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Permanut
(8,391 posts)that was almost six years ago. Glad to get away from that addiction!
jillan
(39,451 posts)catbyte
(39,152 posts)Diane
Anishinaabe in MI & mom to Leo, Taz & Nigel, members of Dogs Against Romney, Cat Division
"Dogs Arent Luggage Even Though They Are Lower Life Forms--HISS!
LanternWaste
(37,748 posts)"There's nothing worse than a reformed smoker..."
They certainly do illustrate the both the ease and the dangers of rationalizing bad habits and holding mirrors up to ourselves-- nothing worse than that, indeed.
1StrongBlackMan
(31,849 posts)Recently Converted Evangelical Fundamentalist christian ... Neither are my choice of company.
1StrongBlackMan
(31,849 posts)sarcasmo
(23,968 posts)cynatnite
(31,011 posts)I bathed today.
Lex
(34,108 posts)And fat people, you are not attractive.
Anyone else?
/sarcasm
Egalitarian Thug
(12,448 posts)And you French folk, You invented soap FFS.
And those awful homeless people...
WinkyDink
(51,311 posts)crunch60
(1,412 posts)noamnety
(20,234 posts)That just brought back the vivid memories of one child we had over to the house to play with my daughter, and we didn't have her back because the furniture reeked so badly it was making me sick for a week or two afterwards, from the third hand smoke she introduced into the upholstery. God that was awful. Sweet kid, but I couldn't sit on the couch after she was there without my stomach turning.
I didn't tell the parents though. I don't know that they would have stopped even if they knew it was costing their kid some friends. I think they just would have been insulted.
Prometheus Bound
(3,489 posts)I didn't dare say anything because it would be so hurtful but I would find any excuse to have the child and parent visit again. A second time was unavoidable, so we put covers on all the chairs and washed them afterwards. I'm sure I must sound like a jerk to some, but it the smell makes you sick what can you do?
pipoman
(16,038 posts)DCKit
(18,541 posts)cynatnite
(31,011 posts)Unfortunately, I have members of my family that smokes. They have left their kids at the house and the children even smell like smoke.
I would think more people would be bothered by it. I was shocked and embarrassed to think that my children at one time smelled like cigarette smoke. I really wish someone had told me.
Society is too polite at times.
Lionessa
(3,894 posts)That said, I'll take the smell of a smoker over the smell of perfume and/or cologne any day.
crunch60
(1,412 posts)Tabu perfume OMG, nothing worse, you could smell her a mile a way. Once almost had an asthma attack and my Dad had to take me home.
jberryhill
(62,444 posts)And even I can smell that.
RagAss
(13,832 posts)jberryhill
(62,444 posts)onehandle
(51,122 posts)This was for white collar office positions.
You show up stinking of anything, you probably will not get hired by me.
DiverDave
(5,245 posts)I hope you don't need a job badly and lose out because the person doesn't like something about you.
Have you not hired someone because of that lame reason?
amuse bouche
(3,672 posts)but they think a breath mint and cologne eradicate the smell
At least they try and fool themselves into believing that. Smokers know very well the damage smoking does to the inside of their bodies but live in denial. Same thing with the smell. Telling them doesn't do any good. They have to make up their own minds, bite the bullet and quit
Shaming just doesn't work
MADem
(135,425 posts)Nor does bullying, mocking, pestering...often as not it makes them defensive, I believe.
It's the same as any other addictive behavior. If the person is not motivated from within to change the conduct, they just won't.
Mojorabbit
(16,020 posts)but I still love the smell of smoke.
cthulu2016
(10,960 posts)I somehow doubt it would remain un-hidden
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)Smoking is an unhealthy choice. It was not forced upon them due to mitigating factors such as genetics, medications, etc.
For many who are obese, there are mitigating factors such as genetics or medications that could contribute to being overweight. That is a far more complex issue than smoking.
cthulu2016
(10,960 posts)All addictive smokers have neurological predispositions to nicotine addiction. There is a vast difference in ease of quitting based on the number and character of different receptors in the brain, which vary widely among people. (For many people, nicotine doesn't work well at all. Just makes them feel bad.)
So what? Does that fact make them smell better? Does that fact make smoking less hazardous?
You just get off on being offensive and have found what you think is a socially acceptable way of being offensive because it is for the smelly people's own good for you to tell then they stink.
I do not drink alcohol and I can smell it someone's breath at a dozen paces. I makes me sick.
But somehow I never got around to writing an OP about it.
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)Besides, they don't fully understand those gene variations which govern nicotine receptors in cells. What they have learned so far is that the predisposition is there which is tied to lung cancer. They can't explain away 90 year old smokers who never get lung cancer, people who light up an occasional cigarette and never get hooked, and other examples.
You have made a valid point. Some people can quit easier than others and this may be related. It'll be some years probably.
Smoking is very addictive no matter your predisposition, IMO. The tobacco companies have designed it this way. It's a monster to beat. Even after 5 years, I still feel like I'm battling it as I did on day one. I'm not going to pretend that this is an easy habit to drop as easily as it was picked up.
I figure this is one of those things that needs to be said because no one else is saying it. A lot of people just don't care for the truth of it.
I'm fine with that.
crunch60
(1,412 posts)Big Mac, pizza, KFC. Soda, sitting on butt to long, and of course the genetic factor as well.
hifiguy
(33,688 posts)in cheap cologne of some sort when on the bus or an airplane. You can't smoke on a bus or a plane, but you can drown yourself in scent and still ride. Barf. Double Barf. I can deal with a smoker who isn't smoking, but not that.
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)The guy who smells like damp marlboro butts, or the guy who gargles with axe.
I'll take standard-issue BO reek any day over either of them.
raccoon
(32,390 posts)The two are not mutually exclusive.
Bake
(21,977 posts)Bake
MADem
(135,425 posts)hold a "SBD"* or a crop-dusting farting effort in a larger workcenter for some time! Who's got the air freshener?
*silent but deadly
UnrepentantLiberal
(11,700 posts)magical thyme
(14,881 posts)when we have to work up somebody's toxic pooh!
Under hood with ventilation running full steam. No matter. Stinks from one end of the lab to the other. We keep freshener spray handy, which mitigates somewhat.
People, please eat right and take care of your colon. Puleeeeeze!
fishwax
(29,346 posts)A lot depends on how one smokes. Smoking indoors (or in the car or other enclosed spaces) intensifies the smell and its effect on clothes, etc. But many smokers don't do that.
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)It does depend on when, where, and how often.
I have an aunt who only smokes outside her house. She does not smoke in her car or even if she is out and about. She smokes on her back porch and that's it. She still has a bit of a smell, but it's nowhere as bad as some others.
opiate69
(10,129 posts)alcibiades_mystery
(36,437 posts)I also didn't know about it until I quit. I can point to every smoker in the supermarket now. I smell them coming as they walk down the aisle. It's really weird, like I have those "They Live" Roddy Piper sunglasses.
Bake
(21,977 posts)There are some warped priorities on display there.
Just sayin'.
Bake
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)I can be concerned about WI and express my distaste at smelling smokers at the same time. I know folks who eat chocolate kisses, worry about global warming and read at the same time.
Just sayin'
Bake
(21,977 posts)But given that a lot of union members and Democrats also happen to smoke (don't know that stats, just an educated guess), why would you want to piss them off TODAY?
In fact, why ANY DAY?
Bake
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)Nope, can't do that. It'll be the day after. If it goes badly, I'll be making it worse. On the other hand, if it goes great and Walker gets the boot, then I'd probably be a downer and depressing folks.
Let me check the calender for a day when it's okay to piss off smoking Dems.
Bake
(21,977 posts)Because you can't keep your opinion to yourself? EVeryone else is entitled to your opinion?
Human Relations 101. Try it.
Bake
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)DU...where everyone's got an opinion about something and it's bound to piss someone off somewhere.
DemocraticUnderground 101.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)Hope you're not trying to stop people from smoking, though. Because people who drink, smoke, eat stinky food, wear bad smelling perfume, pot smokers or any other habit humans choose to develop, don't really care what you think or what I or anyone else thinks.
If they want to stop they will. And some might even get a kick out of pissing off the finger-waggers in our society, who I think stink more than all the others put together.
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cynatnite
(31,011 posts)Second hand and third hand smoke can do a lot more damage than stinky food, bad perfume or pot.
Of course, I'll do my damndest to discourage it. There is more than just personal choice here. Kids are inhaling their parents' smoking.
This is a systemic debilitating addictive habit that does far more damage than smoking pot. I totally support legalizing pot, but it doesn't have all the carcinogens and other substances the tobacco companies have soaked in the tobacco to keep their customers hooked.
Smoking and alcohol are legal drugs, but have done far more damage than all the illegal drugs combined. Smoking gets singled out because that odor also has carcinogens in it and if you smell it, you are inhaling it against your will. Are you okay with that? Is that your choice or not?
Call me a "finger-wagger" all you like. I don't care. I've watched patients with holes in their necks attempt to talk and I've buried a lot of family who were killed by smoking. Most of my family still smokes.
My father wasted away to skin and bones in a nursing home from his smoking. It's an agonizing hellish death.
I don't feel a bit of guilt for being a "finger-wagger".
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)Bake
(21,977 posts)Bake
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)Everyone's been pissing off everyone since the first bonobo-like hominid opened its mouth and went "Ook ook"
Smokers smell bad. it's kind of a dumb topic to start a thread on, but if that pisses off smokers... tough, not the OP's fault they live in a delusional reality where they are lightly scented of lilacs and honey.
Bake
(21,977 posts)Now get the hell off my lawn.
Bake
Scootaloo
(25,699 posts)They kept forgetting to water me, it was terrible.
frylock
(34,825 posts)fuck those firebaggers! am i right?
datasuspect
(26,591 posts)i dunno.
MoonRiver
(36,975 posts)I've never smoked and my husband doesn't smoke. But our son's girlfriend smokes and it is very noticeable when she's around. Sad, because in every other way she is great. But that is hard to deal with.
hobbit709
(41,694 posts)I can think of plenty of things to get worked up about, but that isn't one of them.
And before anyone jumps me about this, I quit smoking in 1975.
SwissTony
(2,560 posts)and, for some reason, at the next stop a female smoker seemed to like to sit next to me. She was a very nice woman, but she absolutely stank of smoke.
Many years ago, I declared that nobody could smoke in my house. If you wanted to smoke, you went outside. Didn't matter if it was raining, hailing, thunder etc. You went outside. That included my mother.
Smokers stink. Full stop.
I'm not an ex-smoker. I did the usual teenage experimentation. I stopped on my thirteenth birthday.
crunch60
(1,412 posts)cynatnite
(31,011 posts)RebelOne
(30,947 posts)Febreze is my friend for the house. And whenever I go out of the house, I do some liberal doses of perfume on my body and my hair.
YellowRubberDuckie
(19,736 posts)I hate cigarette smoke smell, but the mixture will gag a maggot.
bluerum
(6,109 posts)Cigar smokers are the pits. Worse than buttheads.
And dousing youself and your home in perfumes and air fresheners only makes it worse. More chemicals and the smoke still stinks.
hifiguy
(33,688 posts)and what kind of cigars one is smoking. I like a good cigar a couple of times a week. I don't think I smell.
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kestrel91316
(51,666 posts)3 times a day she goes outside for her cigarette break and comes back in surrounded by a cloud of smoke that she exhales all over me for the next 15 minutes.
And I can always tell which of my clients are heavy smokers by the way their cats just reek of cigarette smoke when they come in.
lynne
(3,118 posts)Horrible enough to clog my sinus and force me to take an allergy pill. So rank I had to roll down my car window when I gave one a ride to work and I never offered to drive her again. Let's not forget the times I've changed seats in the movies due to the cologne-sogged person who sat down nearby.
There's lots of stinkers in this world, many of them due to their own choices. BTW, we haven't even talked about garlic and onion breath. Or beer breath.
Or garlic eaters who emit garlic when they sweat. Dear Lord, that has to be one of the worst odors on the planet.
Anyone who say's they don't omit any offensive odor is lying.
nadine_mn
(3,702 posts)I can smell it by dinner on his breath. I can't stand it. Worse thing I ever did when we were newly married was make him creamy roasted garlic soup (this was before I knew what I was in store for) - oh dear god - he breathed, sweated, farted garlic for days. I couldn't be in the same room with him.
He loves garlic, so I still cook with it, but he has to keep away from me. But never again will I make that garlic soup, even though he still begs for it.
I will take a smoker any day over that.
antigone382
(3,682 posts)A lot of people smoke in response to stress, and exploiting peoples' sensitivity to how others perceive them is going to add to that stress, not take it away. I don't smoke and never have, but I have had my fair share of people tearing me down to try to change my behaviors, and it did not work. When I got away from them and went to the people that supported and loved me, and didn't try to make me define myself by my faults or vices, I was able to improve my behaviors substantially. Making people feel bad about themselves is not a good way to end self-destructive behavior.
truebrit71
(20,805 posts)...when I stepped into an elevator with someone that had just finished a ciggie and I wanted to hurl...How come no-one punched me in the face smelling that bad???
Arugula Latte
(50,566 posts)NV Whino
(20,886 posts)I hired a guy once to help me out programming some stuff in FileMaker. He was a nice guy, and he didn't smoke in my house, but he exuded cigaret odor. My house smelled for days afterward. Needless to say, I muddled through the rest of the programming myself.
Bathing, colone, perfume, breath mints do nothing to mitigate the odor seeping from the smoker's pores.
bighart
(1,565 posts)How much of the missing tax revenue are you personally willing to kick in when all of the smokers quit tomorrow?
From a 2008 NY Times article
"In 2007, states collected more than $19 billion in cigarette taxes"
"The federal government, meantime, collects nearly $7 billion annually in cigarette excise taxes"
So how much of this $26 billion can we count on you for?
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)Even though it's physically and financially detrimental to people and to the nation as a whole?
How many medical bills are you wiling to pay and how many graves are you willing to dig?
bighart
(1,565 posts)there would be a whole lot of unintended consequences if there were no more smokers tomorrow.
And by the way, from April 2012:
"Obesity adds more to health care costs than smoking does, reports a study in the March Journal of Occupational and Environmental Medicine, official publication of the American College of Occupational and Environmental Medicine (ACOEM)."
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)Because when there are no more wars that means soldiers won't have jobs, more jobs lost when we quit making bombs, etc.
The lives saved from no wars or not smoking should mean more than a tax burden. In some cases axes are a method of controlling behavior. It has been for some time. There are higher taxes on cigarettes and alcohol.
If we're not spending money on health care costs due to obesity, smoking, war-mongering then perhaps there will be an offset of sorts.
In the end, we have a healthier society.
Arugula Latte
(50,566 posts)bighart
(1,565 posts)They cost the health care system more than smokers do.
MineralMan
(151,269 posts)We also know it's bad for us.
We also know it can cause lung cancer.
I wonder what things about yourself you don't know. I'll bet there are some such things.
But, hey, thanks for letting us know about that smell thing. Made my day, for sure.
aint_no_life_nowhere
(21,925 posts)I gave up smoking years ago but I still miss the taste and smell. Cigarette smoke doesn't smell good to me unless it's from strong French cigarettes; Gauloises, Celtiques, or Gitanes.
Logical
(22,457 posts)opiate69
(10,129 posts)I particularly like the nutty notes in a good maduro.
KansDem
(28,498 posts)I smoke an occasional cigar and love the smell and taste of a maduro!
I have a friend who lives in Switzerland. Every few years he visits...and brings me a pack of Cuban cigars!
My wife manages a cigar lounge... no Cubans officially, but if you know the right people... lol
raccoon
(32,390 posts)Swede
(39,494 posts)It is a powerful smell.
RedCappedBandit
(5,514 posts)Just sayin.
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)A lot of my family smoked and they couldn't tell. My husband had grown accustomed to it. I think anyone who wasn't a smoker and knew me, were being too polite.
It was only after I had stopped smoking for several months that it became apparent to me.
Logical
(22,457 posts)felix_numinous
(5,198 posts)the little foreign cigarettes---they're not half as bad as American ones with all the additives. Everyone (overseas) was always offering them, to be polite and I actually smoked them for awhile. I know this is not a PC answer, but I actually like the smell of pure tobacco--I think it burns differently
Nye Bevan
(25,406 posts)when they walk through the office back to their places after a smoke break.
Let the non-smokers work harder so you can indulge your addiction, stink up the office, and leave a disgusting pile of butts on the ground in the parking lot for some poor guy to clean up. What's not to love?
Arugula Latte
(50,566 posts)whose hair and clothing smelled so badly and so strongly I had to open up all the windows and let it air out for an hour. He hadn't lit up anywhere near the house. Amazingly powerful stench, that smoke.
HopeHoops
(47,675 posts)I quit in '85.
99Forever
(14,524 posts)One of the best and toughest things I've ever done. And you are correct, smokers stink, and tho I thought I knew it when I was smoking, I didn't really understand just how much. That said, I promised myself something when I did quit. I would NEVER become the self-righteous sort of ass that many other "reformed smokers" were to me. It's completely counter-productive anyway and pretending that you are "doing them a favor by telling them" is nothing more than seeking a rather poor excuse for being a jerk. That's my opinion anyway, your mileage may vary.
Gregorian
(23,867 posts)I think that's an important perspective people mostly don't consider.
taught_me_patience
(5,477 posts)They don't even realize that when they light up at a bus station, everybody can smell that shit. Or, when they light up in a crowded park, everybody withing fifteen feet can smell their toxic fumes, EVEN THOUGH THEY ARE OUTSIDE.
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Blaukraut
(5,998 posts)Even while I was smoking, I hated the way it smelled. On me, the furniture, the curtains, you name it. That being said, I'm extremely sensitive to odors anyway. Garlic body odor, onion armpits, dirty-bed-sheet body odor, cooking smell in my house, clothes, and hair....I'm pretty much miserable all day unless I'm outside in the fresh air. LOL
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)A lot of people are outright allergic to different smells and it can set off asthma attacks.
I love wearing perfume, but now I try to think about where I'm going before using it.
Cairycat
(1,867 posts)Most smokers know how bad smoking is for their health, some will admit that second-hand smoke is injurious to others' health, maybe some might even admit the dangers of third-hand smoke (residue on clothes, etc.).
But I know that until I quit, I really had no idea just how pervasive and nasty third-hand smoke is. I bought a CD once on eBay, took most of a week to get to me, and it smelled strongly of smoke when I opened it. I've subbed on my daughter's paper route, and some houses, you could tell as soon as you got to the porch, the people smoked. In winter, with closed doors. My sister-in-law would give me lovely hand-me-downs for my kids, but they had to be washed three times to get the smoke smell out. My partner at work is a smoker. I do everything I can to avoid hanging my coat anywhere near hers, because clothing that is that saturated with smoke doesn't just smell like tobacco, it starts to almost smell like feces. I work in an elementary school. It's very easy to tell which kids have smoking parents.
So, yes, it's tough to quit, I won't nag smokers. But I think the idea that bathing takes care of the problem, that some smokers smell smoky and some don't, is baloney. Smokers smell, and it's not a pleasant smell at all.
JoePhilly
(27,787 posts)1) I rarely get to visit my mother's house. She smokes. Usually when I see her, she and I stay at my sister's house for a few days. Mom lives up in the PA mountains and the time to drive where she lives would reduce the time we'd actually see each other. But I do at times go to her house. The last time I went, I stayed at her house one night. I was there a little more than 24 hours. I kept my luggage bag closed almost the entire time. When I flew home, and opened that bag, everything in it smelled like cigarette smoke.
2) I take the kids to a bowling lanes. Over 10 years ago, it allowed smoking. It has a bar area, but it stopped allowing smoking inside more than 10 years ago. They pulled out all the carpet. Cleaned and painted everything. Plus 10 years. You can still smell it. Its not a strong smell. But its a background smell.
Both of my parents smoked. I never did. And it was only after I moved away, that I came to know what other things smelled like.
Trillo
(9,154 posts)"I hate this place. This zoo. This prison. This reality, whatever you want to call it, I can't stand it any longer. It's the smell, if there is such a thing. I feel saturated by it. I can taste your stink and every time I do, I fear that I've somehow been infected by it.
http://www.imdb.com/character/ch0000745/quotes
RagAss
(13,832 posts)...and if you smoked for 27 years and quit...good for you...but the damage may already be done.
cynatnite
(31,011 posts)I have recovered my lung function and feel better than I have in years.
sabrina 1
(62,325 posts)Laura PourMeADrink
(42,770 posts)all you would have to do is smell your clothes before they were laundered. And, personally don't think
someone telling them they smell would be enough to quit over. If they choose to ignore the health
risks, then knowing they smell is gonna do it? I remember a NY Times article years ago that actually
called people who smoked creative, risk-takers, and living on the edge. Like, sure I smell, sure it
could kill me....I don't care...I am doing it anyway.
And, as for the health risks...NY Times has an article this past week - Now salt's ok.
sibelian
(7,804 posts)But it doesn't matter to me. I can't smell it!
wendylaroux
(2,925 posts)my old person smell.
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DiverDave
(5,245 posts)around
I'm glad you quit, I've tried a thousand times, maybe a 1001 will be the charm.
I do know that when I quit I wont shout at smokers.
27 years you say, I wonder how YOU felt when people
said the same to you.
Honeycombe8
(37,648 posts)to walk on the graves of others? Or are you that narcisstic that you feel you have no vices?
Just because smokers stink to you, doesn't mean it smells the same to everyone, for one thing.
Another thing...don't you have something IMPORTANT to post about? Send us a list of what you do in an average day, please, so that we can do ugly posts about some of your habits. After all, that's what DU is all about! Right? Wrong.
