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benz380
(534 posts)brooklynite
(96,882 posts)merrily
(45,251 posts)brooklynite
(96,882 posts)LiberalElite
(14,691 posts)that you may be wrong once in a while?
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)you thought it was important to leave a snotty remark.
it's a self importance thing.
Sad though.
I'm referring to those who have to make a hateful comment
dumbcat
(2,159 posts)would ever leave a hateful comment.
deurbano
(2,984 posts)sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)they want to leave DU? Are they hurt, can we help? Things like that.
To each their own, I guess.
840high
(17,196 posts)InAbLuEsTaTe
(25,517 posts)Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)You broke the irony meter.
Puglover
(16,380 posts)about attending "salons". Crinkey.
benz380
(534 posts)Guy Whitey Corngood
(26,848 posts)free to criticize your betters. And no! You're not invited to the next salon.

Response to Puglover (Reply #104)
neverforget This message was self-deleted by its author.
merrily
(45,251 posts)Why go out of you way to make someone who is already hurting feel worse, esp. since, according to you, you don't know anything about the person and the person has done nothing to hurt you?
A fellow DUer wanted to say good-bye without making a big deal of it. I don't know why that says "self important" to you.
(An explanation would make a goodbye post less self important? Really?)
pnwmom
(110,233 posts)LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)When I read a third-grade petulant response to a goodbye thread, I interpret it as it coming from a petulant third-grader-- granted, often with an ascot and tales of regal name-dropping...
(insert vapid rationalization below.)
cwydro
(51,308 posts)Thank you for this post!
Capt. Obvious
(9,002 posts)Guy Whitey Corngood
(26,848 posts)an exclusive country club.

former9thward
(33,424 posts)appalachiablue
(43,953 posts)KingCharlemagne
(7,908 posts)monopoly on it.
merrily
(45,251 posts)poster gratuitously.
hmmmmm. Good to know!
tkmorris
(11,138 posts)riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)I had something nastier to say.
cyberswede
(26,117 posts)Unbelievable.
bullwinkle428
(20,661 posts)cwydro
(51,308 posts)should be the newest DU saying!
WorseBeforeBetter
(11,441 posts)Internet delusions of grandeur.
Rex
(65,616 posts)It is quite obvious that they have neither wealth or a sound education.
People of wealth and education generally brag about neither.
merrily
(45,251 posts)benz380
(534 posts)ChisolmTrailDem
(9,463 posts)ScreamingMeemie
(68,918 posts)...and then post our shock and dismay when someone commits suicide over such things as this.
Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)NuclearDem
(16,184 posts)hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)It is time for you to grow up brooklynite!
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)think your comment is just dandy. Apparently I'm the only one who had a problem with it. Such is the state of things here.
You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Mon Feb 9, 2015, 10:13 AM, and the Jury voted 1-6 to LEAVE IT.
Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: "Goodbye, cruel DU" threads get what they get
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: This is one of the most ridiculous alerts I have ever seen. Ease up out there, people.
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: It is nasty; it doesn't violate the rules as i see it, but I think the poster might well consider self-deleting. El Bryanto
Juror #4 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Let everyone see this ugly comment.
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Frankly, I had the same question myself.
Juror #7 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: What a nasty comment. Hide it.
merrily
(45,251 posts)rest thought it was ugly.
But as a general comment of my own, jurors sometimes amaze me.
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)And their choice was pretty clear, wasn't it?
merrily
(45,251 posts)That is how they came down. Ordinarily, it would not have been that bad, in the context of what goes on here normally. It was especially bad in this case because it was obvious that the poster was hurting.
As I say, jurors sometimes amaze me.
BTW, I am a huge Big Bang theory fan. Not a scientist or a genius, so I probably miss a lot, but I enjoy it very much anyway.
Sheldon Cooper
(3,724 posts)Whatever - six people thought the comment was fine enough to let it stay. There's just no way around that fact.
Katashi_itto
(10,175 posts)LondonReign2
(5,213 posts)RiverLover
(7,830 posts)You will be missed. I hope you change your mind.
AtomicKitten
(46,585 posts)littlewolf
(3,813 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)I let someone do that to me ....... well, a group of someone's actually, but one in particular and you know what? After a while I thought ''fuck it', I liked this place and among my New Year's Resolutions, made one to not give in to stalking and bullying here any more than I would in real life (in real life it would be fun, I'd love seeing their faces when they got it back and more). Oh, some were very upset when I came back which made me laugh .... but who has the right to do that to anyone? No one here is any better than anyone else, and I'm sorry if you've been through things that have made you sad. People think that just because they can't see the person they're hurting, it's ok. Well, it's not. And don't let them win.
If you enjoy posting and talking about things in the world that matter to you ............... stay.
Chemisse
(31,308 posts)But you'll see that wherever you go on the internet.
It's very unfortunate.
polly7
(20,582 posts)goes out the window, because they know all they'll get back in return is letters on a screen which can't even begin to describe the hurt they've caused. They don't have to actually even think of a real person on the other side. Cowardly and cruel. I wouldn't want to even know that person in real life, let alone let them manage where I choose to post online or anything else.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)I wouldn't be all that upset. But I bet that never happens, no?
polly7
(20,582 posts)That would take more effort than trying to hurt anonymous people on a message board. You know, it's funny ..... those that do it most don't seem all that upset at things that are ruining the whole world, they concentrate mostly on themselves and putting down those that do speak out. I think you'd win your bet.
Fla Dem
(27,510 posts)good guys with compassion.
Well said
have said it better.
I hope you reconsider Emilie.
When people act nastily in the safety of anonymity, it says far more about them than you.
ann---
(1,933 posts)then you don't have to deal with bullies. My list of "ignores" has grown quite a bit.
polly7
(20,582 posts)I did try it, but on some threads was basically just left with the OP to read. And in my case, ignoring just threads wouldn't have helped anything, it went far beyond that.
BlueJazz
(25,348 posts)...and you will be missed.
I left for a year because I was sick of trying to deal with a certain element. Came back last summer and have not regretted it. Take some time off to cool down and return later. It's cool.
BlueJazz
(25,348 posts)chillfactor
(7,694 posts)I hate to see you go...but I have read some of the idiots who posted nasty remarks to you...those kinds of people are just sick!!!! Do not leave because of them... there are sickos in every forum...
SidDithers
(44,333 posts)Sid
Uben
(7,719 posts)...but I got it!
polly7
(20,582 posts)Someone is hurting. But you forgot your
LiberalElite
(14,691 posts)SidDithers
(44,333 posts)Sid
LiberalElite
(14,691 posts)merrily
(45,251 posts)The first reply was funny.
Now, I suspect you are just trying to make me wet my linen.
treestar
(82,383 posts)Over one bad interchange.
And the OP was quite dramatic. As people said, call the police. We can't do anything from a keyboard. Then tell us about it later. Instead of admitting to bad judgment, it's GBCW and we are supposed to feel bad.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)Read the op again.
merrily
(45,251 posts)Pooka Fey
(3,496 posts)I was gone from DU for about 7 years, just because I had other interests. I didn't demand a big group public cry and shirt tearing session, I just disappeared.
However, since I've been back, I am quite astonished by the huge numbers of "Be Nice Never Offend" authoritarians in the forum. It's quite disagreeable. Sometimes ridicule is quite useful.
I have too many family members who use GBCW as a useful blackmail tool - "Give me what I want or else you'll pay". After decades of surviving this kind of emotional manipulation, I can only see a DU GBCW post in a negative light.
ChisolmTrailDem
(9,463 posts)pinboy3niner
(53,339 posts)It is always valuabe to us to hear voices from other countries. I, personally, have appreciated your links to stories n the French press.
I hope you'll think about it more. In any case, be well.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)posting in another language.
You're braver than I. So don't let nasty cowards run you off.
hlthe2b
(113,418 posts)It always makes me wonder what I may have missed or will miss, in terms of contributions in the future.
Whatever the problem, I would like to suggest you take a temporary break from DU--many of us have over the years when the "rough and tumble" of anonymous internet political forums takes a turn to the "personal".
The best to you.
Renew Deal
(84,834 posts)That's part of life. You're going to have a hard time anywhere if you're worried what people think so much. That said, you seemed nice to me and I hope you stay.
Fumesucker
(45,851 posts)It fits here as well as it did where I posted it.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=6196238
It's certainly happened to me more times than I can possibly remember.
If there's one thing I have learned being online since the days of 300 baud modems it's that your words will be eventually be misconstrued by someone in the worst possible light and used against you. I also know that it's not always or even that often a deliberately malicious act but rather differing perspectives and the inherent lack of social cues, body language, tone of voice, facial expressions and so on in an entirely text medium.
DU is a political discussion forum primarily and political discussion is inherently conflict filled, DUers are mostly people who care about issues and they don't remotely all have the same point of view or agenda.
panader0
(25,816 posts)merrily
(45,251 posts)A good bye thread is not a binding contract.
brer cat
(27,491 posts)The thread yesterday was often brutal. I wish I had spoken up for you...I tend to ignore threads when they get so far out of control, but that was inconsiderate. I was wrong not to offer at least some moral support. I hope you will take a break and come back.
Be safe and I hope you can peacefully resolve the problem with threatening neighbors.
Hissyspit
(45,790 posts)riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)Im on my phone now where I'm less competent to re-link it again.
raccoon
(32,311 posts)in particular that I think has a control issue from hell jumped on me for posting something they
didn't think was serious enough for GD, on GD.
Later on, they posted something on GD very similar to what I had. Go figure! Control issue big time.
And some people are just jerks. Especially on the Internet, where they can most of the time get away with it.
appalachiablue
(43,953 posts)99Forever
(14,524 posts)"Don't let the bastards get you down."
Maybe take a break to gain some new perspective. There are some real jerks on this forum, but they are far and away, a minority. Use of the Ignore function can make this a much more pleasant place.
MoonRiver
(36,975 posts)I think this place is much more difficult to deal with than in the past. It seems that virtually all posts, even silly, innocuous ones, bring out barrages of aggressive responses. It's like some get their jollies just by being oppositional.
Mylye, I hope you come back.
riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)BlueCaliDem
(15,438 posts)I hope you'll reconsider, just take a break, and then come back. It's a rare thing for any of us to agree on everything, so there's bound to be some strife, but you just shake it off and move on. So, hopefully, you'll do that and come back.
20score
(4,769 posts)people made you feel you have to leave. Happens here a lot, some people act like 12 year old bullies.
If you come back, let me know and I'll check out your post / essays.
Exhibit A
(318 posts)I wish you would stay. People don't particularly like me on DU, but I stay because it's such a great news source and I learn so much from others here.
And if you stay, tu peux m'aider avec mon français.
DrDan
(20,411 posts)This place can really suck sometimes.
No I take that back. Some DUers can really suck sometimes. Don't let them get to you!
LiberalElite
(14,691 posts)the internet brings out the worst in some, like the cowards who can be as mean as they want to be, while they're anonymous. Please ignore the jerks.
JTFrog
(14,274 posts)There are assholes here who have hurled the most vile insults at me and they still run around and talk about how bad everyone else here is. It makes me laugh a little everyday (when it doesn't make me throw up).
Don't let them get to you.
Take a break. Come back. Fuck 'em if they don't like it.
cyberswede
(26,117 posts)Just put the assholes on ignore.
Don't let them win.
pampango
(24,692 posts)Munificence
(493 posts)a lot, read this site daily for at least the past 10 years or so.
Me not posting was due to noticing how folks "attacked" at any shortcoming on misspoken word, typo, improper grammar use and deflecting away from the subject.
I read your latest OP about being afraid or concerned about your neighbors and instantly knew you'd be attacked and ridiculed on different levels around here.
2 things to note:
It's hard to compete in written text with unemployed english majors on a political forum.
If you are not a part of the "1%" in highest post count then you will be ridiculed.
Your Op about the neighbors, your use of grammar and your typo's were to be expected since english is not your main language, I noticed that and thought "Damn she is gonna be crucified"....and for no good fucking reason.
Big fucking tent we have hunh?
You were attacked because you were an easy target to ridicule. Happens all the time.
So many fucking self proclaimed "do gooders" around here....but make no mistake about it, they will slice your fucking throat in a heartbeat. This goes against every principle I have about what it means to be of liberal mind.
procon
(15,805 posts)RiverLover
(7,830 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)so you're not above it.
If it's really bad, why not improve it rather than resent everyone who does know grammar and spelling?
Or if they are only doing it because they disagree with you, ignore it.
And it's not always going to happen. I've seen typos on my posts later and no one said anything about it.
appalachiablue
(43,953 posts)an editor, and how he uses use his red pencil. I saw it. He was proud and anal about asserting his use of these techniques. The odd thing is it wasn't in reply to any conflict or banter on the thread. What an unpleasant person. I was uninterested in the topic so I left. When I saw the post up thread that you're responding to I knew there were people like that here, no exaggerating.
My sister, brother and husband were English lit majors; sister would correct people in front of others over trivia when they were speaking which was rude, but none had 'red pencil syndrome'!
HubertHeaver
(2,539 posts)appalachiablue
(43,953 posts)I moved on, but maybe others like him to editorially review their posts and he enjoys it also. No telling with people sometimes.
marlakay
(13,162 posts)I have been here since 2004 and could have higher posts, but a few times have got slammed for saying something that was misunderstood. I am not one to fight online so I don't post very often.
I think some people are angry and looking for anyone to take that anger out on.
appalachiablue
(43,953 posts)clearly angry and looking for a fight. It's their verbal workout, desire for combat maybe. Forget it.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)I'm sure some of that 1% found that amusing.
Munificence
(493 posts)sure that some did not.
appalachiablue
(43,953 posts)The first few months here I also noticed a high amount of hairsplitting over word choice, meaning, grammar. Also some endless banter and unsettling inferences and suspicions about nubie trolls. My first social message board so the troll part was new. This didn't worry me I just thought it was a waste and reflected some real aggression or boredom. Overall I get a whole lot from the DU site and appreciate it very much. It's a tremendous source of knowledge, experience and good people.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)I learned that early on!
appalachiablue
(43,953 posts)Please consider coming back. We must avoid problem people if needed so that we can share ideas with many good ones here who enrich our knowledge of so many interesting subjects.
840high
(17,196 posts)freshwest
(53,661 posts)When I see threads of people that are upset about something in their life, I tend to believe them. I may not agree with their solutions. But then again, I'm not going to insult them over it.
Because it's not my life and I've found most people often don't express their personal griefs or fears very well. And when someone comes anywhere to strangers for help, they must be very trusting and should not be abused for that.
If a poster continually posts crisis after crisis and listens to no one, or is on the attack with everyone that gives advice, my empathy fades. But I say nothing. I sure don't know where the ridicule comes from.
I also don't rejoice when someone does a GBCW thread. Some good people have left here. and it reflects badly, fair or not, on Democrats. When I have left a site, it's not about me and I say nothing.
However, I was brought up to not expect sympathy. But others still seek it and I feel badly for them. There is a lot of trolling going on here, and they fit the definition of psychologists. And this isn't a tightly run ship, either.
NoJusticeNoPeace
(5,018 posts)what we were dealing with here, I dont have search function.
But I will tell you this, DONT do it.
You can grow a thick skin over time, some of us have had to do that because at some point we stopped caring about protocol or even sometimes politeness, when necessary, to get a point across when said point was far more important than being polite.
If you tell the truth, here or anywhere, the real truth, you will be attacked, relentlessly, especially if about race, for instance.
Fuck the bullies, fight back...
riderinthestorm
(23,272 posts)She offered a lot of commentary during the Charlie Hebdo massacres as well and got mocked for her English.
Not DUs best moments for sure...
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)HappyMe
(20,277 posts)For one thing as much as I disagree with some of the things the HoF women say, it's their group. I don't think it's cool for you to go in there and drag stuff here. You're asking for trouble.
For another thing, like my mom used to say 'if you don't have something nice to say, don't say anything'. While that doesn't apply to every situation, I think it applies to this thread.
closeupready
(29,503 posts)polly7
(20,582 posts)ileus
(15,396 posts)cwydro
(51,308 posts)merrily
(45,251 posts)If I had read the responses to brooklynite's remarkably similar comment, I don't think posting simply to have another slap at the OP would have been worth it to me.
notadmblnd
(23,720 posts)But why would you let a bunch of anonymous people on a forum run you off? Why would you even worry whether people agreed with you or not? Is wanting to be liked and agreed with your only purpose for utilizing DU? Personally, I use it as a clearing house for gathering information. Yep, I occasionally toss out my thoughts about something. If somebody agrees, that's wonderful, if they don't so be it. I've been here for more than a decade now and for the most part, I'm invisible to others here and that's the way I like it.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)The response from some was enough to make not just the OP want to leave, but I wouldn't be surprised if others were just as disgusted.
Someone posted a link above.
It doesn't take much to be kind, or at least it shouldn't. Or to simply pass on any comment at all, 'if you have nothing good to say'.
But there are those who can't resist trying to be clever forgetting or not caring,, that there are human beings behind every screen name.
I personally don't blame the OP, though I wish she would stay.
NoJusticeNoPeace
(5,018 posts)You know, that arrogant type of stuff.
Showing they have no respect for the person's problems or why they are here, which makes it clear why they are here.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)notadmblnd
(23,720 posts)merrily
(45,251 posts)notadmblnd
(23,720 posts)I asked a couple of questions, but I did not express an opinion. In fact if you read a couple posts down, someone explained to me the situation that occurred and I thanked them for it.
So there really was no reason for you to interject your opinion based upon how you interpreted my post. Was there?
closeupready
(29,503 posts)And also "Trash Thread" and "Ignore".
You are valued here by the majority - you can return and be welcomed back with open arms.
HappyMe
(20,277 posts)Take a break for a bit, and come back.
ChisolmTrailDem
(9,463 posts)virgdem
(2,305 posts)All viewpoints are valuable on DU and you will be missed. Don't let inconsiderate and nasty comments drive you away. Put them on ignore and continue to add your views on world events.
DemocratSinceBirth
(101,752 posts)The first person to become visibly mad loses. Heed that lesson and the net is your oyster.
merrily
(45,251 posts)It seems like hurt to me. Or, just coming the conclusion that this may not be where he or she wants to be.
As far as being "visibly" mad, I have had DUers impute anger to me when I was not the least bit angry. So far from anger in fact, that I thought their assumption downright bizarre. So, I don't know how that works.
DemocratSinceBirth
(101,752 posts)Don't let anybody on the internet make you hurt, upset, or mad.
Tierra_y_Libertad
(50,414 posts)WorseBeforeBetter
(11,441 posts)Did you call the police? Reach out to your landlord? Approach the offending neighbor?
mylye2222
(2,992 posts)As soon he left I packed up . I am in a train now bound to North East France.
WorseBeforeBetter
(11,441 posts)we're all here for you.
We've all been attacked here, and we understand.
Stay strong mon ami.
Hekate
(100,133 posts)Sometimes that is the best thing to do.
I am sorry I didn't take your plight more seriously at the time, but we have had cases here where a person with a medical emergency has chosen to come to DU instead of a doctor -- sometimes wasting hours and in one case, days, before leaving the keyboard and getting in their car to take action. They literally put themselves at risk for death, you understand.
We also have some drama queens who post while drunk and irrational.
DUers can provide sympathy, but they cannot provide medical help, legal aid, or physical protection.
Conversely, DUers can be very cruel and dismissive, especially in GD.
Emilie, I hope very much that your life takes a turn for the better. You deserve a good and happy life. Someday if you choose to return to DU, look around for some of the smaller groups to interact with. People in that setting will come to know you personally, and if you have another crisis they will be more inclined to hear you out without judgment.
840high
(17,196 posts)DonCoquixote
(13,950 posts)Since this is EXACTLY what the people who want to turn this into yet another chest thumping forum want. Rest assured, the folks at discussionist are taking notes.
pintobean
(18,101 posts)What "folks at dicussionist"? the admin? fellow DUers?
Rex
(65,616 posts)country and also such a strong supporter of John Kerry. I am sorry that the swarm here ran you off. They make this place suck so bad sometimes with their control freak bullshit. Evidently they think you are an old troll from DU2 and whenever they decide on something, it can never be wrong.
LiberalAndProud
(12,799 posts)But before you go, I must apologize. I truly am sorry you're having a difficult time. I was uncertain of your other thread and I'm sorry if my comment caused you distress.
Namasté

Liberal_in_LA
(44,397 posts)BigDemVoter
(4,690 posts)I've been here since 2001, although I did have a "name change". . . There are some great people, and there are some assholes. Admittedly, I'm sure some people think I'm an asshole which is fine. We're all human. With that being said, you have every right to do as you wish. Good luck.
steve2470
(37,481 posts)Go lick your wounds in peace, away from the internet. Learn a lesson about the internet and DU, which many have stated well above me. Then, renewed and educated, come back and participate again. This happens to all of us here, to varying extents. Best wishes to you!
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)Pass the
.
uppityperson
(116,005 posts)Please reconsider.
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)into a cornflake chicken-worthy flame war.
herding cats
(20,030 posts)This site is not an exception to that rule. I looked up your issue and see why you're upset, some people were ugly, which was not your fault, but theirs.
I can think of three ugly threads I've seen here including yours in the past handful of days. I'm only mentioning it so you don't feel you're being singled out, because you're not. It's just an unpleasant side effect of the internet and the anonymous text based communication in places like this one. It sometimes leads to slights being seen where none were intended, miscommunication leading to ongoing vendettas between people who don't really know each other in the first place, and it gives some people a venue to express their ugly side they wouldn't express in their normal daily lives. In some cases the people who say ugly things without provocation are just as nasty in their normal daily lives, but that's another matter altogether.
My point is, it's not you, or even really about you. You were just a convenient target at the moment. Many of us who frequent internet discussions have had similar experiences. In this case it was confined to the the internet and has no real lasting impact on your daily life, which isn't always the case. I'd like to tell you to ignore the ugliness and focus on the positive experience you gain from online discussions, but you know what's best for you. In any case, it will be a shame to see you go, but if you choose to leave, keep in mind it wasn't really about you personally, even though I know that's how it feels at the moment.
Nite Owl
(11,303 posts)and happiness to you.
There are a lot of good people here, hope you will return.
Response to mylye2222 (Original post)
benz380 This message was self-deleted by its author.
progressoid
(52,910 posts)I hope you find some happiness and peace out there.
mike_c
(36,983 posts)...searching the archives for Walt Starr's final posts. They're an excellent and entertaining model to aspire to!
All kidding aside, I hope your DU break is a good one!
hrmjustin
(71,265 posts)We disagree on several things but you are an honest person and much to contribute here.
Take a break and when you feel up to it come back to us.
Baitball Blogger
(51,991 posts)It may have been an unfamiliarity with our alert system that added to a very trying situation.
I was jurist No. 2
On Sun Feb 8, 2015, 07:18 PM an alert was sent on the following post:
This can't be real.
http://www.democraticunderground.com/?com=view_post&forum=1002&pid=6199061
REASON FOR ALERT
This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.
ALERTER'S COMMENTS
No comments added by alerter
You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Sun Feb 8, 2015, 07:26 PM, and the Jury voted 1-6 to LEAVE IT.
Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: i'm not going to guess what was offensive about this. alerter, you tell us what bothers you about this post.
Juror #2 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: It looks like the majority of DUers are taking this seriously and giving the poster the benefit of the doubt. If the person really is in crisis, this posters comments are not helping matters. So I'm voting to hide based on the belief that they are over the top.
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #4 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: ???
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #7 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: If you can't be bothered to even say what your issue is then I certainly can't be bothered to hide.
AverageJoe90
(10,745 posts)From whatever I saw of you, you seemed like a nice person; I hope you will reconsider. But, if you feel like you must go for now, then farewell, and good luck.....
yuiyoshida
(45,224 posts)If you have to take time off do so, but everyone contributes here..in one way or another.
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yuiyoshida
(45,224 posts)You don't have any hearts yet....
cwydro
(51,308 posts)for your reply to that idiot.
yuiyoshida
(45,224 posts)I didn't think to submit it to a jury, but I had to comment on it.. DUers should treat each other better than that, even to "noobs".
yuiyoshida
(45,224 posts)bravenak
(34,648 posts)But I like it this was too. I think I gave away like 30 so far. I'm a lover.
yuiyoshida
(45,224 posts)bravenak
(34,648 posts)yuiyoshida
(45,224 posts)I spent 15 which was all I could afford. Not sure who will get the last one.. do you think people buy them for themselves?
bravenak
(34,648 posts)You should give it to you, or somebody without a heart. i gave myself one, lol.
yuiyoshida
(45,224 posts)and its more fun to give them. I am humbled each time I do get one, however!
yuiyoshida
(45,224 posts)Hey check out my new poll!
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10026207305
W_HAMILTON
(10,266 posts)Last edited Mon Feb 9, 2015, 08:00 PM - Edit history (1)
I hope you rethink your decision and don't let rude people make you feel like you need to leave this place. Just ignore them and go about your business. I can't imagine why people would feel the need to go out of their way to be insulting to others, but I'd like to think that -- at least around here -- those that do that are just a very (very, very) vocal minority. Just put them on ignore and focus on the good.
Whatever your decision, take care.
W_HAMILTON
(10,266 posts)Just goes to show you, there are a lot of good people out there, so, just focus on them and ignore those being mean to you.
Autumn
(48,888 posts)Remember, people here are nothing more than words on a screen.
Vic Tree
(90 posts)Even though I just got here, I know it's my fault!
calimary
(89,468 posts)Glad you're here. I'm always a little bummed when someone here feels the need to leave. Don't like losing them. We've all been through a lot, and much of it has been - together.
Vic Tree
(90 posts)I just hope my joining doesn't destroy the whole damn site!
merrily
(45,251 posts)Welcome to DU anyway.
Vic Tree
(90 posts)merrilymerrilymerrilylifeisbutadream. STOP ME BEFORE I PUN AGAIN!!!
Agony
(2,605 posts)I hope for better times for you.
Cheers,
Agony
appalachiablue
(43,953 posts)calimary
(89,468 posts)Hey, we need everybody! There are some tough challenges ahead.
merrily
(45,251 posts)*throws self at Loonix's ankles and grabs on*
aikoaiko
(34,213 posts)Jamastiene
(38,206 posts)You should call the cops about the neighbors threatening you, though.
DU is full of smart asses. I usually am one of them. Lately, though, I just don't have the interest in being a smart ass.
But, DU is truly full of them. If you just remember that, you won't take it so hard when people are being smart asses. That is the best I can offer as an explanation for people on here a lot of times. Sometimes, the smart ass answers are funny and sometimes they are not, but they always are on DU. You can count on that.
Skittles
(170,504 posts)I hearted you first to make it sweeter; yes INDEED
Jamastiene
(38,206 posts)I would love my
now.
ND-Dem
(4,571 posts)merrily
(45,251 posts)ND-Dem
(4,571 posts)thread.
Whatever you decide, all the best to you.
Tsiyu
(18,186 posts)Don't let the jerks win.
You are valued here.
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lovemydog
(11,833 posts)and I (among many here) would welcome you back any time. I've always enjoyed your posts. Take care.
calimary
(89,468 posts)Maybe you'll wander back again some day? Hope so! Hate to lose you.
ucrdem
(15,720 posts)Mais vous et moi, et les gens sympas, nous nous sommes entendus bien toujours, et c'est le chose important n'est-ce pas? Nous vous aimons, mon amie!
merrily
(45,251 posts)People paid money to give you hearts, knowing you might not even see them. That is how much they wanted to change your mind about leaving. (I didn't think I should rec the thread because that might look as though I was happy to see that you were leaving. I'm guessing other posters felt the same dilemma as I did or the thread would have at least 100 recs.)
So, if you do decide to go anyway, I hope you will take to heart (no pun intended) that many DUers will welcome you back and are very embarrassed by some of the responses on this thread and on the thread where you asked for virtual support. And please be comforted by the reaction to those who made asshat posts. All those posters did was reveal themselves for what they are, and probably not for the first time, either. As we USians sometimes say, "Consider the source." Insults from an asshat can be taken as compliments.
Again, I wish you well and hope you will return.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)Thank you. I hope Emilie sees it.
DFW
(59,937 posts)I don't know what brought this on, although I think I get the idea from what you wrote.
Some here have said you are having a hard time of it right now, and so I can imagine your armor against cruel comments is paper thin. I sometimes get pissed at comments leveled at me, and my personal situation is about as rock solid as it gets. I either ignore them altogether (if they were that far over the top) or just disappear for a while.
After all, as it was put by someone before I was born:
On a forum like this one there will ALWAYS be some clown out there who absolutely knows you better than you do, even though they don't know the first thing about you. There will ALWAYS be someone out there who has some kind of pressing need to put someone else down. As has been said before here, it says more about them than it says about you. Whether or not you reconsider, do me a favor and please keep that in mind.
NuttyFluffers
(6,811 posts)maybe our paths will cross again another day, another place.