Then after a few years she will ask for a divorce because.......
She thinks they are not even romantic anymore, she says "he doesn't even try for any sexual advances anymore". Many women don't realize that most men spend little time trying to understand what romantic is and even less time practicing it. If women would get a video taped session with their man promising to try to be more romantic and willing to take lessons about that before and after the wedding from their man then there could be a lot less troublesome marriages
Sounds like some hidden agenda, some control issues and both not realizing that each of the parties in conflict are dealing with a party that is also human. So much could go wrong, i wonder why each of them haven't figured out that part yet 
At any rate the idea of a spread sheet is more than a clue that somebody is totally clueless, probably both