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Thu May 10, 2012, 12:06 PM

If you have ever been the victim of a bully...

No matter what mitten's says, what ever false or non-apology he gives, I will never believe him.

From the time I entered grade school to the time I left high school, I was bullied virtually every single day.

When I hear bullies apologize, I think of the old adage, "it's easier to get forgiveness than permission".

I then think of those who say, "the sign of being an adult is forgiving those who have wronged you".

I still have the scars, both mental and physical all these many many years later.

I chose to use my experience at the hands of bullies to be more empathetic and more understanding for those who experienced and experience the same treatment.

Do I forgive those who bullied me? No, instead I feel sorry for them. Do I feel sorry for mittens? No, I pity him and his pathetic life.

Bullies on the other hand learn to live with regret. But regret is a funny thing. What do they regret, they fact that they did what ever horrible thing they did to another person or regret they were found out?

It's only now that mitten's bullying comes out. So to me, it sounds as if he regrets being found out.

Am I such an adult that I can forgive someone for something they did to someone 40+ years ago? That's not me to answer but for the person who was bullied.

However, was mitten's the consummate upper class-man that singled out only underclassmen? or did he pick and choose his targets for scorn?

Frankly, I don't think it mattered to him. Bullies work from power. Power to control, power to manipulate, power to destroy and power to embarrass. All of which is rooted in ego.

You see, if mitten's was from some screwed up family that abused him, then it would be "shit rolls down hill" concept of passing the bullying he got from his parents onto some unsuspecting person just to vent his own anger.

But no. mitten's came from a well to do family. His "abuse" came in the form from parents who pumped up his ego and inflated the importance of his "station in life" and those who are "different" were beneath him.

I have long been saying that mitten's is a sociopath.

His non-apology apology confirms that. He just doesn't get it. He knows the words but he doesn't understand the actions.

I knew guys like him. He's the worst kind of bully. He's the kind who justifies his actions as being for the best for all, all the while having a smile on his face.

He will punch you in the face repeatedly, telling you the whole time, it's for your own good. And making you try to sympathize with him having to beat you up.

When in the end, the only person to "benefit" is mittens with his stroked ego by those who fawn around him and too afraid of him to tell him to fuck off. And those who were bullied, too bloodied to respond.


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Response to Javaman (Original post)

Thu May 10, 2012, 12:08 PM

1. Most of the real bullies I knew in my early to late teens are now deceased

 

I learned how to deal with them in my youth.

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Response to Javaman (Original post)

Thu May 10, 2012, 12:16 PM

2. One of the worst I ever remember was actually a girl--unusually tall--big and athletic

and bullied the hell out of all the smaller kids--both male and female. A classic case--every tool in her arsenal.

I've long wondered what became of her as she loved to use embarrassment with sexual overtones (grabbing the skirts up on the little girls to expose their panties, was a favorite). I think having seen both male and female bullies growing up, this girl really shocked me the most. I'm guessing she might not have been as unusual as I thought at the time. Fortunately, I was not her victim--having learned to stay clear, but I surely saw a lot of kids who were.

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Response to Javaman (Original post)

Thu May 10, 2012, 12:22 PM

3. I still remember my bullying

 

I was different - being an ADHD kid at a school in the 70s. Lots of bad memories.

At one point a group of kids who wanted to hurt me pinned me down and sodomized me with dirt clods.

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Response to Taverner (Reply #3)

Thu May 10, 2012, 12:27 PM

5. Kids will latch onto ANYTHING that can be defined as "different" than what they consider normal.

 

I wore glasses starting at age 9, and have a German surname. Both of those traits were bully bait.

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Response to Javaman (Original post)

Thu May 10, 2012, 12:25 PM

4. Ever since my parents said, fight or get beaten, I have victimized Bullies, and their enablers.

 

And being bullied, sticks with you, just as being a bully, or torturing animals does. Just so happens, Mutt Romney is both.

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Response to Javaman (Original post)

Thu May 10, 2012, 12:49 PM

6. Once a bully - always a bully.

I've been a victim of this kind of stuff from middle school - high school and it does suck, and it lives with you. We live in a society that not only encourages this kind of crap - it thrives on it. Take a look at Fox News - nearly all of their commentators use the exact same downplaying tactics that your average school bully would use - and shows with the birthers and the tea party. I saw that report about Mitt earlier and it just not only confirmed my suspicions but it really says everything you need to know about the way he runs things. Look at Bain Capital - it's essentially an organization that bullies healthy businesses into bankruptcy while they profit handsomely. It's essentially the same things never change about some people - once a bully - always a bully.

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Response to Javaman (Original post)

Thu May 10, 2012, 01:28 PM

7. I checked the facebook page of someone who was the bullying ringleader back in school ...

and yes, he and I lived fairly close, so I knew him from first grade.

He had a picture on the FB page of Obama as a witch doctor.

Guess things don't change with him ... I'm sure he claims he's "oppressed" for being in what he considers "the majority of the country - those who don't like Obama".

Took me forever to realize that I became the target of the bullies only after I was accepted into the accelerated learning program (because of my IQ) ... and he wasn't ... I bet his "prominent business man in the community" Daddy was p.o.'d about that, since my daddy was a lowly blue-coller working-class truck driver.

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Response to Javaman (Original post)

Thu May 10, 2012, 01:31 PM

8. Funny I got an invitation to a school reunion

 

told them where they can place that, where the sun don't shine... for the same reasons.

I met one of them last time I went to Mexico. Funny thing, ring leader, and does not remember at all what she did... they rarely do.

As to Mittens... did not know that, but ain't surprised.

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Response to Javaman (Original post)

Thu May 10, 2012, 01:59 PM

9. When I was 5, my brother smashed my left foot with a sledge hammer.

I spent four months with a cast on it. Later abuses involved a red hot fork to my left calf, being bound, gagged and dragged around the yard as his trophy "kill", shoved head first into the corner of our concrete patio, whipped with a broom handle, and so on. Grandma thought he was just being precocious, and I just needed to stay out of his way. I did, so he started in on the cousins. Oh, the hilarity. I HATED my childhood, and I DESPISE bullies!
Mitt's evil, isn't he?

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Response to Javaman (Original post)

Thu May 10, 2012, 02:16 PM

10. I was bullied in 4th grade by the son of the bus driver...

What stopped it was my fist in his nose after he made fun of my face, my ears and how I talked for the thousandth time...He cried to daddy and I was not bullied after that.

I was also bullied in 5th grade at a new school (I was very skinny, gangly...an easy target.) the bully said he'd meet me after school in the playground and kick my ass.
I waited for him there...my friend kept telling me to run away. I waited...the bully arrived with a very large friend. he stared at me, apparently surprised I was there waiting. He tried to sic the larger guy on me. The larger guy told the bully this was his fight and left. Then the bully left too. he did not pick on me after that day.

I have nothing but utter contempt for bullies. They are chickenshit cowards who must be confronted no matter what you fear the outcome of the confrontation will be.

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