Shithead of the Year:Men’s rights activist explains why it’s OK to not care about female rape victim

[bluesbassman]

The leader of an online men’s right group defended comments made by his hand-picked successor, who said he lacked empathy for rape victims.

Paul Elam, founder of the website A Voice For Men, complained that feminists had conspired to underreport incidences of male rape and promote the victimhood of female rape victims.

“I don’t find it particularly hyperbolic for a man to say, ‘I’m not gonna give a damn about female rape victims anymore,’” Elam said in a video posted Sunday on YouTube. “They have tons of money, of law enforcement, of special programs funded by the government, of social consciousness – schools have Take Back The Night rallies, everything you can possibly think of.”

Elam was responding to a profile published Sunday by The Daily Beast about John “The Other” Hembling, who was quoted as saying in a video that he didn’t “give a f*** about rape victims anymore.”
http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/10/23/mens-rights-activist-explains-why-its-ok-to-not-care-about-female-rape-victims/

This is absolutely outrageous. These two "men" need STFU. I'm all for free speech, but this kind of misogynistic bullshit adds nothing to any discussion. Hell, for these two I'd support the return of public flogging.

[Egnever]

1. I would never wish rape on anyone

but this guy makes me think about it. I bet his tune would change pretty fast if it happened to him.

I would be willing to bet there is a woman somewhere that has had an incident with this turd.

[bluesbassman]

4. Agreed.

To make such a callous statement indicates issues much deeper than his feelings of being "harmed" politically and socially by feminism. I doubt these two had much credibility to begin with, but they're below zero now IMO.

[Glorfindel]

2. Disgusting. Don't these guys have any female relatives?

How would they feel if their mother, daughter, sister, aunt, niece, or cousin was raped?

[Demeter]

28. Most likely divorced, PPO'd and disowned

That lack of empathy shows up in everything I've ever seen from these people, no matter who it is.

They are so self-absorbed in THEIR rights, nobody else deserves any consideration.

Hope they like talking to themselves.

[Rex]

3. How disgusting.

Those two knuckledraggers best head back into their sad little man caves, before karma comes a'knockin.

[Blue_Tires]

5. Strange that it comes right on the heels of this story:

‘Vice’ co-founder Gavin McInnes explodes at woman who claims she can be childless and happy

http://www.rawstory.com/rs/2013/10/23/vice-co-founder-gavin-mcinnes-explodes-at-woman-who-claims-she-can-be-childless-and-happy/

[joeybee12]

6. Who is this guy? What is Vice?

Series-ly, other than it's clear he's an asshole, I've never heard of him or Vice before.

[PasadenaTrudy]

23. Here ya go...

http://www.vice.com/en_us

[NuclearDem]

24. Vice is an otherwise decent magazine that does some pretty good reporting and profiles.

From what I've read from them, the opinion of this guy doesn't seem entirely reflective of the paper.

It also used to be a pop culture magazine before they shifted to more serious news.

[nomorenomore08]

29. McInnes also hasn't been associated with Vice for a number of years.

And their turn toward serious journalism has been mostly since Shane Smith took over.

[frylock]

35. who?

never heard of this idiot.

[City Lights]

7. What a guy!

[HappyMe]

8. Good grief!

King of the asshat idiots.

[Dash87]

9. This guy is an absolute arse. I would go flame him again, but I'm banned from his channel.

The funny part is, he puts these videos up, but everyone has to agree with him.

[Scuba]

10. Those asshats don't speak for this man.

[HappyMe]

11. It is important to point out

that these extreme assholes don't speak for all men.

[bluesbassman]

15. Good point HappyMe.

I am not involved in the "men's rights" movement in any way, but I can at least grant that there may be some issues they pursue that are worthy of discussion. However, statements like the one this jerk made are beyond the pale and should be denounced by all men as the misogynistic and hurtful garbage that it is.

So yeah, they don't speak for all men, but hopefully the ones who listen to them are repulsed by this and look to other sources.

[daleanime]

22. True, but personally....

I can't think of these assholes as men. Firmly in the subhuman category as far as I'm concerned.

[HappyMe]

25. Yeah, I'm not sure

who or what would like to claim them.

[riqster]

12. Those asshats aren't men.

A chromosomal similarity doesn't make them so. They're an evolutionary throwback, and clearly haven't yet been thrown back far enough.

[Squinch]

13. These guys are so desperate and terrified. It's like it's oozing off them.

[Skittles]

17. exactly what I think

skeered little shits, yes?

[geek tragedy]

14. Scratch an MRA, and a seething woman-hating rape apologist bleeds nt

[Triana]

16. Being jealous that female victims seem to have more alleged "protection" or "resources" is no reason

not to care about them. Unless you lack empathy for women to begin with - in which case the problem is with you, not female rape victims.

[bullwinkle428]

18. Oh, Jesus - this part takes the cake for sure :

"Hembling defended himself in another lengthy video posted Tuesday on A Voice For Men, saying he was intentionally playing up his “super-villain” tendencies as an attempt at humor."

translation : "SEE? I WAS JUST MAKING A JOKE!! WHY CAN'T EVERYONE LIGHTEN UP??"

[NuclearDem]

19. If they're seriously upset over male rape, then they should join us feminists.

Rape culture is dangerous and detrimental to men as well. Fighting it means fighting it when men are assaulted as well.

Though I figure they're actually more interested in hating women than actually fixing the problems.

[BainsBane]

21. Exactly. Rape is a horrific crime, regardless of the gender of the victim.

I don't believe for a minute they are concerned about male rape victims. As you note, the MRAsma's primary impulse is hatred of women, nothing more.

[ismnotwasm]

20. It's typical behavior for MRA's

They started out a number of years back as help for custody cases-- my husband, who ended up with custody of his two daughters, received legal aid from one of those early groups. I remember walking in the office with wife and the paralegal saying "what did the c*** do now?"

Given the beginnings it's not surprising they evolved into hate groups.

[PeteSelman]

26. Nobody HAS to care about anything.

But you don't usually trumpet your indifference, particularly on such sensitive subjects.

These guys are obviously complete and utter assholes.

[tblue]

27. Elam = Male backwards

Wonder if that's his real name.

[yuiyoshida]

36. interesting catch...

[Warren DeMontague]

38. If it was, it would be a staggering coincidence.

[WinkyDink]

30. Yeah, that Sandusky story got no publicity.

[Wait Wut]

31. I should have read this before lunch.

I'm honestly sickened.

[Liberal_in_LA]

32. wow

[Jack Rabbit]

33. Do these fellows long for the good old days?

Y'know, when a man clubbed a prospective mate and dragged her by her hair back to his cave?

Mr. Elam may still be living in a cave. Does anybody have his address?

[rivegauche]

34. More sobbing from the poor white male victim school.

Oh will the drama never end?

[dakdirty]

37. As a father of two girls

And brother to 3 sisters, I can only be completely disgusted. I find it ironic and ultimately very odd that the "men's rights" movement seems to be spearheaded by members of the most privileged group in all of history, white men. Insanity.

[stevenleser]

39. K&R, bookmark for HOS nt