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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsWhy So Many People Care So Much About Others' Sex Lives
http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/07/why-we-care-about-other-peoples-sex-lives/374781/?n965jg
Heres a loaded question: Is casual sex immoral?
From Hester Prynne to Hobby Lobby, from our dorm-mates to our politicians, its an issue thats sparked more than its fair share of fiery public debate (after all, we Americans are a judge-y people). A recent study done by researchers at Cornell and New York University summed it up this way: Casual sex is psychologically good for you if you if think its acceptable, but not if you dont.
So the answer, clearly, depends on whos being askedbut odds are that either way, they wont feel tepid about it.
Your answer may depend, at least in part, on where your money comes from (if youre a woman) or where it goes (if youre a man). At least, thats the argument of a paper recently published in The Archives of Sexual Behavior, which found that promiscuityby both men and womenis more likely to be considered a moral violation in places where women are economically dependent on men.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)NRaleighLiberal
(60,019 posts)Laelth
(32,017 posts)-Laelth
Sunlei
(22,651 posts)IMO, that's why some people are so obsessed about others.
We should tax the hell out of porn at the consumer level, a very high tax. Make some good state and federal revenue off that legal obsession.
Tetris_Iguana
(501 posts)and user generated, right?
Seriously, this worries me....
daleanime
(17,796 posts)from some one else's pleasure?
Tetris_Iguana
(501 posts)And google.
AngryAmish
(25,704 posts)Not viewpoint neutral. Tax some pictures, not others.
This is an insane viewpoint. What exactly do you want to tax?
bhikkhu
(10,724 posts)People are obsessed with the sex lives of other people, or with sex in general, therefore they watch porn. Personally, I don't think its anything other than a mild observation of "that's the way people are".
Anyone have a dog? Notice how they are obsessed with people eating, and food in general. That's the way they are - no big deal, as long as it doesn't cause harmful behavior.
Lancero
(3,013 posts)Might have worked in the past, when porn was only avaliable by tape and later disc, but now you can get it for free with a simple google search.
SamKnause
(13,110 posts)AngryAmish
(25,704 posts)People just plain like bossing others around.
Pakid
(478 posts)just don't try and make anyone else have to follow your beliefs, and we would all be better off.
bemildred
(90,061 posts)The rich, who love to talk of morality, have never paid any attention to it in their own lives.
xchrom
(108,903 posts)it jumped out at me how money made it into the conversation.
bemildred
(90,061 posts)And that supposed right is always based in a property relation, a hidden assertion of ownership or control. Like your boss at work has a right to comment on your sexual arrangements for example.
xchrom
(108,903 posts)we have a hard time talking about money, sex and relationships.
money may SEEM invisible or not to matter but it does.
daleo
(21,317 posts)Jerry442
(1,265 posts)"...all planet leave is cancelled. I've just had an unhappy love affair so I do don't see why anyone else should have a good time."
ReRe
(10,597 posts)Not unless you took a vow to not do it, like when you marry. If you're single and not interested in a long term relationship, I don't think it's immoral. I don't think other people's sex lives are any of my business. Each to their own. Hell, I've got enough to deal with in life without taking on handling someone else's life.
Trillo
(9,154 posts)A hypothetical example might be when one marriage partner is seriously injured, and can no longer have sex, and doesn't wish their spouse to not have any sex, but they still desire to remain married. See Open Marriage.
ReRe
(10,597 posts)... I forgot to mention rare extenuating circumstances, such as the one you refer to. Again, each to their own.
The Straight Story
(48,121 posts)If people don't like things, say 50 shades for example, don't read it and don't do things you find objectionable in the books/bedroom.
From abortion to bdsm to what you like to eat - I am pro choice and progressive not puritan and regressive.
L0oniX
(31,493 posts)Codeine
(25,586 posts)are fair game?
packman
(16,296 posts)as to why other's are so interested about others sex life - they want to know if they are doing it right and what they could do to improve it.
We need to set a standard. We need charts. We need pictures. We need more inquiry. We need books and films and we need to get the internet involved in this.
Codeine
(25,586 posts)curriculum. Common HardCore.
PolarVortex
(6 posts)Does it translate into prudishness?
El Shaman
(583 posts)for so long - it's in their DNA.
Man has imagined a heaven, and has left entirely out of it the supremest of all his delights...sexual intercourse!...His heaven is like himself: strange, interesting, astonishing, grotesque. I give you my word, it has not a single feature in it that he actually values.
~Mark Twain~
P.S.
Mr. Clements was of the Presbyterian sect.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/1689_Baptist_Confession_of_Faith
Squinch
(51,004 posts)parts of the society where women are more economically dependent, you have to ask what the basis of that economic dependence is. It makes a lot of sense that people in those segments will more often have an attitude of ownership of women, which then requires that women have a marketplace valuation as an asset. It's pretty creepy, but it does make sense that would be the thought process.
msongs
(67,441 posts)Tom_Foolery
(4,691 posts)Zorra
(27,670 posts)Quantess
(27,630 posts)Here is what I tell self-righteous busybodies: Fuck off and mind your own business.
BainsBane
(53,066 posts)Emphasis on some, insisted Hobby Lobby wasn't a big deal.
Here's your answer: rape is immoral. Presenting rape as a means of seduction and conquest of women is also immoral.
Consensual adult sex, whether causal or otherwise, is a matter for those participating.