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LostInAnomie

(14,428 posts)
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 12:49 AM Nov 2014

Prosecutors take back deal after Shanesha Taylor blows $114k in donations. *Rage Inducing*

“The money is gone!” Teary mugshot drew $114K in donations, but prosecutors have taken back their deal.

Posted 3:21 pm, November 18, 2014, by Katie DeLong and CNN Wire Service, Updated at 03:23pm, November 18, 2014

PHOENIX (WITI/CNN) — She could have had all of the charges against her dropped — but now, prosecutors have taken back their deal.

Taylor received $114,000 in donations after people saw her teary mugshot when she was arrested on March 20th — after leaving her two sons in her hot car for about 45 minutes while she interviewed for a job.

--snip--

He says after helping to broker the “deal of a lifetime” with prosectuors — where there would be no charges if Taylor attended drug and parenting classes and put some of the money given to her into a trust for her children, Taylor has not followed through.

--snip--

“The money is gone. It’s been spent. It’s been wasted on designer clothes, Michael Kors. We want to see the bank statements because we see her in designer jeans, and we understand that she paid for studio time for her baby daddy’s rap career. I am flabbergasted by that,” Maupin said.

http://fox6now.com/2014/11/18/the-money-is-gone-teary-mugshot-drew-114k-in-donations-but-prosecutors-have-taken-back-their-deal/

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Prosecutors take back deal after Shanesha Taylor blows $114k in donations. *Rage Inducing* (Original Post) LostInAnomie Nov 2014 OP
How do you spend 114k in 6 months? Travis_0004 Nov 2014 #1
Here's a good start LostInAnomie Nov 2014 #2
I feel bad for her new public defender. branford Nov 2014 #3
$114k would be a life changing amount of money. LostInAnomie Nov 2014 #6
She's either really dumb or really selfish TexasMommaWithAHat Nov 2014 #99
I bet the DUers who defended her are feeling a bit embarrassed now. Nye Bevan Nov 2014 #4
Nye, you've been around here as long as I have. LostInAnomie Nov 2014 #5
If you have such feelings about this place, why do you both stay? Tsiyu Nov 2014 #7
Post removed Post removed Nov 2014 #8
Not as much as in the two posts above mine Tsiyu Nov 2014 #9
Right... LostInAnomie Nov 2014 #10
All you have is a smilie... Tsiyu Nov 2014 #11
Post removed Post removed Nov 2014 #12
"Moronic indignance"? Sheldon Cooper Nov 2014 #13
... Tsiyu Nov 2014 #55
The impulse to compassion is not wrong. Jackpine Radical Nov 2014 #28
I used to worry about what people would do with money I gave them. NaturalHigh Nov 2014 #41
My concern is more about the children than Taylor herself. branford Nov 2014 #73
Undoubtedly true. NaturalHigh Nov 2014 #80
That why I never give a dime to those I don't know yeoman6987 Nov 2014 #43
Thank you. Well said. RedCappedBandit Nov 2014 #58
I agree. TexasMommaWithAHat Nov 2014 #100
All I know is I'm sick cwydro Nov 2014 #40
Amen Aerows Nov 2014 #42
and a DU jury allowed that unfounded charge of racism to stand- 6-1 Beaverhausen Nov 2014 #45
You have no problem with a poster Tsiyu Nov 2014 #54
Wow. cwydro Nov 2014 #65
Aww, having trouble staying on course? Tsiyu Nov 2014 #67
Reading comprehension is key. cwydro Nov 2014 #82
Me too. NaturalHigh Nov 2014 #69
Why feel bad for having sympathy for the plight of a poor working mother. I feel sad.. not bad. kelliekat44 Nov 2014 #14
I feel sad for her kids. Quantess Nov 2014 #16
I see it your way. Jackpine Radical Nov 2014 #29
I do not agree. branford Nov 2014 #74
Well said cwydro Nov 2014 #90
Ah an Ayn Randian advocate. So our problem is being compassionate? Katashi_itto Nov 2014 #17
"Ayn Randian advocate"? Perhaps you are confusing me with another DUer? Nye Bevan Nov 2014 #18
Your the one taking us to task for being compassionate. Katashi_itto Nov 2014 #19
Compassionate =/ Gullible Kurska Nov 2014 #24
Not compassionate = not fully human. Jackpine Radical Nov 2014 #30
I don't think we're on the same wavelength Kurska Nov 2014 #31
I see what happened here. I red your attempt at ≠ as =. Jackpine Radical Nov 2014 #34
what a sad idea. how'd u arrive at it? elehhhhna Nov 2014 #79
Yeah, and she fucked up big time by not putting a dime away for her kids. moriah Nov 2014 #25
some liberal bashing in that thread Doctor_J Nov 2014 #71
Why should anyone feel embarrassed for not judging someone before the facts are available to them? sabrina 1 Nov 2014 #84
This is really sad. NaturalHigh Nov 2014 #15
Not everyone is as smart as we on DU... VanillaRhapsody Nov 2014 #26
It is not about being smart exboyfil Nov 2014 #56
I'll bet the sympathy fund is running even lower -- maybe even into deficit territory. What a fool. Nuclear Unicorn Nov 2014 #20
From the article: NaturalHigh Nov 2014 #21
Looks like the public defender will be barginning over how many years she will serve Lurks Often Nov 2014 #22
I know if I got $114k magically.... moriah Nov 2014 #23
but then you are smarter than some people... VanillaRhapsody Nov 2014 #27
It's not just IQ. Jackpine Radical Nov 2014 #32
I never said it was JUST IQ.... VanillaRhapsody Nov 2014 #33
Neither did you suggest it was anything else. Jackpine Radical Nov 2014 #35
So that proves that I wasn't concerned with anything else? VanillaRhapsody Nov 2014 #37
And now it's all about you. Jackpine Radical Nov 2014 #38
NO apparently its all about YOU!!! VanillaRhapsody Nov 2014 #39
I agree with what you're saying Tsiyu Nov 2014 #64
Right. She's a victim. cwydro Nov 2014 #66
Do you read what other people actually post Tsiyu Nov 2014 #70
In her situation, you'd think getting the 40k to prevent being prosecuted would be top priority. JVS Nov 2014 #46
Agreed. 100%. I could see her blowing the rest.... moriah Nov 2014 #48
I could seriously live debt free if I had that kind of money. Initech Nov 2014 #63
The job she was interviewing for probably paid $20K a year SoCalDem Nov 2014 #91
Thank goodness I didn't have access to $114,000.00 when I was getting clean. Iggo Nov 2014 #36
Exactly so. Lex Nov 2014 #60
why didn't her lawyer help her set-up the bank accounts? Sunlei Nov 2014 #44
She is an adult. LisaL Nov 2014 #47
Why shouldn't the lawyer be able to withdraw. branford Nov 2014 #75
I feel sorry for her. No, I didn't donate cali Nov 2014 #49
No, I don't know what it's like to have a windfall drop in my lap TexasMommaWithAHat Nov 2014 #101
I'm just... Oktober Nov 2014 #50
Yea, really. LisaL Nov 2014 #51
I understand how... sendero Nov 2014 #52
+1000 Blue_Tires Nov 2014 #98
I'm going to rub this in some peoples faces. Lancero Nov 2014 #53
Why? Tsiyu Nov 2014 #59
May you take great delight in your gloating. Sheldon Cooper Nov 2014 #61
I bet you're a lot of fun at parties. Iggo Nov 2014 #81
Had a lot of sympathy for her LittleBlue Nov 2014 #57
I'm flabbergasted that people think she would've made wise choices with the money. Lex Nov 2014 #62
Agreed LittleBlue Nov 2014 #68
it's not just the money Skittles Nov 2014 #77
That seems awful judgy. You can be poor and still know to put $40k of it in savings for your kid... moriah Nov 2014 #92
She left her kids in a dangerously hot car and you think I've decided she's a bad decision Lex Nov 2014 #95
Sorry, I thought people on here had decided to ignore the fact she treated her kids worse than.... moriah Nov 2014 #97
I'm sure she'll make all that back once her boyfriends album "drops". n/t hughee99 Nov 2014 #72
News flash tavernier Nov 2014 #103
she sounds like one stellar gal Skittles Nov 2014 #76
What's really sad is that this will make people think twice before helping someone. Initech Nov 2014 #78
Rage inducing? Why? No matter how you try, it is not possible to help everyone. FSogol Nov 2014 #83
"To those...who will use Shanesha Taylor as an excuse..." Iggo Nov 2014 #89
This place gets more like the "Comments" area on Fox every day. flvegan Nov 2014 #85
You are not well informed. LisaL Nov 2014 #86
No, you can't read. flvegan Nov 2014 #88
Other articles indicate she was declared "indigent". moriah Nov 2014 #93
^^^This^^^n/t Gormy Cuss Nov 2014 #96
Why should we be "enraged"? Good karma accrues to those who give, but they are well-advised... Hekate Nov 2014 #87
Even if it was a $10 donation, it was for her KIDS. moriah Nov 2014 #94
either you give without expectation noiretextatique Nov 2014 #102
No it was not hers to waste dsc Nov 2014 #104
 

branford

(4,462 posts)
3. I feel bad for her new public defender.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:03 AM
Nov 2014

He or she will certainly not have an easy time, and a new lenient plea bargain is not even a remote possibility.

Taylor and her children received a wonderful second chance. What a waste.

LostInAnomie

(14,428 posts)
6. $114k would be a life changing amount of money.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:56 AM
Nov 2014

It's not just terrible for her kids, but also for all the people that helped her.

Stuff like this will make those people think twice about helping someone, and that's sad.

TexasMommaWithAHat

(3,212 posts)
99. She's either really dumb or really selfish
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 06:32 PM
Nov 2014

Or both.

I'm not in a position to make that determination.

Nye Bevan

(25,406 posts)
4. I bet the DUers who defended her are feeling a bit embarrassed now.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:10 AM
Nov 2014
http://www.democraticunderground.com/1014929820

I smelled BS when she claimed that the money was in her "mom's bank account" and yet Mom did not show up at the courthouse with bank statements. Too many DUers were much more gullible, however.

LostInAnomie

(14,428 posts)
5. Nye, you've been around here as long as I have.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:13 AM
Nov 2014

How often do DUers admit they were wrong?

Tsiyu

(18,186 posts)
7. If you have such feelings about this place, why do you both stay?
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:27 AM
Nov 2014

Yes, people had compassion for the woman. Yes, people often disappoint us.

How is this woman's wrongdoing a statement about DU?

Did you instantly mistrust the woman because she is black and you both instantly mistrust black people? I'll guarantee that there are plenty of pasty white people who have fleeced the public for far more than this woman.

They're all sitting pretty on Wall Street and in Congress on their pasty bejillionaire asses. But wait. They're white...my guess is you will utter nary a peep about their far worse infractions against us all.


never mind.....

Response to Tsiyu (Reply #7)

Tsiyu

(18,186 posts)
9. Not as much as in the two posts above mine
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:41 AM
Nov 2014

I'm talking about evidence concerning two posters. You two are condemning everyone on DU.

Tsiyu

(18,186 posts)
11. All you have is a smilie...
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:58 AM
Nov 2014

Oh, and the words you, yourself wrote here.

There's that, too.

eyeroll on, friend




Response to Tsiyu (Reply #11)

Sheldon Cooper

(3,724 posts)
13. "Moronic indignance"?
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 08:41 AM
Nov 2014

Pretty big talk from someone who included "*Rage Inducing*" in his opening sentence. So, who gets to define and exhibit emotions here? Only you?

Jackpine Radical

(45,274 posts)
28. The impulse to compassion is not wrong.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:27 PM
Nov 2014

We can be deceived, and that is unfortunate. But it should not alter your compassionate instincts. This is sort of like turning up one case of welfare "fraud" and using it to attack the whole system of social safety nets.

Yeah, sometimes you'll be wrong & someone will get away with something. Most of the time you'll be right, and will have done something great. Personally, I give money to down & outers without much worrying that they'll spend it on a drink. Hell, maybe they need the drink. There was a time in my life when I did.

NaturalHigh

(12,778 posts)
41. I used to worry about what people would do with money I gave them.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:59 PM
Nov 2014

My wife told me "That's not your concern. After you give it, that's between them and God." I've learned a lot from my wife through the years.

I'm sad that this woman chose to squander so much money that could have helped her and her children to a good life, but that won't keep me from helping someone if I can.

 

branford

(4,462 posts)
73. My concern is more about the children than Taylor herself.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 06:15 PM
Nov 2014

The children have now been victimized at least twice by their own mother.

 

yeoman6987

(14,449 posts)
43. That why I never give a dime to those I don't know
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:10 PM
Nov 2014

I will give to those I know and ensure they are really in need. I work to hard to risk giving to strangers like this particular woman. Can you imagine those who gave up something like a meal to give to her. And then goes and purchase designer jeans with the money? Tragic beyond words.


Hopefully she spends the rest of her life in jail.

TexasMommaWithAHat

(3,212 posts)
100. I agree.
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 06:33 PM
Nov 2014

When I give to the person on the street corner, I do so because it's the right thing to do. What they do with the money is up to them.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
40. All I know is I'm sick
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:48 PM
Nov 2014

of DUers calling fellow posters racist when they disagree with them.

Pathetic.

Tsiyu

(18,186 posts)
54. You have no problem with a poster
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:53 PM
Nov 2014

openly stating that he or she has never seen anyone on DU admit to being wrong.

That's cool with you. Even though, factually, it's complete bullshit. I've been here over ten years and have seen many, many, many DUers admit to being wrong.

But you and this poster have never seen it? Interesting. And you re perfectly NOT sick over a DUer making such a statement.

I called NO ONE a racist. I asked a question: Did you instantly mistrust the woman because she is black and you both instantly mistrust black people?

Questions are not "calling fellow posters racist." They are questions. And my guesses and suppositions are also not "calling fellow posters racist." LIA stated plainly and clearly that you, as a DUer, would never admit when you're wrong.

Learn about sentence structure; then maybe you won't feel so sick. And cannabis helps if you are in a state where it's legal.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
65. Wow.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 03:14 PM
Nov 2014

Do your teeth hurt or something?

I was not even involved in the discussion about duers admitting no wrong.

Go find a quiet corner dear.

Tsiyu

(18,186 posts)
67. Aww, having trouble staying on course?
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 03:17 PM
Nov 2014

Yeah, it is hard to keep up on threads if you aren't paying attention.

But you can do it.

I know you can.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
82. Reading comprehension is key.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 08:04 PM
Nov 2014

You accused me of something I never said.

Get those teeth checked. You seem a bit fractious.

 

kelliekat44

(7,759 posts)
14. Why feel bad for having sympathy for the plight of a poor working mother. I feel sad.. not bad.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 08:53 AM
Nov 2014

She is a product of her circumstances. She was driven by the things in this society that drive most of us....THINGS!

 

branford

(4,462 posts)
74. I do not agree.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 06:29 PM
Nov 2014

Please do not infantilize Taylor or "poor working women."

She was charged with endangering her children, and when many people sought to help her and the children, including money, assisting her in finding a job and a very generous plea bargain with specific provisions to financially benefit the children, she screwed over everyone, including herself and children.

Poor working women no doubt have a difficult time in life, but the overwhelming majority know how to properly take care of their children and accept help when freely and generously offered, no less abide by the terms of an extremely lenient plea bargain, the thrust of which was to actually help your children.

Many of us are certainly motivated by the desire material goods. However, very few of us, including minority mothers who are poor, prioritize designer jeans and studio time for the baby daddy's rap career (a father who only reappeared after the money was donated) over the health and welfare of our children. Stating that Taylor was a "product of her circumstances" deprives her of free moral agency and is an insult to other hard working and conscientious poor working mothers.

 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
90. Well said
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 10:24 AM
Nov 2014

I agree.

She's not a victim, just a fool.

As in "a fool and his money..."

 

Katashi_itto

(10,175 posts)
17. Ah an Ayn Randian advocate. So our problem is being compassionate?
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 10:53 AM
Nov 2014

I donated a small bit. Big deal, its not about her. I donated because it was the right thing to do. What she did with the money is on her.

 

Katashi_itto

(10,175 posts)
19. Your the one taking us to task for being compassionate.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 11:17 AM
Nov 2014

Last edited Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:46 PM - Edit history (1)



So yes, you are Ayn Randian.

Kurska

(5,739 posts)
24. Compassionate =/ Gullible
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:13 PM
Nov 2014

Last edited Sat Nov 22, 2014, 09:32 PM - Edit history (3)

on edit: oh my lord, I'm saying being compassionate isn't the same thing as being gullible.

Kurska

(5,739 posts)
31. I don't think we're on the same wavelength
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:30 PM
Nov 2014

I didn't say not to be compassionate. I said there is a difference between being compassionate and letting yourself get taken for a ride by a serial liar.

Jackpine Radical

(45,274 posts)
34. I see what happened here. I red your attempt at ≠ as =.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:35 PM
Nov 2014

It totally changed the meaning of what you said.

However, I will also elaborate on my message. Compassion will sometimes lead you into being conned, and maybe made to feel gullible. But you can't let that possibility block you from doing things out of compassion.

moriah

(8,312 posts)
25. Yeah, and she fucked up big time by not putting a dime away for her kids.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:19 PM
Nov 2014

It should have been about her kids, you're correct, not about her.

Alas, she made it into being all about her.

sabrina 1

(62,325 posts)
84. Why should anyone feel embarrassed for not judging someone before the facts are available to them?
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 08:17 PM
Nov 2014

What a strange thing to say, as if slamming DUers is more important than the story itself.

I thoroughly support Liberals' propensity to not jump the gun on someone when they have no idea whether they are guilty or not.

And I hope those DUers will continue to always give the benefit of the doubt to people who are merely 'accused'. Knee jerk reactions of 'guilt' as soon as an accusation is made, is what people should be apologetic for, since those reactions cause HARM, while the other reaction causes NO HARM. And as we've seen so often in this country, many innocent people have been the victims of those always willing to jump on the 'guilty' bandwagon, before there is a shred of evidence of guilt presented.

I would prefer to err on the side innocent until proven guilty because of the terrible results of doing the opposite for so many innocent people.

Such a strange comment considering the OP. If you so despise DUers who are unwilling to 'convict' without evidence, why come here at all? I think you will see that again and again here. We are not reactionary, right wingers willing to convict based on flimsy evidence at best. And maybe we are not blessed with noses that 'smell' things before any evidence, for which I am grateful.

NaturalHigh

(12,778 posts)
15. This is really sad.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 10:36 AM
Nov 2014

That money could have fed, clothed, and housed her family for a long time while she got her life in order. She had job interviews she never showed up for, and threw away all that money for a few months of living the high life.

I still think the original charges against her were over the top, but I don't feel a lot of sympathy for her now.

exboyfil

(18,359 posts)
56. It is not about being smart
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:56 PM
Nov 2014

it is about how this adult woman has reached the point in her life that she seems to have little regard for her primary duty - the care of her children. We do see this behavior played out all the time in lottery winners and those whose economic condition has changed suddenly such as athletes.

I guess the rap studio time could be viewed as an investment such as starting in a business. Did she think the talent of her boyfriend may have been sufficient to start a career with her seed money? It is interesting he is also present in spending this windfall. I said at the time where was he so he could watch the kids when she went to the interview. He has an obligation and he owns this situation as well. How did he reach this point where he was not supportive of the mother of his children and his children. Also why did he not use more discernment about his own talent and capability of leveraging the studio money into a career?

Nuclear Unicorn

(19,497 posts)
20. I'll bet the sympathy fund is running even lower -- maybe even into deficit territory. What a fool.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 11:24 AM
Nov 2014

NaturalHigh

(12,778 posts)
21. From the article:
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 11:36 AM
Nov 2014

"“I just hope we haven’t spoiled that goodwill throughout the country because there is going to be someone else that is going to need help,” Maupin said."

She has hurt not only herself and her children but likely also the next person who will need help in such circumstances.

 

Lurks Often

(5,455 posts)
22. Looks like the public defender will be barginning over how many years she will serve
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 12:41 PM
Nov 2014

and if Taylor is smart she'll take whatever plea deal over how long she will serve without argument, because if she refuses and this comes out at trial, a guilty verdict will be a slam dunk and she'll probably receive the maximum sentence.

moriah

(8,312 posts)
23. I know if I got $114k magically....
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:13 PM
Nov 2014

... my first thought would be paying off my car. Yes, I would get some new clothes, because I have two pairs of jeans to my name and only one pair fits right. But not designer jeans. And at least half of it would be in savings, or at least a downpayment on a house that I could afford the monthly payments on.

I truly don't see how anyone can blow through that much money that fast.

But that money came from people who were concerned about her kids. Not a dime has gone into a savings fund for her children? Really? So sad. I know that's not how the people who donated wanted their money spent.

I hope the "McDonald's Mom" hasn't done the same thing, but she seems more responsible.

 

VanillaRhapsody

(21,115 posts)
27. but then you are smarter than some people...
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:23 PM
Nov 2014

not everyone in America has an above average IQ as I think most on DU have...

Jackpine Radical

(45,274 posts)
32. It's not just IQ.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:31 PM
Nov 2014

A whole lot of things go into getting as messed up as this woman is, and mostly those sorts of things are tragic.

 

VanillaRhapsody

(21,115 posts)
33. I never said it was JUST IQ....
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:32 PM
Nov 2014

some people are not born with the best decision making skills...some are better at them then others. Its not a condemnation....it cannot be helped.

 

VanillaRhapsody

(21,115 posts)
37. So that proves that I wasn't concerned with anything else?
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:44 PM
Nov 2014

this is ridic!

YOU just want to argue with me....PERIOD.

 

VanillaRhapsody

(21,115 posts)
39. NO apparently its all about YOU!!!
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 01:46 PM
Nov 2014

and whatever it is YOU think....no one else can think any differently apparently. I have people in my own family who struggle with NOT being as bright as others....and they too do not always make the smartest decisions. Does that mean I have something against them?

Tsiyu

(18,186 posts)
64. I agree with what you're saying
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 03:12 PM
Nov 2014

Some people who have never had much don't understand how fast money can be spent.
I don't know this woman, and her actions are troubling and wrong, but Im', guessing she doesn't have the math skills to even add up what she was spending.

To her, it might as well have been a million bucks and she probably spent like it would never disappear.

I'm also guessing she got fleeced by the boyfriend and others, who exploited her windfall.

It's just very sad for her children, who should have been thought of first and foremost.





 

cwydro

(51,308 posts)
66. Right. She's a victim.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 03:16 PM
Nov 2014

Is that because she is black?
(Your question, back atcha)

Tsiyu

(18,186 posts)
70. Do you read what other people actually post
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 04:39 PM
Nov 2014

or just see their monikers and spew something?

"Her actions are troubling and wrong."

Your poor jerky knees. They get a workout, huh?



JVS

(61,935 posts)
46. In her situation, you'd think getting the 40k to prevent being prosecuted would be top priority.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:18 PM
Nov 2014

moriah

(8,312 posts)
48. Agreed. 100%. I could see her blowing the rest....
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:22 PM
Nov 2014

.... but the first moment I got a check that would be set aside. You can't enjoy designer handbags in jail.

Initech

(108,776 posts)
63. I could seriously live debt free if I had that kind of money.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 03:11 PM
Nov 2014

And that would be sweet.

SoCalDem

(103,856 posts)
91. The job she was interviewing for probably paid $20K a year
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 10:25 AM
Nov 2014

so she has instant access to FIVE year';s worth of cash, and she blew it on herself & her man, instead of starting 529s for her kids' futures.. She should have at least put $15K per kid in savings for them.. By the time they needed the money for college, it would have grown.,

She could have prepaid rent & bills for a year, and still have had plenty of money to live on while she prepared herself for a real job..

What a waste of the generosity of strangers

Lex

(34,108 posts)
60. Exactly so.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 03:09 PM
Nov 2014

Do people really think she would use it wisely, considering the circumstances?


Sunlei

(22,651 posts)
44. why didn't her lawyer help her set-up the bank accounts?
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:13 PM
Nov 2014

I think it's was easy to go through 100k in 6 months, especially if a lawyer was hired.

Her lawyer quit on her a month or so ago. The Judge shouldn't have allowed the Lawyer to dump her (once the money was gone)

LisaL

(47,423 posts)
47. She is an adult.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:21 PM
Nov 2014

And who says she didn't have a bank account?
As for the lawyer, he claims she failed to pay him.

"Taylor's attorney, Benjamin Taylor, no relation, asked to terminate his representation earlier this month and a second attorney, John Agra, left the case after he said Shanesha Taylor failed to pay him. Taylor has since been appointed a public defender after being declared "indigent" or unable to pay legal fees."

http://ktar.com/22/1784105/Embattled-mom-Shanesha-Taylor-spends-4000-a-month

 

branford

(4,462 posts)
75. Why shouldn't the lawyer be able to withdraw.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 06:43 PM
Nov 2014

I'm an attorney. All lawyers can do is counsel and assist their clients, we cannot force them to choose the right or prudent path, nor are we babysitters to adults, social workers or psychologists. We are also entitled to be paid for our services. Absent very unusual circumstances, like being in the middle of an actual trial, and lawyer is generally allowed to resign when they are not being paid and/or the client refuses to accept their advice and counsel. Since a public defender is available, there is also no risk Taylor will be without legal representation.

In this instance, her original lawyers did an incredible job with the plea bargain, and I have no doubt would have helped her comply with its terms or referred her to individuals or groups who could readily assist her, likely free of charge.

The only person responsible for Taylor's mess is Taylor herself. As I mentioned in an earlier post, I wish her public defender the best of luck, for he or she will surely need it.

At this point, now that the plea bargain has been violated and revoked, I expect Taylor will soon be a involuntary guest of state for some time and probably lose custody of her children.

What a waste.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
49. I feel sorry for her. No, I didn't donate
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:25 PM
Nov 2014

and yes, she evidently blew the money, but I don't know that most people can understand what it's like to feel terribly deprived and then have this windfall dropped in your lap. I wish the money had been put into a trust for her children immediately, leaving a set amount for her to spend.

TexasMommaWithAHat

(3,212 posts)
101. No, I don't know what it's like to have a windfall drop in my lap
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 06:41 PM
Nov 2014

and I am fortunate enough that I don't know what it's like to have hungry children with no money to feed them.

HOWEVER, I think I can understand how horrible it must be not to have money to feed my kids, so I pretty sure I wouldn't run through that amount of money when I know my kids might be starving.

LisaL

(47,423 posts)
51. Yea, really.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:29 PM
Nov 2014

Woman leaves young kids alone in the car, people donate a bunch of money to her, and she didn't put part of it in trust for the kids as promised.
Who would have thunk such a thing was possible?

sendero

(28,552 posts)
52. I understand how...
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:36 PM
Nov 2014

... upsetting this is to a lot of people. But I'd say that what is at play here is similar to what happens when financially-unsophisticated (that would be most of them) folks win a large sum of money in a lottery.

Being totally un-used to having free cash at their disposal, these people usually wind up bankrupt in a few short years.

It is a complicated mix of lack of emotional intelligence, lack of experience in dealing with money and the feeling that the amount of money being so much greater than anything they have had before that it seems infinite.

I'm sad for her kids mostly but it is unrealistic to expect some people to deal with something totally out of their sphere of experience.

 

Blue_Tires

(57,596 posts)
98. +1000
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 06:12 PM
Nov 2014

We see it with some pro athletes, too

The biggest factor is usually friends or family members (or in this case, babydaddy) who come by for a small piece which tends to add up very quickly, while at the same time encouraging her to spend some on herself, since she "deserves it"...

Lancero

(3,276 posts)
53. I'm going to rub this in some peoples faces.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:36 PM
Nov 2014

Some people, irl and other sites, didn't react to well to me saying she should have been jailed and her children taken by CPS. Some people are going to have this story shoved down their throats.

Tsiyu

(18,186 posts)
59. Why?
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 03:05 PM
Nov 2014

Is it really important for you to be RIGHT?

Do you enjoy making people feel bad?

How sad for you. I hope you get some help with that. Going through life acting as if you have always made the right decision, and then "shoving your oh-so-awesome-correctness down their throats" makes me think you have nothing good or positive to do with your life.

Poor dear. I'm sorry for whatever made you that sort of person. It's got to really be painful to be that sort of soul.

 

LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
57. Had a lot of sympathy for her
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 02:57 PM
Nov 2014

$114k could have done a lot of good for her and her kids.

You can't save someone who is hopelessly stupid. Designer clothes? Michael Kors, eh? Pffff

 

LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
68. Agreed
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 03:18 PM
Nov 2014

But I think a lot of it was redemption-themed. We hoped that she really was just a good mother who made one mistake. Everyone deserves a second chance and all that.

I pity her for lacking any ability to understand the consequences of her actions. Hopefully her children are not cursed with that trait.

Skittles

(171,704 posts)
77. it's not just the money
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 06:54 PM
Nov 2014

she seems to have no real interest in being employed, either

moriah

(8,312 posts)
92. That seems awful judgy. You can be poor and still know to put $40k of it in savings for your kid...
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 11:02 AM
Nov 2014

... especially if it keeps you out of jail.

I've been poor all my life. Yeah, it'd go faster than I wanted it to, but it doesn't take a super-genius to comply with a plea-bargain, or to do things like pay your rent up, pay off your car (or get a new one if it's not worth paying off), etc.

Her poor kids.

Lex

(34,108 posts)
95. She left her kids in a dangerously hot car and you think I've decided she's a bad decision
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 05:39 PM
Nov 2014

maker because she's POOR? I think she's a bad decision maker because she is one. People don't spontaneously start being responsible with money, kids, or anything really, if they have a history otherwise. Poor or not.


moriah

(8,312 posts)
97. Sorry, I thought people on here had decided to ignore the fact she treated her kids worse than....
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 06:06 PM
Nov 2014

.... we'd treat animals with the sympathy train when it first happened.

Even now people were arguing that her sentence was absurd.

tavernier

(14,443 posts)
103. News flash
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 07:28 PM
Nov 2014

Baby daddy is gone. Left when the gravy train tipped over.

I am the a true blue "bleeding heart liberal", as the other side likes to say, but even I have to admit that some folks are just plain users and losers. I think miss mother of the year and her boyfriend fit that category.

Initech

(108,776 posts)
78. What's really sad is that this will make people think twice before helping someone.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 06:56 PM
Nov 2014

Between this and that Oklahoma City panhandler with the brand new Fiat, it really makes one wonder who really is needy.

FSogol

(47,623 posts)
83. Rage inducing? Why? No matter how you try, it is not possible to help everyone.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 08:10 PM
Nov 2014

People have a whole slew of problems and no matter how hard you try, there are people that resist what is best for them and make a host of problems for themselves.

Rather than getting angry, it is better for feel sorry for those involved and to hope some kind of help reaches them in the future.

And for people who gave, only to have their gift wasted, big deal, you tried, you have nothing to feel sorry for or remorseful about. It is better to try and fail than to have never tried at all. To those Freepers and Libertarians who will use Shanesha Taylor as an excuse not to try and to not be generous, shame on you. The attempt matters and doesn't always fail.

Iggo

(49,927 posts)
89. "To those...who will use Shanesha Taylor as an excuse..."
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 10:17 AM
Nov 2014

"...not to try and to not be generous, shame on you."

flvegan

(66,278 posts)
85. This place gets more like the "Comments" area on Fox every day.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 08:40 PM
Nov 2014

I'm not read in on the story, but from the article it states she missed some deadline to deposit money. Somebody who is somehow related to the case who doesn't seem to have any actual evidence made a statement and the sheep go over the cliff right after it.

Someone has "reports" and "believes" when all that's actually known is that she missed a deadline. Okay, deal is blown based on that. That sounds like a fact.

I'm certainly not defending the woman and frankly don't really care. If she endangered her kids needlessly (I don't really know, again not being read into the story, but if charged for it...) then she can face trial and punishment for it. "Drug and parenting classes" tells me that there may be more to this.

LisaL

(47,423 posts)
86. You are not well informed.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 09:08 PM
Nov 2014

She really did miss the deadlines and now the trial is back on.

"Taylor agreed to a plea deal in order to avoid prosecution. She was required to put $60,000 into a trust fund for her kids but she missed several deadlines to do so. She refused Montgomery's offer to have the amount set at $40,000, and is scheduled to go to trial on Dec. 10."

http://ktar.com/22/1784533/Shanesha-Taylor-failure-wont-prevent-county-attorney-from-offering-similar-deals

flvegan

(66,278 posts)
88. No, you can't read.
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 09:13 PM
Nov 2014

"all that's actually known is that she missed a deadline. Okay, deal is blown based on that. That sounds like a fact."

My point was just proven, thanks.

Hekate

(100,133 posts)
87. Why should we be "enraged"? Good karma accrues to those who give, but they are well-advised...
Sat Nov 22, 2014, 09:10 PM
Nov 2014

...to give to strangers only what they can easily afford. That way if it turns out ill the giver is not injured and they can shrug it off rather than feeling betrayed.

moriah

(8,312 posts)
94. Even if it was a $10 donation, it was for her KIDS.
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 11:05 AM
Nov 2014

Not for her to go blow it all on the female equivalent of hookers and blow.

noiretextatique

(27,275 posts)
102. either you give without expectation
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 07:03 PM
Nov 2014

or you don't. she was really stupid to waste the money, but it was hers to waste. and now she may have screwed herself...and her kids.

dsc

(53,396 posts)
104. No it was not hers to waste
Sun Nov 23, 2014, 08:37 PM
Nov 2014

the money was given with the full expectation that it would be spent on the kids.

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