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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsCrap - I turned 59 today. It's good night Irene as far as I can tell.
I thank you in advance for any birthday wishes. I'm really just venting because I still feel about 25 in my head (both of them), yet I am approaching middle age. Any one that's been in this position before - any suggestions/encouragement is appreciated.
I'll have to read this tomorrow because I took several (5) sleeping pills and am feeling a bit tired.
elleng
(141,926 posts)good and bad.
I've had my share of bad, and am about to become a grandmother for the first time.
Good luck to us all.
SharonAnn
(14,173 posts)libodem
(19,288 posts)You only have a year on me. Happy Birthday.
JEFF9K
(1,935 posts)Your blood vessels will unclog, and you will become younger.
roody
(10,849 posts)that acupuncture is very pain-relieving, so I can still manage 23 first graders all school day.
BlueToTheBone
(3,747 posts)with needles toughens you up to withstand the onslaught of other people's small children?
I love it.
thucythucy
(9,103 posts)I've spent a fair amount of time in physical therapy.
I always explain why PT works so well. It's like the story of the guy you see slamming his head into a brick wall. You ask him why, and he says, "because it feels so good when I stop." Same with PT.
Joking aside--PT is a wonderful thing, if ever you should need it.
BlueToTheBone
(3,747 posts)I "broke" my back when I was in my 20s and I've spent the rest of my life dealing with it. I've used massage, PT, chiropractic and even accupressure. I was needled once and she stuck it right in the middle of my 3rd eye and I almost came undone...last experience with that! But really, I was just amused by the idea that acupuncture would get one ready and able to handle a bunch of children...one form of torture for another. That's just my sick humor.
roody
(10,849 posts)HereSince1628
(36,063 posts)Rosa Luxemburg
(28,627 posts)NuclearDem
(16,184 posts)Glad one of us feels young, and happy birthday!
ChisolmTrailDem
(9,463 posts)NuclearDem
(16,184 posts)Plus, I don't get a half-life crisis for another 15,000 years.
ChisolmTrailDem
(9,463 posts)AAO
(3,300 posts)I however was once 25 and I've been that way ever since (mind and pecker anyway).
NuclearDem
(16,184 posts)hfojvt
(37,573 posts)Dude, you passed middle age about 15 years ago.
What you are approaching is retirement. And the only thing I will have to say about retirement is "free at last. Thank God almighty, I am free at last."
PasadenaTrudy
(3,998 posts)Middle age is like late 30s-early 40s...maybe he plans to live past 120!
whathehell
(30,470 posts)I'd say that middle age -- very EARLY middle age -- starts in the late thirties
and goes straight through the fifties.
When you hit 60, you're no long "middle aged"...I hate to say you're "old" -- a "senior citizen", perhaps?
Having hit this point not long ago, the only thing I heard that made me feel just a little bit better was the
saying: "Sixty is the 'youth' of old age"...I was glad to be a "youth" anywhere at that point!
Seriously, though, the Boomers have pretty much re-defined age....I don't look OR feel anything like
I imagined I would at this age.
woolldog
(8,791 posts)...ah, sure you have, chief.
whathehell
(30,470 posts)and we know that our juniors, when they're not so "junior" anymore will happily accept our innovation.
woolldog
(8,791 posts)whathehell
(30,470 posts)AAO
(3,300 posts)keep me in shape. All my relatives live into their 90's and 100's, but they didn't smoke dope and drink only chilled vodka.
I may donate my body to science when I die, sometime around 2077 or so...
polly7
(20,582 posts)although I'm certain there are many benefits to being 59 (which is a looong way from being old, btw), you're as young as you feel, or even want to feel, imho.
Happy Birthday!!!
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El_Johns
(1,805 posts)big picture, more able to take small difficulties in stride.
If you're reasonably healthy, it's a good time of life.
"Though nothing can bring back the hour
Of splendour in the grass, of glory in the flower;
We will grieve not, rather find
Strength in what remains behind;
In the primal sympathy
Which having been must ever be...
In the faith that looks through death,
In years that bring the philosophic mind...
Thanks to the human heart by which we live,
Thanks to its tenderness, its joys, and fears,
To me the meanest flower that blows can give
Thoughts that do often lie too deep for tears."
http://www.bartleby.com/101/536.html
truedelphi
(32,324 posts)I am a Capricorn, and (supposedly) we are born feeling old, and often feel younger as time passes.
LadyHawkAZ
(6,199 posts)It's easy to do if you avoid all mirrors like the plague.
Happy Birthday!
AAO
(3,300 posts)enough
(13,760 posts)you are mistaken! Nothing gets any simpler from there, or any duller. Every day is a surprise, literally.
Happy Birthday!
Douglas Carpenter
(20,226 posts)mathematically - But 2013 - 1954 does in fact come to 59. Just as events that happened in say 1989 - If I did not do the math - I would insist - that those events happened perhaps four or five year ago - at most, perhaps only three or four years ago - Even seven or eight years would be a stretch.
I recall once having a vivid dream several years ago in which I was in some location - kind of like an airline departure lounge - where people wait to be incarnated on earth - I seemed to be holding what amounted to a boarding pass - similar to an airline boarding pass - as I could look down into a labor and delivery unit where I would soon incarnate. I started to think, "Well, I am going to be down there 70+ years." But from my departure lounge I understood that to be kind of like a three-day weekend trip. Something that would really be no time at all. I cannot make out this time business at all.
adirondacker
(2,921 posts)villager
(26,001 posts)...because "time" is so entirely a subjective experience, immune to the "logic" of "how long ago" things really were, vs. how it seems they were, how old we actually are, vs. what we feel, etc....
Douglas Carpenter
(20,226 posts)the difference between the world of a twelve-year-old and the world of twenty-two-year-old is far greater than the difference between the world of a thirty-two-year-old and the world of a forty-two-year-old. But I still don't get it. The most recent job I held prior to my current one - I was there nineteen and a half years. But viscerally speaking I would say BULLSHIT!! There is no possible way I was there longer than five years max. But - the record shows that I started at that former employer on November 21, 1991 and ended my employment there June 13, 2011 - So logic and simple arithmetic does say I was there approximately nineteen and a half years - But it still does not make sense to me. Five years MAX - and even that is a stretch.
villager
(26,001 posts)With kids in your life it's even wackier. And then suddenly: Who are these youngish adults who suddenly showed up in my life!?
AAO
(3,300 posts)TBF
(36,671 posts)I'm about a decade younger and my thoughts at birthday time include the following:
1. thank goodness I've made it this far
2. I'm going to buy myself a nice present.
skamaria
(338 posts)Sometimes i take a couple of Percosets and pretend i'm still 60.
RebelOne
(30,947 posts)It seems like yesterday that I turned 50. When I lamented about my age to my daughter, she said that growing old is better than the alternative.
Skittles
(171,719 posts)when so many fine people are denied that privilege - yes INDEED
they do make you temporarily younger!
AAO
(3,300 posts)skamaria
(338 posts)etherealtruth
(22,165 posts)I am right behind you (will be 52 in January)
All that matters is what is in your head
OffWithTheirHeads
(10,337 posts)I'm still one tough son of a bitch!
MuseRider
(35,176 posts)Auntie Bush
(17,528 posts)That's pretty dangerous! But maybe I'd do the same thing in your situation!
It's a bummer of a decision that I'd not like to make...but I worry about all those sleeping pills.
Hope you wake up tomorrow! lol
Good luck with your operation and recovery.
AAO
(3,300 posts)Another proof of my superior body chemistry. I owe it all to the MJ and Vodka (Grey Goose ONLY).
msedano
(731 posts)ten years ago or so, i read this a couple of times.
http://penelope.uchicago.edu/Thayer/E/Roman/Texts/Cicero/Cato_Maior_de_Senectute/text*.html
mvs
RagAss
(13,832 posts)WheelWalker
(9,402 posts)and put on some rock 'n roll.
VanillaRhapsody
(21,115 posts)I think that train has left the station....did you miss it?
Happy Birthday anyways...
Any day you wake up on the right side of the dirt...is a good day!
yourout
(8,824 posts)Is there a secret handshake I should know about?
Thor_MN
(11,843 posts)As long as they didn't chip any molars, it's all good.
Adsos Letter
(19,459 posts)AAO
(3,300 posts)you could have shaken your doctors hand! No start practicing for next time!
Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)spinbaby
(15,389 posts)I keep catching glimpses of myself in the mirror and wonder who the old lady is.
NRaleighLiberal
(61,857 posts)I turn 58 in a month or so - we are both young!
No Vested Interest
(5,297 posts)not so great.
Have a great next ten years.
P.S. - We all feel about 25 in our heads.
Too bad others who see us only see "old person."
PPS - Careful with those sleeping pills!
Blue_In_AK
(46,436 posts)Keep a good attitude, take care of yourself physically, and look forward, not back. 60 is the new 40.
silverweb
(16,410 posts)Skittles
(171,719 posts)will you live to be 150?
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)Skittles
(171,719 posts)there's the explanation right there
DesertFlower
(11,649 posts)like a 72 year old, but my aching bones tell me different.
Turned 61 in October
I would trade for being 50 again
Oh, and you know what really sucks?
It's when your KIDS complain about being old
Skittles
(171,719 posts)LEMME AT THEM!!!
pipi_k
(21,020 posts)I had a fit of laughter the day my son, at the age of 30, told me how disturbed he was that the younger guys where he worked were calling him "Sir". He's 43 now, so I imagine he's gotten used to it.
Then there was my daughter (41) who announced that she was going to start yanking out all her gray hairs.
I told her to go ahead, but I'm leaving mine in, and not even dyeing them because they look rather nice in contrast to my ashy colored hair.
My mom, OTOH, will be 80 next year and still acts like she's a teenager. It tires me out just listening to all the stuff she does.
AAO
(3,300 posts)pipi_k
(21,020 posts)a Billy Mumy!
AAO
(3,300 posts)
silverweb
(16,410 posts)[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]...it's only your mental age that counts, anyway.
Try this quiz for fun: http://mymentalage.com/
I'm chronologically 65, but tested as 37 mentally... the same age I was when my daughter was born. I always did tell her that she kept me young, but now it seems she actually stopped me from aging mentally.
The best thing you can do is keep a sense of humor throughout life's erratic changes. We all experience them and they aren't going away, so we might as well laugh them off as much as possible.
We're all just living in an awesome hologram anyway, right?
Blue_In_AK
(46,436 posts)That made me smile.
silverweb
(16,410 posts)AAO
(3,300 posts)I guess we all mellow a bit as we get older.
silverweb
(16,410 posts)[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]I'm sure there are psychosociological explanations for it and not everyone enjoys it in the same way. Enjoy!
Walk away
(9,494 posts)but that fresh hell can wait until next year!
Skip Intro
(19,768 posts)Not that there's anything wrong with being old.
Happy Birthday. Enjoy your 60's. Enjoy your life.
Time spent on labels and which apply and which don't is time wasted, imho.
cliffordu
(30,994 posts)Uben
(7,719 posts).....and yeah, I only feel like I'm 35 or so. Where the heck did all those years go? The good side is, I am healthy and in very good shape physically. Heck, I'm ready to start the fourth quarter, and anything goes!
niyad
(132,448 posts)age is a case of mind over matter. if you don't mind, it doesn't matter.
and remember something. you are the youngest now that you will ever be.
Pharaoh
(8,209 posts)Happy Birthday!!!!!!!!!!!!
Kablooie
(19,108 posts)AAO
(3,300 posts)Chaco Dundee
(334 posts)I will be 59 this coming june,and I'm still fighting girls in their early 30th off.not all off them though.enjoy it while you can.
SDjack
(1,448 posts)make a two-column table and in the left column enter all the food, drink, and exercises that you like. In the right column, enter your least favorites.
Now, you can have nothing in the left column. Of course, you can have all you want in the right column.
Pharaoh
(8,209 posts)Kriesss! Nock a moill!!!!!!!!!!!
AAO
(3,300 posts)flt rsk
(102 posts)As I sit here with my first of the evening of glass of 12 yr. old single malt. The wife had gone to bed and I think back and realize that I cant even remember being 59. Was that the year that I had my first epidural or when I had the carpal tunnel surgery? It could have been the year that I learned that I suffer (Suffer hell, I relish it. Well, maybe not during the years I was in while in Viet Nam) A.D.D. Maybe it was the year that the cardiologist told me that my heart was in great shape but if I did not get away from my job ( Goddamn, I loved that job. Management - - not so much. Theyre the ones responsible for Snowden.) I would self-destruct. He then asked what I did for relaxation. I said sailing and beer. He told me to do more sailing and switch to wine. Then he gave me a prescription for both to give to my wife. She did not buy it and tried to get me enrolled in a swim program. Now, at 65, I take my arthritis, A.D.D., and anti-inflammatory meds with my breakfast. I also take my calcium tablets for bone loss three times a day. In the evening, its wine or scotch and nonfiction reading. I should have paid attention when I was told that motorcycles and the Marine Corps were bad for ones health. I was given Cialis for my prostate but threw it away because it gave me acid reflux. I need to be able to eat more than I need a woody. Blue Cross and I have bought my orthopedic surgeon a very nice lake home and helped put two kids through college. My physical therapist gets a new gas hog SUV every two years.
I have a t-shirt that says HELP Im a 19 year old trapped in this old mans body.
A coworkers son had to interview a Vietnam vet for a college class project. After the interview he asked me about my regrets; what would I do different? My immediate answer was Get a better camera. Id do it all over again; even knowing the end of the movie.
Lifelong Protester
(8,421 posts)I am 58, and man, do I suck up all the discounts for being a 'senior'.
Dance like you mean it!
Don't worry what others think!
Please yourself first!
Value your own opinions and thoughts.
Decide what you want to be when you grow up!!
Silent3
(15,909 posts)...that I'm feeling pretty bullish about how I'm going to look and feel when I hit 60.
This past summer I easily sped past all the 20-somethings I encountered while hiking up Mount Monadnock a half dozen times, and my first ever climb of Mount Washington (in NH) turned out to be way easier for me than what many people had led me to expect. For my first attempt at running 5K (without much running experience, even at shorter distances, beforehand) I clocked in at a moderately respectable 24:08.
At my last physical, my blood numbers were great, and my blood pressure is down to a healthy level, without need for any medication, after previously flirting with Stage 1 hypertension. My risk for heart disease or a heart attack is now way lower than the average for my age and gender (less than 2% over 10 years, instead of 8%).
At 6' tall, I'm down to a 30" waist after coming down from where 40" was getting uncomfortably snug.
I've got a few complaints -- like a growing need for reading glasses, feeling a bit stiffer in my joints than I used to, graying and thinning hair -- but overall, I'm oddly enough in better shape now in most ways than I was in high school. (I considered even a 1 mile run grueling torture back then, and up until just a few months ago, that's the greatest distance I'd ever attempted.)
Vigorous exercise and better eating might not be the magic bullet for everyone, but I can certainly say they've greatly improved my expectations for the years to come.
TeeYiYi
(8,028 posts)"...approaching middle age" ???...
That ship has already sailed, my friend.

I (barely) remember hating my 29th birthday. I thought my world was coming to an end. Then, a year later, I turned 30 and I felt young again. Whew, what a relief that was!
Seriously,... fifty-nine, most likely, only feels old. You'll be young again next year at this time. Better to be a young sixty than an old fifty.
Happy Birthday AAO!!!
TYY
nolabear
(43,850 posts)We'll be fine for quite a few more years. But it is a bit sobering to be a young person in an aging body!
mstinamotorcity2
(1,451 posts)Having a mad at repug moment can't sleep. Happy Birthday AAO.
They say that 60 is the new forty. That's next year huh. Now you got something to look forward to
Have a great Birthday and many more.
AAO
(3,300 posts)I'm going to a college bar tonight and try to pick up some late 20' early 30's bar sluts! I'M BACK, DAMMIT!!!
raging moderate
(4,624 posts)It is the age at which one is considered a real grownup, in that land. there is some of that feeling here as well. And I have read elsewhere that one finally gains control over one's impulses and learns true wisdom. Hang in there! I will turn 66 soon. Just make sure you keep exercising and eating sensibly, etc. Keep saying to yourself: Sixty is the new forty.
Indi Guy
(3,992 posts)That would be bad news if we were our bodies, but we're not. Our bodies are what we inhabit. We are eternal spirits; and when it comes time to transition out of here -- we'll move on to the next great adventure.
blue14u
(575 posts)Birthday AAO!!!!!
Celebrate and enjoy your day.
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Ganja Ninja
(15,953 posts)Sorry but I have to report it's all downhill after 59. No matter if you still feel young in the head. On the outside you're still old and decrepit. Get use to it.
Oh yeah Happy Birthday!
AAO
(3,300 posts)Tom Rinaldo
(23,187 posts)You have an incredibly rich catalog of memories stored up. Not only do they inform all of your decisions moving ahead, in ways only experience can offer, but they are rewarding for their own sake. So enjoy them. Nostalgia has high entertainment value. Revisit places that were important to you in the past and bathe in the recollections that brings up. Think about people you have known in your life who were important to you once but who may not be an active part of it now. If you have examples of things you wrote decades ago re-read them again and reflect on how you have changed, if at all. Become familiar with new music but enjoy your old music too, you can have it all because you were there then but you are still here now. Younger people don't have that advantage.
DCBob
(24,689 posts)Go for it. Have some fun and adventure. Dont fret it.. just live!
AAO
(3,300 posts)AAO
(3,300 posts)LWolf
(46,179 posts)People in your family must be extremely long-lived, lol. I counted my 40th birthday as having reached middle age.
I still feel about 25 in my head, too. My back, knees, ankle, and mirror tell a different story. I'm always surprised to see my mother looking back at me.
I don't mind too much. The alternative is worse.
Edited to add:
Happy Birthday!
ancianita
(43,307 posts)You're not legitimately or officially "old" until 65.
Rule #2: When we look at each other after age 55, we allow for behavior back to twenty years younger, since that is how most of us already feel, anyway.
That way, you're not subject to stares from older people or claims by younger people that you're "trying to act young."
So lose the worry and have a happy birthday.
calimary
(90,039 posts)It's survivable! I've lived to tell the tale! Yeah you're getting older - but remember, even the young 'uns are, too! You're just getting it over with sooner than they are!
CountAllVotes
(22,215 posts)Geez, I hope so!
Happy Birthday you Middle Aged monster you!
HockeyMom
(14,337 posts)It felt worse after turning 50 and getting all that AARP stuff in the mail! lol You get used to it and just go about living your life.
Personally, if I had to go back in age, it would be 45 and never 25.
magical thyme
(14,881 posts)Last edited Thu Dec 12, 2013, 01:25 PM - Edit history (1)
Enjoy 59. It's your last year in your official youth.
My advice for turning 60: it's a trip down memory lane while you think about where you've been and how you want to spend the last 3rd or so of your life. Try to plan a pleasant visit. Avoid those bullies who would try to use that day to shove your head into the toilet side of your life. (It turned out my boss is one of those bullies, and I ended up spending the week in ptsd, plus the planned activities blew up on the morning of my b-day. The freak outs, nightmares and sleepless nights are only just now receding more than a month later.
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Oh, and I forgot why I came here...Have a wonderful birthday today!
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stopbush
(24,808 posts)59 is not the time to be looking for work with the rampant ageism in today's employment market.
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)And HAPPY BIRTHDAY!
Spirochete
(5,264 posts)but you can be immature forever. That's what's saving me. I turned 60 a few days ago. I feel a lot older physically than I do mentally.
Carolina
(6,960 posts)No, you are approaching OLD age. You've been in middle age.
Now, as one who has been where you are (notice the past tense), don't fret. It is not: good night, Irene!
It's time to rock on
Jazzgirl
(3,744 posts)Not much you can do about it unless you want to take that whole bottle of pills.
I'm retiring this spring too and can't wait. I have all kinds of fun things planned like traveling, getting rid of "stuff", taking cooking classes at Le Cordon Bleu..... Anything I feel like!
Skittles
(171,719 posts)squeeze me in amongst all those activities please; yes INDEED
lumpy
(13,704 posts)Whining about turning 59 is for whimps.
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lunatica
(53,410 posts)Cheer up. It gets better.
life long demo
(1,113 posts)and many, many more.
dipsydoodle
(42,239 posts)youngster.
Happy Birthday and Many Happy Returns of the Day.
pink-o
(4,056 posts)Isn't that supposed to be our parents' age????
And how come every time I look in the mirror there's this old, confused looking lady staring back at me? I'll knock on the glass and say: "Mom? How did you get in there?"
However, I not only feel 25, I don't think my energy has flagged at all from when I was that age! I got really lucky: in my late 20s I gave up all my unhealthy habits, in my mid-thirties I made fitness a priority and being blessed with strong peasant DNA, I'm totally pain-free with no health issues. The face and body are moving in a southerly direction every day, but I can keep up with the best of em!
At our age, we take what we can get! Happy b'day.
Vinca
(53,994 posts)In about a month I'll be 65 in body, 35 in mind. Don't let it get you down. Kind people tell me I don't seem my age - I'm not into "old lady" things - so I live in my fantasy world of not being a few weeks away from Medicare.
ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)Let's hope Aaron returns completely healthy on Sunday, in honor of this momentous occasion.
catbyte
(39,154 posts)59 in a few months myself and I feel just like you do. WHERE DID THE TIME GO?!? As for getting through it, drugs? A stiff belt of something? I was recovering from surgery when I turned 40, so Vicodin got me through that crisis, LOL. I'm not sure what I'm going to do when the Big 6-0 comes around. That's the one I am dreading. I'm not sure why. 50 was a breeze, but the idea of 60 is traumatic.
Sorry I don't have any good suggestions, but I do send my sympathies!
TuxedoKat
(3,843 posts)Hope it is a memorable one.