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951-Riverside

(7,234 posts)
Fri May 8, 2015, 11:58 AM May 2015

Serial woman beater Terrence Howard has a baby dick

...according to the Gawker and video evidence



Source with uncensored video: http://defamer.gawker.com/terrence-howards-wife-was-right-about-his-small-dick-1702969630/

As for his repeated history of beating/assaulting women:



2000

The allegation: In August of 2000, Howard was arrested in Cleveland after assaulting a flight attendant on Continental Airlines when she told him to return to his seat while the seat belt sign was on.

Howard's defense: Howard says he was just trying to take his daughter to the bathroom, and charges were dropped by the Cleveland District Attorney for lack of jurisdiction.

________________________________________________________________________

2001

The allegation: Less than a year after the Continental incident, Howard was arrested in Whitemarsh, PA for assaulting his estranged wife, Lori McCommas. An argument over the phone led to Howard driving over to McCommas' home, kicking down her front door, and punching her three times in the face. Pleasant.

Howard's defense: According to The Smoking Gun, "Howard admitted, 'I broke the door down and hit my wife.' After being charged with a variety of crimes (simple assault, terroristic threats, harassment and stalking), Howard subsequently pleaded guilty in 2002 to disorderly conduct."
________________________________________________________________________

2005

The allegation: Though the story is only coming to light now, Philadelphia Magazine reports that back in March of 2005, Howard was involved in another violent incident with two complete strangers: Danielle DiStefano and her then-fiance Kevin Saffell were in line at Ray's Dining Car in Philadelphia when Howard became violent after the couple was seated ahead of him (DiStefano and Saffell were in line first). After allegedly punching Saffell, a U.S. Marine, to the ground, Howard is said to have punched DiStefano in the chest, and continued to beat Saffell, before fleeing the scene. He was arrested and charged with simple assault and harassment, but those charges were later withdrawn and Howard only received charges for disorderly conduct.

Howard's defense: At the time, Howard admitted to the arresting officer that he'd hit both Saffell and DiStefano, but claimed it was in self-defense. When contacted more recently by Philadelphia Magazine, Howard's lawyer said that his client "has been unjustly accused of acts that never happened."
________________________________________________________________________

2010 - 2011

The allegation: Howard married his second wife, Michelle Ghent, on January 20, 2010. It took less than a week for the alleged violence to begin. Ghent filed for divorce in January 2011, and the divorce papers detail a gruesome year: a slug in the face a week into the marriage, a beating and near-toss off a balcony in South Africa in July, and threats with a butcher knife in the week prior to her filing for divorce. The abuse apparently continued as Howard and Ghent tried to reconcile.

Howard's defense: Howard alleges that it was Ghent who was violent towards him, the judge granted Ghent a restraining order against Howard in December of 2011.
________________________________________________________________________

2012

The allegation: On May 6, 2012 Howard's on again-off again girlfriend/mistress May Seng Yang alleged that during an argument at Howard's Pennsylvania home, Howard attacked her while his current girlfriend, Erica Jiles looked on. Yang "told Whitemarsh police that Howard had choked her, thrown her to the ground and punched her in the eye, then told his girlfriend, 'Fuck this, I’m going to jail for this tonight.' In a handwritten statement to police, Yang wrote that during their argument she told Howard that he had given her herpes and says he acknowledged doing so."

Howard's defense: Howard filed assault charges against Yang for punching him during the melee, and both parties dropped criminal charges and settled in a private civil suit.
________________________________________________________________________

2013

The allegation: Howard and Ghent recently took another shot at a reconciliation, taking a trip to Costa Rica together August of 2013. Ghent alleges that Howard punched her in the face, after she told him she didn't think a reconciliation was going to work out, forcing her to pepper spray him in self defense. The photos are damning. A judge has granted Ghent a temporary restraining order.

Howard's defense: At the premiere of Lee Daniels' The Butler, Howard told Entertainment Tonight's Nancy O'Dell that he wanted to "set the record straight":


Source: http://defamer.gawker.com/the-six-times-terrence-howard-has-been-accused-of-beati-1121955457

He also said this about Chris Brown after he viciously beat Rihanna

"It's just life, man. Chris is a great guy, man. He'll be all right. And Rihanna knows he loves her, you know? They'll be alright. 'Cause everybody gotta get out of their way, you know what I mean?"


Source: http://gawker.com/5151893/terrence-howard-raises-lone-team-chris-brown-flag

It takes a small man to do something like this to a woman





Source: http://www.nydailynews.com/entertainment/gossip/terrence-howard-alleges-physical-abuse-headspace-scary-article-1.1446044
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Serial woman beater Terrence Howard has a baby dick (Original Post) 951-Riverside May 2015 OP
Dude needs to be Mel Gibson'ed. trumad May 2015 #1
I usually never do this, but snooper2 May 2015 #2
This message was self-deleted by its author Person 2713 May 2015 #32
I didn't know that about him. That sucks. I love the show Empire, it will never be the same now. nt okaawhatever May 2015 #3
Well his character is not particularly cuddly and positive yeoman6987 May 2015 #6
Cookie is awesome. I think Taraji P. Henson is one of the best actresses out there. nt okaawhatever May 2015 #7
I agree! yeoman6987 May 2015 #17
So progressive! phil89 May 2015 #4
+1 dawg May 2015 #11
because Terrence Howard is the real victim here. nt geek tragedy May 2015 #22
Literally no one is defending him Kurska May 2015 #52
Maybe so, but he's still a big prick. bigwillq May 2015 #5
. bravenak May 2015 #8
He's an asshole, but body-shaming is not cool. dawg May 2015 #9
Awww shenmue May 2015 #10
Evidently you don't expect to be taken phil89 May 2015 #18
I usually agree with you, but I gotta say I disagree here. cyberswede May 2015 #30
Yeah well shenmue May 2015 #31
His body particularly his fists have done a lot of damage to women. That is also not cool. 951-Riverside May 2015 #21
First of all, he's over 6 feet tall. Why refer to him as a "small" man. dawg May 2015 #28
He *is* a small man. Not talking about physical size...... WillowTree May 2015 #40
Why should being small be such an ultimate insult? dawg May 2015 #43
In this particular context, yes, I am. WillowTree May 2015 #47
Well, I don't particularly mean to call you out over it. It is the common usage after all. dawg May 2015 #69
One point of order Scootaloo May 2015 #77
I did not know that. dawg May 2015 #80
Yeah, I only know 'cause I'm something of a word nerd. Scootaloo May 2015 #82
Never heard that suggestion before, had to look it up... A-Schwarzenegger May 2015 #89
Thanks! I'm corrected Scootaloo May 2015 #93
Understood, and thanks to you A-Schwarzenegger May 2015 #94
Is that the reason the word got connected to female genitals also? uppityperson May 2015 #96
I agree Skittles May 2015 #39
People went apeshit over the ESPN woman calling another woman fat... Inkfreak May 2015 #75
Body shaming anyone, for any reason, is a disgusting thing to do . . . markpkessinger May 2015 #104
Hmmmmm AgingAmerican May 2015 #12
IBTL. stevenleser May 2015 #13
What made you think it would be locked? lumberjack_jeff May 2015 #51
Well, I'm only one of around 12-15 responders who thought it either juvenile or stevenleser May 2015 #57
"Women are afraid that men kill them. Men are afraid that women laugh at them." DetlefK May 2015 #14
Well said Margaret n/t 951-Riverside May 2015 #16
Got it, body shaming is cool if it is directed at men. EOM Kurska May 2015 #54
No, I agree that body-shaming is wrong. Example: John Boehner. DetlefK May 2015 #60
If you oppose body shaming, why are you supporting it in this thread? Kurska May 2015 #62
I just thought that the quote did fit. DetlefK May 2015 #68
No, those are lame excuses. Jamastiene May 2015 #109
It's not the crying that I find body-shaming regarding Boehner. BreakfastClub May 2015 #106
I would hope there are way more differences between you and Boehner. Jamastiene May 2015 #108
Probably a lot of guns, too. onehandle May 2015 #15
And speculation is speculation. Comrade Grumpy May 2015 #25
What is this, Junior High? tkmorris May 2015 #19
Beautiful eyes. Dark ugly soul. WillowTree May 2015 #20
he's a creep and serial abuser, but are you seriously suggesting his dick size has cali May 2015 #23
Not really sure what one has to do with the other... Blue_Tires May 2015 #24
This message was self-deleted by its author 1000words May 2015 #26
His dick has nothing to do with his other actions. tammywammy May 2015 #27
One of the oddest op titles cwydro May 2015 #29
What a revolting post. Sun19 May 2015 #33
I agree Bonobo May 2015 #34
Message auto-removed Name removed May 2015 #35
Some people are small and have small penises Bonobo May 2015 #36
Message auto-removed Name removed May 2015 #37
I do agree with your point. Bonobo May 2015 #38
Imagine a thread shaming a reprehensible woman for having a huge vagina Major Nikon May 2015 #72
I pm'd 951-Riverside asking to please consider self deleting, they are aware of the issue and uppityperson May 2015 #73
For almost 7,000 posts I'm surprised by this post. n/a vaberella May 2015 #41
Some last longer than others. NuclearDem May 2015 #48
This posts reminds me of the kinds of things the wackos in Texas do. So unecessary to exhibit mfcorey1 May 2015 #42
I abhor violence, especially violence against women. 99Forever May 2015 #44
Why are you bringing up old stuff to bash Howard? craigmatic May 2015 #45
I am not commenting on the OP but 2013 is not old stuff by any stretch. nt JanMichael May 2015 #49
It shows that he has a history of REALLY bashing women. Jamastiene May 2015 #102
Shaming people with medical conditions Kurska May 2015 #46
DU used to have a regular poster who was quite open about having that condition. dawg May 2015 #64
I've dated guys very self-conscious about their size Kurska May 2015 #66
Another example is gun related threads. Jamastiene May 2015 #110
The dick thing- offensive and totally unnecessary. bettyellen May 2015 #50
OP why are you trying so hard to get a 5th hide? LittleBlue May 2015 #53
It takes real dedication and effort to get those 5 hides Kurska May 2015 #63
It really does BainsBane May 2015 #100
Posted to for Mrs. 1SBM's later viewing. n/t 1StrongBlackMan May 2015 #55
Maybe he's a grower & not a shower since apparently giftedgirl77 May 2015 #56
Why is this posted on DU? MineralMan May 2015 #58
Who is Terrance Howard? roody May 2015 #59
Un-shame yourself & delete this, 951... A-Schwarzenegger May 2015 #61
Body shaming is wrong. Even if it is ass like this. Bash him for his actions but to claim any sort uppityperson May 2015 #65
+1 Kurska May 2015 #67
Outside of other issues JonLP24 May 2015 #70
I pm'd 951-Riverside asking to please consider self deleting as while shaming for his actions is ok, uppityperson May 2015 #71
Two wrongs make a right, dontcha know? EOM Kurska May 2015 #74
I see it differently... MrMickeysMom May 2015 #81
Are you saying his having a small penis has led him to be violent? uppityperson May 2015 #85
No... MrMickeysMom May 2015 #88
I think you may be mixing me up with the OP as he/she seems to be about the only one saying uppityperson May 2015 #91
You have a point there, uppity... MrMickeysMom May 2015 #92
Having been in a DV relationship in early 20's, I've little empathy for any abuser uppityperson May 2015 #95
Terrance Coward the Woman Beater also thinks that women who use only Toilet paper are "unclean"... 951-Riverside May 2015 #76
Perhaps it would just be better... MrMickeysMom May 2015 #78
Wow. You really don't get it do you? dawg May 2015 #79
Because all guys with big dicks A-Schwarzenegger May 2015 #83
so WHAT does that have to do with his penis size? Seriously. What? uppityperson May 2015 #84
Clearly he beats the shit out of women because hes trying to compensate 951-Riverside May 2015 #86
WTF. "I know you're probably a fan of his work in entertainment" uppityperson May 2015 #90
If you think that he is trying to compensate for his small penis, let me ask you this: Bonobo May 2015 #107
A useless piece of crap does things like this, just useless. Thinkingabout May 2015 #87
Could be a grower... Deuce May 2015 #97
Amazing that this thread is still here melman May 2015 #98
You could have made this a thoughtful post about domestic violence BainsBane May 2015 #99
As far as I saw, everyone that responded with criticism about the body shaming ALSO Bonobo May 2015 #105
Either way, the guy is a giant asshole. Jamastiene May 2015 #101
Two reactions . . . markpkessinger May 2015 #103

Response to snooper2 (Reply #2)

 

yeoman6987

(14,449 posts)
6. Well his character is not particularly cuddly and positive
Fri May 8, 2015, 12:09 PM
May 2015

So this makes the character even more believable. I will just concentrate on cookie. Lol.

Kurska

(5,739 posts)
52. Literally no one is defending him
Sat May 9, 2015, 01:44 PM
May 2015

They just think that line of attack is insulting people by proxy and advancing disgusting stereotypes.

dawg

(10,622 posts)
9. He's an asshole, but body-shaming is not cool.
Fri May 8, 2015, 12:24 PM
May 2015

This sort of thing really messes with the heads of some men, especially teenagers, making them feel worthless due something they were born with. Reinforcing that meme, even at the expense of a *bad* guy, just makes it harder for people dealing with that sort of issue.

 

951-Riverside

(7,234 posts)
21. His body particularly his fists have done a lot of damage to women. That is also not cool.
Fri May 8, 2015, 12:49 PM
May 2015

I'm not making fun of people with real medical conditions I am making fun of a small man who not only violently abuses women but supports others who do.

Punching and choking women is not cool.

dawg

(10,622 posts)
28. First of all, he's over 6 feet tall. Why refer to him as a "small" man.
Fri May 8, 2015, 01:16 PM
May 2015

He's actually a large man, but big, strong men are considered the shit in this society, so instead we call him "small".

Howard deserves no pity or consideration. But when you make fun of Chris Christie for being fat, you body-shame all overweight people. When you make fun of Lindsey Graham for seeming gay, you are perpetuating the meme that there is somehow something wrong with being gay.

This is the same sort of thing.

The size of this guy's penis has absolutely nothing to do with any of this. Whatever size he is, all those women still wanted to be with him, at least until he started being abusive.

WillowTree

(5,325 posts)
40. He *is* a small man. Not talking about physical size......
Sat May 9, 2015, 08:59 AM
May 2015

.......(of either the man in general or any segment of his anatomy), but the size of the man inside.......his character. And, like Chris Brown and all other abusers, that person inside is tiny tiny tiny.

dawg

(10,622 posts)
69. Well, I don't particularly mean to call you out over it. It is the common usage after all.
Sat May 9, 2015, 03:49 PM
May 2015

But I do think it is emblematic of one of the systematic biases built into our society that need to be rooted out.

In our culture, "large" is good and "small" is bad, at least when applied to males. "White" symbolizes goodness while "black" symbolizes evil. Masculine is strong and feminine is weak - they call men "pussies" instead of using the word coward, and a subordinate man is sometimes referred to as a "bitch". And of course, "fat" and "gay" are thrown around as insults all the time as well.

I hate all such twisting of language, and I especially hate the unspoken assumptions those words carry.

If you want to know about some really "small" men, I would tell you about Gandhi, Dr. King, Jimmy Carter, and probably the other J.C. as well.

As for "large" men, well ..... the idiot this thread is about for one. Papa Bear (Bill O'Reilly) is a pretty big guy too. Glenn Beck. Jeb Bush. Lots of big guys that are jerks.

Also, there are lots of tiny little monsters and great big sweethearts. It's a person's character that counts, and that isn't tied to their size - so why do we choose to reference size when we are actually talking about something else?

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
77. One point of order
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:28 PM
May 2015
they call men "pussies" instead of using the word coward


This is actually derived from "pusillanimous," and not actually the slang term for female genitals. it does actually mean "cowardly." I'll grant of course, most people using "pussy" as an insult pretty certainly don't know that, because, well... most people probably don't know there's a word "pusillanimous" (but I suppose nobody can blame olden-times people for shortening that monster)

dawg

(10,622 posts)
80. I did not know that.
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:34 PM
May 2015

Thanks for the information.

Of course, I'm still not going to use that word. Except, you know, as a term of endearment. (Yeah, as if that were in the cards for me any time soon )

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
82. Yeah, I only know 'cause I'm something of a word nerd.
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:38 PM
May 2015

Like I said, most people probably don't know, and so really do intend to refer to female genitals when using it as an insult. So the criticism is probably still valid, even if the etymology is unsound

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
93. Thanks! I'm corrected
Sat May 9, 2015, 05:02 PM
May 2015

As noted, either way, it's most definitely used to refer to women's genitals today, so, it was just an etymological quibble, rather than some sort of "defense"

Inkfreak

(1,695 posts)
75. People went apeshit over the ESPN woman calling another woman fat...
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:16 PM
May 2015

But mention that body shaming isn't cool in this thread and you'll be accused of defending Howard. This place is weird at times.



This is where I mention that I in NO WAY condone his obviously aggressive attacking of women. He's got major problems.

markpkessinger

(8,392 posts)
104. Body shaming anyone, for any reason, is a disgusting thing to do . . .
Sun May 10, 2015, 05:28 AM
May 2015

. . . and it matters not whether the person at whom the shaming is directed is a good or bad person. Body shaming invariably hurts more than just the person it is directed towards. There are plenty of good reasons to criticize this jerk without resorting to that.

 

lumberjack_jeff

(33,224 posts)
51. What made you think it would be locked?
Sat May 9, 2015, 01:41 PM
May 2015

In what way did you erroneously think this violated community standards?

It was alerted and upheld by a 6-1 vote.

DetlefK

(16,423 posts)
60. No, I agree that body-shaming is wrong. Example: John Boehner.
Sat May 9, 2015, 03:14 PM
May 2015

He cries and gets satirized for that.
Guess what: I have the same condition and it's a bodily reaction to being nervous or agitated. The difference between me and Boehner is that I have learned to suppress this reflex.

Kurska

(5,739 posts)
62. If you oppose body shaming, why are you supporting it in this thread?
Sat May 9, 2015, 03:18 PM
May 2015

At minimum you appear to be minimizing it when it is direct at men.

"Look at him, he has a small baby penis". You are aware some men actually have a condition called micropenis and that is essentially a slur addressed as them for a bodily deformation?

The man in the OP is a brute and a monster, that doesn't mean it is okay to shame innocent men to try and attack him. I have no idea why you are defending that.

DetlefK

(16,423 posts)
68. I just thought that the quote did fit.
Sat May 9, 2015, 03:47 PM
May 2015

Why would he be aggressive unless he's unhappy about something in his life? Maybe because something or someone is beyond his control?

I retreat from this thread now.

Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
109. No, those are lame excuses.
Sun May 10, 2015, 06:06 AM
May 2015

His own actions are not beyond his control. I don't care how big or small his penis is. If he is a violent brutish asshole, then I prefer to point out that he is an asshole. I suppose someone will say I'm body shaming for calling a man an asshole, but women can be assholes too. And last I heard, assholes are not particularly pleasant in most cases.

BreakfastClub

(765 posts)
106. It's not the crying that I find body-shaming regarding Boehner.
Sun May 10, 2015, 05:41 AM
May 2015

It's the way people make fun of the color of his skin! He clearly has some sort of genetic issue. He says his mother and four siblings have the same odd orange color. I've even heard Obama making fun of that man's skin color! Ridiculing a person's skin color is body-shaming 101, but everybody seems to think it's very funny.

Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
108. I would hope there are way more differences between you and Boehner.
Sun May 10, 2015, 06:03 AM
May 2015

That sounds more like medical condition shaming, which is wrong.

 

cali

(114,904 posts)
23. he's a creep and serial abuser, but are you seriously suggesting his dick size has
Fri May 8, 2015, 12:51 PM
May 2015

anything to do with it?

that's just sickening.

Response to 951-Riverside (Original post)

 

Sun19

(7 posts)
33. What a revolting post.
Sat May 9, 2015, 02:09 AM
May 2015

OJ had a dick the size of a log and he beat his wife. You should be ashamed of this post!

Response to Bonobo (Reply #34)

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
36. Some people are small and have small penises
Sat May 9, 2015, 02:21 AM
May 2015

To link that to vile behavior is unfair and sexist and sizeist and wrong.

Response to Bonobo (Reply #36)

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
38. I do agree with your point.
Sat May 9, 2015, 03:38 AM
May 2015

However, not feeling shame when someone tries to make you feel bad about your body is not possible for all people and it is still a shitty thing to do.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
73. I pm'd 951-Riverside asking to please consider self deleting, they are aware of the issue and
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:13 PM
May 2015

are chosing to not change this. For some reason they think shaming someone for having a small penis is ok, if it is someone they do not like. There is plenty to legitimately shame this ass for, no need to sink to this.

mfcorey1

(11,001 posts)
42. This posts reminds me of the kinds of things the wackos in Texas do. So unecessary to exhibit
Sat May 9, 2015, 09:13 AM
May 2015

this domestic issue that is already in the courts. Disgusting. Exploitation of domestic abuse is not for public display.

99Forever

(14,524 posts)
44. I abhor violence, especially violence against women.
Sat May 9, 2015, 09:19 AM
May 2015

Having said that, why some jerk would title a post detailing such actions with such a patently offensive and sexist insult as this one chose to do, is beyond the pale.

Or perhaps I am wrong and the OP spends their lifetime measuring the penises of convicted spousal abusers and can document it for us all.

 

craigmatic

(4,510 posts)
45. Why are you bringing up old stuff to bash Howard?
Sat May 9, 2015, 09:43 AM
May 2015

Where is the same outrage over Paul Walker dating underage girls? Before you say it I know he's dead but you bringing up old stuff so I am too.

Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
102. It shows that he has a history of REALLY bashing women.
Sun May 10, 2015, 05:13 AM
May 2015

I can guaran-damn-tee women never escape our pasts. Why should men get a pass on their pasts? You think just because something happened in the past it doesn't count? Try telling a judge that if you robbed a bank then they catch you years later. He has a history of violence against women. Unlike your summation of criticism of his history, he really does "bash" women.

Kurska

(5,739 posts)
46. Shaming people with medical conditions
Sat May 9, 2015, 11:41 AM
May 2015

Last edited Sat May 9, 2015, 01:44 PM - Edit history (1)

Warning graphic pictures

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Micropenis

Hilarious! New level of class DU.

Dudes a jack-ass, but do you need to insult a ton of people who aren't in the process of insulting him?

dawg

(10,622 posts)
64. DU used to have a regular poster who was quite open about having that condition.
Sat May 9, 2015, 03:28 PM
May 2015

Of course, he could have been lying, but I tended to believe him. Some of the things he posted really made me stop and think.

Regardless, it's a condition that apparently affects at least 1 in every 200 men. If you know more than 200 men, then you probably know at least one who is dealing with this sort of thing.

For that matter, a man (or especially a teenager) doesn't have to be small enough to meet the medical criteria for micropenis in order to have major anxieties over penis size. For those men, most of their actual problems are just in their heads, but the same could also be said of people with eating disorders. It's still a terrible thing for society to constantly reinforce their anxieties and feelings of inadequacy.





Kurska

(5,739 posts)
66. I've dated guys very self-conscious about their size
Sat May 9, 2015, 03:34 PM
May 2015

It is really broke my heart to see good and wonderful men feel horrible because their junk isn't up to society's standards. Some people even go into experimental procedures for it, which is just a horrific thought to me.

I'm sure Op's like this really help.

Amazing, there are many posters here who harp on about the dick-size of people they don't like.

Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
110. Another example is gun related threads.
Sun May 10, 2015, 06:29 AM
May 2015

They say gun nuts have small penises a lot of times too.

I used to say that, but once I sat down and thought about it, I realized it derails the discussion from the real problem to something that has nothing to do with the problem. Nowadays, I'd rather just call assholes assholes. Then again, there may be a group that is offended by that too. I wish there was an app for that, one that inserts a random synonym for sexist comments we don't even realize we use a lot of times. Jerk and other words most people do know, don't seem to have the same power to express disdain for some reason.

It is rooted in misogyny too, but most people don't seem to understand that. In order to be offended by claims that a man has a small dick, a person has to think having a small dick is somehow a female quality and see female qualities as a bad thing. So, either way, it is rooted in misogyny.

I don't understand why men are so obsessed with penis size. I know lots of straight women and gay men and the complaints I hear from both regarding penis size are never about small ones, but instead on the other end of the spectrum, large ones, especially when their husbands or boyfriends want anal sex.

The bottom line is that if a woman is getting pummeled by a guy, I doubt his dick size makes her bruises, broken bones, or possible death any different. He is an asshole because he beats women. His dick size has nothing to do with that.

 

bettyellen

(47,209 posts)
50. The dick thing- offensive and totally unnecessary.
Sat May 9, 2015, 01:36 PM
May 2015

He is a brutal asshole, but this is not the way to spread the word.

 

LittleBlue

(10,362 posts)
53. OP why are you trying so hard to get a 5th hide?
Sat May 9, 2015, 01:44 PM
May 2015

I've never really noticed offensive posts by you until recently. Seems like you're trying as hard as possible for a pizza. Why?

 

giftedgirl77

(4,713 posts)
56. Maybe he's a grower & not a shower since apparently
Sat May 9, 2015, 02:02 PM
May 2015

bringing a man's dick size is somehow relevant to this conversation.

MineralMan

(146,284 posts)
58. Why is this posted on DU?
Sat May 9, 2015, 02:34 PM
May 2015

You should consider self-deleting this post. This person may be a horrible man, but the size of his penis is irrelevant to anything at all.

Ick! Just wrong.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
65. Body shaming is wrong. Even if it is ass like this. Bash him for his actions but to claim any sort
Sat May 9, 2015, 03:29 PM
May 2015

of reasoning why he assaults people is because he has a small penis is just plain wrong.

JonLP24

(29,322 posts)
70. Outside of other issues
Sat May 9, 2015, 03:52 PM
May 2015

I have to ask if it was erect? Flaccid can be very misleading especially me in front of the cameras not saying I'm anything more than average all the way around but baby dick?

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
71. I pm'd 951-Riverside asking to please consider self deleting as while shaming for his actions is ok,
Sat May 9, 2015, 03:57 PM
May 2015

body shaming is not cool. The reply I got was only this link, so I guess 951-Riverside is fine with trying to shame someone for the size of their penis.


http://jezebel.com/287242/terrence-howard-thinks-women-are-unclean-and-dressed-like-whores

MrMickeysMom

(20,453 posts)
81. I see it differently...
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:34 PM
May 2015

The smallness of a person for his actions come out in various ways…

His actions are represented by every part of him… SMALL. Yeah, it's crude and snarky, but frankly, I'm sick and tired of brutality, wherever it occurs.

Whether it be cops and guns or big dudes with big cars or every single individual hot rodding their toys as an extension of their penis in a brutal way… Well, this has to stop.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
85. Are you saying his having a small penis has led him to be violent?
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:45 PM
May 2015

Are you saying my female friend is over compensating for not having a penis by driving a hot rod? Are you saying that every man with a small penis feels they must overcompensate?

How about understanding people's bodies come in all sorts of shapes and forms and it is what they DO with those bodies that matters rather than how their bodies are shaped?

How about criticizing people's behaviors instead of their bodies?

MrMickeysMom

(20,453 posts)
88. No...
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:51 PM
May 2015

I believe you said that.

I believe I said that this has to STOP. So, I think we're talking about behaviors.

Perhaps those exhibiting these behaviors are emphasizing something that never measured up (regardless of body habitus) … "measuring up", by the way, is a state of mind… psychology…. which is behavior.

Therapy might be good for these shitty people so that they can feel good about themselves and quit beating the shit out of their significant others.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
91. I think you may be mixing me up with the OP as he/she seems to be about the only one saying
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:54 PM
May 2015

that.

"Perhaps", perhaps not, regarding behavior and body. And posting shaming about small penises really helps others who may have the same thing, helps them feel better about themselves, right? Wrong.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
95. Having been in a DV relationship in early 20's, I've little empathy for any abuser
Sat May 9, 2015, 05:04 PM
May 2015

But it is the mixing of issues here. From personal history as well as a lot of volunteering at shelters, the reason men become violent or abusers is not their body. They may use it as an excuse, or could use the excuse that dinner was late, or you forgot to fold his shirts the "right" way, or he saw you talking to someone at the grocery store, but it is not the reason.

Body shaming is a form of bullying that does hurt those who fall into a category,. or think they fall into a category, such as over weight, under weight, tall, short, hair color, genital size or shape, etc etc etc. It hurts a lot of people and is different than abusize assholes.

 

951-Riverside

(7,234 posts)
76. Terrance Coward the Woman Beater also thinks that women who use only Toilet paper are "unclean"...
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:22 PM
May 2015

and doesn't believe in premarital sex (WHAT A SHOCKER!!!)

TH: I like women who look like me. Generally, you're attracted to women who look like you, because the most beautiful thing in nature is your own reflection.





So I take it he's got mommy issues too

___________


ELLE: You also once described your dad and uncle as "pimps" who taught you how to communicate with women. What did they tell you?

TH: They were just pimps in the figurative sense, in that they were both very worldly with women. They taught me that in every relationship, the person least interested in maintaining it is going to dominate it, because they'll never compromise. So you have to always maintain that position of least interest, and you'll always control the relationship.


___________

TH: Now I'm completely chaste through a relationship unless I get married. I don't believe in premarital sex. It enabled me to date three or four women at the same time, because as long as I wasn't having sex with them, I could always just walk away.


___________

ELLE: What one item could you find in a woman's house that would prove that you weren't compatible?

TH: Toilet paper—and no baby wipes—in her bathroom.

ELLE: Wait. I don't think I understand.

TH: If they're using dry paper, they aren't washing all of themselves. It's just unclean. So if I go inside a woman's house and see the toilet paper there, I'll explain this. And if she doesn't make the adjustment to baby wipes, I'll know she's not completely clean
.


and then there's this:

Jezebel's own Anna Holmes was once fortunate enough to interview Mr. Howard for InStyle, and came away with the impression that he hates women. (That part didn't make it into her article!) For one, says Anna, during the interview, Mr. Howard was going through his closet and showing her his favorite clothes — when her arm brushed his. Mr. Howard flinched and said he didn't like "being touched". Other gems? When railing against how 'far" women's fashion has gone — "We've lost modesty" — Mr. Howard told Anna that seeing women dressed provocatively creates a response in him that he can't respond to in a 'natural' way. (Meaning that rape is illegal?). "He then made a comment that women who expose their 'titties' to the public have no right to get angry if people — maybe him? — make remarks about it," she continues. "He said something like 'What's worse, someone exposing themselves or someone commenting on it? Who committed the first sin?'"


http://jezebel.com/287242/terrence-howard-thinks-women-are-unclean-and-dressed-like-whores

He clearly needs therapy to deal with his micro penis issues, I take it he lashes out violently against women because he feels he needs to compensate. In a way I'm glad to see there are people out there who are supportive and understand the issue of having one. I just wish that he was surrounded by those people during the height of his career before he brutally beat all those women he encountered.

MrMickeysMom

(20,453 posts)
78. Perhaps it would just be better...
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:30 PM
May 2015

…to beat himself, eh? I mean, he like humans who look like he looks…

It might work out better, eh?

dawg

(10,622 posts)
79. Wow. You really don't get it do you?
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:31 PM
May 2015

Obviously this is a dangerous guy with more issues than Time magazine. But your insistence that it all has to do with his penis size is seriously messed up.

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
84. so WHAT does that have to do with his penis size? Seriously. What?
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:42 PM
May 2015

Post about how awful he is, because he is. But wtf does any of that have to do with penis size?

 

951-Riverside

(7,234 posts)
86. Clearly he beats the shit out of women because hes trying to compensate
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:47 PM
May 2015

I know you're probably a fan of his work in entertainment but there is no denying that

uppityperson

(115,677 posts)
90. WTF. "I know you're probably a fan of his work in entertainment"
Sat May 9, 2015, 04:52 PM
May 2015

I have no idea who this person is. I understand there are reasons for insulting him, his violence and beating people and misogyny. However, that has nothing to do with the size of his penis and your continuing to try and link those 2 tells us more about you and your insecurities than anything. "Clearly" he does anything is only your assumption.

And no. Most men who beat women do not do so because they have tiny penises. They beat women because they are assholes.

And no. Most men with small penises are not violent or overcompensating by buying hot rods or beating women.

Different issues.

You can also take your assumption "I know you're probably a fan of his work in entertainment" and throw that out also because I do not know who this is beyond an abuser.

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
107. If you think that he is trying to compensate for his small penis, let me ask you this:
Sun May 10, 2015, 05:41 AM
May 2015

Does contributing to the culture in which men are shamed for the size of their genitals lessen or exacerbate the problem?

 

melman

(7,681 posts)
98. Amazing that this thread is still here
Sun May 10, 2015, 04:30 AM
May 2015

Says a lot about DU that it is. Any thread that said something comparable about a woman's body would have been deleted almost immediately.

BainsBane

(53,027 posts)
99. You could have made this a thoughtful post about domestic violence
Sun May 10, 2015, 04:37 AM
May 2015

By leaving the stupid part about his penis out and making a small about of effort to tie it into the broader issue. Instead, the way you've written is detracts from the subject matter. Then we have the typical responses of people who care more about the offense to a man's size than the fact that he and others beat their spouses. None of that contributes to a discussion of domestic violence, which is an enormously important issue.

Bonobo

(29,257 posts)
105. As far as I saw, everyone that responded with criticism about the body shaming ALSO
Sun May 10, 2015, 05:31 AM
May 2015

mentioned first and foremost that he was a disgusting person for his history of domestic violence.

Did you miss that?

Jamastiene

(38,187 posts)
101. Either way, the guy is a giant asshole.
Sun May 10, 2015, 05:08 AM
May 2015

He demands that women use baby wipes in addition to toilet paper. Normally, I would not see that as necessarily a bad thing if more people, in general, were cleaner with their junk, but does he do the same and scour his junk after each and every trip to the toilet? I doubt it. Just like when Mark Wahlberg was going on and on about refusing to perform oral sex on a woman but demanded women perform oral sex on him. Both of them are giant assholes.

I wonder how long before someone comes along and defends small assholes, giant assholes, regular sized assholes, and all asshole-kind from my hideous stereotyping of assholes.

markpkessinger

(8,392 posts)
103. Two reactions . . .
Sun May 10, 2015, 05:20 AM
May 2015

First, yes, Terrence Howard is an abusive asshole, but body shaming anybody, male or female, and regardless of what kind of person they might be otherwise, is juvenile and offensive in the extreme.

Second, in any case, he's flaccid in the video, and one really cannot tell how large or small he might be when aroused based on seeing him in a flaccid state. So besides being juvenile and offensive, the bit about his penis size is also incredibly ignorant.

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