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[seabeyond]

1. wtf? simply creating this Op make me wonder more than what you posted.

[Scootaloo]

3. Probably a response to another thread

Wherein the question asked whether it's transphobic if a man opts to not date a trans person.

I'm starting to understand why there was a meta forum. Sort of like flypaper for bullshit.

[seabeyond]

6. hmmm. k. not following the other threads. thanks. nt

[woolldog]

7. well this thread made me wonder:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4245263

If a straight man who doesn't want to date a transexual is transphobic, then by that reasoning a straight man who doesn't want to date men is homophobic, no?

[seabeyond]

9. thank you for the clarification. nt

[seabeyond]

12. you might want to add link to OP. otherwise, this may not go well. nt

[MNBrewer]

46. Only if you don't want to date gay men.

Otherwise it makes you a man-hater.

[treestar]

48. I see a difference there

The transwoman is a woman, and straight men date women. So that is singling out a group of the larger group which they date. Whereas you are talking about men you wouldn't date and who would not date you anyway. Like lesbians who would not date you are not man haters. They just don't date men.

As to being a homophobe, that depends. I am told I am one because I still supported Obama after he picked Rick Warren to give the invocation at his first inauguration. I am also one for considering other issues at times to be of greater weight at a given moment. It's pretty easy to get classed as a homophobe even if you do support equal rights! On DU that is. Also being a Catholic will qualify you.

[Pretzel_Warrior]

312. my phobia used to be that I'd date a woman and she'd end up being

a transgender. thankfully, I got married and avoided that minefield.

[treestar]

313. Reminds me of that 80s movie

That was a big sensation due to a scene where a man finds out the woman he brought to his bedroom is still a man as to genitalia.

[Blanket Statements]

2. I'd make a joke about your post but

There are a lot of uptight people, here, that don't have a sense of humor.

[woolldog]

8. please do.

I have a sense of humor.

[Blanket Statements]

14. Ehhh...I'm sure you wouldn't be offended

but a member of the society of the perpetually outraged would be.

I made a joke in the thread you're referring to that was hidden in 5 minutes

[idwiyo]

49. That 'joke' was a homophobic crap that should have gotten your arse kicked off DU.

Whining about that hide and defending it as a 'joke' proves that you are a transphobic bigot.

Link to hidden post if anyone wants to see the proof of your bigotry:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4245291

[BainsBane]

51. It still might

Particularly in conjunction with his other hides.

[idwiyo]

54. I sure hope so. It makes me sick to even think that shit can be posted on DU.

[Blanket Statements]

56. Oh lighten up, Francis

That's a joke from the movie, stripes

Having a personal preference when dating people doesn't make anyone homophobic or a bigot

[idwiyo]

60. Your 'joke' was insinuation that transwomen are 'fake', not 'real' women. That's homophobic to boot.

[Blanket Statements]

69. Actually it wasn't ...since body enhancement

Isn't the sole territory of the transgendered

[idwiyo]

79. Yes it was. You made that statement in a thread about transwomen. It was homophobic to boot.

[Blanket Statements]

84. Good lord, you clearly live to be offended

Even when it's pointed out that people other than the transgendered have plastic surgery you try to insist my post only referred to the transgendered

[idwiyo]

88. You clearly think that homophobia is not a big deal. A 'joke'.

[Blanket Statements]

89. Ohhh, now I'm homophobic because I won't

Date people who've had plastic surgery?

You probably become offended if the wind blows the wrong way at a given time.

Enjoy yourself

[idwiyo]

94. You insinuated that transwomen are 'fake'. That's why you woudn't date them, according to you.

Pure unadulterated transphobic bigotry.



Keep digging.

[Blanket Statements]

95. Only if you make believe everyone getting plastic surgery

Is transgendered

[idwiyo]

99. According to you sex reassignment surgery is the same as plastic surgery. That's homophobic to boot.

You believe that transwomen are 'fake', not 'real' women or you wouldn't even think about posting bigoted shit in a thread about transgender women.

[Blanket Statements]

101. The fact that both surgeries are changing the natural body

Should clue you in to their similarities.

Some people just live to be offended

[idwiyo]

107. The fact that you believe that some women are 'fake' because they were born with

the wrong genitalia and needed to have a corrective surgery is the proof that you are a bigot.

Keep digging.

[Blanket Statements]

109. If you're offended by the fact that surgeries to create a vagina

Or rejuvenate it, aren't natural then that's your problem, not mine.

And by natural I don't mean anything but not done by nature itself

[idwiyo]

116. You just openly insinuated that women who are born with wrong genitalia are not 'natural'.

I am disgusted by the fact that you keep posting homophobic crap on DU.

Homophobic bigotry, pure and simple.

[Blanket Statements]

117. Jaysus...even with the additional explanation

to avoid confusion you still managed to confuse yourself.


If it's man made it's not natural, that doesn't mean being born with the wrong parts isn't natural

[idwiyo]

128. You posted a homophobic post and it was hidden. Your attempt to dig yourself out of shithole

you created made it even worse.

Keep digging.

[Blanket Statements]

131. Neat trick...make a general statement that has no reference to sexuality

And get called a homophobe

If I wouldn't date one legged Somali pirates would it make me a racist homophobe who hates the handicapped or just a picky dater?

[idwiyo]

140. You posted a homophobic post in a thread about transwomen. Keep digging.

[Blanket Statements]

142. It was a question about dating transgendered women

I didn't realize my preference for women with real boobs made me fearful of gay people.

[idwiyo]

145. Keep trying to make an excuse for your homophobic post? Keep digging.

[Blanket Statements]

147. You keep using that word. I do not think it means

What you think it means

[idwiyo]

153. There is no difference between transphobia and homophobia. Your hidden post was homophobic.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homophobia

Homophobia encompasses a range of negative attitudes and feelings toward homosexuality or people who are identified or perceived as being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT). It can be expressed as antipathy, contempt, prejudice, aversion, or hatred, may be based on irrational fear, and is sometimes related to religious beliefs.[1][2][3][4][5][6]

[Blanket Statements]

155. How do you know it wasn't just anti-woman?

Doesn't occur to you that I could be gay or bisexual, does it.

[cyberswede]

170. Are you, in fact, "just" anti-woman?

You're claiming to be a misogynist rather than a homophobe? That's not actually better, you know.

[Blanket Statements]

171. Bahahahaha! Unbelievable!!

I hate plastic surgery... Good god, people

[idwiyo]

180. Jees, I forgot to consider that you might be a gay/bi- male who hates plastic surgery and

makes statements like 'I don't date women with fake parts' in a threads talking about transwomen.

How silly of me not to consider that possibility.

Keep digging.

[RedCappedBandit]

240. Some people need plastic surgery. Get the fuck over yourself. nt

[idwiyo]

172. You are a gay man posting 'I don't date women with fake parts'? I should have considered that?

Seriously?

One could be a bi- male but that doesn't mean that bi- males can't be homophobic.
One can be a misogynistic bigot AND a homophobic bigot at the same time.

Keep digging.

[Blanket Statements]

175. Hahahahaha!! Desperate to be offended

it's how some people live I guess.

The word used was "anyone"

[idwiyo]

192. You posted a homophobic statement is the thread about dating transwomen. It was hidden

because it was a homophobic post.


Keep digging.

[Blanket Statements]

194. Hahahahaha!! I'll have to remember the word "anyone"

exclusively refers to the LGBT community

What does the word "someone" mean? I don't want to offend hobbits with gingivitis or something

[idwiyo]

197. Your hidden post was homophobic. It was not a 'joke'. It was deliberate bigoted insult. Keep digging

[Blanket Statements]

198. Is the word "anyone" as insulting as "everyone"

How about "anybody" who does that offend?

I didn't realize plastic surgery was so close to the hearts of so many

And congrats...you're the first person on my ignore list

I hope that doesn't make me anti whatever...wouldn't want to offend 12 thumbed gnomes with brown eyes or something

[idwiyo]

200. 'fake vaginas' in reference to transwomen is what made your post homophobic. Deal with it.

[Bluenorthwest]

229. gay and bisexual men are not 'anti woman'.

To suggest such a thing is extremely tired, old1950's style homophobia, retro ignorance. Not just hateful, but also very dated.

[cyberswede]

156. I'm counting the days...

http://www.democraticunderground.com/10133332

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=profile&uid=310167&sub=trans

[idwiyo]

167. I read your link, and checked the rest of profile. Am counting the days with you...

[A-Schwarzenegger]

121. He won't be here long.

5 hidden posts in less than a month.

[idwiyo]

135. I didn't look at his profile but I am not surprised at all. Hopefully it wouldn't be much longer.

Thanks for the tip.

[A-Schwarzenegger]

138. Gone for a couple months starting Jan 6, minimum.

This sort, more likely gone for good.

[idwiyo]

143. Of course! Totally forgot about new rules. Thank you for reminding me!

Definitely something to look forward to.

[uppityperson]

160. Way. eom

[A-Schwarzenegger]

205. 6 hidden now.

His pizza is in the oven.

[Ms. Toad]

211. And flagged for review.

That likely means quiet at least until the admins return from their holiday break.

[uppityperson]

212. Excellent, thanks for the good news. Flagged for review, can't post til Admin says he can.

[A-Schwarzenegger]

214. I bet a pepperoni he's gone for good

until he stitches a sock together.

[idwiyo]

218. Thank you for great news, missed it. Thank you jurors!

[On the Road]

227. So I Guess You Answered the Original Post --

By that logic, a man not wanting to date or have sex with another man who has had gender-reassignment surgery qualifies as bigotry and homophobic.

Absolutely unbelievable.

[idwiyo]

231. I am assuming you are complitely ignorant so I will explain.

I will make it very simple:

There are women and man who are born with a genetic conditions that can manifest itself in part as 'wrong' genitalia and/or other issues like lack or over-abundance of specific hormons.

Females with this genetic conditions might have male sexual organs, could lack breast development, etc. In this case SRS can be performed to correct the genitalia problem. Other problems are corrected with hormonal therapy.

These women are no different from women who are born without this genetic condition. They are women, not man. There is no difference between us when it comes to self-identifying as females.

The same applies to males who are born with a genetic condition that manifests itself as 'wrong' genitalia.

To imply that somehow these man and women are 'fake' or 'not natural' is a homophobic bigotry at it's worst. This is no different than saying that gay chose to be gay. It can be excused once, assuming one was completely ignorant on the subject.

[On the Road]

232. I Am Happy to Refer to Someone as "She"

as a matter of social convention.

As far as the rest of it, I'm just going to back off because you're personally involved in a way I didn't realize.

[idwiyo]

234. Do you refer to other women in your life as 'she' just as a matter of social convention?

Do you even realise how bigoted you sound?

As it comes to me, you assumed that I must be 'one of them man who had their dick cut off', or you wouldn't have wrote what you did.

I am guessing (based on your post) that you simply can not imagine that a 'naturally born' woman will say that she doesn't see any difference between herself and a woman born with a wrong set of sexual organs.

Well, I don't see any difference between myself and a transwoman. We are both naturally born women. To think otherwise is homophobic to boot.

[Jamastiene]

268. Thank you for your efforts to educate these bigoted posters.

You have great endurance to be able to deal with them this way. to you and thank you.

[idwiyo]

270. Thank you, you made me blush. :) I don't know how else to deal with this problem.

[cinnabonbon]

287. Thank you

You did a great job explaining.

[Feral Child]

284. Very succinct and concise explanation.

Thank you for the clarification of a somewhat confusing anatomical phenomenon. I had been very confused about these issues until recently, when I took the time to research.

It must be emotionally devastating to be trapped by biology in this way. My absolute respect and support for those that have to deal with the burden. I'm very glad that we've evolved to the point that we can recognize the condition and that medical solutions are possible.


I also absolutely agree with the last paragraph in your post. Most sincerely, thanks for your input.

[BainsBane]

63. Making a point of publicly displaying those preferences

in offensive ways and not caring who you offend could very well be interpreted as transphobic or homophobic.

[Blanket Statements]

73. Thank god I didn't say anything about not liking bleached hair

Every blond in the world could have had their delicate sensibilities trampled on.

News flash:
Personal preferences in dating partners isn't bigotry

[idwiyo]

83. Insinuating that transwomen are 'fake' is homophobic bigotry. You did just that by posting

your 'joke' in a thread that was talking about transwomen.

[Blanket Statements]

86. I didn't say anything about transwomen...I said women

[idwiyo]

91. You insinuated that transwomen are 'fake' by posting your bigoted shit in a thread about transwomen.

Keep digging.

[Blanket Statements]

103. Your inference doesn't mean I implied it

And I certainly didn't say anything about transgendered women vs women that would differentiate the two

[idwiyo]

184. You sure did, that's why your homophobic post was hidden.

[Blanket Statements]

187. You keep using the wrong word

[idwiyo]

191. There is no difference between transphobia and homophobia. Your hidden post was homophobic.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Homophobia

Homophobia encompasses a range of negative attitudes and feelings toward homosexuality or people who are identified or perceived as being lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender (LGBT). It can be expressed as antipathy, contempt, prejudice, aversion, or hatred, may be based on irrational fear, and is sometimes related to religious beliefs.

[Blanket Statements]

193. Hahahahaha! You keep using the wrong word

all you like

[idwiyo]

195. Homophobia encompasses a range of negative attitudes and feelings toward LGBTQ community.

Your post was clearly homophobic and was hidden. Rightfully so.

Keep digging.

[idwiyo]

199. Anti-cacophobic means 'against fear of ugliness'. Are you implying that transwomen are cacophobic?

More precise:

Are you implying that you will not date 'anyone' with 'fake' breasts/vaginas/etc because they are cacophobic and you are against cacophobia?

Inventive. Keep digging.

[boston bean]

202. well, he already told us the he could be a gay or bisexual man who is anti woman.

I don't think you are too far off... His prior post intimated gay and bisexual men were anti woman.

[A-Schwarzenegger]

208. Account status: Flagged for review

[boston bean]

209. well, at least he's been put on hold for now.

[idwiyo]

210. he is anti-women and 'anti fear of ugliness' gay/bi- male who doesn't date women with 'fake' vaginas

Yeah. That's it. Or something along those lines.

[BainsBane]

245. He's been PPR'd

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=profile&uid=310167&sub=trans

[idwiyo]

246. Great news! Thank you!

[Texasgal]

185. YOU lighten up!

Your post was a well deserved HIDE!

Disgusting.

Learn from it.

[Blanket Statements]

188. Hahahaha! I didn't realize plastic surgery was so popular

[Texasgal]

221. This had nothing to do with plastic surgery

and you know it.

Take your hide and learn from it. It's offensive period.

[Ms. Toad]

203. Having a personal preference, not necessarily,

But crassly describing gender reassignment surgery as being fake - which is literally, for many trans* women, life saving surgery - is bigoted and offensive. That you don't understand it - and are still defending it - is even more troubling that that you said it in the first place, from my perspective.

[Aerows]

174. We won't have to hear from him for 3 months given the

rules that go into effect post January 6th.

[RKP5637]

182. Good! K&R! n/t

[Ms. Toad]

215. If he survives the review,

It will be 3 months from Dec 15 (the date the 5th post was hidden) - so closer to 2 months. Once that post drops off the transparency page, he can post again. Assuming he is still with us.

[Blanket Statements]

52. I didn't realize fake teeth and fake hair

Was part of the process.

[idwiyo]

58. That wasn't all you said. Go ahead, repeat and defend the rest of it too.

[Blanket Statements]

59. Do only the transgendered get boob jobs?

And there are women who get vaginal reconstruction because of vanity too


Perhaps if you took some time to think about what's being said you might not be so easily offended

[idwiyo]

65. Keep digging. Your post was, and still is a homophobic bigoted crap.

[Blanket Statements]

67. Only to people who think plastic surgery

Is performed on the transgendered

[idwiyo]

78. According to your statement transwomen are 'fake'. You obviously think that sex reassignment surgery is

nothing more than plastic surgery. Bigotry pure and simple.

[Blanket Statements]

80. Of course...because there's no possible way

Woman would get plastic surgery unless she had been born a man.

In spite of the fact that we have a booming plastic surgery industry used by millions of people who aren't changing their sex you decided it had to be ONLY about the transgendered.

[BainsBane]

72. You also said fake vaginas.

It's pretty clear who that applies to.

[Blanket Statements]

74. Never heard of vaginal reconstruction?

You should read more


Vaginal rejuvenation is the other name it goes by

[BainsBane]

76. Keep it up

You're really convincing. Here's a word of advice. When you make a mistake, reflect on it, admit it, and move on. Don't dig deeper. Your post was in a thread on transgendered people. Everyone knew what you were saying which is why it was hidden. You've gotten away with a lot since you've joined because you've gone after feminists, who are an easy target around here. I think you'll find far less tolerance for this type of behavior.

[Blanket Statements]

77. I didn't make a mistake unless it was assuming

Most people were aware of the booming plastic surgery industry used by a lot of women in this country

[idwiyo]

105. You clearly believe that sex reassignment surgery is the same as plastic surgery.

According to you people have plastic surgery is to create things like 'fake' breasts, and 'fake' vaginas. Hence according to you transwomen are 'fake' because they had 'plastic surgery'.

Homophobia at it's worst.

Keep digging.

[Blanket Statements]

106. Hahahahaha! You're going to just make up things

I didn't say so you can be offended.

I get it

[idwiyo]

110. Keep digging. There is no excuse for homophobia. It's sick, ans so was your original post.

You made it worse by trying to backpedal.

[Blanket Statements]

111. I didn't backpedal from anything. I made a joke

Some people are too overly sensitive to get it.

[idwiyo]

119. You posted a homophobic statement and it was hidden. It was not a 'joke'.

It was and is a homophobic statement.

[Blanket Statements]

122. I made no reference to anyone's sexuality

Sooo how could it be homophobic?

[idwiyo]

132. You did. Starting with your hidden homophobic post.

[Blanket Statements]

134. Bahahahha...I guess the word "anyone"

Means something different to you

[idwiyo]

137. Your purely homophobic post in a thread about transgender women told me all I need to know.

[Blanket Statements]

141. Calling me a homophobe doesn't make me homophobic

Neither does not dating women with fake boobs

[idwiyo]

148. Posting homophobic statements does make one a homophobe. Keep digging.

[Blanket Statements]

149. I made no such statements

[uppityperson]

161. Maybe not "statements" but "statement" for sure.

[Blanket Statements]

162. Nope

[Rex]

239. Evidently the admins thought it over and

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=profile&uid=310167&sub=trans

declared you a bigoted troll...please don't come back. Ever.

[Guy Whitey Corngood]

314. About damn time too. I called it withinn the first 10 posts. nt

[Rex]

315. Same here, that username alone made me think

it was a troll and of course they proved it within the first minute of being on DU.

[Guy Whitey Corngood]

317. I know right? When you come out right away talking about "you people are

so easily offended". It's definitely trollish.

[HappyMe]

87. Sidestep until the cows come home.

Fake teeth, fake hair, fake boobs and fake VAGINA in a thread about transgendered women.....doesn't take a fucking Einstein to figure out what you were saying.

Now had you simply said that you didn't think you would want to date a transgendered woman- without your 'joke' -people wouldn't be jumping your shit right now.

[Blanket Statements]

90. Oh lord...you guys really need to think before you react

[HappyMe]

92. Oh lord - you really need to think.

[Blanket Statements]

93. Clearly I put more thought into my post than you did

In understanding it

[HappyMe]

96. lol!

Whatever you say, dearie.

[Blanket Statements]

97. I know the word "anyone" is confusing

Especially when you try and twist it to mean a specific group

[Ms. Toad]

201. .

As jaded as I am about this place ever being free of pretty blatant transphobia, I'm still surprised that was not an immediate PPR.

[idwiyo]

213. He has more than 100 posts, hopefully admin will get rid of him when new rules kick in.

[Ms. Toad]

216. But he is now flagged for review.

At least that will keep him quiet until they return to the boards after their holiday breaks.

[idwiyo]

217. Thanks gawd for that. I was getting really sick reading all the shit he posted. Thank you, jury!

[Zorra]

219. Jury results

Sun Dec 29, 2013, 05:46 PM an alert was sent on the following post:

The word you should be using is anticacophobia
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4248197

REASON FOR ALERT:

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.

ALERTER'S COMMENTS:

this guy is trolling this entire thread. cacophobia is a fear of ugly people, not sure what the anti is for. but please read his postings. mirt needs to see this. he also implied above the gay and bisexual males were anti women.

JURY RESULTS

You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Sun Dec 29, 2013, 05:57 PM, and the Jury voted 4-2 to HIDE IT.

Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: Given his/her high post number, I'm going to give the benefit of the doubt and consider this an attempt at satire.
Juror #2 voted to HIDE IT and said: Jeopardy for $500 - What is TRIM spelled backwards?
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE and said: I don't see any reason to hide the post, so I vote KEEP IT.
Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT and said: No explanation given
Juror #5 voted to HIDE IT and said: After reading many of the earlier posts by this person, it seems clear that he signed up with the purpose of being disruptive. Send this one on to Skinner and let the Administrators deal with him. BS has been here a month too long already.
Juror #6 voted to HIDE IT and said: Troll!!!

[A-Schwarzenegger]

220. "BS has been here a month too long already."

Hadn't noticed the initials.

[Ms. Toad]

222. Good to see the jury gave this poster a much needed time-out.

At a minimum until the admins are back from their holiday breaks, since this hide triggered the automatic "flagged for review."

[Rex]

237. That one is gone, a banned troll now.

Looks like someone was paying attention.

[Zorra]

238. Thanks!

[hrmjustin]

112. I just read the post and I do not find it funny at all.

[Blanket Statements]

114. I'm not surprised by your post at all

A lot of people have no sense of humor due to oversensitivity

If I said I wouldn't date a one legged Somali pirate, there would be someone who claimed I hated handicapped black men

[hrmjustin]

115. your joke was disgusting and will be remembered.

[Blanket Statements]

118. Some can think about it

When they feel need to be outraged for no reason at all

[hrmjustin]

120. I am not one of those people. I have a sense of humor and I found no humor in what you posted.

It will be remembered and addressed. Behave!

[Blanket Statements]

123. Eh..

[hrmjustin]

124. just behave.

[Blanket Statements]

126. Okay. I really wasn't trying to offend anyone

It really was a joke

[hrmjustin]

129. ok fair enough. Please say no such things again.

[uppityperson]

127. "REMINDER AND UPDATE: Five hidden posts and you can't post"= Flameout?

If you have five hidden posts on your account you will be unable to post.
... If you have five hidden posts showing on your Transparency page (a 90-day period), then you will be temporarily unable to post. In order to regain your ability to post, you will need to wait until the oldest post of the five is more than 90 days old and "falls off" of your record. At that point you will only have four posts showing on your Transparency page, and you will regain your ability to post.

Due to a fluke of scheduling, that new policy was supposed to go into effect on December 25, Christmas Day. However, because the DU Administrators do not wish to spend our holiday break fixing the inevitable bugs, we have decided to push back the launch date.

The new launch date is Monday January 6, 2014.

So as of Jan 6, you will not be able to post until March 3? Is this a flameout now, going out in a flame of "glory"?

[Blanket Statements]

133. I can't help what's alerted on or the vote of the jury

I make posts and there are people who get offended.
I've seen posts far worse than what I've made allowed to stand...it doesn't make my transgressions worse.

[uppityperson]

136. You can't help what's alerted on or voted to be hidden? Seriously?You can't help posting nasty stuff

and here posting numerous times defending that nasty statement? You can't help yourself? Oh.

Rather than understanding the offensiveness and apologizing, someone is holding your hands to the keyboard making you continue to defend it as well as write it in the first place. Gotcha.

As I said, flameout.

[Blanket Statements]

139. I didn't realize the only people who had plastic surgery

Were the transgendered...

[uppityperson]

144. I didn't realize that someone is forcing you to write nasty stuff and continue to defend it. Shall I

call the police for you?

[Blanket Statements]

146. Whatever

Some people live to be offended

[uppityperson]

157. And some live to be offensive

[Blanket Statements]

158. I can't help how you interpret things

[uppityperson]

159. You can help how you post offensive things though. Or wait, is that person still holding you hostage

forcing you to defend what was offensive rather than simply saying "I am sorry"? What was your address again as the police will want it?

[Blanket Statements]

163. I will not apologize for your interpretation

I made a joke.

Besides, I can't be homophobic...some of my best friends are people

[uppityperson]

164. You won't apologize for being offensive. Yeah yeah yeah. We get it. Goodbye.

[Blanket Statements]

165. I won't apologize for your interpretations

[Jester Messiah]

181. Just put 'em on ignore.

The outrage brigade thrives on attention. Deny it and they buzz off. One thing the past week or so has been excellent for is getting the eternally humorless to self-identify.

[Blanket Statements]

189. Thanks for the advice. Probably a good idea

[JTFrog]

224. Why am I not surprised you are defending

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this flagged for review troll.




Update: PPR'd troll.

[Jester Messiah]

242. Same reason I'm not surprised to find you attacking.

Perhaps you should be flagged for review as well.

[JTFrog]

271. Indeed.

Good luck with that.

[idwiyo]

250. Pardon me if I don't find homophobic bigotry funny. Do you think his post was a funny 'joke'?

[Jester Messiah]

251. I'm sure it was an utter outrage.

Of course, I didn't see it myself, but I am assured that nothing is funny, ever. This is my face of utmost gravity. >:-|

Edit: *plonk*

[A-Schwarzenegger]

252. Well, it's good to see that somebody has picked up the fallen torch

of a banned bigoted troll.

[Jester Messiah]

253. I was thinking of putting it up on e-bay.

But I don't think I can find a buyer. Honestly, who uses torches in this day and age? I might just drop it off at the Goodwill.

[A-Schwarzenegger]

254. No, keep it, it looks good with your pitchfork.

[Jester Messiah]

255. Why thank you!

Pitchfork selection is a such a tedious affair, but one must choose carefully in order that it complement the ensemble, yet not dominate it!

[A-Schwarzenegger]

256. I'd say the torch pretty much dominates your outfit.

[Jester Messiah]

258. Would you?

I thought it touched up my devil-may-care attitude and tendency to lampoon those who take themselves too seriously. Ah well, can't win 'em all. I suppose it's true, absolutely nothing is funny, ever. I shall try to adopt an appropriately grave mien.

[A-Schwarzenegger]

259. There are a lot of options between

"nothing is funny, ever"
&
"everything is a big fucking joke."

[Jester Messiah]

261. Are there?

Well, we're just spoiled for choice!

[idwiyo]

257. "I am assured that nothing is funny, ever." Is that what you think? Homophobia can be funny?

BTW, We both know you didn't put me on ignore.

Just in case you delete your post:

Jester Messiah
251. I'm sure it was an utter outrage.
Of course, I didn't see it myself, but I am assured that nothing is funny, ever. This is my face of utmost gravity. >:-|

Edit: *plonk*

[A-Schwarzenegger]

272. Guy's hidden posts are of a pattern.

[LanternWaste]

262. I've noticed an odd correlation... those who often use the petulance term 'outrage brigade

I've noticed an odd correlation... those who often use the petulance term 'outrage brigade' are often the ones who rationalize the irrational, and defend both vulgarity and intolerance merely as wit.

Though I'm sure you would allege otherwise, and further justify your own use of it as both mature and sincere.

[Jester Messiah]

265. That -is- odd.

Though another supposition would be that the "outrage brigade" merely derive satisfaction from being outraged and need a good lampooning every now and again. But let us cogitate upon this, for I purport to be naught but mature and sincere at all times!

[Amaril]

275. But, that in turn.......

......begs the question of who truly comprise the "outrage brigade"............

a) Those who find blatantly racist/sexist/homophobic "jokes" to be offensive, or

b) Those who are offended that someone is offended by something offensive?

Cogitate on that for a bit.

[Jester Messiah]

283. Meh. [nt]

[NuclearDem]

280. Your joke was a transphobic piece of shit.

But no, go ahead and double down and play the victim.

ETA: Or don't. Too bad, so sad.

[Shankapotomus]

17. I'd joke about it too

But so much of my own humor depends on sounding absolutely serious. People would blow a gasket.

[Blanket Statements]

20. I'm outraged by your admission

Not really

[woolldog]

24. well I never!

[LanternWaste]

233. I imagine "uptight" is quite often used

I imagine "uptight" is quite often used in order to better validate and justify our vulgarity, our disrespect, and our petulance to others.


(Insert rationalization here)

[nomorenomore08]

300. As usual, LW is on point...

[arcane1]

4. Huh?

Do you hate gay people? Do you support discrimination against them? Do you believe their love is the same as fucking an armadillo?

[freshwest]

5. ...

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[LittleBlue]

10. The parallel you draw is similar to the other thread

about men being transphobic if they won't date trans people.

To me it doesn't matter whether it's race, sexual orientation, tattoos or hair color, you can't be held accountable for a subconscious desire.

[Aerows]

11. Am I phobic for not dating people I'm not attracted to?

Gee, I kind of thought the whole part of dating was getting to know someone that you are attracted to, and can form a bond with. If a White/Black/Straight/Bi/Trans/Gay person isn't doing it for you, it probably has nothing to do with those factors. It probably has to do with the fact that you aren't attracted to them.

Let's not over think this, folks.

[pintobean]

13. This thread is a really bad idea

Whatever you are thinking or what your intentions are, it looks really bad and will rightfully offend a lot of people here. I strongly recommend a self delete.

[woolldog]

16. ugh

too many people on DU actively looking for things to be offended by.

[Blanket Statements]

22. Yep

[Iggo]

28. Too many actively looking to offend people, too.

So there you go.

[nomorenomore08]

301. Yup. Takes two to tango, or insert other expression assholes like to use... n/t

[boston bean]

35. Seems as though that you were offended, no?

[woolldog]

43. Honestly?

No. Bemused is more like it.

[pintobean]

39. Or, they have good reason to be.

Many people have to live their lives dealing with stupid shit like your OP. They come to DU expecting not to have to deal with it here. It's a reasonable expectation.

[LanternWaste]

264. Much as there are too many people on DU actively attempting and defending things that are intended t

Much as there are too many people on DU actively attempting and defending things that are intended to be offensive.

Six of one, half a dozen of the other (insert distinction without a difference here)

[Aerows]

19. The other thread was just as bad

if not worse. It feels like shaming people that won't date them because of whatever perceived "hangup" or identity they have, instead of the fact that not everyone is going to want to be with everyone that is attracted to them. It's not racist to not be attracted to every Tom, Dick and Melinda that comes on to you, nor is it homophobic to not be attracted to every Tracy, Willie and Shannon that hist on you, either.

You are attracted to what you are attracted to. If the person you are chasing doesn't find you to be in that category, well, stay calm. It might not be your race, sexuality, or even your looks. You might just have an awful personality. Feel better?

Edit: Didn't mean this for you Pinto bean. Replied in the wrong place. Meant to reply to the comment under yours.

[pintobean]

23. I figured that out - your edit

I didn't go into that other thread, based on the title. Obvious flame bait.

[Aerows]

40. I didn't post in it either

I just peeped in there and left.

[Lizzie Poppet]

64. Agreed. That thread is idiocy incarnate.

I only refrained from commenting in it because I wanted to make sure I was jury-eligible.

[Niceguy1]

108. the op is doing

His duty by giving the perpetually offended something to ne offended about...taking onefor the team.

[ProudToBeBlueInRhody]

15. You made your point there

Why make a new thread about it?

Are we going to see a dozen threads now about race, religion, sex, etc etc

[Aerows]

179. It appears

that the holidays have left some with little to do but stir the pot. Now I don't particularly stir that pot, I just go ahead and flush it because I don't like to let it hang around, but some like to stir in it.

Then they wonder why they can't get dates.

[closeupready]

18. Not sure, but you DO sound like an asshole.

[woolldog]

21. how so?

[closeupready]

25. You are making light of serious matters

which other DU members are saying offend them.

In other words, you are basically coming here to a progressive, liberal board and telling us all to get over it, which - as a smug presumably heterosexual (white?) male - is easy for you to say.

I don't appreciate the obvious asshole-ishness of why you were motivated to start this thread - this is not 4chan or Free Republic.

[pintobean]

30. Here 4 years and doesn't get that.

I don't think he ever will.

The jury went 0-6 on the OP. I wasn't the first alerter, so I don't have any comments.

[woolldog]

34. what are other DU members saying offends them?

huh? it's hard to keep track these days...

[Blanket Statements]

41. Hahahaha!

I see that feminists are now making themselves the victims of your post

[Iggo]

26. Unrec.

[BainsBane]

29. The one benefit of this OP

Is that we can see the poutrage goes beyond objections to feminism.

[boston bean]

32. Exactly!

[BainsBane]

37. How does the saying go?

They came for the radical feminists, but I wasn't a radical feminist, they came for the feminists, but I wasn't a feminist, they came for the LBGT people, but I wasn't LGBT . . . . .

[boston bean]

45. We've had Paglia, Dilbert, now this...

showing the cards.

[closeupready]

33. Yes. This x 1000. Very, very clear.

[Squinch]

102. It's a movement!

[HappyMe]

31. Why, oh why?

[aikoaiko]

98. Why oh why must it be this way...

...Before you can read me you gotta learn how to see me, I said
Free your mind and the rest will follow
Be color blind, don't be so shallow.
Free your mind and the rest will follow
Be color blind, don't be so shallow


You set off a earworm in me.

[Shandris]

36. No, you're just a person who can't tell the difference between...

...not dating someone you would otherwise be attracted to purely and solely because of genitalia, and not dating someone you wouldn't be attracted to in the first place.

Completely understandable, getting the two confused. I know I have difficulty telling the difference between 'like, but am going to reject for the hell of it' and 'dont like at all'. They're SO similar, after all.

[etherealtruth]

38. A serious question

What would the motivation behind a post like this be?

[Shandris]

42. Purely conjecture (but educated conjecture), but I think its...

...to repost something that another poster put in the Transphobic thread. Apparently it needed repeating for those of us who weren't edified the first time.

Again, that's my interpretation though.

[ismnotwasm]

44. And in the trash it goes

[Logical]

47. This post was tacky. n-t

[idwiyo]

50. Are you trying to imply that transwomen are not 'real' women?

[HappyMe]

61. I believe that the hidden

'joke' came right out with that charming sentiment.

[idwiyo]

68. So do I. The OP of course will either ignore the question or run.

[woolldog]

151. addressed

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4246800

[idwiyo]

166. You didn't answer my question. Your link is the reason why I asked you this specific question.

I am trying to figure where you stand.

Do you understand that there is no difference between me, a woman who was born with all female parts present, and a woman who was born with genetic problem that manifested itself in part as wrong genitalia? We are women, both of us. Both are naturally born women. One of us has a genetic problem that requires hormonal treatments and corrective surgery. That's the only difference between us. Nothing else.

If that is what you believe, than why the hell would you draw a parallel between dating a woman and dating a gay man?

[scheming daemons]

225. well there is one other difference...

... someone may want to only date women who can procreate because of a desire to father children with his partner. That is one case where a man may not wish to have a relationship with a transgender female or other female that is not fertile.

A dating preference is not bigotry.

I have no opinion on the other thread, because I haven't read it.

But having a belief that someone is -phobic because of who they are attracted to or who they want to date is ridiculous.

[idwiyo]

228. Any woman you date might be infertile. You take your chances.

There are things like surrogacy if you absolutely must have your own genetic replicant.

Are you asking any of your potential dates for the proof of fertility before you even take them on the date?

[scheming daemons]

236. no...

But if a man decides to end a relationship when he finds out the woman he is dating is transgender or infertile, it doesn't make him a bigot.

[idwiyo]

293. If he ends the relationship only because he thinks that trans- means she is not a 'real' woman is

a bigot.

[hrmjustin]

53. As a gay man I do not get you question.

[Tobin S.]

57. Here's my interpretation

The OP seems to be implying that just being a straight male makes you homophobic in the eyes of some of the homosexual people here. The question was rhetorical and sardonic.

[NoOneMan]

62. That's not it at all

There is another OP that suggest those who will not date transgender people are Transphobic.

[hrmjustin]

66. thanks. I admit to be afraid of some straight guys but that does not mske them homophobic at all.

It is my issue.

[Tobin S.]

75. 10-4

I am a large, masculine, straight male and I notice that I have that effect on some gay men. I do not take that personally and I try to make them feel comfortable. My wife and I have a lot of gay acquaintances.

I think it might go back to men who may have a similar appearance and mannerisms as I do being abusive to our gay friends in the past. I would feel a little unnerved by a person who looked like that as well.

[Soundman]

82. Could you elaborate a little please?

That is an interesting statement.

[hrmjustin]

223. I get afraid sometimes that some men do not like gay guys and will get violent.

[Feral Child]

292. That's a reasonable fear.

Homophobes can be violent and aggressive whilst asserting their masculinity.

I'm a straight guy. I've been hit on by gay men. I was never offended by it, and certainly didn't feel threatened. I assumed it was a compliment and treated it as such.

None of the gay men I knew were aggressive or creepy about their interest nor did they consider my (polite) rejection to be offensive.

I'm sorry you have to feel unsafe and hope you haven't had any bad experiences.

[Prophet 451]

55. In itself, no

If you're only attracted to girls, that's fine, that's just how you're wired.

What would make you a homophobe (or not) is how you treat people who are gay and how you vote on issues that affect them.

[loli phabay]

70. nope, we all are attracted to different sorts, does not mean its bigoted

[MannyGoldstein]

71. You're clearly guilty of something.

Probably many things.

Better apologize now, before all Hell breaks loose.

[cherokeeprogressive]

81. Yep.

If you don't know otherwise, and have to ask, or are worried you might be... I'd say... YEP.

[Kurska]

85. If you're referencing something maybe you should include a link

Because without any context this makes you look like a raging a-hole.

Even with context it isn't that funny.

[Squinch]

100. Trashing.

[JI7]

104. you asking that question makes me believe you are a homophobic

[closeupready]

125. Yes, part. in light of all the follow-up 'clarifications'

he's posted. So I think in that light, yes, he is a huge homophobe.

[Vashta Nerada]

113. Of course not.

Stupid, pointless, divisive thread.

Trash.

[liberalmuse]

130. The fact that you've posted just to ask this question...

...kind of indicates that you are. Men secure in their own sexuality don't lament about this issue.

[Shankapotomus]

150. My sources say

[Skittles]

152. no, not homophobic

but asking this stupid question certainly makes you moronic

[woolldog]

154. good one

[Skittles]

168. not a joke

a FACT

[woolldog]

173. it's your opinion.

and one that I don't care a whit about, except to the extent that it amuses me.

[Skittles]

178. if you didn't care you would not be here whining

DONE HERE

[woolldog]

186. lol

yep I'm whining.

[alcibiades_mystery]

285. People suffer from lifelong discrimination, but not to worry, woolldog is both amused and bemused

Totally cool, as it were - nothing but a little light laughter, ha ha, look at the (insert group here) with their silly little outrages!

"Hey, guys, bros, check out these (insert plural epithet here). They've all got their panties in a bunch." Ha ha ha. "Oh, I'm gonna make 'em howl now. Watch this, bros!"

Ha.

Ha.

Ha.

Nice guy, this woolldog.

[woolldog]

288. where did I say I was amused?

I said I was bemused by that thread (namely, the idea that not dating a transperson makes one transphobic), which is very different than "amused"

I'm also not making fun of anyone or any group. Anyone who believes that either hasn't read my posts or is projecting a lot of "stuff" onto them.

[LanternWaste]

235. More than simply Skittle's opinion... it's shared.

More than simply Skittle's opinion... it's shared. Regardless of whether we petulantly trivialize those opinions by calling them amusing or actually examine.

[JanMichael]

169. I don't think she was making a joke

you sound like a jerk, frankly. It's a stupid question.

[woolldog]

176. you're certainly entitled to your opinion, Jan.

Personally I've found the responses to my question informative. And I've learned a lot.

Remember, there's no such thing as a stupid question.

[JanMichael]

183. yes there is. Your kindergarten

teacher was lying to you. Grow up.

[woolldog]

190. No. No way

was Miss Reilly lying to me.

[RKP5637]

177. What a silly post! n/t

[Skip Intro]

204. I think I get it.

Somewhere down the line here you happened upon an argument that seemed to imply that if you are straight, you are homophobic, or worse. Is that right? Did that happen?

I've seen people declare that if you don't date a person of a different race, you are racist.

I've seen people declare that a rape suspect should be presumed guilty.

I've seen people declare that white people are automatically racist. The irony of their accusations was lost on them.

Am I close? Is your OP a reaction to an extreme accusation directed toward you, or one that you witnessed? Strongly implied, probably, rather than stated bluntly?

[woolldog]

289. yes.

but nothing directed at me personally. I was taking the logic of an OP I read and applying it in a different context.

[jessie04]

206. I'll bet you didn't expect over 200 replies.

[scheming daemons]

226. 150 of the replies are the same two people going back and forth

[woolldog]

267. I certainly didn't anticipate this post being so controversial. nt

[Feral Child]

294. Perhaps it's because you're insensitive

and lack any empathy whatsoever.

Or perhaps merely disingenuous.

In either case, you should post an apology to the community and delete your OP.

Seriously, this is extremely offensive.

[Jamaal510]

207. That means roughly 90-something percent of everyone on Earth is a homophobe, then.

[Bluenorthwest]

230. Your question is a daft and redundant thing which answers itself.

A straight man is a man who does not date men, but women. Thus, if you dated men you'd not be a straight man. Mutually exclusive. If you date men, you are gay or bisexual. Thus if you are straight, which is your contention, then of course you date only women and not men.
So your homophobia is something only you'd know about, it's an inner thing, your actions however are more idiotic and strained, lacking in basic language skills or affecting that lack as a way to make a daft, redundant and utterly stupid question. What your motives are I don't know. The actions are self defining.

[Rex]

241. A better question, do YOU think it is homophobic?

To be a straight male that doesn't date other males? No doubt I will get no answer or elaboration by the OP.

[woolldog]

263. Obviously I don't.

That was the point.

[Rex]

269. Then why ask the question?

If you know the answer, what does it mean to ask a question you already know the answer to?

[woolldog]

279. because I am interested in different points of view. nt

[Rex]

281. If you say so.

nt.

[spin]

243. Do you any fear or contempt for gay men or lesbians. ...

If not, you are not a homophobe.

[A-Schwarzenegger]

244. One accomplishment of this thread:

Brought this bigoted troll out of the woodwork:

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=profile&uid=310167&sub=trans

[idwiyo]

249. +1

[alcibiades_mystery]

286. Grave dance appropriate for that one

[NCTraveler]

247. Maybe.

Not enough information to go on there.

[arthritisR_US]

248. All that tells me is that you are heterosexual.

What is your attitude about people of the same sex dating and/or marrying or living together common law?

[woolldog]

266. I think it's wonderful. nt

[arthritisR_US]

273. That being the case, then why would you question

if you are a homophobe?

[woolldog]

277. ....

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4246800

[arthritisR_US]

295. I have gay buddies, both male and female. The males

aren't attracted to me in any romantic or intimate way and the females I'm similarly not attracted to in any physical way. It doesn't make my gay mates heterophobic because they don't want to date me. I have taken them as my "date" for past major functions because we enjoy each others friendship and company. We were safe dates for each other.

I don't think a man who doesn't want to date a transgender is transphobic. The straight man would have difficulty with sexual intimacy when and if the time came so they would just be setting them self up for frustration/disappointment.

I have met guys who don't have close female friends because to them you are either dating and in a close intimate relationship with a woman or nothing at all. Lots of variance to people's comfort zones.

[woolldog]

296. thoughtful response.

And pretty much my POV. Thanks.

[Jamastiene]

260. If you have to ask if you are homophobic,

with that shitty attitude you just displayed, no less, it means you probably are.

A straight male who does not date men is not always homophobic. There is no correlation.

A straight male who does not date men and feels the need to come here with your shitty ass attitude about it, usually is.

[woolldog]

291. um, yeah

the point flew right over your head. whooosh!

[NealK]

297. Lol.

The reply of this poster flew so high over your head that it's now in orbit. Whooosh!

[woolldog]

299. No it didn't.

It simply reiterated what's been said already by those who didn't understand the thread the OP was referring to.

[NealK]

304. Yeah, sure.

You're just a poor misunderstood guy and everybody else is wrong.

I see a little silhouette-o of a man
Scaramouche, scaramouche, will you do the Fandango?

[Jamastiene]

302. Nope. The point flew right over your head.

If you have that kind of attitude about it, then you most likely are homophobic, or at the very least resent GLBT people, which might as well be the same thing.

[NealK]

306. Absolutely.

And I was generous when I said that your point flew so high over his head that it's now in orbit. It now have reached the Andromeda Galaxy. Whooosh!

[woolldog]

307. What kind of attitude?

[NealK]

309. You really have to ask?

[LanternWaste]

274. Judging from the question? Probably not, but judging from the posts of yours I've seen over the past

Judging from the question? Probably not, but judging from the posts of yours I've seen over the past week or two...? Probably yes.

[woolldog]

282. "judging from the posts of yours I've seen over the past week or two"

Oh really?

I haven't posted on any topics with respect to sexuality (other than this one which was posted yesterday) in the past 90 days.

My post topics in the last 90 days:

DU guy who was going to be homeless
The Indian diplomat kerfuffle
Jameis Winston topic

And an OP on learning programming.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/1018537816

So you are completely full of crap.

[AuntPatsy]

276. That depends on the reason you do not date men

[Swede Atlanta]

278. I appreciate your hypothesis......

But no, you are not a homophobe.

You are a heterosexual male who is attracted to and I assume has sex with women.

What would make you a homophobe is if you stated
(a) Homosexuality is a "choice" and prohibited by "God" in the Old Testament
(b) Claimed homos were destroying "traditional marriage" (failed at 56% divorce rate)
(c) Claimed homos were responsible for tornados, hurricanes, AIDS and Miley Cyrus

"Homophobia" is when you hare an inherent, uncontrollable disease that allows you to accept all persons as persons of value. It is when you rant and rave that homos will destroy your marriage and the known world.

[nomorenomore08]

290. WTF are you talking about? That's literally the dumbest question I've ever seen asked on DU.

Congratulations, you've breached a whole new realm of stupidity...

[NealK]

298. +1000!

Totally agree with you.

[Katashi_itto]

303. +100000

[woolldog]

305. why'd u rec this thread then?

[NealK]

308. For exposure.

This thread is popcorn worthy.

[Deep13]

310. If you felt it necessary to post this appropos of nothing, then...

...I can only respond by asking, I don't know, are you a homophobe?

[idwiyo]

311. Do you believe that transwomen are 'gay man who pretend to be women'?

That's the ONLY reason one would ask the question you did. There is no other reason for a anyone to draw a parallel between gay men and transwomen.

I tried to explain elsewhere in this post and I will repeat it here:

- transwomen are WOMEN. They were born as WOMEN, just like me.
- transmen are MEN. They were born MEN, just like you.

What I said above is a scientifically proven fact.

Below is a link to a set of very informative articles, please do read them if you are honestly confused. If you have honest questions, ask. I will be happy to explain as long as you honestly want to learn.

World Health Organisation
Genomic resource centre
Gender and Genetics

http://www.who.int/genomics/gender/en/


Page 2:
Genetic Components of Sex and Gender

http://www.who.int/genomics/gender/en/index1.html

Humans are born with 46 chromosomes in 23 pairs. The X and Y chromosomes determine a person’s sex. Most women are 46XX and most men are 46XY. Research suggests, however, that in a few births per thousand some individuals will be born with a single sex chromosome (45X or 45Y) (sex monosomies) and some with three or more sex chromosomes (47XXX, 47XYY or 47XXY, etc.) (sex polysomies). In addition, some males are born 46XX due to the translocation of a tiny section of the sex determining region of the Y chromosome. Similarly some females are also born 46XY due to mutations in the Y chromosome. Clearly, there are not only females who are XX and males who are XY, but rather, there is a range of chromosome complements, hormone balances, and phenotypic variations that determine sex.

[woolldog]

316. "Do you believe that transwomen are gay man who pretend to be women"?

No, I don't. I absolutely don't believe that. I sincerely apologize if anything I said caused you or anyone else offense. That was not my intention.

You're reading something into my question that isn't there. I could have just as easily asked (and probably should've asked instead because it wouldn't have been such a distraction) whether a gay man who doesn't date women is a heterophobe.

[Bradical79]

318. You are probably a homophobe

if you have to ask :-P If you were called a homophobe, I doubt it was for being a straight male.