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Bullying isn't a "gay problem" or a "religion problem" or a "conformity problem." It's an abuse problem. It's practiced most often by people who - for whatever reason - want to control others. Chances are, most of us are subject to it at one time or another. We're labeled as too slow, too fat, too ugly, too flamboyant, too shy, too nerdy or too fill-in-the-blank. We're bullied by a spouse, a boss, a neighbor, a bureaucrat, a preacher.
Most of us have been targets of a bully, yet all too often we buy into the idea that the bully's view somehow represents the majority. The norm. And for a long time, society has bought into it by dismissing cruel behavior. It's justified by saying "boys will be boys" or "it's a rite of passage" or "the husband is the head of the household." For years, we've been brainwashed into thinking abusive behavior is somehow acceptable.
It isn't.
Bullies seek to sustain the illusion of their absolute authority by hook or proverbial crook. Perhaps their favorite strategy invokes the values so often championed by their enemies. One specifically: tolerance.
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TBMASE
(769 posts)that if you walk away from a bully now, you'll never learn to stand up to them when you're older.
I was to fight every single person who bullied me and fight them every single time until I won...and then I was to beat them up again.
Translated well in the later years....you want to beat a bully, you find a way to beat them at their own game. You don't walk away, you don't give them an inch.
lunatica
(53,410 posts)Your spouse or one or both of your parents are bullies. Sometimes it's a brother or sister or even a grandparent.
TBMASE
(769 posts)You have to.
And it's easier said than done