To demonstrate how things have changed...
I just took myself to lunch at a restaurant here in Center City Philadelphia. I as an individual have been a customer there since 1975 and my family attended the present owner's GRANDfather's seafood house from the 1930's through the late 1960's until it was sold/demolished to make room for the skyline which now proudly and esthetically dominates here.
It is a well-known seafood establishment which used to cater to the older, conventional folk who inhabited the residences on Rittenhouse Square and Kennedy Boulevard, but those people are nearly all "gone" and so it has become trendy, now owned by the grandson of the founder, having taken the helm from his father's capable hands.
Since it is lunch hour, I chose to sit at the Oyster Bar because there's no point taking up a deuce when they're in such demand. That's the kind of guy I am. Anyway, the point I'm trying to make...
The male server, as they're now called, comes up to me and stands, oh, maybe eight inches from my eyes and asks me the routine questions - meanwhile I'm leaning backwards since he's not my son or anything else for that matter. He seems disappointed in my order of Manhattan Clam Chowder ($7) and a dozen Cherrystone Clams ($16) and Coffee ($2.5) and asks me if I am going to be having anything else. I debated whether I should say to him, "If I wanted anything else, then I would have asked for it, would I not have?" but did not out of courtesy and the fact that he has a shot at my food. Anyway, the food comes, is delicious as usual, and the instant I put down my fork, he attends me and asks if "that will be all". I replied that normally I would ask for a second cup of coffee, but today, no thank you. That is a hint that he should have asked me but he was absolutely oblivious. the check appeared out of nowhere and here is the best part...
I placed two Twenties on a $27.50 check and he asks me if he should bring me the change. Very softly I asked him if he considered that twelve dollars and fifty cents tip on a twenty-seven dollar check might be a bit high...? Without a word, he took the check and brought me my change. I left him a five dollar tip, normally I would have left seven here since I have known some of the middle-aged (like me) waitresses, pardon me, servers, since they were in high school working there.
Had I seen the father of the owner, who eats lunch there occasionally, I would have said something to him in a "fun" manner, with some humor attached. I knew that if I spoke to his son, he would have an "answer" for me, as he has for everyone else who works or eats there, and I would get mad.
As a P.S., please allow me to say that I do this maybe twice a year. Good Friday I give my staff off (with pay) and come in, take emergencies before the Easter Holiday, and do paperwork. I buy myself a treat for being so magnanimous to everyone else.
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You place an order, you get your food, you get your bill you leave.
The reason he asked if you wanted change was he wanted to know if you needed change. Chances are he wasnt paying attention to the bill.
Next time check in on foursqaure, take a selfie and post it on Facebook and you'll find you got your money's worth. Having all your friend commenting how fabulous you are and lucky to eat at such a trendy place will be worth it 
It sounds a bit like you went in disappointed cause it wasnt the place you remember.
What's their yelp rating, that tells us everything.
it is sincerely appreciated.
Well played.
on the "male server's" part. 
There was nothing to call out.
Rudeness is the new manners, yr lcky guy wsnt txtng hs bff whl tkng yr rdr.
The in your face hint for a big tip was the killer here, even if they "ask everyone" they should have tact enough not to do it in ludicrous situations like the one you outline.
As defined by the great Louis CK in his concert film "Hilarious", these problems affect Americans in the middle to upper class. This is when your life is so amazing, that you make shit up to be upset about.
"Why do I have to choose a language on the ATM machine? This is bullshit, I shouldn't have to do that!"
This is in sharp contrast to real problems, experienced by people in other countries.
My English professor didn't truly grasp the depth of my thesis statement! ...By the way I know this doesn't matter at all, I'm just telling you my white people problems.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=white%20people%20problems
and it never came.
One, when I was waiting tables back in the 80s, we called them servers too.
Two, a good majority of us singletons would never even think to sit at a deuce when there is counter service available, so I'm not sure if this was intended to show what a good customer you were or what.
Three, a VERY good many restaurants demand that their serving staff ask if you are going to be having anything else. In fact, not upselling can be grounds for termination in many restaurants.
Four, asking if you would like change is almost a Pavlovian response for servers. I am sure he did not even look at the loads of money you had piled on the table and simply said the thing he says when there is a 20, a 100, etc on the table. Next time use a credit card if that question bothers you.
Five, I can't see why you would cut your usual tip for what sounds to me like typical service.
Six, luckily the grumps of the world are balanced out by those of us who don't find fault in everything/everyone.
It sounds like you have "Good Ole Days-itis..." and it simply wasn't that "good." I would hope this son's father (who I am sure, gladly handed the business over when it was time and would like to see his son succeed) would not find your "fun" comment "fun."
My advice? Next time, eat at home. Or, go to Sonic... but remember to tip your carhop. They only make server's wages, and people screw them all the time because they think you have to work indoors to actually be a server, even though these Sonic carhops do the same job in all sorts of weather. It's often why I tell them to "keep the change" out of 20 dollars on a 7 dollar order. 
I cannot afford to eat at places where a bowl of soup is 7 bucks and a few clams would set me 16 dollars. A proper tip for that alone would bring the bill up to over 35-37 dollars.
I think you intended for it to be funny, and it fell short. I don't see anything out of the ordinary with your experience. I also think you might be surprised at how the owner's father would have reacted. When I am in a disgruntled mood, I tend to do my dining at home.
it is business as usual here.
there's a term for it but if I used it, I'd get alerted upon and it isn't worth it....not for this.
If I posted that 2+2=4, there'd be objections that I was discriminating against odd numbers...
thanks for the response!
Thank you for your consideration.
