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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsBest facebook post I have read this year - Life in tribal Africa:
This came to me via Ed Oz so all attribution should be to him:
Original posting:
http://www.prenatalbonding.org/1/category/tips%20for%20tuning%20in/1.html
Facebook posting by Ed Oz
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There is a tribe in Africa where the birth date of a child is counted not from when they were born, nor from when they are conceived but from the day that the child was a thought in its mothers mind. And when a woman decides that she will have a child, she goes off and sits under a tree, by herself, and she listens until she can hear the song of the child that wants to come. And after shes heard the song of this child, she comes back to the man who will be the childs father, and teaches it to him. And then, when they make love to physically conceive the child, some of that time they sing the song of the child, as a way to invite it.
And then, when the mother is pregnant, the mother teaches that childs song to the midwives and the old women of the village, so that when the child is born, the old women and the people around her sing the childs song to welcome it. And then, as the child grows up, the other villagers are taught the childs song. If the child falls, or hurts its knee, someone picks it up and sings its song to it. Or perhaps the child does something wonderful, or goes through the rites of puberty, then as a way of honoring this person, the people of the village sing his or her song.
In the African tribe there is one other occasion upon which the villagers sing to the child. If at any time during his or her life, the person commits a crime or aberrant social act, the individual is called to the center of the village and the people in the community form a circle around them. Then they sing their song to them.
The tribe recognizes that the correction for antisocial behavior is not punishment; it is love and the remembrance of identity. When you recognize your own song, you have no desire or need to do anything that would hurt another.
And it goes this way through their life. In marriage, the songs are sung, together. And finally, when this child is lying in bed, ready to die, all the villagers know his or her song, and they singfor the last timethe song to that person.
uppityperson
(115,677 posts)You may not have grown up in an African tribe that sings your song to you at crucial life transitions, but life is always reminding you when you are in tune with yourself and when you are not. When you feel good, what you are doing matches your song, and when you feel awful, it doesnt. In the end, we shall all recognize our song and sing it well. You may feel a little warbly at the moment, but so have all the great singers. Just keep singing and youll find your way home.
Sing Your Song, from Wisdom of the Heart by Alan Cohen, copyright © 2002 by Alan Cohen. Published by Hay House, Inc. Used by permission. All rights reserved. For more information on Alan Cohens books and programs, visit alancohen.com.