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My son just got home of course they will have extra security and every student searched, but should I keep him home or send him? He wants to go. I understand he thinks he will be fine and I do too but, there is a parking lot he has to park in that's what I worry about.
chillfactor
(7,573 posts)keep him home.
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)yeoman6987
(14,449 posts)rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)He's 17 but he has a few months to go before he's the boss
yeoman6987
(14,449 posts)Thinks he knows all. Sometimes my sister will relent on somethings but this is too much. What if it real and he is casualty. You never forgive yourself. If he needs to hate you for a time, Big deal!
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)yeoman6987
(14,449 posts)My sister has from March to June with him still a senior but an adult. Should be interesting. Good luck on your decision and all from here forward.
Warpy
(111,222 posts)Does he think it's a credible threat? He might be working on knowledge of the situation you don't have, so talk to him about this.
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)Literally right before he walked in the door
Warpy
(111,222 posts)Teenagers really, really hate being babied.
Plus, the schools are paranoid these days.
bkkyosemite
(5,792 posts)RKP5637
(67,101 posts)Hopefully, it was just a crank false alarm.
bigwillq
(72,790 posts)Can't keep him home every day or not go to a movie theater or not go on a plane or train or bus because of the fear that an attack may occur.
GummyBearz
(2,931 posts)I thought that was how we decided "the terrorists won" ... if we change our daily lives due to a threat
markpkessinger
(8,392 posts). . . is ridiculous. But this situation is really rather different. This is about avoiding a venue on the date for which a specific threat has been made, on the specific date on which that threat was promised to be carried out.
yeoman6987
(14,449 posts)It may be a hoax but if it is who cares. One day off from school can be made up later.
Snobblevitch
(1,958 posts)Was it a student at the school? In wha form was he threat made? So far, your post raises more questions than answers.
Does tye school have lockdown procedures? Is there a cop at the school? What are the school's plans for tomorrow?
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)Yes there will be officers there and yes it is already locked down during the day. There is still a parking lot for students who drive and for drop off and pick up.
Snobblevitch
(1,958 posts)Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)If it was a credible threat they would close the school. Don't teach him to be afraid of things that have an infinitesimal possibility of happening.
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)I am torn between not giving in and this being real and losing my child.
GummyBearz
(2,931 posts)1 missed day is ok, what about 2, 3, 10, 20 days? If your line is 10 days, so the 11th you send him and the threat was real, does that mean the first day he should have been sent and missed the next 10 days?
I don't have kids, so this is all just hypothetical to me, but I am curious to your answer
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)The risk of him dying or being severely injured in a car accident is many orders of magnitude higher than him being hurt in a school shooting. Just try to accept that life is full of risks.
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)He will probably go my husband said he isn't a baby anymore.
demmiblue
(36,833 posts)These types of threats are usually made by maladjusted teens who are crying out for help and/or recognition. They have no intention of carrying through with their threats. They may even find the culprit by morning.
However, you never know.
markpkessinger
(8,392 posts). . . the threat was credible enough that school officials felt the need to cover their asses by notifying parents, "just in case."
FLPanhandle
(7,107 posts)There will be extra security and everyone alert.
It's the random, no warnings school shootings you have to worry about.
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)I was trying to Google to find out if a threat ahead of time ever resulted in an actual shooting but I could not find a definite answer. There are many, many threats but comparitively few actual shootings.
FLPanhandle
(7,107 posts)We sent her and she wanted to go.
Lots of extra security and police presence.
Safest day at that school.
BlueJazz
(25,348 posts)ProfessorGAC
(64,951 posts)I understand the folks on this thread saying with extra security it may be the safest day there is, but just the outside chance of something happening puts one in a lifetime of regret should security not be good enough.
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)bkkyosemite
(5,792 posts)and they can take out a lot of people before the security gets them. Keep him home dad and mom.
ProfessorGAC
(64,951 posts)Ah, that's fine! Just an opinion from some random guy with no skin in the game, i guess.
Quantess
(27,630 posts)Read the textbooks, go over notes once more.
Waltons_Mtn
(345 posts)to drop him off? If your worried about the parking lot, just drive him to school yourself. Just my humble suggestion. Please be safe.
Journeyman
(15,031 posts)Remember to punch air holes so he can breath.
That should keep him safe.
But now, what to do about Thursday?
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)Undisciplined minds rely on fallacies such as reductio ad absurdum.
But now, what new fallacy will they entreat on Thursday?
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)I mean we only have one of these school shootings every few months or so.
Clearly anyone who expresses any sort of wariness deserves mockery.
Heeeeers Johnny
(423 posts)Staying home would be the wisest, safest option, but if it does turn out to be a hoax/prank, taking that
course of action plays right into the hands of the assholes making the 'threat'.
NightWatcher
(39,343 posts)People think that what they post online has no repercussions. This would be a great example of the trouble that can be caused by either those meaning harm, or people who think they are kidding. Violence is no laughing matter.
Plus the last school shooter posted about it and warned that he was going to do it. I bet a lot of parents wished the heard the warning.
ileus
(15,396 posts)all other days their isn't any real "security" at most schools...
Why as a nation we ignore security as schools is beyond me.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)If he stays home, worst case scenario is he's angry for a few days and misses one day of school. If he goes to school, worst case scenario is somewhat more bleak.
Odds are nothing will happen, but no doubt, many parents have thought precisely the same thing resulting in less than optimal outcomes.
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)How about "classes canceled"? I know, that's kind of like letting the terrorists win, but sheesh!
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)can you see why this might not be a good policy to have?
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)They feel that it's credible enough to call us why not cancel school? They feel they have taken appropriate measures to ensure student safety.
mercuryblues
(14,526 posts)the dilemma. Have you visited the schools FB page or the local police FB page? They may have more info than your robotic phone call. If you can't find anything call the police dept. yourself. Get all the info you can, then do what I would do - go with your gut instinct.
If you keep him home can you get some time off work to take him out to lunch, or a movie?
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)My husband and I own a home repair business so I think he won't mind me taking our son out to lunch thanks for he suggestion.
are welcome. I think he mostly wanted to go to school to see friends. To avoid sitting home and being bored. If he has a friend not going maybe he can have him come over. Rent a DVD and buy a pizza.
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)They are doing their own Senior skip day together.
KamaAina
(78,249 posts)Your profile says you're in Columbia. The recent floods should provide you with plenty of work!
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)He might go back for a few months. We haven't decided if we all go together later. He goes down there sometimes and does a job or 2 when things in Ohio are slim now.
ecstatic
(32,673 posts)Assuming the extra security will be around for one day only.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)I don't have kids and could go both ways on this remembering myself as a kid.
But we didn't have shootings in those days.
Hey, best advice? Do what you FEEL is best.
Mother's intuition trumps all. Period.
Warren DeMontague
(80,708 posts)It's one day.
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)There will be a ton of security - probably one of the safest days ever to be in that school.
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)Snobblevitch
(1,958 posts)I am interested in how your son reacts and what happens at the school. Let us know how it goes at school tomorrow and what reaction your son has when he returns to school on Thursday. If you, your husband, and son have a bonding time tomorrow, that may be better for him than whatever is being taught in his classes tomorrow.
This might be a bit weird to include in this thread, but when I was 12 years old, my parents requested that I be excused from school for a couple of days to go with my parents on a deer hunting trip. My teacher agreed and the principal approved of my spending family time with my parents and older brothers. The same thing happened when I was let out of school for a family trip to Washington D.C. as a ninth grader. (I met two U.S. Supreme Court Justices, V.P. Mondale and former V.P. HHH on that trip.)
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)We watched it live through WH gates
Yo_Mama
(8,303 posts)I may be unduly influenced by the series of bomb threats at my high school long ago when I attended.
And there is your mental health to consider.
Good luck. I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. Not what you needed.
frizzled
(509 posts)People claim all sorts of things online...
Agnosticsherbet
(11,619 posts)Call the school and tell them you expect an arrest in these accusations.
rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)I am sure if they did the arrest would have happened.
Agnosticsherbet
(11,619 posts)Looking across a dead child's body at a parent and saying "We didn't have enough information" is unacceptable.
frizzled
(509 posts)The fact is that school shootings happen without warning as well.
If you can't deal with an appreciable probability that your child will be shot to death at school, or elsewhere, you probably shouldn't stay in the United States. Facing a risk of being murdered is a political fact, that will not change in your lifetime due to the power of the gun lobby.
Look into immigration to somewhere like Germany. You could claim refugee status, although that would not be taken seriously.
Mosby
(16,295 posts)Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)rbrnmw
(7,160 posts)A lot of kids stayed home. They are dealing with the threat we were told. Not really how they are dealing with it. I assume they aren't saying because the student is a minor.