dating age range formula

[arely staircase]

I have always heard one half the older person's age plus seven years. So a forty four year old could date a twenty nine year old. A twenty four year old could date a nineteen year old. Thoughts?

[Warren DeMontague]

1. Not really fair to Yoda

...just sayin

[arely staircase]

2. how old is he? nt

[Boom Sound 416]

7. 800 and change

[Warren DeMontague]

19. And there's only one other known member of his species, which Lucas didnt bother to name

I hope Dagobah gets good porn.

[Boom Sound 416]

22. Lol

[arely staircase]

29. poor yoda. nt

[Cali_Democrat]

32. hahahaha. nt

[BadgerKid]

46. "When 900 years old you reach, look as good you will not." n/t

[Cali_Democrat]

3. Love knows no age

Of course it has to be legal

[arely staircase]

6. an eighteen year old could go no lower than sixteen nt

[rug]

4. Dating isn't exactly baking.

[Boom Sound 416]

8. Ding!

[arely staircase]

12. I am mediocre at dating but cant bake at all.

[rug]

16. Well then, just pick someone and go out for a cookie and a cappucino.

[Warren DeMontague]

23. When i was in college i used to "wake and bake"

Does that count?

[arely staircase]

31. breakfast of champions

Weedies.

[Warren DeMontague]

40. Explains my historic performance in the '88 Olympics

Bringing home the gold in the 5 foot Graphics pull

[madinmaryland]

44. But what if I am dating a tart??

[arely staircase]

48. apple or strawberry? nt

[madinmaryland]

49. Dammit! We have one apple tart left and my wife will kill me if I eat it!!

[dilby]

5. I am 38.

And I usually date women 42-52, older women are just sexier in my opinion.

[arely staircase]

10. you are in their range based on the formula

A fifty two year old could go as low as thirty three.

[dilby]

17. Yeah but I don't whip out a calculator.

I just go with what I am attracted to. Younger women do nothing for me, I have always been attracted to women in that late 30s to early 50s range even when I was 18.

[pangaia]

36. I've always been attracted to women in their late 30s to early 50s.

Still am.
Of course....I'm 70.

[Fumesucker]

9. You need terms in the formula for wealth, fame, looks, coolness or lack thereof

Those all play a part in people's perceptions.

[arely staircase]

14. I don't have any of those things nt

[Blue_Adept]

11. Oh the way this works

When I was thirty-eight, I dated someone fifteen years younger than me. That year was the deepest and most amazing relationship I ever had. I had moved on from my wife of thirteen years at that point and dated some, largely around the same age, but nothing connected like it did with her. It didn't work out in the end, but it made a huge change in my life.

End up reconnecting with a former high school classmate after that, which has worked out well for the last three years or so.

[hrmjustin]

13. I am 35 but 24 seems a bit low for me. Like to stick to my age range.

[arely staircase]

18. yeah. I think the point is you should go no lower

But sure at thirty five I wouldn't have wanted to date (at least most) 24 year olds. I think of twenty four year olds as wanting to do their drinking while dancing at a club. Around thirty I quit going to clubs and started going to bars. I my forties my drinking is done in the restaurant where I am about to eat.

[hrmjustin]

24. Never liked clubs but always loved bars.

[Cali_Democrat]

26. I'm 31 and still drink and dance

[arely staircase]

28. not that there is anything wrong with that

I did at 31 too. But it just phased out organically to bars in my early thirties.

[kcr]

38. I'm 41 and a night of drinking and dancing still appeals to me

I just don't go out much anymore.

[CJCRANE]

41. Be careful

you might spill some of it.

[PowerToThePeople]

30. I am older than you, and 24 seems a bit high for me..

[hrmjustin]

34. Oh my!

[panader0]

15. Dating Range Formula--100 miles from home.

I'm just kidding Jeannie!

[Codeine]

20. I'm in a happy, fulfilling relationship with someone well out of that range.

Love and attraction aren't things that can be quantified and formulized.

[CJCRANE]

21. If that works for you...Go for it!

If it doesn't...Ignore it!

That's my advice.

[arely staircase]

25. just something I read

I am not preaching it. Just thought it worthy of a lighthearted general discussion.

[CJCRANE]

39. Well, thinking of my own group of friends

some are with partners the same age and the others are within the range you mention.

There is one friend of a friend who is in his early forties but he always seems to pick someone in their early twenties (and has done since he was in his early twenties).

It's slightly amusing to the rest of us, i.e. that as he grows older, the age of his partners never changes, but we don't make too much of a big deal about it.

[tammywammy]

27. Not everything is done with a formula.

The only thing that matters is if they are happy.

[Jamaal510]

33. And that they are both

consenting adults (over 18 years of age).

[tammywammy]

35. Not always.

It could be two 16 year olds or a 17-16 relationship. That doesn't mean I think a 16 year old should date a 40 year old.

[treestar]

69. what if they were happy?

[loudsue]

37. Rightwing churches preach this to their young men and women who can't find "christians" to date

That's what my fundamentalist extended family members are always telling me.

[Brother Buzz]

42. Elijah Muhammad was the only person I ever heard espousing that claptrap

I suspect it was well received by 'the old farts' faction of the Nation of Islam.

[BainsBane]

43. In general, I do not care what people do

As long as it's legal, it's their business. However, there are some exceptions, like taking up with the teenager sister of your children. Sure, it's legal and their right, but it also shows an incredible disregard for the well-being of the children and some serious boundary issues. Still their business, but it put me off his movies. Now underage is another story. The adult belongs in prison.

In terms of my own preferences, I prefer someone close to my own age. Yet for some reason the men most interested in me tend to be younger.

[riderinthestorm]

45. I've stayed out of the Woody/Mia/Dylan/Soon-Yi threads completely. Hidden them actually

But I'll comment here.

My husband's oldest sister Terrie had a fling with her father's best friend when she was 19 years old. He was 39 divorced but with children - they all went on family vacations together etc. In fact her father was involved in many business dealings with his best friend. Everyone close as close as can be. Max had changed Terrie's diapers and been involved in every last bit of her life as "one of the family".

So clearly a "father figure" in every respect to Terrie.

When it was discovered, there was horror, shock, outrage. They broke it off and went separate ways for 20 years. Shamed by everyone. She took off for CA, as far from NY and her family and her love as she could get. Married (unhappily), had children, divorced. Estranged from her father and all the nattering nabobs of negativity.

They reconnected at her father's funeral and discovered they were still madly in love. Terrie was sooo scared to tell everyone that she and Max were done living a lie and were going to get married and live openly together. Screw the social conventions.

They've now been married for 20 years. Crazy in love with each other and grieving that they let others' get in the way of their lives, social convention, church etc. Max is now pushing 80 and they adore every last minute together.

I say "run" to happiness. You only get one life and if you find your love, RUN to them. Don't let anyone or anything stand in your way including age differences (as long as they are consenting adults).

I also know several pairs of first cousins who've married (none of them have children by choice).

The heart is a strange thing. There's no rhyme nor reason there. Age differences melt away and you're just left with two people who love each other.

[arely staircase]

47. thi has NOTHING repeat NOTHING

To do with whether a middle aged man raped a child. Seriously .

[riderinthestorm]

53. Then withdraw your question. As long as two consenting ADULTS are involved, age is irrelevant

Sometimes, even family relationships are irrelevant.

In the context of the family drama going on with Dylan's accusations against Woody, Mia's rage at Woody marrying Soon-yi, then posing a question like this at this moment is toxic. The insinuations about Woody Allen getting involved with a 19 yr old Soon-yi (and marrying her at age 28) are certainly relevant.

And drawing conclusions about WHY this question is being posed right now is certainly ripe for speculation as far as I can tell. Imho...

[arely staircase]

55. you are the only person putting it in that context

Thanks. Why are you dragging that into this thread?

[riderinthestorm]

57. Ok. So your motive is pure. I apologize nt

[arely staircase]

59. accepted nt

[CJCRANE]

50. Thanks, good post. I enjoyed reading that. nt

[WillowTree]

51. So what you're saying is that I should be dating someone who's either 39 or 114.

Which to choose........Which to choose.......

[arely staircase]

52. lol nt

[treestar]

70. lol. I never thought 95 was too old for me!

or for dating, actually!

[Egalitarian Thug]

54. So I could date a 90 year old...

I've always preferred older women, but I'm not sure...

[arely staircase]

60. so that means you are either fifty two or 173

If it is the latter then a 90 year old would be a catch.

[cthulu2016]

56. Assuming both are adults, not really your business, is it?

[arely staircase]

58. both who?

Hypothetical people? Should I apologize to them?

[valerief]

61. So Betty White could date a 53 year old. nt

[morningfog]

62. Easier formula, two consenting adults.

The rest is nobody's business.

[arely staircase]

63. I think that part goes without saying nt

[morningfog]

64. And anymore need not be said.

[arely staircase]

65. well if you are having a problem with the op

As I said it isn't something I am preaching but have often heard. I was kinda wanting feedback on if it fit into dating ranges people who wanted to comment were comfortable with. So far I think it has been a good and intertaining general discussion on dating - especially the DUrs whose prospects would range from 39 to over 100. Please take it in the spirit it was posted - to encourage a lighthearted discussion.

[LittleBlue]

66. Crap! Guess I'll need a divorce

[arely staircase]

67. yep. nt

[treestar]

68. Young men of 34 look out!

You are in big trouble now!

[MadrasT]

71. I don't think it matters.

As long as everybody is an adult.