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JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:30 PM May 2014

Why Is It So Hard For People to Get That Rodger, Elliot Hated Sexually Active Men?

He hated a lot of people. He killed twice as many men as he killed women. He planned to kill a house full of women and planned to lure random men and women to his house to murder. He planned to murder many, many more random people but was luckily stopped by Police and then took his own life before he had the opportunity to do so.

Yes, Rodger, Elliot hated women. He hated men too. He was a bitter, vile little person and the world is better off without him.

Stop trying to hijack this tragedy to further your pet political ideological purposes. He was a nutcase with a knife and with a gun and that's it.

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Why Is It So Hard For People to Get That Rodger, Elliot Hated Sexually Active Men? (Original Post) JJChambers May 2014 OP
He planned to kill a houseful of women. bravenak May 2014 #1
He planned to lure random people to his apartment and murder them JJChambers May 2014 #2
He hated men because the could get women. bravenak May 2014 #5
Primarily the men who he considered lesser in status than himself JJChambers May 2014 #6
Because he was a narcisistic woman hating man. bravenak May 2014 #20
Mental illness and political ideology are not at all mutually excluse. Why would anyone think so? nomorenomore08 May 2014 #53
I have no idea whats going on with this one anymore. bravenak May 2014 #62
I'd go further and posit that an extreme obsession with ideology can often drive one to madness. Flatulo May 2014 #162
NO!! Because they were laying women and he was jealous because he couldn't have sex with those women Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2014 #99
Their sex lives were all in his head, ironically, because he took every glance and .... Hekate May 2014 #131
Yep. Of course. Because women, in his mind--as in the minds of most women haters--are sluts. Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2014 #134
Dont forget that this is an isolated incident, nothing to do with guns or hating women randys1 May 2014 #153
he had planned to kill members of his own family as well (male and female) big_dog May 2014 #3
I may not agree with some of the full length of explanations to Rodger's actions... Shandris May 2014 #4
It's meant to be dismissive of PeaceNikki's OP from earlier. That's the whole point. n/t nomorenomore08 May 2014 #54
Meh. I kind of figured as much, but I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt. Shandris May 2014 #116
Me too. But some of the willful head-in-sand responses have pushed beyond my tolerance level. nomorenomore08 May 2014 #117
You know who white supremacists hate almost as much as POCs? White people who aren't racist. LeftyMom May 2014 #7
White supremacists are whtite supremacists; Rodger, Elliot is crazy. JJChambers May 2014 #8
He was connected to a larger movement of organized misogyny. LeftyMom May 2014 #11
I thought he was a member of ANTI- pick up artist groups? JJChambers May 2014 #13
Go read the group if you're unclear about it's intent. They're mad that PUA techniques didn't work, LeftyMom May 2014 #18
oh gosh, you didn't read up on any of this, did you? PUA hate is Failed PUAs who are pissed the bettyellen May 2014 #21
He was drawn to the PUAs because he was a misogynist and then became disillusioned geek tragedy May 2014 #27
He was also a white supremacist Nevernose May 2014 #38
Exactly. Jamastiene May 2014 #123
^^^ this ^^^ TDale313 May 2014 #10
THANK YOU Skittles May 2014 #37
Yeah, it's really just.., TDale313 May 2014 #49
Again, I wish we could rec individual comments. n/t nomorenomore08 May 2014 #58
Checkmate. Jamastiene May 2014 #120
Thank you for this. Gravitycollapse May 2014 #127
Because when he said he'd kill every "blonde slut" he saw, he meant men too. arcane1 May 2014 #9
Because men can be sluts too, don'cha know? It's just a coincidence the word refers to women 99% of nomorenomore08 May 2014 #90
Is your post accidentally or deliberately ironical? DURHAM D May 2014 #12
thank you! my thoughts exactly. m-lekktor May 2014 #17
. Starry Messenger May 2014 #14
He also hates sexually active men. Loathes them. Especially the ones who were lower class than him JJChambers May 2014 #15
All 144 pages. Starry Messenger May 2014 #19
Exactly JJChambers May 2014 #22
his hatred of some men is derivative of and ancillary to his hatred of women. geek tragedy May 2014 #29
You're desperate to make this about ANYTHING other than Rodger's hatred of women Scootaloo May 2014 #34
I'm picturing this Starry Messenger May 2014 #106
LOL, People are wondering why I'm laughing! boston bean May 2014 #141
I'm laughing too Bean! HangOnKids May 2014 #148
Yes. Keep going! He hated sexually active men PRECISELY BECAUSE they were sexually active with women Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2014 #104
I don't think that excerpt Dorian Gray May 2014 #158
BOOM, thread is DOA. bettyellen May 2014 #23
Bbbbut he hated men toooooo! smokey nj May 2014 #24
I heard he also hated ... 1StrongBlackMan May 2014 #100
Only because of the women treestar May 2014 #139
Smackdown! Raksha May 2014 #155
According to his "manifesto," he saw himself as a god and that he was going to slaughter animals deutsey May 2014 #16
shorter OP: "SHUT UP YOU DAMN UPPITY FEMINISTS MISOGYNY DOESN'T HURT ANYONE" nt geek tragedy May 2014 #25
Shorter response: JJChambers May 2014 #26
Classic anti-feminist derailing technique--make EVERYTHING about how men are the primary victim. geek tragedy May 2014 #28
Men were the primary victims: He killed twice as many men as he killed women JJChambers May 2014 #31
He was preparing his apartment as a trap for women. The men were in the way. Hekate May 2014 #36
Really? That's not what he says in his Manfiesto. Please, share where you learned that. JJChambers May 2014 #46
Cat got your tongue? JJChambers May 2014 #85
You proved nothing. bravenak May 2014 #105
I proved that the poster didn't know what he was talking about JJChambers May 2014 #109
She. And I have a life apart from this godforsaken site. Like grieving for my townspeople. nt Hekate May 2014 #130
kind of like you think that all real feminists approve of women being objectified geek tragedy May 2014 #39
Feminists, like me, empower women -- not shut them down for making choices that we do not approve of JJChambers May 2014 #47
No, you just try to shut them up when you don't like what they are saying nt geek tragedy May 2014 #59
When they're bashing women for making choices they dont agree with JJChambers May 2014 #67
That's true. I'm the same way. AverageJoe90 May 2014 #102
That must be why he went to a sorority house Scootaloo May 2014 #40
That was only because that sorority house did not open the door Jamastiene May 2014 #124
His plan was also to lure random men and women to his apartment JJChambers May 2014 #125
MISOGYNY KILLS!!!! bravenak May 2014 #30
Post removed Post removed May 2014 #42
He's been proving it for days. bravenak May 2014 #43
Someone ought to start a foundation. n/t Scootaloo May 2014 #45
Don't give him any ideas. bravenak May 2014 #52
Still shorter response ... 1StrongBlackMan May 2014 #101
He hated men only in reference to women. It was all about the women who denied him... Hekate May 2014 #32
Are you at least having fun doing this? LeftyMom May 2014 #33
Some of the reactions are bit contemptible in my opinion. Liberal Veteran May 2014 #35
yes, because women/feminists denounce misogyny only for bragging rights nt geek tragedy May 2014 #41
Way to miss the point and prove it at the same time. Liberal Veteran May 2014 #48
um, no, when feminists denounce misogyny and try to highlight cases geek tragedy May 2014 #51
Seems to me misogynists kill and otherwise harm a lot more people than the mentally ill do... nomorenomore08 May 2014 #91
Exactly. n/t Jamastiene May 2014 #126
...^ that 840high May 2014 #93
That may be true for a few, I suppose. AverageJoe90 May 2014 #57
Read the manifesto. GeorgeGist May 2014 #145
In regards to the debate.....can we all meet halfway on this, and say that..... AverageJoe90 May 2014 #44
I can get with that.nt bravenak May 2014 #56
So long as people don't use that to downplay the woman-hating aspect of what he did. nomorenomore08 May 2014 #92
That's true. No denials from me about that. nt AverageJoe90 May 2014 #94
I get what you're saying - and hatred of women was certainly not the only aspect involved - nomorenomore08 May 2014 #98
"Stop trying to hijack this tragedy to further your pet political ideological purposes." nomorenomore08 May 2014 #50
It is in this case. JJChambers May 2014 #55
"Their political gain"? What, reducing the number of women harmed and killed by men? nomorenomore08 May 2014 #61
Trying to twist this nutjob's rampage into something it wasn't. JJChambers May 2014 #64
He himself was indeed "a nut with a knife and a gun." But his actions and beliefs weren't formed nomorenomore08 May 2014 #70
"his ideas were simply a more extreme version of stuff I've seen all over the place" YES! bettyellen May 2014 #88
because you are so much more a nuanced thinker than the rest of us. or not. nt La Lioness Priyanka May 2014 #60
Why do you keep writing his name like that? morningfog May 2014 #63
Because I wrote it as Rodger Elliot in an earlier thread JJChambers May 2014 #65
I don't believe that is why. morningfog May 2014 #66
What do you think the reason is? JJChambers May 2014 #69
Post removed Post removed May 2014 #72
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5003611 JJChambers May 2014 #75
Well I wish folks would quit feeding you regardless. JTFrog May 2014 #78
Thanks JTFrog JJChambers May 2014 #87
That Sheesh Convinced Me HangOnKids May 2014 #149
it's to goad me for "getting in his mustard" PeaceNikki May 2014 #71
That makes more sense. morningfog May 2014 #73
You mean exactly the reason I told you it was? JJChambers May 2014 #77
No apology. You are transparent. morningfog May 2014 #81
I know, I know. I need a tan. JJChambers May 2014 #83
Survived an alert... Agschmid May 2014 #114
Fascinating and encouraging JJChambers May 2014 #118
Yah that alert was out there IMO. Agschmid May 2014 #121
It's not a Goad JJChambers May 2014 #74
mmm hmmm. BTW, one thing of yours I will *never* *EVER* get into is mustard. PeaceNikki May 2014 #79
I like a nice homemade dijon mustard JJChambers May 2014 #82
Morningfog. Trolls change peoples names like that to try to be cutesy. bravenak May 2014 #80
Morningfog, my mistake. JJChambers May 2014 #84
His name was Elliot Rodger. Jamastiene May 2014 #129
Get help. GeorgeGist May 2014 #146
Like a file label. It's weird. bravenak May 2014 #68
Nice Guys hate both the women and the men they date. NuclearDem May 2014 #76
Nice Guy should be in quotes, though, IMHO. AverageJoe90 May 2014 #97
Nice guys Dorian Gray May 2014 #159
sad. but glaringly telling. no surprise though seabeyond May 2014 #86
Agreed. JJChambers May 2014 #89
OP reminds me of people who simply cannot admit racism exists because doing so would... Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2014 #95
^^^This^^^ n/t Gormy Cuss May 2014 #96
Out of the park. Starry Messenger May 2014 #107
Great post. Thank you. TDale313 May 2014 #115
Absolutely! NealK May 2014 #132
So why did he kill his two roommates and one of their friends? Major Nikon May 2014 #138
Just because he killed others in his wake--because they happened to be in the way-- Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2014 #140
Have you read all his writings, or are you just speculating on what you do know? Major Nikon May 2014 #143
Of course I haven't read ALL and neither have you! Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2014 #150
Speculation =/ facts Major Nikon May 2014 #156
Whatever dude. I think you're in denial and your feeble attempts at insults do not Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2014 #157
This makes less sense than the other post Major Nikon May 2014 #160
I've been called many things, but "passive aggressive"? Hilarious! Liberal_Stalwart71 May 2014 #161
do you have a link for the blog to which you refer? PeaceNikki May 2014 #152
So people are not allowed to have other thoughts than what you think? hrmjustin May 2014 #103
Post removed Post removed May 2014 #111
So what exactly is disgusting and being shoved down our throats? hrmjustin May 2014 #112
You're playing N dimensional chess IronLionZion May 2014 #108
All in a day's work, my friend. All in a day's work. JJChambers May 2014 #110
Seems pretty clear he hated life. He stabbed his room mates to death Rex May 2014 #113
He only hated men because he was jealous that he had not lost his virginity, Jamastiene May 2014 #119
Post removed Post removed May 2014 #122
You are simply wrong MattBaggins May 2014 #128
He hated women because they weren't throwing themselves at him YoungDemCA May 2014 #133
"Stop trying to hijack this tragedy to further your pet political ideological purposes." NealK May 2014 #135
Elliott Rodgers was a hater. He hated everything. mackerel May 2014 #136
This message was self-deleted by its author A-Schwarzenegger May 2014 #137
lolz, locked out of his own thread. PeaceNikki May 2014 #142
Though doth protest too much ... GeorgeGist May 2014 #144
He was jealous of sexually active men becuase they had what he didn't gollygee May 2014 #147
But he LOVED guns. nt valerief May 2014 #151
He was an entitled, narcissist POS Aerows May 2014 #154
 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
2. He planned to lure random people to his apartment and murder them
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:35 PM
May 2014

That also says a lot about him. It says he is (was) freakin' nuts.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
5. He hated men because the could get women.
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:37 PM
May 2014

Everything revolved around his narcisistic self and his feelings about women. He wasn't mad at men for being male. He hated them for having women.

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
6. Primarily the men who he considered lesser in status than himself
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:38 PM
May 2014

Because he was a nutjob.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
20. Because he was a narcisistic woman hating man.
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:53 PM
May 2014

I could probably be considered a nutjob. I have 3 different psychiatric conditions. They ebb and flow with my moods and life changes. But i lack the hate component. I have the i feel oppressed by society problem and the way i deal with it is to point out injustice and not shut up.

He had the ' i hate women and want to set up a society to oppress and starve them into submission and only keep some for breeding purposes.' Thats hate honey. Pure hate for women.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
53. Mental illness and political ideology are not at all mutually excluse. Why would anyone think so?
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:19 PM
May 2014
 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
62. I have no idea whats going on with this one anymore.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:27 PM
May 2014

I'm just throwing shit at him to see if i can break through his wall. Some people live in a black and white universe. No nuance.
Personally i like crazy lefties over crazy righties. Less dangerous to my safety. This killer was a fascist.

 

Flatulo

(5,005 posts)
162. I'd go further and posit that an extreme obsession with ideology can often drive one to madness.
Sat May 31, 2014, 01:43 AM
May 2014

Cause - meet Effect.

I strive for moderation in almost all things.

 

Liberal_Stalwart71

(20,450 posts)
99. NO!! Because they were laying women and he was jealous because he couldn't have sex with those women
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:59 PM
May 2014

He wrote specifically about this. He was angry at these men PRECISELY because they were having sex with women that he wanted to have sex with.

Please get your story straight!

Hekate

(97,628 posts)
131. Their sex lives were all in his head, ironically, because he took every glance and ....
Wed May 28, 2014, 12:51 AM
May 2014

...instance of hand-holding he witnessed as "proof" that those girls were shtupping like bunny-rabbits.

 

Liberal_Stalwart71

(20,450 posts)
134. Yep. Of course. Because women, in his mind--as in the minds of most women haters--are sluts.
Wed May 28, 2014, 01:21 AM
May 2014

It's all about control; control over women's bodies. He wanted that control over women and their sexuality. And he perceived other men having that control--and women allowing men to have that control over them. And that made him jealous and hateful.

It's very fascinating. OP seems to feign ignorance. Or, does he/she? I think he/she is really in denial, really.

randys1

(16,286 posts)
153. Dont forget that this is an isolated incident, nothing to do with guns or hating women
Wed May 28, 2014, 06:24 PM
May 2014

just a random guy doing random shit and there is absolutely nothing we can do in response

We cant educate men to stop being misogynist assholes, we cant get rid of all guns (my idea) or more likely institute gun laws to reduce these incidents, cant do that!!!

NO
NO

 

big_dog

(4,144 posts)
3. he had planned to kill members of his own family as well (male and female)
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:36 PM
May 2014

his brother for over-shadowing him...sicko nutball!

 

Shandris

(3,447 posts)
4. I may not agree with some of the full length of explanations to Rodger's actions...
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:37 PM
May 2014

...and it -is- true that he also hated sexually active men, but I think your point here is way over the top (and might be intentionally so, but I'm not positive). However, he didn't write about sexually active men so much, they weren't the focus of his ramblings, and they were only an extension of his primary target of disaffectation. Don't confuse one for the other, just as people shouldn't confuse his inane rantings as somehow evidence that all/most/many/vast majorities of men hate women. Two wrongs don't make a right.

 

Shandris

(3,447 posts)
116. Meh. I kind of figured as much, but I do try to give people the benefit of the doubt.
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:43 PM
May 2014

It gets me into trouble more often than not, but at least I've tried.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
117. Me too. But some of the willful head-in-sand responses have pushed beyond my tolerance level.
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:44 PM
May 2014

Especially after such a horrific, senseless tragedy.

LeftyMom

(49,212 posts)
7. You know who white supremacists hate almost as much as POCs? White people who aren't racist.
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:39 PM
May 2014

That's your answer. Now stop asking silly questions and read more.

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
8. White supremacists are whtite supremacists; Rodger, Elliot is crazy.
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:42 PM
May 2014

So are white supremacists but that's another thread and another kind of crazy.

LeftyMom

(49,212 posts)
11. He was connected to a larger movement of organized misogyny.
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:43 PM
May 2014

He posted to anti-woman message boards, followed anti-woman videos on YouTube, he wrote a manifesto full of MRA jargon. He was unstable but he did not invent his ideology out of whole cloth.

LeftyMom

(49,212 posts)
18. Go read the group if you're unclear about it's intent. They're mad that PUA techniques didn't work,
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:50 PM
May 2014

they're not mad that PUA techniques are based in hostility to women. The anger toward women and feeling of being owed access to their bodies in his posts was entirely typical.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
21. oh gosh, you didn't read up on any of this, did you? PUA hate is Failed PUAs who are pissed the
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:53 PM
May 2014

tricks taught by PUA do not work. And yes, they hate on women pretty intensely there.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
27. He was drawn to the PUAs because he was a misogynist and then became disillusioned
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:57 PM
May 2014

when he found out he had been snookered by his fellow misogynists.

Nevernose

(13,081 posts)
38. He was also a white supremacist
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:04 PM
May 2014

It's been kind of overlooked in the media so far, but I've been reading his manifesto off and on all day.

His guy was a narcissistic asshole in just about every possible way. He wasn't just a racist and a misogynist, he was even a literal fascist.

Jamastiene

(38,198 posts)
123. Exactly.
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:53 PM
May 2014

He also talked about forming a fascist government and banning sex, creating a perfect race, and starving almost all women to death and watching for his own personal satisfaction, and keeping other women to breed to try to make women who were not attracted to jocks. He was obsessed with gaining money and power to do those things. He hated Mexicans and AAs and quite a few Asians too, even though he was part Asian himself. He saw nonwhite races as inferior to him.

 

arcane1

(38,613 posts)
9. Because when he said he'd kill every "blonde slut" he saw, he meant men too.
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:43 PM
May 2014

Or something.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
90. Because men can be sluts too, don'cha know? It's just a coincidence the word refers to women 99% of
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:43 PM
May 2014

the time.

DURHAM D

(32,904 posts)
12. Is your post accidentally or deliberately ironical?
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:46 PM
May 2014

"Stop trying to hijack this tragedy to further your pet political ideological purposes."

Please look in the mirror.

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
15. He also hates sexually active men. Loathes them. Especially the ones who were lower class than him
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:48 PM
May 2014

Did you read his rambling?

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
22. Exactly
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:54 PM
May 2014

I'm not disputing that he hated women. He clearly did. But he also hated men who were sexually active. He was a crazy nutjob, not the posterboy for anti-misogyny.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
29. his hatred of some men is derivative of and ancillary to his hatred of women.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:00 PM
May 2014

if you dispute this, you really should work on reading comprehension.

he does a very good job of clearly articulating his textbook misogyny

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
34. You're desperate to make this about ANYTHING other than Rodger's hatred of women
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:03 PM
May 2014

We got it. Message received. Now kindly accept the fact nobody thinks your opinion carries the weight of a rat turd, and get on with whatever it is you normally do with yourself.

 

Liberal_Stalwart71

(20,450 posts)
104. Yes. Keep going! He hated sexually active men PRECISELY BECAUSE they were sexually active with women
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:03 PM
May 2014

that HE wanted!!!!!!

He wanted to be sexually active like they were.

HE. WAS. JEALOUS. OF. THEM!!

What about that don't you get?

Or, are you feigning ignorance?

Dorian Gray

(13,799 posts)
158. I don't think that excerpt
Thu May 29, 2014, 06:56 AM
May 2014

proved what you think it proved.

While I will give to you that he, in passing, seems to have little respect for brutish men, most of his vile hatred and disgusting rant is geared toward women.

 

1StrongBlackMan

(31,849 posts)
100. I heard he also hated ...
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:59 PM
May 2014

Brussel sprouts, but THAT is not being discussed. I hate it when people politicize tragedies.

deutsey

(20,166 posts)
16. According to his "manifesto," he saw himself as a god and that he was going to slaughter animals
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:48 PM
May 2014

The sharpest edge of his hate was directed at women, but there's no doubt he hated the "popular" men he thought was depriving him of the attention of women.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
28. Classic anti-feminist derailing technique--make EVERYTHING about how men are the primary victim.
Tue May 27, 2014, 09:59 PM
May 2014

He hated women as a group, he despised individual men, including those who were "getting" the women he felt he was entitled to.

The KKK killed white people too.

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
31. Men were the primary victims: He killed twice as many men as he killed women
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:01 PM
May 2014

I would agree that women were the main focus of his rage, though that was followed closely by sexually active men. I do not agree that he is anything more than a crazy nutjob. I do not think he should be used as proof that he was anything except a crazy nutjob.

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
46. Really? That's not what he says in his Manfiesto. Please, share where you learned that.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:13 PM
May 2014

Here's what he says in his Manifesto:

On the day before the Day of Retribution, I will start the First Phase of my vengeance: Silently killing as many people as I can around Isla Vista by luring them into my apartment through some form of trickery. The first people I would have to kill are my two housemates, to secure the entire apartment for myself as my personal torture and killing chamber. After that, I will start luring people into my apartment, knock them out with a hammer, and slit their throats. I will torture some of the good looking people before I kill them, assuming that the good looking ones had the best sex lives. All of that pleasure they had in life, I will punish by bringing them pain and suffering. I have lived a life of pain and suffering, and it was time to bring that pain to people who actually deserve it. I will cut them, flay them, strip all the skin off their flesh, and pour boiling water all over them while they are still alive, as well as any other form of torture I could possibly think of. When they are dead, I will behead them and keep their heads in a bag, for their heads will play a major role in the final phase. This First Phase will represent my vengeance against all of the men who have had pleasurable sex lives while I’ve had to suffer. Things will be fair once I make them suffer as I did. I will finally even the score.


Care to try again?

Hekate

(97,628 posts)
130. She. And I have a life apart from this godforsaken site. Like grieving for my townspeople. nt
Wed May 28, 2014, 12:46 AM
May 2014
 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
39. kind of like you think that all real feminists approve of women being objectified
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:04 PM
May 2014

for the benefit of men.

http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4530430

Your agenda is pretty much to shout down and try to silence women who say stuff that makes you as a man uncomfortable.

Try listening sometimes.

Btw, the more you double down on this point, the more you raise the question as to why you're so invested in denying misogyny and shouting down feminists

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
47. Feminists, like me, empower women -- not shut them down for making choices that we do not approve of
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:15 PM
May 2014
 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
67. When they're bashing women for making choices they dont agree with
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:30 PM
May 2014

Then yes, I do speak out against it. Feminism is empowering women, not trying to force all women into a mold. Celebrate the fact that some women are proud of their bodies and choose to show them off. That's their choice.

 

AverageJoe90

(10,745 posts)
102. That's true. I'm the same way.
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:02 PM
May 2014

In fact, I'll be honest and admit that I actually first came to feminism thru the sex-positive community on YouTube, like folks such as Divinity33372, et al. It's been a while since I've really been active in that particular regard, but I'll have to look all these folks back up some time.

Jamastiene

(38,198 posts)
124. That was only because that sorority house did not open the door
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:58 PM
May 2014

and he had to improvise. His plan was to kill every woman inside that sorority house, but his plans were thwarted when they did not let him in.

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
125. His plan was also to lure random men and women to his apartment
Wed May 28, 2014, 12:02 AM
May 2014

smash them on the head with a hammer and then cut their throats. He hated men. He also hated women. He hated lots of things. He was insane.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
30. MISOGYNY KILLS!!!!
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:00 PM
May 2014

Apparently it's deadly for men too. Guess we better work on that soon.

Response to bravenak (Reply #30)

Hekate

(97,628 posts)
32. He hated men only in reference to women. It was all about the women who denied him...
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:01 PM
May 2014

...his due.

LeftyMom

(49,212 posts)
33. Are you at least having fun doing this?
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:02 PM
May 2014

Because you're certainly not convincing anybody. If anything you're doing a great job of showing what dolts anti-feminists are, so thanks for that, however unintended it appears to be.

Liberal Veteran

(22,239 posts)
35. Some of the reactions are bit contemptible in my opinion.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:03 PM
May 2014

All the people glomming onto a single facet of a horrific and ultimately sad person and trying to make it all about that one single issue cheapens the complex nature of this incident.

I can't think of anything more heinous than fighting over which issue gets the "bragging rights" (if such a thing exists) as if there was a prize to be had over it.

Liberal Veteran

(22,239 posts)
48. Way to miss the point and prove it at the same time.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:15 PM
May 2014

Is misogyny more to blame than mental illness? Is mental illness more to blame than access to guns? Is affluenza more to blame than white privilege? Is envy more to blame than a failure of our mental health system?

There aren't any winners in this. But it seems like everyone wants to make it about themselves.

 

geek tragedy

(68,868 posts)
51. um, no, when feminists denounce misogyny and try to highlight cases
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:18 PM
May 2014

like this as an example of misogyny becoming lethal, they are not doing it because they are narcissists.

They are doing it because they take misogyny very, very seriously and see this as an example of a hate crime against women.

Similarly anti-gun activists, etc etc

 

AverageJoe90

(10,745 posts)
57. That may be true for a few, I suppose.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:21 PM
May 2014

Although, TBH, I'm a bit more optimistic than you are: I still think that at least some are trying to start actual, legitimate, conversations about misogyny and such, even if not always succeeding.....just my two cents, of course.

 

AverageJoe90

(10,745 posts)
44. In regards to the debate.....can we all meet halfway on this, and say that.....
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:08 PM
May 2014

Rodger not only hated women, but also, men who he saw as getting in the way of sexual desires?

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
92. So long as people don't use that to downplay the woman-hating aspect of what he did.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:52 PM
May 2014

I mean, he advocated concentration camps and breeding farms, for God's sake! Nowhere did he say anything comparable about his own gender.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
98. I get what you're saying - and hatred of women was certainly not the only aspect involved -
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:59 PM
May 2014

it just annoys me how some people always try to change the subject anytime the "m-word" comes up.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
50. "Stop trying to hijack this tragedy to further your pet political ideological purposes."
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:17 PM
May 2014

Because talking about violence against women is just petty male-bashing, right?

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
55. It is in this case.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:20 PM
May 2014

He killed twice as many men as women and based on his manifesto, he hated sexually active men in addition to women. He was crazy. It is sickening for a subset on DU to try to hijack this tragedy for their political gain. Yes, Rodger, Elliot hated women. And he hated sexually active men. And many other things. He was insane.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
61. "Their political gain"? What, reducing the number of women harmed and killed by men?
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:24 PM
May 2014

How outrageous!

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
64. Trying to twist this nutjob's rampage into something it wasn't.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:27 PM
May 2014

He was insane. I've seen his actions blamed, on DU, on misogyny, the NRA, white privilege, affluenza, video games, homosexuality and many other scapegoats. He was simply a nut with a knife and a gun.

nomorenomore08

(13,324 posts)
70. He himself was indeed "a nut with a knife and a gun." But his actions and beliefs weren't formed
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:31 PM
May 2014

in a vacuum, by any means - like it or not, they reflect something not-so-nice about our culture.

How do I know this? Because his ideas were simply a more extreme version of stuff I've seen all over the place - the whole ideology of "Red-Pillers" etc. is based on good-old-fashioned subjugation of women. Sure it's a minority of men (and a few women too) who think this way, but their ideas don't come from thin air.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
88. "his ideas were simply a more extreme version of stuff I've seen all over the place" YES!
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:41 PM
May 2014
 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
65. Because I wrote it as Rodger Elliot in an earlier thread
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:28 PM
May 2014

And someone got into my mustard about it, so I changed it to Rodger, Elliot. And now I write it that way to be consistent.

Response to JJChambers (Reply #69)

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
71. it's to goad me for "getting in his mustard"
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:32 PM
May 2014

Cuz antagonizing people is fun. He started this thread because he wasn't getting enough attention in the other one.

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
77. You mean exactly the reason I told you it was?
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:35 PM
May 2014

I'll take that apology now! Troll... why the nerve!

Agschmid

(28,749 posts)
114. Survived an alert...
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:40 PM
May 2014

AUTOMATED MESSAGE: Results of your Jury Service
On Tue May 27, 2014, 11:25 PM an alert was sent on the following post:

You mean exactly the reason I told you it was?
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5009761

REASON FOR ALERT

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.

ALERTER'S COMMENTS

This postER is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, etc... I don't care if this individual post is or not. I just want to see if there are 4 on this jury who simply want to shut up this RW troll who I doubt has has ever posted a progressive post. He's already got 3 hides in 90 and I want to get him 2 more for a nice long holiday. Skinner, this guy is the epitome of a RW troll.

You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Tue May 27, 2014, 11:38 PM, and the Jury voted 3-4 to LEAVE IT.

Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Wow. I was going to vote to hide until I read the alerter comments, which should themselves be alerted on! In what world do you think this kind of alert stalking is okay? I cannot even fathom spending the time to "hunt" for posts to alert on just to give someone two more hides. Instead of this poster taking a break the alerter should, this is the internet don't take stuff so seriously go out and work on an actual political campiagn to effect change. :rantoff:
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #3 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: Disruptive, Angry,
Calling out trolls
No place at DU.
Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #6 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: I do not agree with the alert message. I do agree with the alert. RUde post calling out others as "trolls"
Juror #7 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given

Thank you very much for participating in our Jury system, and we hope you will be able to participate again in the future.

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
74. It's not a Goad
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:33 PM
May 2014

I like it better that way. Im curious to see what reason Morningfrog thought it was for.

PeaceNikki

(27,985 posts)
79. mmm hmmm. BTW, one thing of yours I will *never* *EVER* get into is mustard.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:36 PM
May 2014

That shit is fucking vile.

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
82. I like a nice homemade dijon mustard
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:37 PM
May 2014

And sometimes honey mustard with chicken tenders is good too.

 

bravenak

(34,648 posts)
80. Morningfog. Trolls change peoples names like that to try to be cutesy.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:36 PM
May 2014

Just a tip. You wrote morningfrog. Frog.

Jamastiene

(38,198 posts)
129. His name was Elliot Rodger.
Wed May 28, 2014, 12:25 AM
May 2014

Considering how much you are trying to defend his misogyny, it looks like you'd learn his real name and use it in the right order.

 

NuclearDem

(16,184 posts)
76. Nice Guys hate both the women and the men they date.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:34 PM
May 2014

I know, because I used to be a Nice Guy.

 

AverageJoe90

(10,745 posts)
97. Nice Guy should be in quotes, though, IMHO.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:57 PM
May 2014

There are some guys out there who are *genuinely* nice and respectful to women, as people, and not just faking it to get sex, or whatever. If you don't mind, I think a distinction made between the "Nice Guy" of MRA parlance and real nice guys.....in this case of comparisons, what do we call the actual nice guys? Genuine Gentlemen, perhaps?

Dorian Gray

(13,799 posts)
159. Nice guys
Thu May 29, 2014, 07:07 AM
May 2014

don't generally go on and on and on about how nice they are. They just do good things and treat all people respectably.

(I know quite a few of them.)

 

JJChambers

(1,115 posts)
89. Agreed.
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:42 PM
May 2014

I'm glad at least one of the HoF folks thinks it is shameful to hijack this tragedy for political purposes.

 

Liberal_Stalwart71

(20,450 posts)
95. OP reminds me of people who simply cannot admit racism exists because doing so would...
Tue May 27, 2014, 10:56 PM
May 2014

make him/her feel guilty of racist thoughts, so he/she uses the "he was just crazy" argument as a smokescreen to shut people down. The NRA hides behind the "mental illness" argument and it does such a disservice to those who truly struggle with mental health issues.

OP: stop hiding behind the mental illness banner because it weakens your argument.

This killer wrote anti-women manifestos. He clearly hated women. He felt entitled to women's bodies. He wrote entire treatise (I forget the plural form of the word) on women and sexual entitlement and possession of women's bodies. His issue was with women. He hated men who were sexually successful with women. That's it.

You must, at some point, home to grips with the fact that misogyny exists and was the underlying cause of this young man's issues; it was what drove him over the edge.

It looks like YOU are the one who is attempting to exploit political ideology for YOUR own end--to thwart discussion of a very real and critical topic: hatred directed at women. Rather than trying to stifle discussion by red herring you should listen to women and learn from their/our experiences and not sweep them under the rug as you're attempting to do.

Major Nikon

(36,922 posts)
138. So why did he kill his two roommates and one of their friends?
Wed May 28, 2014, 02:26 AM
May 2014

And why did he kill and try to kill other men that he didn't even know? Why did he brandish a gun and NOT kill one woman even though he had the opportunity to do so?

As far as I've seen he had no reason to believe any of his male victims "were sexually successful with women".

I've seen a few attempts to answer those questions, but none rise past the level of pure speculation.

 

Liberal_Stalwart71

(20,450 posts)
140. Just because he killed others in his wake--because they happened to be in the way--
Wed May 28, 2014, 08:53 AM
May 2014

doesn't mean that his PRIMARY and UNDERLYING motivation for killing wasn't due to his hatred of women.

Read his writings! It's right there in your face but you deliberately choose to ignore because you cannot accept the fact that misogyny is a reality. Deal with it!

Wake up!

Major Nikon

(36,922 posts)
143. Have you read all his writings, or are you just speculating on what you do know?
Wed May 28, 2014, 09:07 AM
May 2014

Did you know he wrote a blog post fantasizing about killing all men?

Misogyny is a reality

I accept that fact.

Now are you happy and can we have a substantive discussion on what all the pieces of the puzzle are other than just one aspect of it? Because if we can't I'd just as soon you let me know now and save both our time.

Just sayin'

 

Liberal_Stalwart71

(20,450 posts)
150. Of course I haven't read ALL and neither have you!
Wed May 28, 2014, 06:15 PM
May 2014

But the intensity of his hatred towards women--not the frequency or number of writings--is what is important here. That's what we are trying to get you to see. Why you can't or simply refuse to see is baffling.

And it's not about "making me happy," it's about owning up to the truth. No amount of condescension coming from you will alter the facts.

Major Nikon

(36,922 posts)
156. Speculation =/ facts
Wed May 28, 2014, 06:49 PM
May 2014

When you claim I'm not admitting something I've never denied, you are employing strawman rhetoric. So if you desire civility, try offering some first.

Perhaps the reason you are so baffled is because you are so preoccupied with substituting your own opinions for facts. If you are willing to accept that your opinions are just that, you might be open to the possibility that you're just not going to always be right. I've never claimed you were wrong, nor would I on something I can't demonstrate with absolute proof. I'd appreciate the same courtesy.

Cheers!

 

Liberal_Stalwart71

(20,450 posts)
157. Whatever dude. I think you're in denial and your feeble attempts at insults do not
Thu May 29, 2014, 02:03 AM
May 2014

change the facts of this case. I feel a bit sorry for you, really.

Cheers!

Major Nikon

(36,922 posts)
160. This makes less sense than the other post
Thu May 29, 2014, 07:14 AM
May 2014

I specifically asserted the very thing you accused me of denying the first time and you still accuse me of denying it.

Then you post a passive aggressive insult while accusing me of insulting you.

Cheers!



 

Liberal_Stalwart71

(20,450 posts)
161. I've been called many things, but "passive aggressive"? Hilarious!
Thu May 29, 2014, 05:44 PM
May 2014

Look, move on. We're not getting anywhere here. We'll just have to agree to disagree and leave it at that.

Have a good day.

Response to hrmjustin (Reply #103)

IronLionZion

(48,819 posts)
108. You're playing N dimensional chess
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:16 PM
May 2014

while the rest of us are eating apples and oranges. We just can't keep up. Do you feel under-appreciated for your clear superiority?






 

Rex

(65,616 posts)
113. Seems pretty clear he hated life. He stabbed his room mates to death
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:40 PM
May 2014

JUST SO he could torture women in private. Think about how depraved THAT is.

Jamastiene

(38,198 posts)
119. He only hated men because he was jealous that he had not lost his virginity,
Tue May 27, 2014, 11:46 PM
May 2014

and those men did. He did not hate all men, only men who had lost their virginity, BECAUSE he wanted to have sex himself and the supposedly mean women would not bow down before him and offer up sex to him. It's not hijacking anything to point out that he was a misogynist.

Note: He never mentioned building a concentration camp and watching men starve to death for pure pleasure. He only wanted to do that to women. Can you explain why he did not want to round up all men and put them in concentration camps and watch them starve to death for pleasure? If he hated men and women equally, he would have wanted to do the same to both. He did not hate men and women equally. He hated all women far more and only hated men who had sex with women.

Response to JJChambers (Original post)

 

YoungDemCA

(5,714 posts)
133. He hated women because they weren't throwing themselves at him
Wed May 28, 2014, 01:05 AM
May 2014

He was a classic entitled misogynist, a pathetic little shit.

If you can't recognize the significance of that, then fuck off.

NealK

(5,137 posts)
135. "Stop trying to hijack this tragedy to further your pet political ideological purposes."
Wed May 28, 2014, 01:23 AM
May 2014

Ironic coming from you.

mackerel

(4,412 posts)
136. Elliott Rodgers was a hater. He hated everything.
Wed May 28, 2014, 01:36 AM
May 2014

If you read his bio/manifesto he had poor coping skills and like most narcissist he blamed everyone and everything for all the things that made him unhappy. He was also a racist. He couldn't stand the thought of latin and black men having sex with white women.

Response to JJChambers (Original post)

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
147. He was jealous of sexually active men becuase they had what he didn't
Wed May 28, 2014, 11:40 AM
May 2014

But his underlying hatred was of women. Sexually active men in relationships with women pissed him off because of the women. The only thing he saw wrong with them was their relationship to a woman. This is still a hatred of women. If I hate all people of some ethnic background, and also white people who are married to or dating someone of that ethnic background, it doesn't prove that I hate white people.

 

Aerows

(39,961 posts)
154. He was an entitled, narcissist POS
Wed May 28, 2014, 06:28 PM
May 2014

and nuttier than a pecan pie in a fruitcake factory to boot. Personally, I think he would have gone out in a conflagration no matter what his excuse or issue happened to be.

That's my opinion.

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