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Related: Editorials & Other Articles, Issue Forums, Alliance Forums, Region ForumsPeople Who Left Islam Are Explaining Why Using the #ExMuslimBecause Hashtag
http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/2015/11/20/people-who-left-islam-are-explaining-why-using-the-exmuslimbecause-hashtag/
These people are very brave considering that becoming an apostate is a death sentence in many places. Also good to be reminded that many of the Muslim refugees may not be as Muslim as people think. They just aren't in a place that allows them to identify as anything else.
still_one
(98,883 posts)"Also good to be reminded that many of the Muslim refugees may not be as Muslim as people think"
I wonder what would happen if that was replaced that with the following statements:
"Also good to be reminded that many of the Jewish refugees may not be as Jewish as people think"
"Also good to be reminded that many of the Christian refugees may not be as Christian as people think"
"Also good to be reminded that many of the African refugees may not be as African as people think"
"Also good to be reminded that many of the __________ refugees may not be as _________ as people think"
FLPanhandle
(7,107 posts)Christian, Jewish, Muslim, etc.
So, yes, swap in any religion into the blanks space and I'm still okay with it.
still_one
(98,883 posts)if another religious group was used, it would have created a controversy.
In my view, not the best choice of words, and I tried to explain it with an example in my response to the OP
MellowDem
(5,018 posts)with ethnicity. That's a pretty big mistake to make.
still_one
(98,883 posts)the anti-Muslim nature of comment. While the differences between ethnicity and religion are evident, prejudicial generalization apply to both.
MellowDem
(5,018 posts)conservative belief system, so benign against it on DU isn't prejudicial, it's like being against any other belief system that is conservative and bigoted.
I suppose what confuses some people is the privilege of religion, where progressive people continue to identify with bigoted and hateful religions while expecting others not to associate them with the bigoted, hateful belief system they identify with.
Donald Ian Rankin
(13,598 posts)It is certainly the case that Islam *as interpreted by a significant majority of its practitioners* is a very bigoted and conservative belief system, but it's important to recognise that there are also tens or maybe even hundreds of millions of people who call themselves Muslims and their beliefs Islam, and are neither bigoted nor conservative.
MellowDem
(5,018 posts)are conservative and bigoted, which is something even progressive Muslims cannot change.
MADem
(135,425 posts)There are "Jack Muslims" in the world, though. I've talked about this before on this board.
People who turn up for the major holidays, who may take grampa to the masjid on odd occasion, who eat bacon, who like a drink, who don't believe in the multiple wives schtick, or the promises of the afterlife. They might not observe Ramadan, but they don't make it obvious that they don't out of respect for the culture.
There are people who are not observant, slightly observant, reasonably observant, very observant, and fundamentalist full-bore noxiously observant. In the western press, though, we only seem to get a window on the latter types.
Jimmy Carter is not the same as people from the Fred Phelps Westboro Baptist Church. They're all Christians, though, so they say. No broad brush with them, though...
ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)There are posts here all the time about people leaving the Catholic Church, Evangelical Christianity, etc. etc due to it's misogyny, homophobia, scandals and general problem with it's teachings.....and all of the responses are overwhelmingly positive. Anyone even attempting the "No True Scotsman" crap is shouted down. Of course, that's because Christianity is treated TOTALLY different than Islam who also has MASSIVELY PROBLEMATIC teachings and deserves the same scorn.
Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)Church over the new policy on how to treat children of same sex couples.
Also these examples:
https://twitter.com/hashtag/ExCatholic?src=hash
https://twitter.com/hashtag/exmormon
If you want I can probably find more.
MellowDem
(5,018 posts)not an ethnicity. And some of the punishments required for apostates of Islam in its own texts probably keep many people that don't believe it from identifying as anything other than Muslim.
Islam has a lot of hateful stuff to say in its text and dogma, any person willing to speak out against it from that background is being brave, and many don't have the luxury to do so.
still_one
(98,883 posts)lot of hateful stuff, so does Christianity.
All you are doing is justifying Islamicphobia.
As a Jew, I know exactly how that rationalization goes
True Earthling
(832 posts)Please define "Islamicphobia".
I know the difference between what a Muslim and Islam is. One refers to people the other to ideology.
I do not believe that all Muslims are the same. I do believe there is variability in the group as to what they believe, what they practice or how faithful they are and some may only call themselves Muslim for fear of death for apostasy.
The ideology scares the shit out of me.
Am I "Islamicphobic"?
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)Oneironaut
(6,288 posts)Religion is a choice. Someone can simply stop being religious.
Islam is oppressive and backwards. Most religions are the same way. It has done serious damage to the Middle East and the world. It is not a force of good in the world. The more people that leave Islam and open their minds, the better.
If I prayed, my only prayer would be that organized religion be obliterated from the earth. I have no problem with people who are religious, but organized religion (especially extremist sects) tends to rot any country that it is common in to the core.
Bluenorthwest
(45,319 posts)jobs' or 'they were Christians, but not the Christian right'.
And dig it- for LGBT people these are very important distinctions. Those who are extreme are extreme and some in both of those faiths act out against us, 10 Islamic Nations execute gay people. I say that is wrong, too extreme, far too Islamic. Got a problem with that?
True Earthling
(832 posts)"Also good to be reminded that many of the Muslim refugees may not be as Muslim as people think"
I interpret it as saying that people would be wrong to believe that all Muslims are the same, that there is variability in the group as to what they believe or how faithful they are and some may only call themselves Muslim for fear of death for apostasy.
There is a generalization in "not be as Muslim as people think" ..which subtly implies that people in general have a negative or stereotypical view of Muslims....the generalization is about people...not Muslims.
treestar
(82,383 posts)as being consistent with the religion?
MellowDem
(5,018 posts)Maybe you should read the Koran and hadiths to get a better idea?
That man's opinion isn't uncommon at all.
still_one
(98,883 posts)coming from, because folks threw the same shit at me for being a Jew.
MellowDem
(5,018 posts)Christianity continues to inspire horrible acts, which isn't surprising when you read the Bible.
still_one
(98,883 posts)Ye are of your father the devil, and the lusts of your father ye will do. He was a murderer from the beginning, and abode not in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he speaketh a lie, he speaketh of his own: for he is a liar, and the father of it.
John 8:44
MellowDem
(5,018 posts)The God of the Bible condones and even engages in variously: genocide, bigotry, misogyny, slavery, homophobia, infanticide, etc. etc. Which unfortunately overshadows the peaceful stuff.
Especially when a person can be good without all the terrible baggage Christiankty brings to the table.
still_one
(98,883 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)this about rape and marriage?
MellowDem
(5,018 posts)And this one....
http://quran.com/4/34
And you don't want to even get into the hadiths...
treestar
(82,383 posts)you can force your wife. In fact, if she misbehaves, you "forsake her in bed." That sounds like you withhold sex from her!
MellowDem
(5,018 posts)So if Koran states that women are under your control and you may have your way with them in bed and if they disagree with you you may strike them... well it's not really a stretch.
I mean, the fact that the Koran advocates domestic violence and you left that part out makes me think you're being disingenuous.
And read the hadiths, most Muslims follow those as well.
snooper2
(30,151 posts)FLPanhandle
(7,107 posts)That's why we are atheists.
treestar
(82,383 posts)I don't see how educating oneself can be done by listening to various opinions of different extremists, as I could find Muslims who don't agree. If it is endemic to the religion, it should be in the Koran or some part of Sharia Law.
snooper2
(30,151 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)a married woman can be forced to have sex if it's her husband?
snooper2
(30,151 posts)smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)treestar
(82,383 posts)I don't want to live anywhere with Sharia law.
You sound like you are trying to set me up.
I'd like to know if Sharia Law would allow a husband to rape his wife.
At least in theory. I would hazard to assume women in Islamic countries have it way worse than women here when it comes to rape cases.
snooper2
(30,151 posts)And yeah, husband can rape his wife and if your son steals a bike his hands can be cut off...
hifiguy
(33,688 posts)TexasMommaWithAHat
(3,212 posts)Oh, my goodness.
paraphrase - the woman who controls her jealousy because of plural wives (because she should be jealous), will get the same reward as the man who controls his fear of jihad.
I would kill myself before I would let any man who believes this shit touch me.
linuxman
(2,337 posts)Reactionary politics being what it is though, Islam is now the most peaceful religion the world has ever seen, and the best thing since sliced bread.
Weird.
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)I'd pretend as much too if reality didn't confirm or validate my biases. As long as we admit to ourselves (if no one else) that it's merely pretense, lacking any semblance of rational thought. Just human nature to find the contrary where none exists... except in our own irrational thoughts.
Weird, part deux.
sibelian
(7,804 posts)I think it far more likely that everyone would have jumped up and down screaming "Islamophobia".
I've been trying to argue that Islam is a belief system just like any other and deserving of analysis like any other for ages. I've had to wade through post after post of "blaming all Muslims for x is like...." And I just got completely sick to death of saying "I don't mean MUSLIMS, I mean ISLAM and it's fascination with abusing women and throwing gay men off buildings", to little avail. Obviously I was a bigot. Not really sure how being pissed off with watching men like me being thrown of buildings and being hung because God says so makes me a bigot. Muslims that DON'T throw gay men off buildings and DON'T demand that women shouldn't drive or be treated as sex slaves are fine by me.
I've said it elsewhere on the net, Islam exists in this weird mythological vaccuum in certain political circles where it's beyond analysis because it's a religion. Ahem. The Inquisition was motivated by religion.
There is such a thing as conflating the criticism of an idea with meaningless prejudice, they are not the same thing.
skypilot
(9,124 posts)#ExMuslimBecause...BACON.
LOL
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)she did".
There are some pretty powerful posts on that hashtag campaign sight. I would say the people posting there know more about islam thank any of us do.
flamingdem
(40,878 posts)they it's as bad as we might imagine and that there is hope among the young and those who can think rationally.
sibelian
(7,804 posts)Many of them despise some of the ideas it espouses themselves.
"MUSLIMOPHOBIA" I believe in. That's a real thing. But distinguishing between meaningless prejudice and valid opposition to an idea is completely different and much more difficult.
mwrguy
(3,245 posts)or even an #exchristianbecause
Bluenorthwest
(45,319 posts)reasons cited, from bigoted hate preachers to pedophile priests to corrupt clergy to plain old common sense.
Escaping Christian Fundamentalism
http://www.lutherwasnotbornagain.com/
Lots of personal stories here:
http://recoveringfundamentalists.com/
I could do this all day, including denomination specific materials for many denominations. There are dozens if not hundreds of websites about those who have left every religion.
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)Here on Du there are very few Muslims or people who "come from" Islam. nah, for the great majority we're either Christians, or people who come from Christianity, living in societies strongly informed by Christianity. We don't really have much "point of connection" with these former Muslims as we would with Christians doing the same.
So when brought here, the object is not to provoke thought or introspection, but to reinforce existing bias.
Remember back, not too long ago, Bill Cosby had some negative things to say about some aspects of blackness in America? Right or wrong, his intended audience was other black people who, whether they agree or disagreed with him, at least knew where he was coming from, that shared point of connection. And then you had the white racists who used Bill Cosby as a "voice of truth<" supposedly supporting their already-present assumptions of inherent black dysfunctions
Bluenorthwest
(45,319 posts)Your comments have nothing to do with his, I responded to his request. I did not interject that information in a void.
Like it or not, this is a matter of current religious events, because just this month hundreds of people left the LDS because of that Church's bigoted edict against kids from LGBT families. Here is an editorial about that from the NY Times...
Stung by Edict on Gays, Mormons Leave Church
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/19/opinion/stung-by-edict-on-gays-mormons-leave-church.html?_r=0
And some straight reporting on the story:
Mormon Resignations Put Support for Gays Over Fealty to Faith
http://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/16/us/mormon-resignations-put-support-for-gays-over-fealty-to-faith.html
So the challenge was: show me Christians leaving their faith. I demonstrated that it is common, and in fact all over the news right now with LDS, which is another minority faith.
What you are arguing, I have no idea.
lindysalsagal
(22,902 posts)right up there with the Loch Ness Monster, unicorns, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny.
It's all bullshit politics wrapped in sanctified "godly" doctrine.
I'm hoping this current muslim ugliness opens christian's eyes, too.
BTW-
Having previously been married into a jewish family, being jewish doesn't neccesarily mean anyone believes in god or any particular book: It's more likely just a family heritage feeling, rather than a specific doctrine used to hate others.
I think religion is slipping away this century, and the few remaining "believers" are freaking out to find that the floor beneath them is caving in. So, they're piling it all on heavier, with the "war on christmas" crap.
ericson00
(2,707 posts)blowing themselves up in the cause and name of their religion all across the globe.
Donald Ian Rankin
(13,598 posts)Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)mwrguy
(3,245 posts)cilla4progress
(26,525 posts)here's a cliche that, however much of an oversimplification, I think, does apply:
Religion is good for good people, and bad for bad people.
I don't know if the Qu'ran was - as was the Bible - really written as a political text, or who wrote it.
As a raised humanist and current agnostic/pagan/humanist (aspiring Buddhist, although I feel like this is not culturally appropriate, as a North American), this discussion does nail it for me: not to single out Islam as a violent, murderous, hypocritical, genocidal text, but to lump it with the Old and New Testament of the Christian text. I would agree that all are archaic, damaging, counter-productive, and serve primarily to tap into our tribalist tendencies and to divide us. The sooner we move on and realize we are ALL connected, the better off humanity will be.
FrodosPet
(5,169 posts)"Religion is good for good people, and bad for bad people."
cwydro
(51,308 posts)On Fri Nov 20, 2015, 11:49 AM an alert was sent on the following post:
People Who Left Islam Are Explaining Why Using the #ExMuslimBecause Hashtag
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10027365049
REASON FOR ALERT
This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.
ALERTER'S COMMENTS
This is a round about way to bash Muslims. We have to be careful not to fall into the Trump trap. Are we going to advocate for tattoo those who stay with Islam. This doesn't belong here. If you want to bash Muslims, then do it, don't use this as way to say what you want to say. Bigotry of any kind is unacceptable.
You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Fri Nov 20, 2015, 11:57 AM, and the Jury voted 2-5 to LEAVE IT.
Juror #1 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: OP please take a moment, walk away from the computer screen and think about why you posted this... at this point in time... in this country.
Juror #2 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: You can't hide everything you don't agree with. The poster simply posted a link and I don't see any Muslim bashing.
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #4 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: This is not Real Time with Bill Maher, this is DU, and we don't support bigotry against any religious minorities, so enthusiastically voting to hide.
Juror #5 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: The post should be ok for discussion in my humble opinion. Have at it.
Juror #6 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Afraid I'm not seeing what the alerter sees. Alerter, just say what you wrote here in a commentâi.e., discuss it like everyone else in the thread is doing.
Juror #7 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: While I understand and appreciate the concerns expressed, I do think this should be part of the discussion at DU. I don't think silencing this discussion is appropriate. El Bryanto
FLPanhandle
(7,107 posts)As for the Hide it voters, why hide the voices of people who were brave enough to leave Islam? Especially on a day where Saudi Arabia sentenced a poet to death for being an atheist.
cwydro
(51,308 posts)My thoughts exactly.
eissa
(4,238 posts)We wouldn't blink an eye if this involved any other religion, but Muslims speaking out about their own religion is considered off-limits?
Btw, kudos to these people. Middle Easterners, regardless of religion, frown upon individualism. Doing something differently than your parents/society is strongly discouraged. These folks are brave, especially considering the backlash many of them will be getting from their community.
lindysalsagal
(22,902 posts)Only personal attacks warrant that, and even then, we're all grown-ups, right???
Just hit close and go rake leaves or wash your hair, for goodness sake.
IGNORE the crap.
el_bryanto
(11,804 posts)I voted to leave it; but I can understand how some might feel this paints a picture that those who immigrate without leaving Islam are people we should be concerned about. That said that's not a good enough reason to ignore people who feel differently - rather look at all sides of the story.
Bryant
FLPanhandle
(7,107 posts)Maybe I poorly worded it. That, and as an atheist, I was pissed about the Saudi's applying a death sentence to someone who left Islam.
sibelian
(7,804 posts)I am tired of this nonsense. This religion does revolting things to people all the time and every attempt to explain that it's the BELIEF that's causing the problem is turned into "you hate the PEOPLE" no matter how many times the appropriate language is used and no matter how many times it's explained that we already understand that belief and worshipper are different things.
"Muslim bashing" my arse, how is it bashing when it's Muslims themselves making the point?
We need to distinguish between "MUSLIMOPHOBIA" and "ISLAMOPHOBIA". It's getting important now.
RIDICULOUS.
smirkymonkey
(63,221 posts)ProudToBeBlueInRhody
(16,399 posts)We know what the deal is.
CJCRANE
(18,184 posts)Pity we removed most of them and helped to install islamist regimes and support islamist rebels.
uppityperson
(116,017 posts)Codeine
(25,586 posts)FLPanhandle
(7,107 posts)#ExMuslimBecause because I got tired of making excuses for every violent, hateful verse and Hadith. Simply stopped deluding myself!
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Nemat Sadat @nematsadat
#ExMuslimBecause I'm gay and proud to be the first public figure to come out and campaign for LGBTI Rights in Afghanistan.
Lalo Dagach @lalodagach
#ExMuslimBecause those who dared to leave Islam are the bravest and most courageous amongst us Atheists.
Eiynah -- @NiceMangos
#ExMuslimBecause I want to be free to draw and write without fearing for my life.
Brother Rachid @BrotherRasheed
#ExMuslimBecause I wanted to reclaim my humanity
6chars
(3,967 posts)It seems dangerous.
Response to FLPanhandle (Original post)
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Trajan
(19,089 posts)An event that had been declared weeks in advance, is, frankly, rather sad ....
Not sure what to say ... Bye seems appropriate ...
FLPanhandle
(7,107 posts)It's an expected reaction from those that are stuck on their own world view and experience information that challenges it.
You see it with Creationists and Climate Change Deniers all the time too.
climber3986
(107 posts)and now you sound like the a right winger. We cant trust them at their word because it goes against the narrative. Violence against apostates in many gulf region countries is a very serious issue.
Have you ever been outside the united states?
sibelian
(7,804 posts)And it's a big thing in the Muslim world because some movements have the DEATH PENALTY FOR IT.
It's not a joke, closeupready. Yes, there are Muslim apostates. Go and look at Youtube, there's videos about it all over the place, just because the Western media doesn't really pay any attention to it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
Humanist_Activist
(7,670 posts)that many people's families and friends present, not saying all our true, but at least some fraction would be.
ericson00
(2,707 posts)it will be EPIC
MowCowWhoHow III
(2,103 posts)A FATHER-of-six was attacked by hooded thugs with a pickaxe handle outside his Bradford home because he converted from Islam to Christianity.
Nissar Hussain, 49, suffered a broken kneecap, a fractured forearm and a concussion in the attack on Tuesday.
He is currently in Bradford Royal Infirmary following surgery after the unprovoked assault outside his home in Manningham.
The episode was caught on Mr Hussains home CCTV and is being reviewed by West Yorkshire Police, who have confirmed they are treating it as a religious hate crime.
Read more: http://www.yorkshirepost.co.uk/news/main-topics/general-news/terrifying-video-shows-bradford-dad-attacked-by-pickaxe-thugs-for-converting-from-islam-to-christianity-1-7579804#ixzz3s5xOw7FI
agnostic102
(198 posts)to see some of the comments here questioning the people who left islam. I left islam and im sorry but i dont apologize for it and and certainly im not going back to iran or saudi to be executed. I dont deserve to have my head cutt of or be stoned to death because i refuse to believe in a fairy tale. If that upsets some people thats fine and if they want to question me thats fine. But i lived under sharia law. Those people are playing for keeps over who has the best imaginary friend. I have a right to life irrelevant of my beliefs.
FLPanhandle
(7,107 posts)Personally, I'm proud of you.
It's easy to give up religion for rational thought in secular countries. It takes an amazing amount of courage to do that when your entire country, friends, and family won't support it.
femmedem
(8,560 posts)and thank you for offering your perspective.
Spider Jerusalem
(21,786 posts)who are happy to tell you why they're ex-Catholics, or ex-Mormons.
6chars
(3,967 posts)Since they are not supposed to be killed just for leaving their religions.
Spider Jerusalem
(21,786 posts)Upon a time, though? Christians considered apostate or heretic were just as likely to be put to death (one of my ancestors was burnt at the stake as a heretic under bloody Mary Tudor in 1558, and a distant great-uncle of mine who was a Catholic was hanged under Elizabeth I for hiding a priest).
6chars
(3,967 posts)earthside
(6,960 posts)... the signs are 90 percent just as apropos.
Do you think anyone would 'alert' on that -- or would there be broad approval?
Bluenorthwest
(45,319 posts)Thousands of Mormons Plan to Abandon the Faith This Weekend
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10141257138
