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AAO

(3,300 posts)
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 09:53 PM Dec 2013

Crap - I turned 59 today. It's good night Irene as far as I can tell.

I thank you in advance for any birthday wishes. I'm really just venting because I still feel about 25 in my head (both of them), yet I am approaching middle age. Any one that's been in this position before - any suggestions/encouragement is appreciated.

I'll have to read this tomorrow because I took several (5) sleeping pills and am feeling a bit tired.

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Crap - I turned 59 today. It's good night Irene as far as I can tell. (Original Post) AAO Dec 2013 OP
Life goes on, elleng Dec 2013 #1
"It gets better!" No kidding! SharonAnn Dec 2013 #110
Beats the alturnative libodem Dec 2013 #2
It's a good time to become a vegan. ... JEFF9K Dec 2013 #3
Tfb-I turned 60 in August. Discovered roody Dec 2013 #4
Are you saying that being stabbed BlueToTheBone Dec 2013 #20
Because of various issues/disabilities thucythucy Dec 2013 #29
Oh, I truly believe in PT BlueToTheBone Dec 2013 #50
LOL. Seriously, the pain relief is great. roody Dec 2013 #72
Sounds right to me, 59 is the new 25 right? HereSince1628 Dec 2013 #5
Oh yes! Rosa Luxemburg Dec 2013 #6
Funny, I just turned 25 and feel about 59 in my head. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #7
Nuclear energy will do that... n/t ChisolmTrailDem Dec 2013 #59
I always thought it was a nice healthy glow. NuclearDem Dec 2013 #63
Nice =) lol n/t ChisolmTrailDem Dec 2013 #64
But you're only imagining what 59 is like - it's actually much worse than that. AAO Dec 2013 #81
"Hell is only a word. The reality is much much worse." NuclearDem Dec 2013 #85
you are "approaching middle age"??? hfojvt Dec 2013 #8
You beat me to it PasadenaTrudy Dec 2013 #22
Well, I would disagree slightly with your definition of "middle age" whathehell Dec 2013 #31
"Boomers have pretty much re-defined age" woolldog Dec 2013 #70
Yup, whathehell Dec 2013 #79
.... woolldog Dec 2013 #118
and to you, sir.. whathehell Dec 2013 #123
Yes, I do indeed plan to live over 120. I live well, smoke plenty of maryjane, and drink vodka to AAO Dec 2013 #80
I would listen to your head! .... polly7 Dec 2013 #9
Getting older is great in most ways. You're less driven by status concerns, more able to see the El_Johns Dec 2013 #10
What beautiful verse. truedelphi Dec 2013 #61
Meh. I just pretend I'm 21 LadyHawkAZ Dec 2013 #11
That's my exact problem. No Mirriors, No fearers! AAO Dec 2013 #82
59!?! Haha, a spring chicken. Believe me, if you think it's winding down, enough Dec 2013 #12
I turned 59 in early November - but I would not believe it - if I did not work it out logically and Douglas Carpenter Dec 2013 #13
I enjoy myself some Spacetime, from time to time. :) adirondacker Dec 2013 #19
Exactly this, you two. It's why I've written time travel fiction, I think.... villager Dec 2013 #33
for sure the older I get the least significant the amounts of time. Perhaps that is partly because Douglas Carpenter Dec 2013 #54
That's it -- the subjective experience of time has nothing to do with the objective one villager Dec 2013 #58
Maybe you're supposed to die of SIDS in a few days after birth. AAO Dec 2013 #83
Happy Birthday - TBF Dec 2013 #14
I turned 75 in October. skamaria Dec 2013 #15
I will be 75 in January and I wonder how I got so old so soon. RebelOne Dec 2013 #16
it is poor form to complain about aging Skittles Dec 2013 #47
Haaa! Pharaoh Dec 2013 #57
Is it easier to get percoset scripts when you're 75? AAO Dec 2013 #84
I have a great Doc and a bad hip and knee. Thirty six years of delivering the US Mail. skamaria Dec 2013 #129
Happy Birthday! etherealtruth Dec 2013 #17
I can't even remember 59 and you know what? OffWithTheirHeads Dec 2013 #18
I turned 60 last Monday you will survive this. Trust me. n/t MuseRider Dec 2013 #21
FIVE sleeping pills! Auntie Bush Dec 2013 #23
Still alive! Most drugs have little effect on me so I need to take more than most people. AAO Dec 2013 #88
59 is a good age to start thinking about getting old. msedano Dec 2013 #24
59 is the new 59 ! RagAss Dec 2013 #25
So, turn off the light for Irene WheelWalker Dec 2013 #26
"approaching Middle Age"? VanillaRhapsody Dec 2013 #27
Turned 50 last Feb and just joined the colonoscopy club. Do I now get a membership card? yourout Dec 2013 #28
You got the secret handshake... Thor_MN Dec 2013 #41
LOL! Adsos Letter Dec 2013 #74
If you could stuff your arm all they way down through your intestines to your colon AAO Dec 2013 #89
snap out of it Liberal_in_LA Dec 2013 #30
I'm about to turn 60 spinbaby Dec 2013 #32
Happy Birthday! NRaleighLiberal Dec 2013 #34
The fifties are good, the sixties are good, the 70's No Vested Interest Dec 2013 #35
I'm 67, and I can tell you, it's not so bad. Blue_In_AK Dec 2013 #36
Amen! silverweb Dec 2013 #42
you're 59 and approaching middleage? Skittles Dec 2013 #37
i was thinkin too, but didnt want to be a debbiedowner. lmao. nt seabeyond Dec 2013 #44
aw, AAO is a cheesehead Skittles Dec 2013 #51
i turned 72 in october. i don't look it or think DesertFlower Dec 2013 #38
Just pipi_k Dec 2013 #39
you want I should kick some complaining kid ass, pipi_k? Skittles Dec 2013 #52
I know, huh? pipi_k Dec 2013 #100
Billy: I feel so old! Mom: What does that make me, a mummy? AAO Dec 2013 #90
Hah! Or maybe pipi_k Dec 2013 #101
Just don't let this guy in! AAO Dec 2013 #104
Except for the additional aches & pains... silverweb Dec 2013 #40
I got 41 on that test. Blue_In_AK Dec 2013 #68
There you go! silverweb Dec 2013 #69
I misunderestimated! I took the test and I'm really 32! I didn't think I was that mature! AAO Dec 2013 #99
Mellow, brighten, lighten... silverweb Dec 2013 #114
Next week for me! I actually lost track and thought I would be sixty... Walk away Dec 2013 #43
Little TMI, but you're as young as you feel. And 59 ain't old. Skip Intro Dec 2013 #45
Hang in there, baby. It can only get worse cliffordu Dec 2013 #46
59 in a coupla months...... Uben Dec 2013 #48
happy birthday to you, (FIVE sleeping pills? ) just remember this statement I heard eons ago: niyad Dec 2013 #49
Brrrrrrrrraaaaaaaaaaaaaa! Pharaoh Dec 2013 #53
I beat you. I'm over 60 and I feel about 23, so there! Kablooie Dec 2013 #55
You imature party pooper! Grow up! At least to 25! AAO Dec 2013 #91
so what Chaco Dundee Dec 2013 #56
Life beyond 59 is easy. Just SDjack Dec 2013 #60
All I can say is.... Pharaoh Dec 2013 #62
Papa, is that you? AAO Dec 2013 #92
Damn, I miss it. flt rsk Dec 2013 #65
Happy Birthday! And learn how to say "Is there a discount?" Lifelong Protester Dec 2013 #66
I'm "only" 51, but I've lost so much weight and gotten in such good shape lately... Silent3 Dec 2013 #67
Ummm..... TeeYiYi Dec 2013 #71
Hey! I'm a whole week older than you, whipper-snapper! nolabear Dec 2013 #73
Lucky you. mstinamotorcity2 Dec 2013 #75
You mean I'm really forty! YEEHAH!! AAO Dec 2013 #94
I read that sixty is called the Sun Birthday in China. raging moderate Dec 2013 #76
It's your body that's growing old. Indi Guy Dec 2013 #77
Happy Happy blue14u Dec 2013 #78
I turned 60 in August. Ganja Ninja Dec 2013 #86
Yes, you feel my pain! Thank you for backing me up on this. AAO Dec 2013 #95
Keep lookiing foward, but look behind you also Tom Rinaldo Dec 2013 #87
59 is the new 39. DCBob Dec 2013 #93
Crap! Now I'm 39!! If we can keep this thread open maybe I can get down to 29. AAO Dec 2013 #96
ha! DCBob Dec 2013 #108
Thanks for all the Birthday wishes. DU'ers are nice compassioate, and FUNNY people!! AAO Dec 2013 #97
Approaching middle age? LWolf Dec 2013 #98
Take heart. You've got six years to go. Florida, full of old people, has these rules. Rule #1: ancianita Dec 2013 #102
Happy Birthday AAO - from "Miss 60"! };D calimary Dec 2013 #103
You still there? CountAllVotes Dec 2013 #105
I got my Medicare card last month HockeyMom Dec 2013 #106
I turned 60 a few weeks ago. magical thyme Dec 2013 #107
Message auto-removed Name removed Dec 2013 #109
Whatever you do, DON'T LOSE YOUR JOB! stopbush Dec 2013 #111
As Dear Abby would say, "Kwitcherbellyakin!" (I'm 64.) WinkyDink Dec 2013 #112
Well, you're only young once Spirochete Dec 2013 #113
"... yet I am approaching middle age." Carolina Dec 2013 #115
I'll be 60 in March. Jazzgirl Dec 2013 #116
I have milestone birthday ass kicking specials, Jazzgal Skittles Dec 2013 #121
Tomorrow I will be 85 years old. You haven't seen anything... yet, Bucko. lumpy Dec 2013 #117
Happy Early Birthday, lumpy! polly7 Dec 2013 #120
So far my 60s have been quite nice lunatica Dec 2013 #119
Wishing you a belated Happy Birthday life long demo Dec 2013 #122
Well lucky you dipsydoodle Dec 2013 #124
I'll be 59 on Monday... pink-o Dec 2013 #125
I refer to 59 as "the good old days." LOL. Vinca Dec 2013 #126
Happy Birthday! ScreamingMeemie Dec 2013 #127
Hate to tell you this, AAO, but "middle age" is about 35-40. We don't live to be 120! BTW I will be catbyte Dec 2013 #128
Well Happy Birthday! TuxedoKat Dec 2013 #130

elleng

(141,926 posts)
1. Life goes on,
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 09:55 PM
Dec 2013

good and bad.

I've had my share of bad, and am about to become a grandmother for the first time.

Good luck to us all.

JEFF9K

(1,935 posts)
3. It's a good time to become a vegan. ...
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:00 PM
Dec 2013

Your blood vessels will unclog, and you will become younger.

roody

(10,849 posts)
4. Tfb-I turned 60 in August. Discovered
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:02 PM
Dec 2013

that acupuncture is very pain-relieving, so I can still manage 23 first graders all school day.

BlueToTheBone

(3,747 posts)
20. Are you saying that being stabbed
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:53 PM
Dec 2013

with needles toughens you up to withstand the onslaught of other people's small children? I love it.

thucythucy

(9,103 posts)
29. Because of various issues/disabilities
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:42 PM
Dec 2013

I've spent a fair amount of time in physical therapy.

I always explain why PT works so well. It's like the story of the guy you see slamming his head into a brick wall. You ask him why, and he says, "because it feels so good when I stop." Same with PT.

Joking aside--PT is a wonderful thing, if ever you should need it.

BlueToTheBone

(3,747 posts)
50. Oh, I truly believe in PT
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:13 AM
Dec 2013

I "broke" my back when I was in my 20s and I've spent the rest of my life dealing with it. I've used massage, PT, chiropractic and even accupressure. I was needled once and she stuck it right in the middle of my 3rd eye and I almost came undone...last experience with that! But really, I was just amused by the idea that acupuncture would get one ready and able to handle a bunch of children...one form of torture for another. That's just my sick humor.

 

NuclearDem

(16,184 posts)
7. Funny, I just turned 25 and feel about 59 in my head.
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:05 PM
Dec 2013

Glad one of us feels young, and happy birthday!

 

NuclearDem

(16,184 posts)
63. I always thought it was a nice healthy glow.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:30 AM
Dec 2013

Plus, I don't get a half-life crisis for another 15,000 years.

 

AAO

(3,300 posts)
81. But you're only imagining what 59 is like - it's actually much worse than that.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 09:47 AM
Dec 2013

I however was once 25 and I've been that way ever since (mind and pecker anyway).

hfojvt

(37,573 posts)
8. you are "approaching middle age"???
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:13 PM
Dec 2013

Dude, you passed middle age about 15 years ago.

What you are approaching is retirement. And the only thing I will have to say about retirement is "free at last. Thank God almighty, I am free at last."

PasadenaTrudy

(3,998 posts)
22. You beat me to it
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:03 PM
Dec 2013

Middle age is like late 30s-early 40s...maybe he plans to live past 120!

whathehell

(30,470 posts)
31. Well, I would disagree slightly with your definition of "middle age"
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:49 PM
Dec 2013

I'd say that middle age -- very EARLY middle age -- starts in the late thirties

and goes straight through the fifties.

When you hit 60, you're no long "middle aged"...I hate to say you're "old" -- a "senior citizen", perhaps?

Having hit this point not long ago, the only thing I heard that made me feel just a little bit better was the

saying: "Sixty is the 'youth' of old age"...I was glad to be a "youth" anywhere at that point!

Seriously, though, the Boomers have pretty much re-defined age....I don't look OR feel anything like

I imagined I would at this age.

whathehell

(30,470 posts)
79. Yup,
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 08:49 AM
Dec 2013

and we know that our juniors, when they're not so "junior" anymore will happily accept our innovation.

 

AAO

(3,300 posts)
80. Yes, I do indeed plan to live over 120. I live well, smoke plenty of maryjane, and drink vodka to
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 09:42 AM
Dec 2013

keep me in shape. All my relatives live into their 90's and 100's, but they didn't smoke dope and drink only chilled vodka.

I may donate my body to science when I die, sometime around 2077 or so...

polly7

(20,582 posts)
9. I would listen to your head! ....
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:14 PM
Dec 2013

although I'm certain there are many benefits to being 59 (which is a looong way from being old, btw), you're as young as you feel, or even want to feel, imho.

Happy Birthday!!!

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El_Johns

(1,805 posts)
10. Getting older is great in most ways. You're less driven by status concerns, more able to see the
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:19 PM
Dec 2013

big picture, more able to take small difficulties in stride.

If you're reasonably healthy, it's a good time of life.


"Though nothing can bring back the hour
Of splendour in the grass, of glory in the flower;
We will grieve not, rather find
Strength in what remains behind;
In the primal sympathy
Which having been must ever be...
In the faith that looks through death,
In years that bring the philosophic mind...

Thanks to the human heart by which we live,
Thanks to its tenderness, its joys, and fears,
To me the meanest flower that blows can give
Thoughts that do often lie too deep for tears."

http://www.bartleby.com/101/536.html

truedelphi

(32,324 posts)
61. What beautiful verse.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:28 AM
Dec 2013

I am a Capricorn, and (supposedly) we are born feeling old, and often feel younger as time passes.

LadyHawkAZ

(6,199 posts)
11. Meh. I just pretend I'm 21
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:22 PM
Dec 2013

It's easy to do if you avoid all mirrors like the plague.


Happy Birthday!

enough

(13,760 posts)
12. 59!?! Haha, a spring chicken. Believe me, if you think it's winding down,
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:23 PM
Dec 2013

you are mistaken! Nothing gets any simpler from there, or any duller. Every day is a surprise, literally.

Happy Birthday!

Douglas Carpenter

(20,226 posts)
13. I turned 59 in early November - but I would not believe it - if I did not work it out logically and
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:28 PM
Dec 2013

mathematically - But 2013 - 1954 does in fact come to 59. Just as events that happened in say 1989 - If I did not do the math - I would insist - that those events happened perhaps four or five year ago - at most, perhaps only three or four years ago - Even seven or eight years would be a stretch.

I recall once having a vivid dream several years ago in which I was in some location - kind of like an airline departure lounge - where people wait to be incarnated on earth - I seemed to be holding what amounted to a boarding pass - similar to an airline boarding pass - as I could look down into a labor and delivery unit where I would soon incarnate. I started to think, "Well, I am going to be down there 70+ years." But from my departure lounge I understood that to be kind of like a three-day weekend trip. Something that would really be no time at all. I cannot make out this time business at all.

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
33. Exactly this, you two. It's why I've written time travel fiction, I think....
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:50 PM
Dec 2013

...because "time" is so entirely a subjective experience, immune to the "logic" of "how long ago" things really were, vs. how it seems they were, how old we actually are, vs. what we feel, etc....

Douglas Carpenter

(20,226 posts)
54. for sure the older I get the least significant the amounts of time. Perhaps that is partly because
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:17 AM
Dec 2013

the difference between the world of a twelve-year-old and the world of twenty-two-year-old is far greater than the difference between the world of a thirty-two-year-old and the world of a forty-two-year-old. But I still don't get it. The most recent job I held prior to my current one - I was there nineteen and a half years. But viscerally speaking I would say BULLSHIT!! There is no possible way I was there longer than five years max. But - the record shows that I started at that former employer on November 21, 1991 and ended my employment there June 13, 2011 - So logic and simple arithmetic does say I was there approximately nineteen and a half years - But it still does not make sense to me. Five years MAX - and even that is a stretch.

 

villager

(26,001 posts)
58. That's it -- the subjective experience of time has nothing to do with the objective one
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:25 AM
Dec 2013

With kids in your life it's even wackier. And then suddenly: Who are these youngish adults who suddenly showed up in my life!?

TBF

(36,671 posts)
14. Happy Birthday -
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:30 PM
Dec 2013

I'm about a decade younger and my thoughts at birthday time include the following:

1. thank goodness I've made it this far

2. I'm going to buy myself a nice present.

skamaria

(338 posts)
15. I turned 75 in October.
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:32 PM
Dec 2013

Sometimes i take a couple of Percosets and pretend i'm still 60.

RebelOne

(30,947 posts)
16. I will be 75 in January and I wonder how I got so old so soon.
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:43 PM
Dec 2013

It seems like yesterday that I turned 50. When I lamented about my age to my daughter, she said that growing old is better than the alternative.

Skittles

(171,719 posts)
47. it is poor form to complain about aging
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:12 AM
Dec 2013

when so many fine people are denied that privilege - yes INDEED

skamaria

(338 posts)
129. I have a great Doc and a bad hip and knee. Thirty six years of delivering the US Mail.
Tue Dec 17, 2013, 06:52 PM
Dec 2013

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
17. Happy Birthday!
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 10:45 PM
Dec 2013

I am right behind you (will be 52 in January)

All that matters is what is in your head

Auntie Bush

(17,528 posts)
23. FIVE sleeping pills!
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:03 PM
Dec 2013

That's pretty dangerous! But maybe I'd do the same thing in your situation!

It's a bummer of a decision that I'd not like to make...but I worry about all those sleeping pills.

Hope you wake up tomorrow! lol

Good luck with your operation and recovery.

 

AAO

(3,300 posts)
88. Still alive! Most drugs have little effect on me so I need to take more than most people.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:04 AM
Dec 2013

Another proof of my superior body chemistry. I owe it all to the MJ and Vodka (Grey Goose ONLY).

 

VanillaRhapsody

(21,115 posts)
27. "approaching Middle Age"?
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:32 PM
Dec 2013

I think that train has left the station....did you miss it?

Happy Birthday anyways...

Any day you wake up on the right side of the dirt...is a good day!

yourout

(8,824 posts)
28. Turned 50 last Feb and just joined the colonoscopy club. Do I now get a membership card?
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:34 PM
Dec 2013

Is there a secret handshake I should know about?

 

Thor_MN

(11,843 posts)
41. You got the secret handshake...
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:02 AM
Dec 2013

As long as they didn't chip any molars, it's all good.

 

AAO

(3,300 posts)
89. If you could stuff your arm all they way down through your intestines to your colon
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:07 AM
Dec 2013

you could have shaken your doctors hand! No start practicing for next time!

spinbaby

(15,389 posts)
32. I'm about to turn 60
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:50 PM
Dec 2013

I keep catching glimpses of myself in the mirror and wonder who the old lady is.

No Vested Interest

(5,297 posts)
35. The fifties are good, the sixties are good, the 70's
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:53 PM
Dec 2013

not so great.
Have a great next ten years.

P.S. - We all feel about 25 in our heads.
Too bad others who see us only see "old person."

PPS - Careful with those sleeping pills!

Blue_In_AK

(46,436 posts)
36. I'm 67, and I can tell you, it's not so bad.
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:54 PM
Dec 2013

Keep a good attitude, take care of yourself physically, and look forward, not back. 60 is the new 40.

DesertFlower

(11,649 posts)
38. i turned 72 in october. i don't look it or think
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:56 PM
Dec 2013

like a 72 year old, but my aching bones tell me different.

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
39. Just
Wed Dec 11, 2013, 11:58 PM
Dec 2013

Turned 61 in October

I would trade for being 50 again


Oh, and you know what really sucks?

It's when your KIDS complain about being old

pipi_k

(21,020 posts)
100. I know, huh?
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 11:57 AM
Dec 2013

I had a fit of laughter the day my son, at the age of 30, told me how disturbed he was that the younger guys where he worked were calling him "Sir". He's 43 now, so I imagine he's gotten used to it.

Then there was my daughter (41) who announced that she was going to start yanking out all her gray hairs.

I told her to go ahead, but I'm leaving mine in, and not even dyeing them because they look rather nice in contrast to my ashy colored hair.

My mom, OTOH, will be 80 next year and still acts like she's a teenager. It tires me out just listening to all the stuff she does.

silverweb

(16,410 posts)
40. Except for the additional aches & pains...
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:02 AM
Dec 2013

[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]...it's only your mental age that counts, anyway.

Try this quiz for fun: http://mymentalage.com/

I'm chronologically 65, but tested as 37 mentally... the same age I was when my daughter was born. I always did tell her that she kept me young, but now it seems she actually stopped me from aging mentally.



The best thing you can do is keep a sense of humor throughout life's erratic changes. We all experience them and they aren't going away, so we might as well laugh them off as much as possible.

We're all just living in an awesome hologram anyway, right?

 

AAO

(3,300 posts)
99. I misunderestimated! I took the test and I'm really 32! I didn't think I was that mature!
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 11:50 AM
Dec 2013

I guess we all mellow a bit as we get older.

silverweb

(16,410 posts)
114. Mellow, brighten, lighten...
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 03:27 PM
Dec 2013

[font color="navy" face="Verdana"]I'm sure there are psychosociological explanations for it and not everyone enjoys it in the same way. Enjoy!

Walk away

(9,494 posts)
43. Next week for me! I actually lost track and thought I would be sixty...
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:06 AM
Dec 2013

but that fresh hell can wait until next year!

Skip Intro

(19,768 posts)
45. Little TMI, but you're as young as you feel. And 59 ain't old.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:11 AM
Dec 2013

Not that there's anything wrong with being old.

Happy Birthday. Enjoy your 60's. Enjoy your life.

Time spent on labels and which apply and which don't is time wasted, imho.

Uben

(7,719 posts)
48. 59 in a coupla months......
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:12 AM
Dec 2013

.....and yeah, I only feel like I'm 35 or so. Where the heck did all those years go? The good side is, I am healthy and in very good shape physically. Heck, I'm ready to start the fourth quarter, and anything goes!

niyad

(132,448 posts)
49. happy birthday to you, (FIVE sleeping pills? ) just remember this statement I heard eons ago:
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:13 AM
Dec 2013

age is a case of mind over matter. if you don't mind, it doesn't matter.

and remember something. you are the youngest now that you will ever be.

Chaco Dundee

(334 posts)
56. so what
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:20 AM
Dec 2013

I will be 59 this coming june,and I'm still fighting girls in their early 30th off.not all off them though.enjoy it while you can.

SDjack

(1,448 posts)
60. Life beyond 59 is easy. Just
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:28 AM
Dec 2013

make a two-column table and in the left column enter all the food, drink, and exercises that you like. In the right column, enter your least favorites.
Now, you can have nothing in the left column. Of course, you can have all you want in the right column.

flt rsk

(102 posts)
65. Damn, I miss it.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:42 AM
Dec 2013

As I sit here with my first of the evening of glass of 12 yr. old single malt. The wife had gone to bed and I think back and realize that I can’t even remember being 59. Was that the year that I had my first epidural or when I had the carpal tunnel surgery? It could have been the year that I learned that I suffer (Suffer hell, I relish it. Well, maybe not during the years I was in while in Viet Nam) A.D.D. Maybe it was the year that the cardiologist told me that my heart was in great shape but if I did not get away from my job ( Goddamn, I loved that job. Management - - not so much. They’re the ones responsible for Snowden.) I would self-destruct. He then asked what I did for relaxation. I said sailing and beer. He told me to do more sailing and switch to wine. Then he gave me a prescription for both to give to my wife. She did not buy it and tried to get me enrolled in a swim program. Now, at 65, I take my arthritis, A.D.D., and anti-inflammatory meds with my breakfast. I also take my calcium tablets for bone loss three times a day. In the evening, it’s wine or scotch and nonfiction reading. I should have paid attention when I was told that motorcycles and the Marine Corps were bad for one’s health. I was given Cialis for my prostate but threw it away because it gave me acid reflux. I need to be able to eat more than I need a woody. Blue Cross and I have bought my orthopedic surgeon a very nice lake home and helped put two kids through college. My physical therapist gets a new gas hog SUV every two years.

I have a t-shirt that says “HELP I’m a 19 year old trapped in this old man’s body.”

A coworker’s son had to interview a Vietnam vet for a college class project. After the interview he asked me about my regrets; what would I do different? My immediate answer was “Get a better camera”. I’d do it all over again; even knowing the end of the movie.

Lifelong Protester

(8,421 posts)
66. Happy Birthday! And learn how to say "Is there a discount?"
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:50 AM
Dec 2013

I am 58, and man, do I suck up all the discounts for being a 'senior'.

Dance like you mean it!

Don't worry what others think!

Please yourself first!

Value your own opinions and thoughts.

Decide what you want to be when you grow up!!

 

Silent3

(15,909 posts)
67. I'm "only" 51, but I've lost so much weight and gotten in such good shape lately...
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:51 AM
Dec 2013

...that I'm feeling pretty bullish about how I'm going to look and feel when I hit 60.

This past summer I easily sped past all the 20-somethings I encountered while hiking up Mount Monadnock a half dozen times, and my first ever climb of Mount Washington (in NH) turned out to be way easier for me than what many people had led me to expect. For my first attempt at running 5K (without much running experience, even at shorter distances, beforehand) I clocked in at a moderately respectable 24:08.

At my last physical, my blood numbers were great, and my blood pressure is down to a healthy level, without need for any medication, after previously flirting with Stage 1 hypertension. My risk for heart disease or a heart attack is now way lower than the average for my age and gender (less than 2% over 10 years, instead of 8%).

At 6' tall, I'm down to a 30" waist after coming down from where 40" was getting uncomfortably snug.

I've got a few complaints -- like a growing need for reading glasses, feeling a bit stiffer in my joints than I used to, graying and thinning hair -- but overall, I'm oddly enough in better shape now in most ways than I was in high school. (I considered even a 1 mile run grueling torture back then, and up until just a few months ago, that's the greatest distance I'd ever attempted.)

Vigorous exercise and better eating might not be the magic bullet for everyone, but I can certainly say they've greatly improved my expectations for the years to come.

TeeYiYi

(8,028 posts)
71. Ummm.....
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 01:22 AM
Dec 2013

"...approaching middle age" ???...
That ship has already sailed, my friend.



I (barely) remember hating my 29th birthday. I thought my world was coming to an end. Then, a year later, I turned 30 and I felt young again. Whew, what a relief that was!

Seriously,... fifty-nine, most likely, only feels old. You'll be young again next year at this time. Better to be a young sixty than an old fifty.
Happy Birthday AAO!!!

TYY

nolabear

(43,850 posts)
73. Hey! I'm a whole week older than you, whipper-snapper!
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 01:26 AM
Dec 2013

We'll be fine for quite a few more years. But it is a bit sobering to be a young person in an aging body!

mstinamotorcity2

(1,451 posts)
75. Lucky you.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 02:01 AM
Dec 2013

Having a mad at repug moment can't sleep. Happy Birthday AAO. They say that 60 is the new forty. That's next year huh. Now you got something to look forward to Have a great Birthday and many more.

 

AAO

(3,300 posts)
94. You mean I'm really forty! YEEHAH!!
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:19 AM
Dec 2013

I'm going to a college bar tonight and try to pick up some late 20' early 30's bar sluts! I'M BACK, DAMMIT!!!

raging moderate

(4,624 posts)
76. I read that sixty is called the Sun Birthday in China.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 02:11 AM
Dec 2013

It is the age at which one is considered a real grownup, in that land. there is some of that feeling here as well. And I have read elsewhere that one finally gains control over one's impulses and learns true wisdom. Hang in there! I will turn 66 soon. Just make sure you keep exercising and eating sensibly, etc. Keep saying to yourself: Sixty is the new forty.

Indi Guy

(3,992 posts)
77. It's your body that's growing old.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 02:24 AM
Dec 2013

That would be bad news if we were our bodies, but we're not. Our bodies are what we inhabit. We are eternal spirits; and when it comes time to transition out of here -- we'll move on to the next great adventure.

Ganja Ninja

(15,953 posts)
86. I turned 60 in August.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:03 AM
Dec 2013

Sorry but I have to report it's all downhill after 59. No matter if you still feel young in the head. On the outside you're still old and decrepit. Get use to it.

Oh yeah Happy Birthday!

Tom Rinaldo

(23,187 posts)
87. Keep lookiing foward, but look behind you also
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:04 AM
Dec 2013

You have an incredibly rich catalog of memories stored up. Not only do they inform all of your decisions moving ahead, in ways only experience can offer, but they are rewarding for their own sake. So enjoy them. Nostalgia has high entertainment value. Revisit places that were important to you in the past and bathe in the recollections that brings up. Think about people you have known in your life who were important to you once but who may not be an active part of it now. If you have examples of things you wrote decades ago re-read them again and reflect on how you have changed, if at all. Become familiar with new music but enjoy your old music too, you can have it all because you were there then but you are still here now. Younger people don't have that advantage.

DCBob

(24,689 posts)
93. 59 is the new 39.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:13 AM
Dec 2013

Go for it. Have some fun and adventure. Dont fret it.. just live!

 

AAO

(3,300 posts)
96. Crap! Now I'm 39!! If we can keep this thread open maybe I can get down to 29.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:21 AM
Dec 2013
 

AAO

(3,300 posts)
97. Thanks for all the Birthday wishes. DU'ers are nice compassioate, and FUNNY people!!
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:23 AM
Dec 2013

LWolf

(46,179 posts)
98. Approaching middle age?
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 10:26 AM
Dec 2013

People in your family must be extremely long-lived, lol. I counted my 40th birthday as having reached middle age.

I still feel about 25 in my head, too. My back, knees, ankle, and mirror tell a different story. I'm always surprised to see my mother looking back at me.

I don't mind too much. The alternative is worse.

Edited to add:

Happy Birthday!

ancianita

(43,307 posts)
102. Take heart. You've got six years to go. Florida, full of old people, has these rules. Rule #1:
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:02 PM
Dec 2013

You're not legitimately or officially "old" until 65.

Rule #2: When we look at each other after age 55, we allow for behavior back to twenty years younger, since that is how most of us already feel, anyway.

That way, you're not subject to stares from older people or claims by younger people that you're "trying to act young."

So lose the worry and have a happy birthday.

calimary

(90,039 posts)
103. Happy Birthday AAO - from "Miss 60"! };D
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:05 PM
Dec 2013

It's survivable! I've lived to tell the tale! Yeah you're getting older - but remember, even the young 'uns are, too! You're just getting it over with sooner than they are!

 

HockeyMom

(14,337 posts)
106. I got my Medicare card last month
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:19 PM
Dec 2013

It felt worse after turning 50 and getting all that AARP stuff in the mail! lol You get used to it and just go about living your life.

Personally, if I had to go back in age, it would be 45 and never 25.

 

magical thyme

(14,881 posts)
107. I turned 60 a few weeks ago.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 12:20 PM
Dec 2013

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Enjoy 59. It's your last year in your official youth.

My advice for turning 60: it's a trip down memory lane while you think about where you've been and how you want to spend the last 3rd or so of your life. Try to plan a pleasant visit. Avoid those bullies who would try to use that day to shove your head into the toilet side of your life. (It turned out my boss is one of those bullies, and I ended up spending the week in ptsd, plus the planned activities blew up on the morning of my b-day. The freak outs, nightmares and sleepless nights are only just now receding more than a month later. )

Oh, and I forgot why I came here...Have a wonderful birthday today!

Response to magical thyme (Reply #107)

stopbush

(24,808 posts)
111. Whatever you do, DON'T LOSE YOUR JOB!
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 01:33 PM
Dec 2013

59 is not the time to be looking for work with the rampant ageism in today's employment market.

Spirochete

(5,264 posts)
113. Well, you're only young once
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 01:47 PM
Dec 2013

but you can be immature forever. That's what's saving me. I turned 60 a few days ago. I feel a lot older physically than I do mentally.

Carolina

(6,960 posts)
115. "... yet I am approaching middle age."
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 03:43 PM
Dec 2013

No, you are approaching OLD age. You've been in middle age.

Now, as one who has been where you are (notice the past tense), don't fret. It is not: good night, Irene!

It's time to rock on

Jazzgirl

(3,744 posts)
116. I'll be 60 in March.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 03:44 PM
Dec 2013

Not much you can do about it unless you want to take that whole bottle of pills.

I'm retiring this spring too and can't wait. I have all kinds of fun things planned like traveling, getting rid of "stuff", taking cooking classes at Le Cordon Bleu..... Anything I feel like!

Skittles

(171,719 posts)
121. I have milestone birthday ass kicking specials, Jazzgal
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 06:36 PM
Dec 2013

squeeze me in amongst all those activities please; yes INDEED

lumpy

(13,704 posts)
117. Tomorrow I will be 85 years old. You haven't seen anything... yet, Bucko.
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 04:20 PM
Dec 2013

Whining about turning 59 is for whimps.

polly7

(20,582 posts)
120. Happy Early Birthday, lumpy!
Thu Dec 12, 2013, 06:29 PM
Dec 2013

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pink-o

(4,056 posts)
125. I'll be 59 on Monday...
Fri Dec 13, 2013, 08:51 AM
Dec 2013

Isn't that supposed to be our parents' age????

And how come every time I look in the mirror there's this old, confused looking lady staring back at me? I'll knock on the glass and say: "Mom? How did you get in there?"

However, I not only feel 25, I don't think my energy has flagged at all from when I was that age! I got really lucky: in my late 20s I gave up all my unhealthy habits, in my mid-thirties I made fitness a priority and being blessed with strong peasant DNA, I'm totally pain-free with no health issues. The face and body are moving in a southerly direction every day, but I can keep up with the best of em!

At our age, we take what we can get! Happy b'day.

Vinca

(53,994 posts)
126. I refer to 59 as "the good old days." LOL.
Fri Dec 13, 2013, 09:02 AM
Dec 2013

In about a month I'll be 65 in body, 35 in mind. Don't let it get you down. Kind people tell me I don't seem my age - I'm not into "old lady" things - so I live in my fantasy world of not being a few weeks away from Medicare.

ScreamingMeemie

(68,918 posts)
127. Happy Birthday!
Fri Dec 13, 2013, 09:09 AM
Dec 2013

Let's hope Aaron returns completely healthy on Sunday, in honor of this momentous occasion.

catbyte

(39,154 posts)
128. Hate to tell you this, AAO, but "middle age" is about 35-40. We don't live to be 120! BTW I will be
Fri Dec 13, 2013, 10:10 AM
Dec 2013

59 in a few months myself and I feel just like you do. WHERE DID THE TIME GO?!? As for getting through it, drugs? A stiff belt of something? I was recovering from surgery when I turned 40, so Vicodin got me through that crisis, LOL. I'm not sure what I'm going to do when the Big 6-0 comes around. That's the one I am dreading. I'm not sure why. 50 was a breeze, but the idea of 60 is traumatic.

Sorry I don't have any good suggestions, but I do send my sympathies!

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