I lost my mom on Saturday..........
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Longish illness. Moved her from her home to mine so I could take care of her and help keep her with me for as long as I could.
Have been scarce on DU because of this - but gladly.
I'm going to miss her terribly and right now, at this moment, it's difficult to think I can carry on.
Her last wish was for me and my family to "Be Happy" and in time, I hope to be able to do just that.
Thanks everyone.
She and I a few years ago.
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them every day you can.
Show them your love while they are here and can appreciate it.
I'm grateful for the time we had - so many can not.
I hope you find peace and in time are able to remember her with joy.
and thank you for your words.
Losing a mom is way too painful 
She loved you and your family. Glad you were able to be with her and hear her wishes.
Tikki
I send you hugs and a condolances.
peace and healing to you and your family
But I know we will eventually.
My parents have both passed and I know how hard it is to lose them. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers
Not to mention excellent advice. It's the only ambition I've ever really had for my own kids.
She sounds like a splendid lady. In time you will lose much of the sadness you feel now and it will be replaced by fond memories and the feeling of having been fortunate to have had a great mom for as long as you did.
It sure sounds like you did your very best for her. How fortunate for her to have someone that cared that much!
Hugs and encouragement to you my dear!
Julie
I hope so - seems I'vebeen just bursting into tears for months already and her death just takes me over the edge.
My daughter and I sat down one night when neither of us could sleep and remembered some of the nutty, funny, "ooooh mom/Nana" moments. After the laughter, the tears.
I can not stop second guessing myself right now - did I do this or that right, give her enough medicines, shall I call in a nurse now or wait a day..........sigh. I just wish those thoughts would stop.
I loved her so much and I welcome her spirit around me.
Thanks Julie.....
Please take care of yourself too in these hard days....
and loved your Mom. May the memories of all the good times help to ease the sadness .
You can carry on, and she will always be with you...
Sending hugs.
And her wish for you and your family will come true, though it might be hard to imagine that now.
What a wonderful way for her to depart.
Hope you and your family are left with many memories of her to cherish.
And, if you have children of your own, both of you have set a great example on how to care for and to depart from a parent.
You can be happy by thinking of her when she was at her best. Remember her smiling and trying to make you laugh, and laugh for her in remembrance. Then you'll both be happy. My heartfelt condolences.
Props for making time to be with your mom, and thanks for letting us know.
you find comfort in the memories you cherish.
I will be thinking of you, too. I hope you're doing as well as could be expected after such a terrible loss.
I lost my mom six years ago, and I think about her everyday.
... my deepest condolences for your loss. You will learn to be happy again and your memories of her will always be with you.
You're both very beautiful!
She reminds me of my mother. It's painful when you lose them. Hugs.
Have been without my parents for a while now. I still get broken up at times, but it gets better.
who have lost their parent(s) in the past.............I hug you all and I feel your pain, I honestly to truly do and I am so sorry.
I'm having a difficult time keeping up with all of your responses so I want each and every one of you to know that I do thank you and appreciate you all for holding me up when I'm so down in the dirt.
The company that brought her all her medical equipment and her bed are here to pick them up and take them away. The room she was in will soon be empty and a fresh set of tears and weeping have begun again.
I love you all that make up DU. You are a special bunch, just know that.
I'll be checking in again in a few hours............
I can see from the kindness in her beautiful (really remarkably beautiful) eyes that she meant every bit of that last wish for you and your family. It's too soon now, of course, but there will be a time when you can think of her and make that wish come true instead of being overcome by sadness.
I am so sorry for your loss.
Such a tremendous loss. You'll find a tremendous sympathy here.
Save this thread. In time, you'll go back and re-read the posts. It will be comforting. It will keep comforting you and reminding you that there's just a ton of love and support here - available to you. I remember when my mom died, how I posted about it here just briefly. I was AMAZED, through that night, how many posts came. How many people weighed in. How many DUers here wanted to share and sympathize and comfort. How many people wanted to reach out to me. I will NEVER forget that. I will always be grateful. It meant so much, and it helped me get through that time. It will buoy you up as well.
Very sorry for your loss. Even in those miserable cases when you know it's coming, that really doesn't make it any easier. Perhaps what's most helpful to realize (certainly was for me) is that you need never feel as though you're mourning alone. Many of us have been through this and fully understand and appreciate where you are at this moment. Someone is always here. And it doesn't matter that you've never met. They're here and they care, and they've got mighty big shoulders available to lean on.
Peace...
My thoughts are with you and your family.
you two are beautiful and as a mother I figure she meant what she said... "Be Happy" the memories are so sweetMay all your memories of your time together be gentle.
Even when the death of a parent comes as a release, it's another break in our own link to the past and our history. I'm so sorry for your loss.
I'm sorry for your loss.
I know the pain you are feeling... I lost both of my parents in 2011 within 5 weeks of each other.
Every day I think of them and oftentimes, I'll see or hear something and say to myself, "I have to tell Mom about this!" then realize once again, that I can't. I saved all of my voicemails from her so I can remember what her voice sounded like, though one never forgets their mother's voice. Now the pain is diminished but lies just under the surface. I don't think that the pain ever really goes away, but it gets easier to cope with. I remember the times she was so funny, or laughing, and thank her for all she did for me, and am glad I was able to be with her in her last months.... and that all the pain and indignity of her condition is over. That has helped me to let go of my own suffering, and in time, it will help you too, even though I know that you may be feeling awfully ragged emotionally right now. Hang on to the good memories and don't beat yourself up wondering what else you could have done for her. Remember her smile, her laugh, her voice and stay appreciative that you had her for as long as you did.
I wish you peace. Remember we are all here for you.
All of my best during this sorrowful time. 
I've lost both my parents and many members of my family. All who have known loss understand each other.
yourself
May your memories sustain you now and always.
I'm so sorry.
TYY
that's a lovely picture of you two. My heart goes out to you!
It is a difficult time. Please take good care of yourself. If you need a virtual shoulder to cry on, we are here for you.
What a beautiful picture. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family
Thank you for sharing the lovely picture of you and your dear mother. I hope fond memories of your mom will bring you comfort.
She'll last forever in your heart and soul.
I know a couple of things about losing our Moms.. it's devastating and reallly really hard, but she would want you to be strong as you can and in time the pain gets less enveloping.
RIP nc4bo's mom
It's been two years for me, lost my mother in 2011 because of an accident during Hurricane Irene, and I certainly can understand your feelings. I'm still sometimes shocked when it hits me. But you can take comfort in that you were there when she needed you and the best that you can still do for her is fulfill her wishes and be happy. And that is such a lovely photo... Thank you for sharing it with your DU family.
lovely, the two of you. I am so sorry for your loss.
I lost mine in June and posted here similarly to you, and found great comfort in the support of fellow DU'ers. I hope you are able to find the same here and in the comfort of those closest to you. Wonderful picture of you both as well.