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A Phoenix man who had sex with a 20-year-old woman at the age of 14 now owes thousands of dollars in back child support for a child he never knew existed.
Nick Olivas became a father in 2006 a fact he didnt learn until two years ago when the state served him with papers demanding child support.
It was a shock, he told The Arizona Republic. I was living my life and enjoying being young. To find out you have a 6-year-old? Its unexplainable. It freaked me out.
Mr. Olivas said he panicked and never responded to the papers demanding he take a paternity test. The state eventually tracked him down and seized money from his bank account and is now garnisheeing his wages, The Republic reported.
The father owes at least $15,000 plus interest in back child support and medical bills going back to the childs birth, the newspaper said.
Mr. Olivas says he is a victim of statutory rape and was taken advantage of at age 14 by a 20-year-old woman. State law says a child younger than 15 cannot consent with an adult under any circumstance. Mr. Olivas said he never pressed charges against the woman.
http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2014/sep/2/statutory-rape-victim-forced-pay-child-support/#ixzz3CCzwEEVW
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geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)with raising a child conceived in rape. in the case of male victims, as here, the state is involved in that process, which is unjust.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)papers for the paternity test, and he definitely should have pursued charges.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)msanthrope
(37,549 posts)in a horrible situation, but when he had the opportunity to fight this, he chose not to.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)msanthrope
(37,549 posts)geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)I think rape victims need a lot more protection than being forced to fight the state at risk of being violated again
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)agree with you that rape victims need more protections.
geek tragedy
(68,868 posts)current and future care of the child.
this seems like a simple fix--was the act of conception a per se act of rape victimizing the person in question? You can look that up by SSN.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)standard.
As to your second sentence, that's completely irrelevant as to the rights of the child.
Nuclear Unicorn
(19,497 posts)Unlike some others, I do not see you as being engaged in victim-blaming. I see you having to split the hair between empathy for a victim and the reasonable expectation that people respond to a legal summons -- or whatever it is -- in a timely manner. I understand the latter though I prefer defaulting in favor of the former. I sense you do as well.
I understand, from previous posts, that the victim was 20 when first contacted. Is there any sort of legal service that acts on behalf of victims in the same manner a child in a particularly messy divorce often has a court-appointed attorney to represent their interests separate from both parents? Obviously a child cannot articulate its own best interests; I would imagine many victims are similarly situated due to the fact they are victims.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)Thank you--I wish he had a method of challenge, but unfortunately, there really isn't one.
As to your second paragraph, no. Other than the mercy of pro-bono attorneys, there is no legal service that would be available to this 20-year old. There are rape crisis counselors who can access victim services, but they would not have standing/interest in this particular matter in the court itself.
I would have taken him pro-bono, and would have argued that the prima facie nature of the crime obligated the State to commence criminal and custodial action against the mother on behalf of both the father and the child, and thus, the negligence of the State effectively tolled "notice." And I would have lost, badly, but had he been my client, that woman would be facing charges right now.
Nuclear Unicorn
(19,497 posts)we'd need fewer lawyers.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)moriah
(8,311 posts)... the statement you made that he should have reported.
I'd love it if the system didn't treat rape victims like criminals. Men get it worse when they try to report.
But until we don't put rape and sexual abuse victims through the wringer, I will not tell a victim that they should or should not report. It's their call. Some find it therapeutic. Others find it as traumatizing as the assault itself.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)AngryAmish
(25,704 posts)That always works on du.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)something about them.
AngryAmish
(25,704 posts)Nice.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)child support papers, and not doing anything about it for two years (when he was 20-22), the responsibility is his.
That said, I wish this young man had had someone in his life who would have helped him challenge the paternity and the obligation to pay as a minor. I would have taken him pro-bono.
Let me add that the paramount right the state is pursuing here is the well-being of the child, thus, the support action.
moriah
(8,311 posts)Sexual abuse, even when the person may think they're consenting and enjoying it, traumatizes a person.
Yes, he should have responded to legal papers. But I think he had one of the best reasons for wanting to ignore them that anyone could have -- not wanting to relive that time in his ilfe.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)The financial obligation of buying a car is only 5 years.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)Last edited Wed Sep 3, 2014, 12:36 PM - Edit history (1)
places paramount the rights of the child--in this case, the daughter, above all else. It is not comparable to a civil contract. Is it harsh? Yes---but, the logic behind it is that the state is not going to make moral judgments on HOW children came about....merely that they did, and someone needs to pay.
Do I think he got screwed? In more ways than one. But, it is a case of the state making a decision on competing rights, and choosing the minor child---who has a right to support.
I think the woman in question needs prosecution---and frankly, the child's custodial situation ought to be reviewed.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)In this case, the state began racking up debt on one child to pay for the costs of another, before child #1 even knew he was a father.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)She has rights that don't change because one parent is a minor, or a victim of a sex crime. Is this harsh? Yes.
dsc
(52,160 posts)just what good would a paternity test have done him? The fact is at the very least this woman should be presumed to be an unfit parent based on her sexual abuse of him and have the child taken away to be raised by him if he chooses or adopted out if he doesn't choose to. On top of that, if the statute of limitations hasn't passed she should be charged now with the form she filled out as evidence of her guilt.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)official 'notice' from the state that there is an extant case with your name on it.
Some men make the mistake of ignoring that notice, not realizing that their window of opportunity is closing.
And yes....he should look into charges being filed, and attempt to establish visitation.
dsc
(52,160 posts)that doesn't change the fact that if the child is his, and he is apparently isn't denying that, he would have to pay the bucks. I think that is outrageous.
TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)Tsk, Tsk.
msanthrope
(37,549 posts)moriah
(8,311 posts)Male, female, I don't care.
If you've never attempted to prosecute your rapist, you don't know how much additional stress it is in addition to your own recovery. It may help some people to go through prosecution. Others, especially if the system does not take you seriously -- and male rape victims are taken less seriously than female rape victims -- are nearly as traumatized as a result of the prosecution attempt as they were by the assault itself.
Yes, he should have responded to the papers.
djean111
(14,255 posts)Xithras
(16,191 posts)She may end up wishing that she had an abortion, because a prosecutor doesn't even need his cooperation to prosecute this one. Sexual contact with someone under 15 is a felony with no statute of limitations in Arizona. The child, whose birthdate is a legally established fact, and who contains the DNA of both the rapist and the father, is all the evidence that a prosecutor needs to convict her.
With the press around this story, I'd be surprised if the local authorities aren't already looking into the case. It's a slam-dunk belt notch for a prosecutor.
She has done permanent harm to this guy. It's only just to return the favor. A nice stint in prison, followed by a lifetime on the sex offender registry, should do the trick.
TorchTheWitch
(11,065 posts)At least the part about him owing any child support.
I've been watching a ton of 48 Hours and Dateline episodes online for several weeks and watched one a few nights ago about a woman who was raped by her husband. He was convicted in the criminal trial and went to prison but because she was the bread winner in the family and this was a state that alimony as well as child support is a requirement she was required to pay her attacker alimony even though he was in prison.
She was so agast that she went on a campaign to pass a law that makes it illegal for anyone to profit off of someone that they victimized, and the law passed. I just don't recall the name of the law or all that it entails since her case was very different than this guy's, but I do remember that the show said anyone that victimizes a person can't profit off of them.
This sounds like the same sort of situation... someone trying to profit off of a person that they victimized. The only thing that worries me is that the court might be able to claim that the child support is for the child, so the woman isn't the one that profits. In this case clearly the guy was victimized due to his age and the state's law on statutory rape which can easily be proved, and it was due to that victimization that led to the pregnancy in the first place.
I'll have to watch that show again particularly the part at the end about the law the woman was able to have passed.
If anyone is interested in watching it, here...
davidpdx
(22,000 posts)and then press charges if there is no SOL. As you said, if she is convicted then she is a sex offender and he can try to fight for custody (it is possible someone in her family could try to get custody).
Then he needs to get every cent taken from him for support of the child so he can take care of his child.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)Can she be charged now?
I have heard news stories about women who were rape victims having to pay child support to their rapists, despite what the National Center of Men spokesperson the newspaper interviewed said. ( )
In Arizona, having sex with a minor under the age of 15 is a felony with no statute of limitations.
They really need to prosecute her. Doing so exempts him from having to pay this. It also gets the child out of her home permanently.
justiceischeap
(14,040 posts)gollygee
(22,336 posts)there's such a huge anti-assistance push, that no one should be on it for any reason, that non-custodial parents are hit up for ridiculous amounts of back money in cases where they shouldn't pay because the system is set up to keep the custodial parents off assistance, not to do the right thing.
justiceischeap
(14,040 posts)I can see where they want the party responsible for bringing the child into the world to pay assistance so the state and tax payers don't have to and I can see the argument, no matter how disgusting it is, that a victim of abuse should help support the child they helped introduce into the world but I do think there should be exceptions for cases such as this. Meaning the fees or whatnot and I would feel the same if it were the other way around. The child isn't to blame in the matter.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)because he was very clearly and had to have been a rape victim based upon everyone's ages. The requirement that she get child support from him before receiving assistance should be waived. And on top of that, she's a sex offender and in custody of the child. That's another issue the article doesn't even touch.
justiceischeap
(14,040 posts)And because she is a sex offender, the father would/should get custody which still puts him on the hook for child support. It's a no-win situation financially for this case and others like it.
Gormy Cuss
(30,884 posts)Warpy
(111,254 posts)who wants to do the right thing by his daughter. I hope he can work something out.
It's too bad he wasn't taught about and supplied with condoms. That would have given him a choice whether or not to risk being a father way too young.
Still, even if the suit stands, it's better than if he were a girl. She is faced with a choice between surgery and risky childbirth, between being saddled with a baby while still a child or giving up her child to strangers, with no right to know how that child is growing up.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)stevenleser
(32,886 posts)all support costs should be assessed to the rapist with visitation only at option of the person who was raped if at all.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)loyalsister
(13,390 posts)Children are born into the custody of women. It stands unless terminated voluntarily or by involuntary revocation.
lumberjack_jeff
(33,224 posts)loyalsister
(13,390 posts)It's not automatic anywhere, though. Rapists have parental rights and can sue for custody.
Jamastiene
(38,187 posts)It's just awful. Being a rape victim is lifelong for so many. It's not a one time crime and it's done. Rape victims live with the aftermath for the rest of their/our lives. This guy shouldn't have to pay anything. Rapists should have to go to jail. He should have parental rights to decide what is best for the child, either full custody, like you said, or put it up for adoption, but she shouldn't have any custody of the kid and should be in jail.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)I don't know what the statute of limitations is here but she should be in jail.
La Lioness Priyanka
(53,866 posts)Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)But this is just wrong. So wrong.
dilby
(2,273 posts)He can still report the abuse, but I think the reason he is not reporting the abuse is it was consensual and he doesn't want the woman to go to prison, he just wants out of paying for the child he helped create.
joeglow3
(6,228 posts)I will be interested in what responses you get for this.
dilby
(2,273 posts)If he honestly feels he was raped he should report it.
joeglow3
(6,228 posts)You might want to just stop now.
dilby
(2,273 posts)there is something not right with that scenario. Has nothing to do with enjoyed has to do with him using the claim of rape for not paying support but not filing charges against his rapist.
dsc
(52,160 posts)and deservedly so, but it was just a boy so no big whoop.
dilby
(2,273 posts)or charge them, I would say there is something seriously wrong there too. If you are raped and you know who raped you, you need to go to the authorities and have that person put away, the end, no excuses. And I would say that to a woman who was raped because she has the responsibility to to take that rapist off the street so he does not rape other women.
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)thelordofhell
(4,569 posts)Too bad that 4 random people didn't think so.............
On Thu Sep 4, 2014, 05:44 AM you sent an alert on the following post:
Have you ever been raped?
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5484290
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I think this question is highly inappropriate and offensive to the previous poster who is just trying to make a point
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Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)You actually think my question is more "tasteless" than dilby pontificating about what rape victims must do? Hardly. Only someone who has actually been raped can decide what to do in their particular circumstance. dilby's victim blaming post is what's tasteless here, not my question. Have you noticed that he/she hasn't answered? Wonder why.
thelordofhell
(4,569 posts)The reason why your question wasn't answered was because it's tasteless...........
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)I'm guessing they realized that they have no business running their mouth when they have no idea what it's like to survive an attack. Have you noticed that they've had at least two other posts of theirs sent to a jury? Shows that I'm not the only person offended by their ignorant comments. But let's worry more about my "tasteless" questions, shall we? It keeps us from having to address the real problem here.
Now go ahead and have the last word - I have things to do that are actually important.
nomorenomore08
(13,324 posts)But in this case it's not an unfair question to ask.
thelordofhell
(4,569 posts)"Do you have any experience in dealing with rape?", along with follow up in the message about his experiences in dealing with rape would have been a better way to ask such a question...........Just bluntly saying "Have you ever been raped?" is crass.
I don't like anything in this particular part of the thread.........and others obviously agree, seeing as how items in this have been reported several times.........Just the general tastelessness in this is appalling.
thelordofhell
(4,569 posts)And I also noticed that your post was tasteless as well..........
Behind the Aegis
(53,955 posts)It is NOT the responsibility of the VICTIM to stop the potential rapes of others! The VICTIM is NEVER responsible for the actions of his/her RAPIST!
"she has the responsibility to to take that rapist off the street so he does not rape other women."
NO! NO! NO! The RESPONSIBILITY lies with the RAPIST!
In a perfect (or Pollyannish) world, yes, it would be EASY for a rape VICTIM to report her/his crime. However, most rape victims will simply endure more victimization. It is NEVER....NEVER...the "responsibility" of the victim! NEVER!
moriah
(8,311 posts)... it wouldn't be MY fault when he raped again. It would be HIS fault.
Fuck the whole "Rapist victims have a responsibiilty to others...." bullshit. The only person they owe shit to is themselves and their hope for recovery.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)Authorities aren't always very friendly to rape victims. Even rape victims' families aren't always friendly. They sometimes do the exact kind of stuff you're doing here. "Why didn't you say something right away if there was a problem?" "Did you tell her how old you were? Are you sure she knew?" "Are you sure it wasn't consensual?" 14-year-olds are never to blame when adults rape them. Ever.
S_B_Jackson
(906 posts)It sounds like an episode of Jerry Springer, or Maury Povich, or just about any other sensationalist daytime "talk" show.
You're right, there is something wrong with there - and here in this case too.
kcr
(15,315 posts)If the child is his, it's a fact he was raped.
Art_from_Ark
(27,247 posts)Some 14-year-old boys still look like boys (like I did), and some look much older. When I was in 9th grade, I had a classmate who looked like Mongo Jerry. He could easily have passed for 18. I also had a female classmate in 8th grade who looked like she also could have easily passed for 18.
There is more to the story here.
Behind the Aegis
(53,955 posts)He was 14, not 18, so it is irrelevant to go down "what if" avenue. It doesn't matter if someone can "pass" or not, at least not to the law.
Art_from_Ark
(27,247 posts)Behind the Aegis
(53,955 posts)gollygee
(22,336 posts)It never makes any difference how old a rape victim looked, or whether the rapist knew how old the rape victim was. Never in any circumstance. That is blaming the victim. It is always the responsibility of the adult to know the age of the person he or she is having sex with to ensure he or she isn't raping anyone. Always.
kcr
(15,315 posts)From a legal standpoint, it only matters what his actual age is.
He can still report the abuse but he doesn't.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5483789
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YOUR COMMENTS
Sickening post, rape is a a incrediebly henious crime that leaves a permant mark on the victim.
With how rape victims are treated, many of them believe they deserve what happened to them, or that their rapist did nothing wrong, or that they are now worthless because they were raped. It's reasons like this that are why many victims are to afraid to speak up against their rapists.
It's extremely sickening, and very inappropriate, to be saying that 'the person wasn't raped, because they refuse to report it!".
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Juror #7 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: The alerter is 100% correct. This post is gross.
Given how the site's been going recently, I'm not suprised that the jury decided to let this insult against rape victims stand.
moriah
(8,311 posts)If she's reluctant to go through that fresh hell all over again for a likely a similar result, that means she wasn't raped?
My fucking GOD. Some people's children.
alp227
(32,019 posts)He should have reported the abuse.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=5483678
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This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.
YOUR COMMENTS
"the reason he is not reporting the abuse is it was consensual and he doesn't want the woman to go to prison, he just wants out of paying for the child he helped create. "
Uhh...the OP says, "Mr. Olivas says he is a victim of statutory rape and was taken advantage of at age 14 by a 20-year-old woman. State law says a child younger than 15 cannot consent with an adult under any circumstance. Mr. Olivas said he never pressed charges against the woman."
This post is extremely insensitive for demeaning a rape victim as a deadbeat who voluntarily wanted sex from an older woman. "it was consensual"? "he just wants out of paying for the child he helped create"? Seriously?
And as a post that replied to this one suggests, if Olivas were a woman this post would be seen much more negatively.
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Explanation: Just one person's opinion that the Alerter disagrees with.
Thank you.
Just an opinion? SERIOUSLY? Even denigrating rape victims isn't enough???
KitSileya
(4,035 posts)Really bad jury work, and jurors 1, 3, 5, 6, and 7 should be outed as rape apologists.
I hope you alerted on the result, alp227. We don't need rape apologists on DU.
joeglow3
(6,228 posts)I really am at a loss for words. Has DU really sunk this low?
alp227
(32,019 posts)joeglow3
(6,228 posts)TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)The rape victim wasn't of the correct gender.
alp227
(32,019 posts)Should've been clear with the age mentioned in the OP. Yet too many people - on BOTH sides of the feminism/MRA spectrum - blind themselves to the idea that a MAN can be a victim.
TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)Just pointing out what I believe to be at play.
gollygee
(22,336 posts)and in fact I think in some of the cases I've seen in this thread, they might be the exact same people. I don't see those of us who typically are in the anti-rape threads where women are victims thinking this is anything but wrong.
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)Where you can figure he was bragging about it to his friends. Doesn't make it not statutory rape, but you see it.
And geez, a 20 year old woman could find a 20 year old man instead. Much better bet for child support anyway.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)KitSileya
(4,035 posts)There is no way this was consensual sex. No way. Children cannot consent to sex. Read it. Understand it. It was rape. Period. So unless you defend rapists, I suggest you stop speculating, and be quiet while your betters talk.
mercuryblues
(14,531 posts)under the legal age of consent. it was rape. It doesn't matter what you think his reasoning is, it was rape.
Starry Messenger
(32,342 posts)That's a sociopathic response.
TransitJohn
(6,932 posts)What rape culture? Tsk, Tsk.
moriah
(8,311 posts)... to tell a rape victim to go through the absolute hell that the legal system dishes out to victims of sexual assault?
Men, especially, are often mocked openly for reporting such crimes.
If someone feels it's the right move for them to report, yes, I'll encourage them every step of the way. But fuck the victim blaming.
Behind the Aegis
(53,955 posts)You got that right! It's even worse if the rapist is female or between two gay men or lesbians.
I get so fucking mad when people blame the victim for potential future attacks!
moriah
(8,311 posts)MIRT, where are you?
treestar
(82,383 posts)When he was still 14-18, he was a minor himself.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)Women who are raped should not have to give visitation to rapists and the rapist should be assessed for full support costs, not just traditional child support.
Boys who are statutorily raped should not only not have to pay child support, at age 18 they should get full custody at their discretion and should also not have to give visitation and full support should be assessed to the rapist.
Whiskeytide
(4,461 posts)... any decisions concerning custody and support should first take into account the best interests of the child involved. It might well be that what you suggests would, in many cases, be best for the child. But in some instances it might not be. Hard and fast rules could easily result in an injustice in specific cases.
This is a screwed up situation - and there is no easy answer. But the child is certainly an innocent in any analysis, and that should typically be the primary concern.
stevenleser
(32,886 posts)I understand the rest of what you are saying.
The other thing I deeply believe is, that "It's for the children" has been used throughout history to justify all kinds of bad policies from the simply unfair to the genocidal.
If that is the only reasoning behind something someone or some group or some government is doing, it is inadequate. The policies have to make sense on their own.
rocktivity
(44,576 posts)Last edited Sun Jun 7, 2020, 09:19 PM - Edit history (11)
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. But when I became an adult, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
1 Corinthians 13:11
I understand his not reporting the sex: reasoning like a child, he probably thought it made him "hot stuff" -- and of course he didn't want to "get her into trouble." But he was an adult when he got that legal request for the paternity test. Instead of ignoring it, he should have gone straight to the police, filed criminal charges of statutory rape, filed civilly for sole custody, and refused to put up a dime in child support as long she had any kind of custody.
He can put the child up for foster care or adoption if he doesn't want to keep her. And if he has to pay child support anyway, at least he won't be paying it to his rapist.
rocktivity
chrisa
(4,524 posts)According to the patriarchy, it must have been his fault it happened. The concept of a man not being in control, no matter what age, is joking material and not taken seriously.
His chances of finding any sympathy from the legal system are next to nothing.
davidn3600
(6,342 posts)But switch the genders and watch how fast the opinions change.
Can a 14 year old boy consent to sex with a 20 year old woman? People think that's OK. Not only is she not in jail, but she can force him to pay child support.
Can a 14 year old girl consent to sex with a 20 year old man? People will want him in prison for life.
See the double standard?
NuttyFluffers
(6,811 posts)but i am also not surprised either.
Ilsa
(61,694 posts)He obviously was too young to give consent.
I think the govt needs to help support the child, which would be the case if the child's father was dead.