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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsScorned women expose mistresses on ‘homewrecker’ website
Scorned wives and girlfriends looking to publicly shame and call out the "other woman" have plenty of places to go online, but one site in particular has been getting a lot of attention.
She's A Homewrecker is like a modern-day scarlet letter or a cyber-burn book. The controversial website, which is about a year old, gives jilted lovers a forum to posting pictures and private information about the "homewreckers," who are commonly referred to by all kinds of colorful names.
Sometimes the mistress home address or phone number is given along with her full name, while the person accusing them remains anonymous.
Read more: http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/homewrecker-website-exposes-shames-mistresses-article-1.1511054#ixzz2kHbDCUFd
bemildred
(90,061 posts)NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)I'm guessing that the information posted would have to be false for the poster to be sued, though.
bemildred
(90,061 posts)With enough money you can sue anybody for anything, as many times as you like too.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)Bay Boy
(1,689 posts)...or may not be provably true.
Let's say I call someone a 'prostitute'. I say that because I paid her for sex. Then I post on-line that "Susie is a prostitute" and she sues me for slander/libel. I now have to prove, in a court of law, that Susie does indeed take money in exchange for sex. It no longer matters if it is true or not.
Disclaimer: I did not give Susie money for sex.
DanTex
(20,709 posts)Wouldn't Susie have to prove that she doesn't take money for sex in order to prove that you are guilty of libel?
If you say something you need to have proof that it's true, or at least substantially true, or at least that it was understandable for you to think it. It's almost impossible to prove a negative, so libel would be pretty legal otherwise. And people are legally responsible for what they post and for it being at least generally factual. It doesn't have to be proven to be 100% true, but there does have to be at least some truth to it.
tina tron
(160 posts)That the information is false and that it damaged your reputation financial or otherwise.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)I was just talking about the issue of truth.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)but not their husbands.
Bay Boy
(1,689 posts)..but you are right that most of the blames should be on the cheating spouse.
raccoon
(31,110 posts)malaise
(268,994 posts)laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)No really, I'm guessing a lot of women do this because they still have to deal with their ex because of kids and child support/alimony and so on. They don't have to deal with the 'other woman' one on one. So it's okay to trash them. And I'm guess in 90-something percent of the time the ex does nothing to stick up for his new girlfriend so there's no blowback to deal with. It's easier to attack the other woman.
BTW in my case, my ex gets the full brunt of my anger but I don't leave the other woman blameless - who the fuck thinks it's okay to sleep with a guy who is married and has 4 kids? I'm sure he lied and said his marriage was horrible (something he neglected to even hint about when we were together, and always acted as if he was madly in love with me) but still...sometimes these women need to be held accountable too. Not sure this website is the way to do it but if were 2-3 years ago and I knew about this website....well, let's just say lucky for her I'm past the rage. I think.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)He should get equal shaming.
petronius
(26,602 posts)are 'the other man.' The person who came up with this sleazy business plan wasn't going to miss out on any opportunity to cash in...
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)How do they make money? Do they charge a fee for people to post this stuff, or do they have advertising?
petronius
(26,602 posts)buy a banner...
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)Maybe they would stop advertising so much on TV. Those are the most annoying commercials.
VanillaRhapsody
(21,115 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)folks: don't cheat on your spouse. Just don't. If you are unhappy, make an honest split and get separated. Then get your divorce. End of story.
JVS
(61,935 posts)JustAnotherGen
(31,823 posts)There used to be a site like that called don't date him girl - don't know if it's still around. But it wasn't just husbands - ex boyfriends were fair game too.
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)I read a few of them, there is a lot of people who apparently have unaddressed mental illness, or who need immediate counseling who participate in that website.
It's really sad to see a lot of those posts. It is also incredibly sad to see how people seem to assign blame for the actions of both parties involved.
Really nothing about that website is okay.
Horribly frustrating to look at.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)I just read the story, but yeah, it seems kind of creepy. Strange times we live in.
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)I really women would not throw other women under the bus so easily.
I realize I may get it for that comment.
chowder66
(9,068 posts)or is being lied to that there is a separation? The ramifications are terrible all around. Obviously an affair can have disastrous and have long term effects on the family, friends and children.
But I don't think it's right to put more hurt out in the world. It's one thing to vent and use aliases but
the possibilities of very long term effects on the mistresses like jobs, bullying long after, chlldren that might be involved and
suicide are all issues that give me deep concern about this kind of call out.
pipi_k
(21,020 posts)to me three times.
First time I was 17...he was 25. I guess I sort of suspected, but didn't really give it much thought. I was a kid...
Second time I was almost 19. That time I came right out and asked him if he was married. He lied straight to my face and said no. I only found out about the lie when his wife found my number and called to tell me he was married. I apologized and told her I had no idea. She was really nice about it. I never saw him again.
Third time I was 34. The guy wasn't married, but did have a girlfriend back home in a town about 40 miles away (he was in a "program" and went home on weekends). Again, I only found out about her when she called to tell me that he had a girlfriend. She told me I could have him...I guess he had done it many times before. I told her I didn't want him, thanks all the same. She wasn't pissed off at me.
Then...then... there was my first husband, who couldn't seem to stop himself from cheating...even with one of my own sisters. But anyway, one particularly bizarre incident happened when I was pregnant with my third child and got a visit from one of his girlfriends to tell me he was cheating on me AND her with another one. Yeah, just the kind of stress a pregnant lady needs...
Anyway, scumdogs are just scumdogs, and sometimes the "other woman" has no idea and even gets lied to.
That's a lot! I feel like even if a mistress knew... the wife or significant other should probably handle it in the fashion the women did in your stories.
I can't see the point in revenge. It just drags everything out. Also, the internet shouldn't fully replace coping skills especially when more damage can be done that reaches far beyond "having a word" with someone.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)who said that she had already gotten some rough comments and phone calls was willing to be interviewed and phtographed by the reporter.
chowder66
(9,068 posts)has an interview with her which she says she was lied to that the married man was separated and now it is ruining job opportunities.
http://on.aol.com/video/woman-says--homewrecker--site-is-costing-her-opportunities-518005698
I'm sure there are those that are fame-seekers but she seems to be willing to go on camera to make her point. She crys and says how sorry she is even though she was lied to. Is she being fully honest? It's not up to me to judge really but she seems honest enough. But more so is making a point I have great concern over and that is, women who are lied to and then exposed.
What stops someone from posting about other women they are just jealous of or "suspect" are flirting or having affairs.
I don't see where this stops and I don't see where this is for any greater good. The "founder" who goes by an alias says it's supposed to make women think before cheating and yet again, who says these "cheating women" know they are "cheating" if the husband/sig. other lies to them?
I'm not against women finding comfort but this is not the way to deal/cope with it. It doesn't really make them any better than the person who is cheating (husband or mistress). It's just more hurt all around.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)"The 29-year-old told Nightline that she ended her affair with a married man after she became pregnant with his child and realized that he was never going to leave his wife. She said she reached out to her lover's wife and apologized multiple times."
Is the aol interview from the Nightline segment the story mentioned?
chowder66
(9,068 posts)"Three years after she says her affair with a married man ended 29-year-old dana scott found her name and location plastered on the site. I remember thinking, okay, he is married, but he is, kind of flirty.
And at some point he tried to kiss me. That's when he told me he was actually, you know, separated. And they were talking divorce.
Reporter: Did you think he was going to leave her for you?
That is what he told me.
Reporter: But he didn't leave."
http://abcnews.go.com/Nightline/video/shesahomewreckercom-revenge-website-targets-alleged-mistresses-20825556
So she knew he was married but he said they were separated and talking divorce. She could have waited but who knows what else this guy was telling her.
I'm thinking about situations like this and others; like women who are jealous, who have an agenda, who are paranoid and vengeful.
Who stops them from saying some innocent woman they dislike is having an affair with so and so. It's just a terrible idea in my opinion.
In the end though, it makes you actually wonder about the women who are posting there. Maybe the fact that they do this says something about their character that their exes know about and is potentially the reason the spouses look elsewhere... in the first place.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)pipi_k
(21,020 posts)I'm older and married now, but if I were single and looking to date, I would be extremely suspicious of anyone who expressed interest in me.
Can I call them at home...
Can I call them at home freely...
Do I get to see the inside of their home...
Are they available on holidays or weekends...
Granted, that probably would be ineffective against a determined philanderer, but it's a start...
chowder66
(9,068 posts)but then again if the guy or gal says they are separated or going through a separation or getting divorced then that complicates things. Obviously it would be better to wait until the divorce but we know that can take some time and sometimes the attraction is too strong for some. And since so many people use cell phones and don't have landlines how could you really know?
Some people may have kids and don't want to invite someone in until they know it's going to work out and separated and divorcing people most likely will still spend the holidays with family especially if kids are involved.
Tricky stuff.
LittleBlue
(10,362 posts)This woman ruined my marriage of nearly a decade and THINKS she got away with it. My husband and I got married pretty young when I found out I was pregnant. The situation was not ideal but we managed to make a good life together. I sacrificed my education to stay home and care for our son so that my husband could finish school and provide us a better life. We had 2 more children during our first 5 years of marriage and I was content. Money was always short but I really trusted my husband.
We had our disagreements. He was gone for school and work a lot and money issues put a lot of stress on us but we both loved our kids more than anything and I knew we would make it work. I thought our prayers were answered when he got a promotion at his job. The new job required he go to CA for several weeks of training but I trusted him and knew that he had to work.
He wasnt gone long before I knew something was wrong. His communication with me was limited and short. When he finally got home after weeks he would hardly look at me and finally told me he wanted to separate. I asked him all the time if there was someone else and he denied. I guess he wasnt smart enough to know that I was his wife and could basically get into all of his accounts, read his texts and emails and monitor his calls. It took about a day for me to find out her name and information. I was crushed for the years I wasted with him my kids and our future.
Lucy also worked for his same company and was at the training the same weeks as him. Not only is she several years older than him but she was married and had toddler twins! She would go on and on via email and text about how bad she felt about cheating but her husband was just so mean and so was I! Then shed start talking about their sex life and how she couldnt wait to see him soon and be with him. She lived in TX and we lived in KY. I wanted to puke and scream and just lose it.
I felt sick about it all especially her acting like the VICTIM even though she was breaking up my house and hers! My husband kept saying there was no one even while he was telling her he missed her and they were discussing where theyd live when they both finally got their marriages officially ended. It was obvious my husband was capable of more lying then was possible in a good man just making a mistake so I didnt even fight for him. I just let him pretend to be a saint as he left his 3 kids. I think they deserved each other and I just let those sneaky liars be.
Funny enough not long after he left our house and then actually left the town where I was still caring for our kids he dumped her. Maybe he got tired of her whining on Facebook and always posing with alcoholic drinks like she was 21 instead of a woman who was desperate and used up? Hobag. Dummy didnt even realize ex-wifes can still access there ex-husbands accounts.
Im now happy as can be and their both alone and miserable. Cheaters and liars NEVER win. Ive been so close so many times to letting her husband know what really happened because that poor man still has no idea the monster he was married too. Shes a wolf dressed up like a needy professional who hos around with married men. Watch out.
http://shesahomewrecker.com/luciana-lucy-depaiva-giffin-houston-tx/
lol her ex and the homewrecker ended up miserable and split up. Justice
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)tammywammy
(26,582 posts)Isn't it the spouse, the person breaking their vows, the homewrecker? This website makes the person lashing out look juvenile.
Agschmid
(28,749 posts)CTyankee
(63,912 posts)I think the spouse responsible for the affair should be the one to blame. If he takes up with someone, shame on her/him too, but if the person going out after the affair is the one who is primarily to blame...well, they have some cause if you think about it...
Mojorabbit
(16,020 posts)I would never put my life up on the net this way but I can understand the heart break and hurt a betrayal like this produces. Perhaps this is the only way they have to vent. It is sad all the way around.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)I don't have a twitter or facebook account because I don't like that much online sharing. Too many crazies out there.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)And if the spouse is cheating - the home wasn't that great to begin with.
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)I'm sorry but this whole "people have to have a reason to cheat" stuff is just absolute bullshit. BULLSHIT.
In my case, we had a great sex life, we got along great, we were great friends, we had 4 kids, a nice house, a great life. He lead a double life for YEARS and I had no idea (yeah, those of you who say, "how could you not know?" Trust me when you are married to a sociopath, you WON'T know, or even have a clue.) he lied. He put us into bankruptcy. All of his friends were so shocked they came to me after I found out and said, "OMG, why would he do that to you? You were the COOLEST wife! He had it SO good! WTF is WRONG with him?" His co-worker was the one who came to me to tell me about the cheating because he said I was such a good person he couldn't stand to see what my ex was doing to me and he had to tell me the truth.
My ex cheated because he was/is a sociopath who thinks he is the smartest guy in the room. He does what he wants, when he wants so long as it benefits him in the moment. He doesn't ever consider consequences because he thinks he's smart enough to get around anything that might happen if he gets caught. There is NOTHING I could've done differently. I've gone over this a thousand times with therapists - who think he's either a narcissist or a sociopath - and the consensus is that the marriage was doomed because he is a sociopath/narcissist and there was nothing I could've done differently that could've ever changed the outcome. When he grew tired of 'a family life' he strayed. He only kept the family life going as long as it was advantageous to his career. When it wasn't doing him good anymore in his career to have a family, he had no problems throwing us all away. He still sees the kids, but rarely (once every 3-6 weeks). His new schtick is that I don't let him see the kids (?? Lies - our agreement is he can see them any weekend he wants, he doesn't even have to give notice) and that I spend all the child support on myself (LOL, ask anyone I know where I shop for myself and what I own and how my kids are dressed and taken care of.) Right now, it benefits him to tell his sob story about what a great dad he is and how horrible I am to him and how his kids are growing distant because of me (like the teenagers haven't figured out he cheated - my oldest was the one who was surprised during her first visit to see the girlfriend who moved into our old home - I had no idea, she's the one who told me). He will continue with that story until the day it's no longer convenient or beneficial. He's even convinced himself that some of these lies are true.
Anyway, I just needed to get that out. My whole life revolved around this man, and I loved him with all my heart and I gave up a lot to stay at home and raise our kids. I thought our marriage was great, and we had no issues with communication - the only flaw was that everything he told me was a big fat lie, and being a sociopath, it was all 100% believable. At the time I knew nothing about sociopaths, and we had been together since we were 19 years old, so how I was I to know? I guess my big mistake was not understanding what were the signs my spouse was a sociopath, although even my therapist cleared me of that, saying when you are raised by 2 co-dependent narcissists, you don't know that sociopathic behavior isn't normal.
So, no, not all cheaters cheat because their home life sucks. In my divorce support group there was rarely anyone who had been cheated on who had any clue their spouse was even a little bit unhappy. How about telling your spouse you aren't happy before you go out and cheat? Seems to me THAT is obvious.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)Once the blind siding wears off you realize the home life wasn't some mystical fantasy you thought it was.
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)Ex, is that you?
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)You reveal yourself.
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)I'm sure he does.
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Play his game another day.
And laundry....
Hugz
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)That one is obvious.
Thanks for the hugs. It means a lot.
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NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)People love to share all in this digital age.
libdem4life
(13,877 posts)It's hard enough with divorce or the split of parents, but the hyperdrama of cheating and lying and manipulating and blaming and shaming and custody fights...erode the emerging humanity of the children. And you know the kids know about the sites...horrible, horrible parenting.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)Even if the kids don't read this site, you know their friends do.
pipi_k
(21,020 posts)of people who think they have the right to fuck up a kid's head.
Which is why I would be glad to see mandatory psychological testing before people were allowed to be parents.
I mean, really...don't prospective adoptive parents have to go through background checks and testing or something?
Yet they let any fuckwit with the proper equipment make a kid and nobody gives a shit unless/until the kid ends up abused or dead at the hands of its "parent".
ugh.
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)We are all descended from a long line of fuckups, even if we aren't aware of the fuckups of our ancestors rest assured a bunch of them were just that and did just that.
None of us would be here but for the fuckups of our ancestors.
I was over fifty before I learned some of the less savory truth about my own heritage, by that time I was experienced enough for it not to shock me but rather make me deeply appreciative of the humanity of those who came before me.
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Niceguy1
(2,467 posts)Love and war.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)MadrasT
(7,237 posts)The cheating men had nothing to do with it.
I always thought it odd that when a woman finds out her husband is cheating, oftentimes, it's the other woman that is the object of the betrayed wife's wrath.
Very, very odd.
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)n/t.
treestar
(82,383 posts)davidn3600
(6,342 posts)Men typically won't fight over one woman. Instead, guys tend to encourage each other to find a woman. A male friend will help his bro find a girl and encourage him to ask her out.
Maybe that's part of it. In our dating culture, guys do the asking out. So a guy can go out some night and ask out a dozen girls. He doesn't have to fight over someone because he realizes there are many, many, many single women out there.
Women usually dont do the asking out. They wait for a man to approach them. And that creates a competitive environment with other women.
u4ic
(17,101 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)That man certainly declared the rules to us! We are not to ask them! They remain in control with a choice of a huge number of women! We just have to wait on the few who decide to ask us. It's up to them to choose us! We have no say and are desperate for someone to choose us!
bunnies
(15,859 posts)youve got to be kidding me.
La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)CFLDem
(2,083 posts)Cheating just sounds like too much trouble and too much work. Especially for a lot of the broads on that site.
I mean if you're going to kill your livelihood (not recommended), at least have the good judgement to aim at least for an 8 or higher.
But I guess to each his own...
CTyankee
(63,912 posts)grab a high earner so you don't have to work any more and have a husband who pulls in the big bucks...too bad for the ex-wife and those kids...
TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)Le Taz Hot
(22,271 posts)is worth giving up his/her integrity to this kind of website. Get over it, move one, but stop with the posting thing. You're only embarrassing yourself.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)who post on this site in a moment of anger end up regretting it later. I wonder if there is a way for them to delete their own postings.
frogmarch
(12,153 posts)one of my husband's sisters would have dissed her husband's rape victim there for trying to break up the marriage.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)when a woman is dumped on she is a "scorned" women.
simple language, gives us two descriptions.
just something to think about
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)about a story I read online. It wasn't intended as some sort of deep, introspective thread about supposedly sexist language that has managed to offend nobody but you so far. If you're interested, there is a companion site to this one where you can go and trash the men too.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)I was enjoying a little back and forth about the site when you came to teach us a lesson about the genders. You're putting way too much thought into this.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)With a smilie, even...
Do you going around looking to pick fights?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)on the other had have told me to shut up, called me names, insulted me, lectured and stomped your foot.
in every. one. of. your. posts.
still cant let it go?
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)When did I tell you to shut up?
Hyperbole (and flat-out lies).
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)What names did I call you? When did I tell you to shut up?
Bye bye
ancianita
(36,055 posts)There's no such thing as too much thought about how women are dumbed down with "the she-devil made me do it!" kinds of bullshit. Centuries of that bullshit. That shit's so not funny and the shallow level of jokeyism here isn't cool. I scrolled through it in shock. Maybe it takes all kinds to make a party, but until half the government is represented by the female half the US, this stuff isn't really even worth GD's time.
The problem with this OP is, anyone who doesn't put enough thought into how such these sites simply reinforce stupidity about adult responsibility in committed relationships, and then just spreads the mindless stupidity of horndogginess.
If this is amusing to people here, no wonder women aren't getting anywhere.
Go to the fucking Lounge.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)Someone puts up a gender-based post in GD and then gets all outraged when it isn't met with what they desperately want to be 'light-hearted humor'. There's nothing at all funny about this, other than the fact that the OP saved his/her outrage for when one of our better known feminists showed up.
ancianita
(36,055 posts)NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)some of us are still allowed to have opinions that are different from Seabeyond and the HOF crowd. Galling, I know.
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)Just wondering how selective your outrage really is. And how remarkable that YOU are entitled to your opinion, but seabeyond isn't.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)I don't have to respect her opinion any more than she has to respect mine. Interesting that the HOF crowd came riding to her rescue when she accused me of calling her names but then wouldn't say what I called her.
This isn't a protected group like HOF. People don't have to grovel to the party line.
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)Far as I can tell, that would be me. Do you have a problem with that? Am I allowed to express an opinion on this, or am I just to go along with you and your light-hearted caper? Seriously, you had no problem with anyone until seabeyond commented, which she is of course entitled to do. But as soon as she did, you showed your ass. And now a couple of strong women are saying that your post was bull, and you're struggling with that. Laughable.
And I notice that exactly no one is coming to your rescue. What does that tell you?
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)I don't really need anyone to come to my rescue.
As for your opinion...express away.
Orrex
(63,210 posts)seabeyond
(110,159 posts)get all outraged by a simple statement, so..... lol.
Orrex
(63,210 posts)Hardy har har.
Yeah, I'm not a fan of public shaming sites in any case, but this particular format seems especially problematic. Seems too easy to malign someone without fear of repercussion. I mean, what recourse does a woman have after she's been shamed as a "homewrecker?" Even an unsubstantiated accusation is damaging, I think.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)i hear ya. not a fan of either gender that fucks around with a married person. less of a fan of the one that commits.
treestar
(82,383 posts)They choose, we are produce to be chosen from. They own us and are wronged, we are the ones who are left behind.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)which states an ownership. bought, paid for.
tridim
(45,358 posts)IdaBriggs
(10,559 posts)(and the spouse hasn't given permission) with the "hope" they will abandon their family, I have no problem with people finding out your character.
If you want to publicly announce the name of the jerk you were screwing with, I'm good with that, too, because that person's character is scummy, too.
Whatever the victim wants is fine with me - if the victim wants to keep it private (as many do), I support that. If the victim wants people to know they've been emotionally assaulted and abused / possibly exposed to disease against their will, I'm good with that.
I dislike the folk who think there is nothing wrong with screwing with someone's marriage, but find the idea of TALKING ABOUT IT offensive.
Whatever.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)If somebody is so angry and hurt and this helps them unload some of it - fine.
I don't think that the cheating husband is getting off scott-free, since he still has to deal with the wife he cheated on.
laundry_queen
(8,646 posts)Everything you said.
NaturalHigh
(12,778 posts)La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)oberliner
(58,724 posts)cbdo2007
(9,213 posts)I hope the husbands have a place on the site to rebut the posting and really put the truth out there. lol
AgingAmerican
(12,958 posts)People post cheater profiles of their cheating spouse there. The site has an automatic hit system that drives the profile up in google. Within days their profile comes up in the top 2 or 3 of a google search of the cheaters name.
They can only have the profile removed by legal means. It is used heavily against affair partners.
NaturalHigh
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