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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsJust saw an ad for a dating site for those of us over 50, and .
At one point, one of the women said, "I feel like I'm back in high school."
Now why would somebody over 50 want that? I'm 55, and I know I don't.
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)But dating someone nice makes me feel younger. I want that.
pnwmom
(108,951 posts)That was the worst!
In_The_Wind
(72,300 posts)Elementary school babes thrown to the wolves.
pnwmom
(108,951 posts)steve2470
(37,457 posts)High school usually sucked. I had some fun then, but not enough to want to go back.
villager
(26,001 posts)Especially for those of us -- yes! -- past 50, and not still in high school!
BainsBane
(53,010 posts)villager
(26,001 posts)Vattel
(9,289 posts)RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)Of course I am quite the seducer. Making a woman feel young again is quite a seductive move.
Give me a few hours and I'll show you how all that works.
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)On a humor site.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)Posting false flamebait?
Or are you just jealous?
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)That was mild, friendly teasing. Sorry if it came across the wrong way.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)Too much emotional damage can be caused by the wrong application of seduction. And what else is the reason for dating other than to see if seduction is a possibility?
billh58
(6,635 posts)I'm 72 and I have forgotten. Who ties up whom?
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)I'll be dead the day I can no longer be seductive.
billh58
(6,635 posts)I'm not humor impaired either...
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pipi_k
(21,020 posts)I would say that after a certain age, the person with the less painfully arthritic hands does the tying up...
Now if I could only remember where I put that velvet rope...
kwassa
(23,340 posts)sounds like a Frontline expose to me.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)Think 'Moana Lisa'.
We all make music. The real effort should be in making our music be enjoyed by everyone that hears it.
kwassa
(23,340 posts)Your attitude makes me
Number23
(24,544 posts)I'm and at the same time.
scarletwoman
(31,893 posts)Playing for an audience? Yup, I guess it must be a porn flick.
Dorian Gray
(13,479 posts)I want to hear all about your art of seduction!
I really need a good laugh today.
Number23
(24,544 posts)Dorian Gray
(13,479 posts)RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)Maybe later?
BainsBane
(53,010 posts)in the subthread immediately below.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)You got some problem, Eh?
zazen
(2,978 posts)As do I.
BainsBane
(53,010 posts)Response to RobertEarl (Reply #16)
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uppityperson
(115,677 posts)babylonsister
(171,025 posts)pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)BainsBane
(53,010 posts)I hear is all the rage at places like JCPenny's lately. Something about a primordial response to the mannequins in panties and bras. . . .
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)You gotta stop teasin' me like that, Sis!
Aerows
(39,961 posts)or that I am certain I live in another state. I'm pretty sure it's the latter, but the first one is sheer comfort. I wouldn't be in that dating pool anyway since I am younger but you'd be surprised how many idiots think that charm includes bad breath, lewd comments and following you around while you are ... in the damn grocery store or in the dentist office for a teeth cleaning.
babylonsister
(171,025 posts)OK, ya got me.
Skittles
(153,103 posts)Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)It's an awesome responsibility.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)I have many old friends.
BainsBane
(53,010 posts)I remember a thread a while back where you were concerned they were spying on you and one of your paramours?
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)One that you would remember that. Been weighing on your mind has it?
Two, that you would not give a shit for someone's privacy.
That says a lot about you. And it's not nice at all.
BainsBane
(53,010 posts)but when you discuss your great skills at seduction, naturally your last discussion of the subject will come to mind. I'm sorry if you consider the fact I don't have Alzheimer's some sort of affront to your character.
All it says about me is that I remembered what you posted the last time you raised the subject. If you are so concerned about privacy, why did you post it in GD, and why did you again brag about all your conquests? When you make odd pronouncements in GD, some people are bound to remember. Perhaps you should be more discreet, particular with Big Brother so fascinated with your dalliances?
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)I hear you. Like bush people said: Be careful what you say and who you say it too.
My friends loved the seduction. If that bothers you, too bad.
And the fact that you do remember the post and still carry on as if I am the bad guy, not the spies looking to take away our privacy, says a lot about you.
BainsBane
(53,010 posts)Where did I say that? You've made clear you're a lady slayer. They adore you. So why would you even concern yourself with what you think I think? Yes, the entire NSA issue revolves around you and you alone. Nothing else matters. The NSA's primary security interest is who you bed.
You are an entertaining guy. I will give you that, a true original.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)You attack me for worrying about some person's privacy and then you try to just walk away like you never said anything.
I don't get into this think what you think you think. But the words you post here make a statement. You maybe should listen to yourself and take your own advice?
BainsBane
(53,010 posts)If you ever see me bragging about my conquests on DU, feel free to remind me to take my own advice.
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)Gonna put this in the journal to keep track. Otherwise I'd forget all about it in a few minutes.
BainsBane
(53,010 posts)You won't be needing it, but feel free to keep it anyway.
kwassa
(23,340 posts)Perfect
BainsBane
(53,010 posts)kwassa
(23,340 posts)Dorian Gray
(13,479 posts)as snark. I mean, really, how can we not snark. This whole "Seduction" thing is ridiculous.
If it actually works for you, kudos, I guess.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)more like a dime a dozen.
BainsBane
(53,010 posts)who imagines the NSA is concerned with his sex life. Mind you this was long before the recent revelations of Yahoo messenger in the UK. Give credit where it's due.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)he really does have a secret weapon in his pants
RobertEarl
(13,685 posts)Which is attached to my brain, which is the best sex organ there is.
As to my wanting to protect the privacy of my partners, I find the comments about that to be quite suspicious.
Tuesday Afternoon
(56,912 posts)BainsBane
(53,010 posts)Many of us feel the same way, which is why we don't talk about them on public message boards. Hint. Hint.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)Does the seduction happen just prior to, or after, waiting for the stream to buffer?
(insert self-validating allegation here to better maintain illusion of creative online persona...)
Kahuna
(27,311 posts)so consider the source.
Brigid
(17,621 posts)cui bono
(19,926 posts)Is there an image there?
Brigid
(17,621 posts)Kahuna has seen the ad too.
The Straight Story
(48,121 posts)babylonsister
(171,025 posts)'why are you still single' to people who have turned and run.
Go figure-I can't, and stopped trying.
Still single.
babylonsister
(171,025 posts)I was married a long time, so the fact that I'm dating reminds me of my youth pre-marriage.
I could write a book!
elehhhhna
(32,076 posts)oh noes
The Velveteen Ocelot
(115,548 posts)High school didn't feel good at all.
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)The first (10-year) reunion, people try to impress with their success and how well they're doing.
At 20 years they're more laid-back and relate and engage on a personal level.
After that, they're looking for roommates for the retirement home.
babylonsister
(171,025 posts)baloney! I resemble that remark!
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)Of course, that is about the only thing that is truth about shacking up in our older years.
babylonsister
(171,025 posts)I figure we have a thing or two to say about what happens after that. I do anyway.
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)..."Get off my lawn!"
babylonsister
(171,025 posts)adirondacker
(2,921 posts)Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)for the DU over 50 dating service?
babylonsister
(171,025 posts)Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)SWLF (single white liberal female). Opinionated and very independent. I can be real bitch. But I can also be as faithful as a puppy dog. Looking for male to take me someplace warm.
Why doesn't it seem like this is going to work?????
babylonsister
(171,025 posts)Maybe not the bitch part, unless I'm killing someone with the truth. And loyal? You betcha. Too bad you're not a guy! I'd move!
There's someone out there just waiting to get their paws on us, I hope.
Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)trying to find someone who could put up with me, and that I can put up with as well. No small task. I was always drawn to the wrong guys, and not drawn to the right guys. And it is just too late now. Plus, I'm too tired to go out of my way these days. Maybe in a few years when I retire I will have some energy.
LittleGirl
(8,277 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Good grief.
What's wrong with feeling young again....hopeful again...
Leave people alone. Let them feel what they want. This is none of your damn business.
babylonsister
(171,025 posts)But it wasn't an intrusion either. Just a point of conversation. At least that's how I took it.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)I am, in fact well named.
After the hideous marriage, and then what happened after....I am very happy. It did not come easy. If I never see his daughter again, it will be too soon. I'm not all about accepting somebody that slapped me and threw me down the basement stairs.
I'll say no more.
pipi_k
(21,020 posts)And mean it
I'm 61
What would I give to be able to have that weak in the knees feeling again...
Before my heart had been broken as many times as it has. Innocence. When a mere stolen kiss was so awesome
Yeah. High school sucked for me, too, but it wasn't as painful as what's happened in the 44 years since graduation...
Brigid
(17,621 posts)It wasn't particularly -- at least not for me. I just wouldn't want to go back to being a silly teenager, that's all. I'd rather embrace what I have now, battle scars and all.
pipi_k
(21,020 posts)all that painful for me, either.
At least, not in comparison to what's happened in the years since.
I just miss the innocence. I miss the lack of cynicism.
There definitely were some things about being a teenager that sucked, but I only know it now from my present POV. If I didn't know what I know now, being a silly teenager wouldn't suck. Because I wouldn't know it sucked...
flamingdem
(39,308 posts)NPR had a segment on this yesterday, our romantic urges are their cha-ching $$$$ !!!
Only at this stage stds can kill, just sayin'
Curmudgeoness
(18,219 posts)You just have to throw STD's into the conversation.
flamingdem
(39,308 posts)but I beat you to it
babylonsister
(171,025 posts)I don't do church or bars alone, so my options were limited. Dating sites were great for me and gave me some confidence after a marriage of many years. I've met some awesome people who are my friends, and a whole lot of people I would never get along with. The point is, it helped me and I exploited the option of meeting people this way.
Uben
(7,719 posts)...maybe it's because we are 500 miles apart. Okay, you get a bye on this one.
I've been on dating sites for about a year and a half, and I have dated one gal about ten times. No one in the past year. I haven't given up, life just threw me some curves to deal with...ie. aging feeble parents! I'd like to find someone, but it's like I'm on 24/7 call right now.
I was married for 36 yrs before losing my wife to breast cancer in 2012. I've gotten accustomed to living alone and while it's not my preference, it's not so bad. I don't do bars or churches either, so I did it for the same reasons as you.
Good luck, and I hope you find what you're looking for. Until then, endeavor to persevere.....the struggle continues!
babylonsister
(171,025 posts)So sorry about your wife and folks; life is quite a challenge, isn't it. I was married for 28, then kaput! No mas. I sometimes think it's been a gift, like when I'm on the back of a Harley. Other times, not so much.
May we both find what we're looking for! Keep me posted and let me know when you move.
Spitfire of ATJ
(32,723 posts)pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)Will you love me forever?
Let me sleep on it...
madrchsod
(58,162 posts)married her, and we were divorced 3 years later.
nah, i don`t think i'd want to feel like i was back in high school cause it kind`a sucked.
madrchsod
(58,162 posts)really low production values.
pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)You really have to watch where you step.
Ghost in the Machine
(14,912 posts)"She's out walking the corn fields again...." then shows the woman in a cut down corn field, with a piece of corn in hand! Is this supposed to be some kind of pseudo-phallic symbol, or what?!?!?!
I'm always looking for a way to supplement my disability income and thought about a "Disabled & Dating" website or something. I have tons of scripts for websites I can put up, including auction sites, facebook & myspace copycats, and a bunch of others. Some were free, some are open source, some you can do on GoDaddy with their "Drupal" software and all the plug-ins they offer and some of them I paid for when I had the money. I've got "re-sell rights" e-books, web scripts and other products, as well as "affiliate" links to several sites/products that total into tens of thousands of dollars from when I paid $99.99 for a lifetime membership into one site that gives me access to products at below wholesale prices and even "manufacturer's cost", but never had much luck with any of it because everyone was doing the same thing at the time. Oh well, my ship will come in one of these days.... but I'll probably be at the airport when it does, LOL!!!
Peace,
Ghost
madinmaryland
(64,931 posts)Whatever works, I guess.
I'm 52 and have no real desire to relive my high school days, though I wish I could move a little faster!!
Jerry442
(1,265 posts)I hated dating and I was delighted when I found my dream gal in my 30's and settled down. I lost her several years ago and have since found that dating sucks just as badly as it did before. I was really hoping to be dealing with mature women who'd tossed aside all the high school bullshit. What a fantasy that was.
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pnwmom
(108,951 posts)Response to pnwmom (Reply #58)
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mackerel
(4,412 posts)Number23
(24,544 posts)Just saw one with a girl wearing a tea shit with half her bosoms spilling out that said:
"Be Honest: You'd go to jail for this"
I don't know what that means and I don't think I WANT to know.
Heidi
(58,237 posts)But I had to laugh at your typo. About a year ago, I sent my brother in the US a nice, Merino wool t-shirt. He's a guy of few words, and he never, never, never swears. So imagine my surprise when I got the following email from him:
"Thanks so much for shit you sent me! I love you!"
Number23
(24,544 posts)That "shit" must have upset me more than I realized!!
Kahuna
(27,311 posts)Number23
(24,544 posts)Oh my goodness!!!! It's so good to see you!! Where have you been??!
Cleita
(75,480 posts)an ad writer.
WhaTHellsgoingonhere
(5,252 posts)but I'd never date a Cubs fan
Brigid
(17,621 posts)At least we Cubs fans don't have to sit in those freezing cold stands at Soldier Field in a Chicago winter to watch our team play.
WhaTHellsgoingonhere
(5,252 posts)Brigid
(17,621 posts)Just ask my mother.
Scuba
(53,475 posts)Eleanors38
(18,318 posts)Quantess
(27,630 posts)Someone else will respond to "I feel like I'm in college again!"
Someone else will respond to "I feel like when I first moved away from my parents"
Someone else will respond to "I feel like the ugly duckling who turned into the swan"
Someoene else will respond to "I feel like a silver fox on the Love Boat"
Someone else will respond to "I feel like the hottest person at my 40 year high school reunion"
etc, etc... it's just advertising.
Drew Richards
(1,558 posts)Boones farm wild strawberry?
I hear ya...
mahina
(17,595 posts)mahina
(17,595 posts)Dances for grownups?
Who hasn't gone to a protest (when single) hoping to meet that special someone?
Ok, it's just me
Anyhow I know way too many single people who would like to find someone. I think life as an adult just doesn't offer as many opportunities to meet potential mates. Squeezes, whatevers.
Shrike47
(6,913 posts)On the other hand, I was woefully ignorant about real life.