go to a state school to save my parents money. What do you want from me?' she writes in an essay, published on Thursday, for Thought Catalog. m
'People shouldnt make others feel bad about their own personal finances. How people spend their money is their own choice.'
She continues: 'It just seems really petty and makes you look bitter and unhappy with your own life if you are casting nasty glares at college girls in Gristedes because youre a cashier.'
The 20-year-old then argues: 'Im not one of those people who try to be poor to relate to people.
'I think thats honestly really disgusting behavior, its as if youre saying that you have to make yourself into something you think is beneath you to get others to like you.'
She later claims she had no idea that she was rich while growing up because her family went to McDonalds and she wore clothes from Old Navy.
She added: 'I went to private school when I was younger and there would always be someone so much richer than me.
BluegrassStateBlues
(881 posts)hobbit709
(41,694 posts)she hasn't a clue as to what the real world is all about. She needs a severe whomping with the reality stick.
Warpy
(114,615 posts)She didn't choose to be born with a silver spoon up her ass, it just happened.
And nobody that age has much of a clue about this big, bad world. If they did, most of them would self destruct as rapidly and efficiently as possible.
At least she's aware of the rest of us, something that gives me hope that she'll catch a few more clues as she grows up. I've known too many of these people who are born into great wealth and never question it and who assume the rest of us are just as rich as they are, only we fritter it away making bad life choices. At least this one thinks about the fact that we are not all alike in circumstances.
I love this line of yours though.
And nobody that age has much of a clue about this big, bad world. If they did, most of them would self destruct as rapidly and efficiently as possible.
Pure awesome!
joeybee12
(56,177 posts)Someone needs to...well...show her the error of her ways...let's chip in and send her to Hell's Kitchen for a week.
JeffHead
(1,186 posts)



maxsolomon
(38,729 posts)Get used to hipster scorn, or don't flaunt wealth.
JHB
(38,213 posts)JaneyVee
(19,877 posts)bluesbassman
(20,384 posts)Sure has the right mindset.
eShirl
(20,259 posts)Just look a little deeper into the mirror, little girl.
steve2470
(37,481 posts)cali
(114,904 posts)Butterbean
(1,014 posts)Poor little dear will get her ass handed to her by life someday, and she'll reflect back on this essay and cringe, hopefully.
Cleita
(75,480 posts)everyone else does and she and her bag has nothing to do with it. When I cashiered I couldn't tell what you looked like or what you were wearing the minute I rang you up because I was concentrating on what you were buying and even if I looked at you for a moment, you were forgotten when the next customer stepped up. I think Lady Rita Rich was having feelings of guilt.
okieinpain
(9,397 posts)That the clerk would dare defend herself.
Jackpine Radical
(45,274 posts)She's the star in her own little drama, like most teenagers, and can't imagine that she's maybe not the focus of the attention of everyone around her.
yup
Shrike47
(6,913 posts)The narcissism is strong in this one.
yuiyoshida
(45,415 posts)"May you live in interesting times."
Why does she remind me of a TV character from some drama show? I don't watch television any longer, but this kind of attitude sure
rings a bell.
Marr
(20,317 posts)I hope she gets a lot of attention for this. Perfect poster girl for the cause.
1000words
(7,051 posts)Laelth
(32,017 posts)-Laelth
brer cat
(27,587 posts)ms liberty
(11,237 posts)Jamastiene
(38,206 posts)Well said.
SDjack
(1,448 posts)birth to rich parents.
Ikonoklast
(23,973 posts)Luck is a funny thing, it can desert one in a second, and never be found again.
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Old and In the Way
(37,540 posts)When this goes viral, she's going to have something to really be embarrassed about....
PeoViejo
(2,178 posts)Being Rich allows one to remain in whatever state or fantasy is desired. It never forces you to improve.
I had just purchased a used car, when a wealthy friend told me he was jealous. I asked him why and he replied that I had to dream and work to get the means to buy the car. All he had to do was ask his Grannie and she would pay for whatever he wanted. I know it's true, because we went shopping for a new car. All the big high-end names. His grandmother gave me a check for the new Porsche and asked me to pay for it, because my friend wasn't old enough to legally complete the transaction. He never had to Dream. Sad.
kcr
(15,522 posts)Before we get defenders, because everyone's being sooo mean to her! Much worse than anything she said! I seriously hope I'm wrong, because there's really nothing too mean that can be said about this spoiled, over-entitled worthless waste of space.
nxylas
(6,440 posts)By clicking on the link, you give traffic and advertising revenue to the Daily Mail, a fascist newspaper which is far worse than one spoiled rich brat.
alp227
(33,283 posts)http://gawker.com/rich-girl-not-going-to-pretend-shes-not-rich-just-to-m-1447199854
http://www.news.com.au/world-news/stop-hating-me-because-im-rich-new-york-college-student-rachael-sacks-write-essay/story-fndir2ev-1226742842325
http://www.theepochtimes.com/n3/322734-rachael-sacks-ny-student-draws-internet-notoriety-after-rich-girl-essay/
hfojvt
(37,573 posts)And mostly I agree with her. She does not deserve scorn from a cashier just for being rich. I think her dad is probably paying too much for college, but maybe that big investment WILL pay off. Lord knows my degrees from Minnesota and Nebraska state schools are seemingly not worth their weight in toilet paper.
I think the people who want to gratuitously hate on her either for being rich or for writing this blog post are probably worse people than she is.
Over-entoitled? I think she is just as entitled to a little common courtesy as anybody else is.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)and tactless, not to mention more than a bit narcissistic (though what college-age kid isn't?). Admittedly, she is an easy target for frustrated people whose lives probably suck. But as I said, a little humility goes a long way, and I hope she learns that.
GoCubsGo
(34,915 posts)Yuk.
Vincardog
(20,234 posts)Iggo
(49,928 posts)RedCappedBandit
(5,514 posts)Just wow. I could say a million things. Nothing seems adequate.
tenderfoot
(8,982 posts)deafskeptic
(463 posts)Johonny
(26,179 posts)n2doc
(47,953 posts)Hate will do that to you.
darkangel218
(13,985 posts)And is she drinking alcohol in those pics?
That's probably what aged her so quickly.
JI7
(93,617 posts)who is behaving like a teen.
jeff47
(26,549 posts)JI7
(93,617 posts)based on what she wrote.
Taverner
(55,476 posts)closeupready
(29,503 posts)yeah, sure, honey. Same how-can-the-world-not-revolve-around-me persecution complex.
name not needed
(11,665 posts)Breaking up with her was one of the happiest moments of my life.
The Velveteen Ocelot
(130,538 posts)Considering the neighborhood, she's just upper middle class. A $700K house, while nearly a mansion to most of us, is nothing very fancy in that part of town. Her father is a successful doctor, but he's nowhere near in the same league as, for example, a Manhattan hedge fund manager. He's not a Mitt Romney - he actually works for a living. I think this annoying little girl is trying to seem richer than she really is, and is therefore copping a super-rich ultra-snob attitude by defensively criticizing someone who she thinks is poor and who she thinks despises her for being rich. Which she really isn't.
name not needed
(11,665 posts)If she was as wealthy as her godawful excuse for a personality suggests, she sure as hell wouldn't be shopping at Gristede's.
deafskeptic
(463 posts)Like someone said earlier in this thread, you can't buy empathy. I've never had people react to me this way.
anneboleyn
(5,626 posts)a reaction from a "grocery store clerk" (or whatever "poor person" this girl imagines).
anneboleyn
(5,626 posts)compared to others -- she is upper middle class (as a dependent child of course -- she is not earning the money herself) NOT "rich" as the people you note. Her fantasy idea that she is "rich" compared to others shows how very, very silly and naive she is -- how she deduced that some poor clerk at a grocery store had it out for HER because of some stupid shopping bag she was carrying is very immature and narcissistic.
WorseBeforeBetter
(11,441 posts)I say that as someone who did *well* with a home just outside of DC on the Virginia side, and I was in no, way, shape or form a successful fertility doctor, like Daddy.
PragmaticLiberal
(932 posts)WorseBeforeBetter
(11,441 posts)PragmaticLiberal
(932 posts)Whisp
(24,096 posts)yah sure, that's only if you are loaded, if you are poor then even people on the so called left jump down your throat if you buy a chocolate bar or cola with food stamps. I've seen that here many times. I will read the rest of this thread in great interest, and with my memory.
Skittles
(171,716 posts)hoo boy
yuiyoshida
(45,415 posts)she is following 125 people and has 554 followers. I wonder how many she had lost?
https://twitter.com/RAnSacks
Note: this is interesting..she is following Hillary Clinton, KANYE WEST, Lindsay Lohan, Seth MacFarlane, ke$ha, oh ..and grey poupon.
Paulie
(8,464 posts)Leaning out the window of the Bentley.
kestrel91316
(51,666 posts)CTyankee
(68,202 posts)a life of demonizing and discounting the needs of poor people.
For her sake, and for society's sake, I hope misfortune befalls her and she gets a taste of what it is really like to live like the rest of society. It's the ONLY way, IMO...
uppityperson
(116,020 posts)haele
(15,402 posts)You will always have opportunity, and because your parents have liquidity, you will pretty much be able to do what you want and still be comfortable. You can meet people who have money, and you don't have to worry about very much in life. To use a common Baseball analogy - you started out on Third Base, so making it to adulthood got you "Home" very easily. You have all the equipment you need to go as far as you want. And that's okay, there's no problem with that - but it's also nothing special. It was "doable" for your parents. There was not a significant amount of hard work and sacrifice involved, you'd still do well even if you didn't go to private school and the Ivy League.
The people you are telling "don't be a hater" - some of them can't even get on the playing field, because there's a price just to get in. And no amount of savings, or working hard, or any of the other "why don't they just dos" you prate out at them will get them up to the batter's box. They don't have a chance to step up to the plate when it comes to the game of life.
Most of them would die of starvation or end up in jail to do what it takes to get into your world. Or sacrifice pretty much every possible comfort - especially social; friends and family - just to work to the position to get what you were given. The few that make it up there will still be outsiders for at least a generation or two if they can hold on long enough.
So yeah, they're going to be a bit pissed when you flash all your opportunities in their face, and tell them they're not working hard enough, making enough of a sacrifice to get what you have. Maybe, your parents had originally thought that eating at McDonald's or buying sensibly at Old Navy might teach you a bit of humility and manners, as well as give you an idea of how to live within whatever means you have.
Queen Bee attitude doesn't play very well, and makes marks on your face as well as your soul. You're going to look 40 pretending to be younger by the time you're 25 with that sort of attitude.
BTW, a working family that shops at Dollar General and Goodwill, and requires Head Start to watch their kids and hopefully teach them something so that both parents can work whatever jobs are out there to put food on the table and keep a roof over their heads doesn't care one bit that Muffy Bannister-Frobisher who's dad is a VP at Goldman Sachs got her clothes at Saks and teased you about that at that private school you went into...
Haele
DonCoquixote
(13,961 posts)Ms. Sacks, keep in mind, when you were waering that bag, you were not just a rich person, you were a rich person buying a rich person's product that was meant to scream in big neon "I am rich and you are not!" There are many people that could probably buy you and your daddy, but they do not buy such things, as they know that these symbols are for the Noveau Riche that tries to appear classy, not those who have actual class, which leads to a wonderful segue.
'Im not one of those people who try to be poor to relate to people. "
No, you should focus on relating to PEOPLE, period. Hopefully, you will NOT learn this lesson as the Billionaires that hate your father tear away your wealth, as mercilessly as they did ours.
Cleita
(75,480 posts)a selection of clothes and accessories to their homes for them to try on and choose. Fancy, dancy Rodeo Drive type stores are more than happy to accommodate them because they know it can result in thousands upon thousands of dollars in sales.
anneboleyn
(5,626 posts)deafskeptic
(463 posts)The Velveteen Ocelot
(130,538 posts)who wants to seem truly rich by flaunting her shopping bags from upscale stores and hoping people will notice them so she can take the opportunity to look down on them because she thinks they resent her wealth. What they actually resent is her attitude.
You know, somebody could make a lot of money just selling shopping bags carrying the names of fancy stores. Fake rich people could hide their K-Mart purchases in those bags and then sashay around town taking umbrage at the assumed resentment of the pathetic proles who (they think) envy them.
theHandpuppet
(19,964 posts)"... its as if youre saying that you have to make yourself into something you think is beneath you to get others to like you.' "
Dreamer Tatum
(10,996 posts)Kingofalldems
(40,278 posts)Seriously.
aikoaiko
(34,214 posts)And then more DUers would defend her.
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)duffyduff
(3,251 posts)NealK
(7,162 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)She admits her father did that and is just providing for her. Somehow that rubs me even more the wrong way.
SammyWinstonJack
(44,316 posts)dad is rich and she is being provided for.
Maybe she projected a superior attitude and that's why the cashier was unfriendly and frowned at her, not because she was carrying a high end handbag.
Poor little rich girl.
PETRUS
(3,678 posts)MuseRider
(35,176 posts)taught her well. Another 1%er unleashed upon the rest of us.
Trillo
(9,154 posts)humans vs. corporations.
Why am I not surprised.
deutsey
(20,166 posts)She's an attention whore, apparently.
hamsterjill
(17,577 posts)Her parents are Republicans, right???!!! LOL
I bet they are just SO proud!
What a smug little bitch.
emsimon33
(3,128 posts)MrModerate
(9,753 posts)When I was 20, the Internet didn't exist and my moronic behaviors weren't shared with the entire world.
For which I am profoundly grateful.
TNNurse
(7,541 posts)She could use some life lessons.
Clearly money can not buy everything. It cannot buy class, manners, dignity, empathy.....or even a kind heart.
gtar100
(4,192 posts)Well that's one way to spur on emotional growth. Say exactly what you think and then drink in the responses. I hope she learns from this. It's not her fault she was born with parents who couldn't teach her to live in the real world. But if she has just a smidgen of an open heart, she may figure it out (I'm an optimist in the long run).
Bernardo de La Paz
(60,320 posts)She seems to have written three Kindle "books":
http://www.amazon.com/Boss-A-Story-Romantic-Misadventures-ebook/dp/B0078Y5HWC
Then he could gloat in my face about how good he was and how I would never amount to anything. Also I was afraid I might go ape s**t if he won the tournament and completely embarrass myself or excrete some form of female ejaculate on my nice new purchases from Urban Outfitters.
A story about falling in love for the ugliest duckling of all, actually more like a piglet. What happens when you open your heart to embarrassment only to be brutally rejected by a fat**s who has like two friends. Because in the Land of the free... A**holes will reign.
Literally the most offensive novel I have ever read. - Everyone
http://www.amazon.com/Quixotic-Rachael-Sacks-ebook/dp/B009JYEEPA
http://www.amazon.com/Elektrik-Lesboland-Rachael-Sacks-ebook/dp/B006ZUR3EU
Publication Date: January 19, 2012
A young femme's journey to Adulthood told through poems.
Product Details
File Size: 393 KB
Print Length: 14 pages
Ken Burch
(50,254 posts)Sounds like she needs to get to her gyno, immediately. EWWWWWW!!!!!!
Tikki
(15,140 posts)A republican lady once lamented to me that she couldn't find powered eggs on the grocery
store shelf because all the welfare mothers had been given all the powered eggs.
Tikki
valerief
(53,235 posts)ejpoeta
(8,933 posts)but my guess is it was probably perceived by the customer rather than real. Personally I would rather grow up without all that money because then you learn how to survive without it. That's how we got through all those years of hard times. I bet if that girl lost it all tomorrow she'd be screwed. No thanks. There are more important things than money. All I ever wish for is enough to pay my bills and maybe a little extra so I can do some things.
Martin Eden
(15,629 posts)That's the statement that really justifies the scorn being heaped upon her.
MADem
(135,425 posts)elleng
(141,926 posts)Get over it, just be nice.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)And succeeding.
onpatrol98
(1,989 posts)To be honest...she sounds depressed and unhappy. Someone should be getting her some counseling, seriously. She is definitely doing some nasty acting out...but, it really does seem like attention seeking behavior. That girl has issues. Her folks need to find her some counseling.
I think there is a lot of despair hanging on her. Rich and nasty...yes. But, with mega issues.
Catherine Vincent
(34,610 posts)I think she likes the attention.
Uncle Joe
(65,137 posts)and also if it was a scornful look, perhaps due to a snobbish attitude versus the product she was buying.
As a side note, Why does she have the American Flag sticking out of her vulva?
Thanks for the thread, Liberal_in_LA.
kestrel91316
(51,666 posts)I thought that was perfectly obvious.
gopiscrap
(24,733 posts)but way more than that...she needs to do something to help them!!!
mia
(8,480 posts)You would think the same way if you walked in her shoes.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)Frankly, I can't fault her for her perfect execution of a social media play.
Initech
(108,783 posts)
rrneck
(17,671 posts)there have been times and places you'd get your ass kicked for being rich.
complain jane
(4,302 posts)was frowny because of her or the kind of bag she was carrying? News flash - the world doesn't revolve around your whiny ass no matter how rich you are, or how preoccupied you are with it.
Catherine Vincent
(34,610 posts)If there are glares. Some people are
complain jane
(4,302 posts)Exactly. Or maybe the cashier was stuck working ot when she didn't expect to be. Or was dealing with something else entirely. Sounds like the chick writing the essay was a little defensive.
DeSwiss
(27,137 posts)
- Well, there you have it -- in a nutshell. It's a pity anyone could grow up to be so ignorant and inhuman. Her ilk will be the first to go in the collapse.
The one thing Freud got right, was the one about the slips.....
K&R
alp227
(33,283 posts)yurbud
(39,405 posts)nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)But I must say that a little humility goes a long way. One life lesson she'll hopefully learn at some point.
jmowreader
(53,194 posts)We would like for you to stop acting like an asshole. Because you are, dear.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)The persecution-complex thing is way overdone. Nobody I've known in my life, no matter how "humble" their background, actively despised "rich kids" just for being rich. The ones who were despised also happened to be whiny, snobby, and generally clueless about the world around them.
leeroysphitz
(10,462 posts)B Calm
(28,762 posts)a month or so.
indepat
(20,899 posts)would have stamped out.
Lady Freedom Returns
(14,198 posts)I think it was her general attitude that was getting the glares.
Robb
(39,665 posts)NYC Liberal
(20,453 posts)Just a hunch.
Dash87
(3,220 posts)nyquil_man
(1,443 posts)1. Her guilt is her own problem.
2. She has no personal finances.
Bad Thoughts
(2,657 posts)This sounds too made up to be true. There are many wealthy people in Manhattan, whom ordinary workers encounter all the time. I doubt anyone would make this woman feel that badly.
Ken Burch
(50,254 posts)But in her case, it would have helped big time.
pitbullgirl1965
(564 posts)FOB= Fresh Off the Boat. Asian immigrants. She's ugly inside and out.
liberalmuse
(18,881 posts)You don't need to "relate" to poor people. They are human, just like you. Being rich does not make you "above" anyone else. You might be able to buy more meaningless shit, but that is about it.