You’re not as virtuous as you think

[FSogol]

Moral overconfidence is in line with what studies find to be our generally inflated view of ourselves. We rate ourselves as above-average drivers, investors and employees, even though math dictates that can’t be true for all of us. We also tend to believe we are less likely than the typical person to exhibit negative qualities and to experience negative life events: to get divorced, become depressed or have a heart attack.

In some ways, this cognitive bias is useful. We’re generally better served by being over confident and optimistic than by lacking confidence or being too pessimistic. Positive illusions have been shown to promote happiness, caring, productivity and resilience. As psychologists Shelley Taylor and Jonathon Brown have written, “These illusions help make each individual’s world a warmer and more active and beneficent place in which to live.”

But overconfidence can lead us astray. We may ignore or explain away evidence that runs counter to our established view of ourselves, maintaining faith in our virtue even as our actions indicate otherwise. We may forge ahead without pausing to reflect on the ethics of our decisions. We may be unprepared for, and ultimately overwhelmed by, the pressures of the situation. Afterward, we may offer variations on the excuse: “I was just doing what the situation demanded.”

The gap between how we’d expect ourselves to behave and how we actually behave tends to be most evident in high-pressure situations, when there is some inherent ambiguity, when there are competing claims on our sense of right and wrong, and when our moral transgressions are incremental, taking us down a slippery slope.

Excellent article by Nitin Nohria (dean of Harvard Business School) here:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/opinions/youre-not-as-virtuous-as-you-think/2015/10/15/fec227c4-66b4-11e5-9ef3-fde182507eac_story.html

x-posted from Good Reads

[snagglepuss]

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[whatthehey]

2. Christ I must be evil then

I have a fairly neutral opinion of my own ethical standing. Some "bad" things I'll do quite readily; some not at all.

[frazzled]

3. I agree

Kind of joking, but it's true.

That said, I (like a lot of women, I think) have always focused on my deficits, not my virtues. Not good enough, not kind enough, not hard working enough. Always promising to be a "better person." Frankly, I never think I'm all that virtuous. When I look around, however, I think I'm probably a lot more virtuous than most other people, at least when it comes morality and ethics. Where I can tend to overestimate my qualities is in the "smart" category (a holdover from being top of the class always in school situations). But as I get older I get wiser: I know I'm not that smart.

[TexasProgresive]

4. If you believe that you are the epitome of morality

most likely you are not.

The same works for people who are heroic; they usually don't see themselves in that light.