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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsFor anyone who's not quite sure about what Rape Culture is, I give you PROJECT UNBREAKABLE...
http://projectunbreakable.tumblr.comThe mission of Project Unbreakable is to increase awareness of the issues surrounding sexual assault and encourage the act of healing through art. Since the project's conception in October 2011 by then nineteen year old Grace Brown, it has featured over three thousand images of sexual assault survivors holding posters with quotes from their attackers. Project Unbreakable has been featured media outlets such as Glamour, TIME, Buzzfeed, and The Guardian.
treestar
(82,383 posts)riqster
(13,986 posts)They did not want to admit their failure, or that their friends were such perverts. So, they decided I was crazy.
Scruffy Rumbler
(961 posts)there is no way he did what you said! you must of imagined it.
riqster
(13,986 posts)"You clumsy kid, watch where you sit down next time. And stop running with Popsicles in your mouth."
Seriously. Back in the early '60's, nobody wanted to think about child sex abuse, so even medical professionals would buy almost any alternative explanation, just so they could remain in denial.
Scruffy Rumbler
(961 posts)It is amazing how parents, medical professionals and others thought back then. Yes, we still have a long way to go, but damn, we're talking about it! And kids have more protection now then ever before. That was not done at all back then. "See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil", notice never said "do no evil". Is there any wonder that the UN made 1979 the Year of the Child?
riqster
(13,986 posts)Crimes of sexual violence are a long way from being fully acknowledged and adequately dealt with, but we are making progress.
Part of my healing is an admittedly strident advocacy for survivors of abuse. It hacks some people off, but hey, anyone who would excuse or minimize such behavior is not someone I would want to engage anyway.
Scruffy Rumbler
(961 posts)I hear you. In my family, I am an advocate for my mother for similar reasons. I have seen my sister stop her car and get out to save a child from being manhandled by their parent. She and I have taken on the defenders of the underdog role because of our past experiences. To be quiet about it is to condone it.
riqster
(13,986 posts)Perfectly phrased. Good on you!
riqster
(13,986 posts)Soylent Brice
(8,308 posts)when I finally told her.
treestar
(82,383 posts)cyberswede
(26,117 posts)Tsiyu
(18,186 posts)You chose some chilling signs.
Thanks
malthaussen
(17,195 posts)Had a chat with a girl who was raped in the park at 14, and this is what her attacker told her as he broke her guitar and raped her.
-- Mal
On the Road
(20,783 posts)The signs appear to be about physical rapes.
MrScorpio
(73,631 posts)IronLionZion
(45,442 posts)lots of important stuff here.
bettyellen
(47,209 posts)DesertDiamond
(1,616 posts)rape. That's rape culture.
KittyWampus
(55,894 posts)aren't "physical".
laundry_queen
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MrScorpio
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bettyellen
(47,209 posts)knock yourself out
Lunacee_2013
(529 posts)Any clue as to what he said?
MrScorpio
(73,631 posts)That's what I get for going away
Ohio Joe
(21,756 posts)It's amazing that it's allowed.
MrScorpio
(73,631 posts)Wink-wink!
unbelievable but it's right there.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)People put scare quotes around rape culture here. It's like watching conservatives talking about global warming.
Ohio Joe
(21,756 posts)And every last one of them is guilty of perpetuating and encouraging rape culture by denying it exists.
brett_jv
(1,245 posts)That they might honestly wish to solve the problem just as much as you do, but after careful consideration have determined that this 'campaign' is wrong-minded and counter-productive? You think that's just impossible, do you?
Because that would be me. And to me, what this campaign is essentially saying to a would-be rapist is:
"Our culture/society seems to think rape is okay!"
That's the part of 'rape culture' THEY are gonna hear, even though there's also "... and it's really BAD!" that is obviously implied ... but it won't be understood by the people you're wanting to discourage.
Thus, I think that's a counter-productive message to send to a would-be rapist. I'd rather send the message that society does NOT think it's okay, that they are outcasts, freaks, criminals, and socially UNACCEPTABLE. I think that this 'rape culture' campaign is essentially giving them 'cover' for their actions.
Give that some thought, let it sink in for a minute ... and then explain to me exactly how/why my position on this is illogical?
But you can likely spare me your wisdom on what my 'real agenda' must be, simply because I disagree with the methodology being deployed in this particular campaign for a valid and needed change.
Because whatever you GUESS ... aside from 'I'm on your side' ... would be wrong.
You're free to think this campaign is the bee's knees, it's fine by me. So please extend me the same courtesy of believing it's really not the best way to go about accomplishing the goal we both desire. Sound fair?
Ohio Joe
(21,756 posts)People who deny that rape culture exist are a different thing then people who think taking on the problem of rape should be done through different means.
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)steve2470
(37,457 posts)marions ghost
(19,841 posts)There are a lot of myths out there about rape.
And the biggest one is that it's uncommon.
redqueen
(115,103 posts)I've had a link to that site in my sig for years.
LeftishBrit
(41,205 posts)Heidi
(58,237 posts)riqster
(13,986 posts)riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)Paladin
(28,257 posts)thucythucy
(8,052 posts)These quotes are infuriating, and heart breaking.
And these survivors are so courageous. Just wow.
seabeyond
(110,159 posts)is not rape culture, what does that mean to flirting (which i do not get what flirting has to do with rape culture). does that mean no more "playing hard to get"? ahhh, now i get what "flirting" has to do with rape culture.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)"but I really LIKE rape culture!"
sufrommich
(22,871 posts)That's sick.
Ohio Joe
(21,756 posts)lupinella
(365 posts)Keep up the good work.
I've got grief my entire adult life for being open about being a survivor, for talking out against people who minimize assault. Seeing so many Millennials taking a stand does this Gen-Xer's heart good.
marew
(1,588 posts)I've never had to experience anything like this. I know myself well enough to realize I would fall into a bottomless pit of grief and despair.
My whole heart goes out to anyone who has had to experience anything like this.
Manifestor_of_Light
(21,046 posts)I was in several emotionally abusive relationships because nobody told me I didn't have to put up with negative men. I was not taught to assert myself, while my parents whined about how my sister had "friends" (both male and female) who would put her down.
Also, men are usually bigger and stronger, and a girl or woman can be afraid that if she tries to get away, he might hit her or kill her.
Just a thought.
NOTE:I am not blaming the victim. I am just talking about societal factors. I've been a victim of sexual assault as well as emotionally abusive relationships.
NOBODY TOLD ME TO STAND UP FOR MYSELF.
lark
(23,099 posts)Tears in my eyes right now. I just don't understand how folks can be so damn mean and hurtful to those with less power than themselves. How can they live with themselves? How has our society devolved so far that women are just seen as trash, to be used and thrown away at whim? Why the fuck aren't colleges doing more to protect women, teach men sensitivity to others?
Manifestor_of_Light
(21,046 posts)It's about a lack of boundaries. I had none. My parents could walk into my room, I wasn't supposed to shut the door. I already explained about not being told to stand up for myself and get away from men who were negative and emotionally abusive.
I heard my mom and grandmom tell me "Oh men have fragile egos, you have to flatter them" blah de blah.
"Don't let them know you're smart" blah de blah. Well, I wasn't going to hide my intelligence just to please a man. It was pretty obvious by the way I talk that I'm not living in the world of bad fiction bodice-rippers, makeup trends, clothing trends, and living vicariously through soap operas and being a drama queen.
Hekate
(90,683 posts)No boundaries, no personal boundaries, no voice
niyad
(113,303 posts)so completely devalued, hated, that this heinous, horrible crime continues and continues, and we have to keep explaining what the hell it is. are the ones who claim that they don't "get it" clueless cretins, or complicit? or worse?