16 Things People Told A Rape Survivor After She Wrote About Her Rape
Source: Buzzfeed
In her shocking article, she wrote a detailed account of her rape experience, and how the police pressured her to drop the case.
The article provoked strong reactions. While the overall response was positive, Marcello was appalled at some of the victim-blaming comments she received. She told BuzzFeed: “I can’t believe some of the things that people come out with. And some of them are amusing for their sheer stupidity.”
Below is a selection of those comments:
What in the actual fuck?!
Because we all know that a completely obliterated and/or unconscious person is capable of giving consent. This also highlights the importance of Yes Means Yes legislation.
That idea is not half bad: http://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Chastity_belt_Heyser_0.png
The same kind of things are being said about Jennifer Lawrence et al. Classic blame the victim.
Gee, where have I seen this before?
Read more: http://www.buzzfeed.com/rossalynwarren/oxford-student-is-blamed-for-being-raped
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...if the occasion ever came up.
I'm glad it wasn't you, though. 
It was a kind response, indeed.
Awesome suggestion, BlueJazz. And I mean that with all sincerity. 
even more so that it was on DU.
We need a hall of shame for DU'ers who post such vile things. 
Whoever that guy was, it sounds to me like he obviously didn't get it.
Probably wants to go back to the gold standard. 
Truthfully, however, since you brought that up, I only made a small handful of comments. And in fact, a couple of them was actually affirming the original intent behind the term "rape culture", including this one:
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=4754864
So, in effect, I was actually more on your side than that of Archae's here. Maybe you were thinking of something else? Because, as Obi-Wan might say, this isn't the evidence you're looking for.....
Well, what can I say? I only said what I said because I felt like it was right. I didn't ask to be praised to the heavens for it, or anything.
Nobody should ever be forced to go thru that. EVER. That kind of horrible shit burns me up to no end.
Virtual hugs from me, if you want them. (it's something I picked up from Dave Futrelle's site, TBH)
And may you find peace, both here and in the afterlife.
It seems that some people are simply not capable of it. This is so sad and infuriating.
It can even add to the trauma. I have seen "men can't be raped", except, presumably by other men. One of the most jarring responses I saw is "you can't rape the willing" and it was in reference to men being raped. Of course, that phrase has been used against women who were drunk, wearing something seen as provocative, you know, like a pair of sweats and hair rollers. ( 
) or women in "the wrong neighborhood".
One thing that really pisses me off are people who chastise or shame a victim who didn't report his/her victimization. "If you don't report, think of all those people s/he will rape."
You should NEVER say something like that to someone who has just been assaulted!!! NEVER! It is one thing to try to get someone to report by offering support and understanding, but to blame them for future victims is fucked up beyond belief.
