Adoptees, Friends of Adoptees, Birth Parents and Adoptive Parents - Check In Here
This is just a thread for those of us who may have actually been involved in the adoption process and as any reasonable person might expect, have complex feelings about the issue. If you don't have anything supportive to say please consider not posting.
FYI - I was adopted as an infant.
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Glad you're here (guess that carries much more meaning here in this thread than it ordinarily would! I'm adopted too. Sounds like you had a happy ending!
especially during your teenage years can be complicated. It is a time where you are defining a personal identity without some of the, what I call, "genetic behavioral archetype" shortcuts you would get being in a birth family. Love and acceptance helps that out quite a bit. 
some who would say they are the biggest advocates for disadvantaged groups would seemingly lash out at another. Whatever the case, I thought a little love for us was necessary. 
I don't know any reason why DEMs who are by party platform supportive of diversity and everyone having better opportunities would trash any thing about adoption.
Not adopted, love people who are, though.
My best friend is an adoptive parent. She has two biological children and adopted three more with special needs. She's a living saint in my eyes.
It is a gift you gave and is greatly appreciated.
My son is in a good place with good people, but... you asked in the OP for us to please not say anything unsupportive, and that's why it was a n/t post. It was a bad experience.
ETA I appreciate the hug tho 
and there is little that I can say that would ameliorate those experiences. But I would guess that through the process you had best intentions in mind.
Any pregnancy that is unplanned or complicated for whatever reason will touch deep feelings, and for most women, painful feelings. I wish you all the best.
husband (aka my Dad and best friend). My husband and I have four adopted sons, their current ages are 29, 27, 25 and 22. They are a sibling group placed with us as foster children when the youngest was three months old, we adopted the entire group (aka "the gang of four"
, three years later. Yes, we'd do it again.
my youngest child was adopted ...she was nine at the time..
when she was older she asked if I was alright with her finding her adoptive parents and I had no problem with that...she discovered that her birth father had died and the "reunion" with her birth mother was a terrible experience
I know some adopted children may have a desire to discover their roots...but do not go into a search with fantasies dancing around in your heads...some of those reunions do not work out well ..... 
love them both so very much.
My sister was adopted at birth and my son at 7 years.
Good times, hard times, tears, fears, fun, laughter and love - lots and lots of love.
And am ALWAYS happy when one of my adoption "siblings" has a victory! I am just not a regular poster or I would have said so in that thread.
of a child adopted through an open adoption. She's perfectly amazing, as all first-born grandchildren are.
My father and his partner were foster parents to several boys over the years, and his partner ended up adopting two of them. Both of their mothers had been serious drug abusers, who were given several years and multiple chances to get their acts together, but failed.
My cousin's daughter was openly-adopted, and I have several friends with adopted children. When I started to count them all up I was surprised by how many we know.
My family has always had adopted members in it going back decades and decades ago, as I too have adopted a child.
We're all related anyways.
- That's all we need to remember.
K&R
Ain't that the truth. And we are all Stardust!
My step sister got pregnant when she was in high school. A very nice couple adopted the baby boy. She sees him every couple of years, and hasn't regretted her decision.
