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What are western women supposed to do with muslim immigrant males who have been accepted to Europe? (Original Post) Quantess May 2016 OP
Huh? shenmue May 2016 #1
" do with"? That is a bit racist Liberal_in_LA May 2016 #2
Poster has something of a record Scootaloo May 2016 #3
I see.. Liberal_in_LA May 2016 #4
Yeah, we've got a few regulars like this on DU Scootaloo May 2016 #6
oh lovely... eShirl May 2016 #55
Please explain to me how you think it is "racist" Quantess May 2016 #41
Your post is way too vague... northernsouthern May 2016 #5
Well, a note on that. Scootaloo May 2016 #9
It is racist to call it racist though. northernsouthern May 2016 #11
Well, that argument doesn't make any sense at all Scootaloo May 2016 #92
You can redefine it all you want, but it is not racism. northernsouthern May 2016 #107
You are conflating Islam-phobia with Muslims-phobia Albertoo May 2016 #12
Except as the OP shows us, they are one and the same Scootaloo May 2016 #90
They can be the same, but that does not diminish the ill effects of the islamic ideology Albertoo May 2016 #106
You don't give a fuck about sexism or homophobia, though? Quantess May 2016 #45
No, we mostly just don't give a fuck about what you have to say about it. Maedhros May 2016 #101
Do you support Muslim Extremists' hatred of transsexuals, gays, lesbians, jewish people? Quantess May 2016 #59
I'm sorry. Did your post specify "muslim extremist males"? No? Tommy_Carcetti May 2016 #62
Do you support Christan Extremists' hatred of transsexuals, gays, lesbians, jewish people? mr blur May 2016 #84
I don't think I said anything to indicate your implications. Care to back this up with anything? Scootaloo May 2016 #93
Beautifully written and stated! nt Scruffy Rumbler May 2016 #98
If you lived in Sweden you would know what I am talking about. Quantess May 2016 #18
Then you need to be more specific. northernsouthern May 2016 #24
I don't need to start arguments, in fact, that is not at all how I am in person. Quantess May 2016 #26
Lol, really? northernsouthern May 2016 #28
This message was self-deleted by its author Quantess May 2016 #31
Well you just get on the gravy train!!! Quantess May 2016 #33
There are a few instances where MrsMatt May 2016 #61
so it sounds like there is no problem there 6chars May 2016 #102
Have ice cream. Firebrand Gary May 2016 #7
With a slice of pie. Maybe apple. Bonx May 2016 #8
Whatever the fuck they want? LeftyMom May 2016 #10
I think what you mean is how to deal with males still with cultural attitudes about sex Marrah_G May 2016 #13
Good post. Agree. 840high May 2016 #14
Agreed. n/t prayin4rain May 2016 #49
Good point! smirkymonkey May 2016 #74
Hmmmm, let me think.... GermanWatcher May 2016 #15
Winner! Thank you! eom BlueMTexpat May 2016 #16
Apparently no one here (on the DU or in the USA) is aware of the situation in Europe. Quantess May 2016 #17
Oh, really? GermanWatcher May 2016 #19
That's wonderful! I love interesting experiences and opinions! Quantess May 2016 #21
Everyone will adapt, it's what humans do. GermanWatcher May 2016 #22
So, will the WOMEN have to adapt to these misogynistic, backwards assholes? Quantess May 2016 #23
Bit of a broad brush here, maybe? nt GermanWatcher May 2016 #25
You just called me a broad, you f'n sexist! Quantess May 2016 #29
He didn't call you a "broad". He used the term Ilsa May 2016 #50
It's cool. Quantess May 2016 #52
Prejudice helps order a complex world... GermanWatcher May 2016 #51
So... you were serious? Quantess May 2016 #57
It's besides the point Albertoo May 2016 #60
I´ve never said there are no problems... GermanWatcher May 2016 #64
Iraq=GW's fault. And the lack of gastarbeiter policy is only part of the issue. Albertoo May 2016 #68
Yes, agreed. There is a lot of video out there. Marrah_G May 2016 #20
That's a bit of a broad brush, isn't it? muriel_volestrangler May 2016 #27
No Quantess May 2016 #34
Accept them as fellow human beings and treat them like anyone else? nt LostOne4Ever May 2016 #30
Oh, like they mostly DO NOT DO for scandinavian women, Quantess May 2016 #35
Oh, so you have records of how all of those people have acted? EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM? LostOne4Ever May 2016 #38
No, once again "NOT EVERY PERSON CLAIMING TO BE WITHIN THE MUSLIM FAITH" Quantess May 2016 #39
How about "every fucking time" you post about Denzil_DC May 2016 #47
It should be whatthehey May 2016 #71
+1000 smirkymonkey May 2016 #76
Good post leftynyc May 2016 #81
Thank you for butting in. That's apologist bullshit. Denzil_DC May 2016 #82
Butting in? How does that work on a discussion thread exactly? And no, it's not BS whatthehey May 2016 #85
It's butting in when I was addressing a ridiculously glaring Denzil_DC May 2016 #86
Cite the implication and I will condemn it too. I have seen no such. whatthehey May 2016 #87
Wonder away. I've addressed what I set out to address. You don't like it. Tough. Poutrage indeed. Denzil_DC May 2016 #105
So...no cite of this "clearly implied" universality then.... ok whatthehey May 2016 #110
If someone said "what is the world meant to do with Americans", yes, people here would object muriel_volestrangler May 2016 #95
Great. You should make an OP of this. This is a real issue, and we need to look at it. Squinch May 2016 #103
That needs to be copy and pasted to a lot of TexasMommaWithAHat May 2016 #104
As many times as it takes for you to stop broadbrushing people. LostOne4Ever May 2016 #48
what? oldandhappy May 2016 #32
what do you mean, DO? Skittles May 2016 #36
No. Clearly most DUers aren't aware of the situation in european countries Quantess May 2016 #37
they are beheading gay folk in Europe? Skittles May 2016 #40
Well there is a WHOLE FUCKING LOT OF honor killings Quantess May 2016 #44
here, they just call them casualties of domestic violence Skittles May 2016 #108
Minnesota and Minneapolis, which is host to the largest Somali population in the USA, myrna minx May 2016 #43
I'm not sure exactly what that means, but....no.. Quantess May 2016 #42
Alt-righty, then. Nt Tommy_Carcetti May 2016 #46
It's not obvious to many here AgerolanAmerican May 2016 #53
Nothing. eShirl May 2016 #54
what do woman in your society usually, 'do' with 'men'? or are the 'males' you mentioned children? Sunlei May 2016 #56
It's a tough question A Little Weird May 2016 #58
Advocate to send them back to Africa or Asia from whence they came OR pampango May 2016 #63
comment to keep eye on thread n/t w0nderer May 2016 #65
................ Tommy_Carcetti May 2016 #66
I am around Muslim immigrant men pretty frequently. gollygee May 2016 #67
You might find the answer redStateBlueHeart May 2016 #69
Right between the "Trump as Pepe the Frog" meme and the post that uses the word "cuck"..... Tommy_Carcetti May 2016 #73
They should treat them as they would like to be treated and vice versa. DemocratSinceBirth May 2016 #70
In what respect, Charlie? cyberswede May 2016 #72
troll tenderfoot May 2016 #75
Somewhere, goats are tromping all over a bridge willy-nilly Scootaloo May 2016 #94
What are western men supposed to "do with" mulsim immigrant females who have been accepted to Europe leeroysphitz May 2016 #77
Jury voted 3-4 to LEAVE IT. fleur-de-lisa May 2016 #78
Whatever they feel comfortable with? Iggo May 2016 #79
I don't know your unhealthy obsession issues but not the first post so I will ignore now Person 2713 May 2016 #80
Welcome them as new citizens. Tierra_y_Libertad May 2016 #83
What are western women supposed to do with Christian male citizens who have been living in America? LanternWaste May 2016 #88
Expect them to conform to the culture and laws of the country they're in. Arugula Latte May 2016 #89
Hopefully the more intelligent and enlightened "western women" will choose to .... etherealtruth May 2016 #91
They should also fight religious-based misogyny and homophobia. Arugula Latte May 2016 #96
Any bigotry should be fought, not perpetuated etherealtruth May 2016 #97
When they say hi to me, I say hi back LeftInTX May 2016 #99
Say "Welcome to Europe"? KamaAina May 2016 #100
Not sure about in Europe... a la izquierda May 2016 #109
 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
6. Yeah, we've got a few regulars like this on DU
Fri May 13, 2016, 02:21 AM
May 2016

Skinner seems to feel they make valued contributions to the environment here or something, I dunno.

 

northernsouthern

(1,511 posts)
5. Your post is way too vague...
Fri May 13, 2016, 02:20 AM
May 2016

...and in being so vague make a bit of a bigoted claim (not racist since muslim is a religion people...and say it is racist is actually racist since you are then implying that there is a muslim race).

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
9. Well, a note on that.
Fri May 13, 2016, 02:32 AM
May 2016

Islamophobia is heavily radicalized, because the targets of it are overwhelmingly nonwhite. When people rant about Muslims, they are almost always picturing a nonwhite "other." The OP makes it pretty clear - they're not worried about people who practice Islam, so much as those other people from somewhere else who practice Islam ("western women" vs. "immigrant men.&quot Also notice that particular contrast, "our women, their men," which is... pretty consistent with patterns of racism.

(Of course in this particular post, they're "males," not "men" - nice bit of dehumanization there, western women get to be women, Muslim men are "males" though. Like an animal of some sort.)

Basically, no, Muslims are not a "race." However they are overwhelmingly nonwhite, islamophobes frame it as a racial conflict, using racialized terms and tropes, and very often sweep up nonmuslims who "fit the type" such as Sikhs, Jains, and Baha'i. Islamophobes also generally believe anyone who resembles an Arab must be a Muslim and therefor conforms to their negative stereotype of Islam. Even if that person isn't a Muslim, even if that person isn't an Arab, or even middle eastern.

My point is, Islamophobia is a sort of bigotry held by racists, who use race in their judgement, framed in a racialized context, to target people who are overwhelmingly racial and ethnic minorities in their communities. It might not be "racism" in the absolute technical sense, but it's close enough that when someone calls it racism, you don't need to shake your finger and lecture them about it - thereby distracting from the fact of hte bigotry to attack a person calling out and criticizing said bigotry in a fairly accurate manner.

 

northernsouthern

(1,511 posts)
11. It is racist to call it racist though.
Fri May 13, 2016, 02:43 AM
May 2016

I hated it when Ben Aff did it, and I hate when anyone else does it. I have very close muslim friends that are whiter than me, several that are asian, and some that are very dark like people from Somalia. A large percentage of muslims are asian (which includes Pakistan). I personally am not a fan of the religion in its most literal forum (nor most religions, even the lotus sutras were not the most fair to women), but we need to not be party to the racist by using the term racist.

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
92. Well, that argument doesn't make any sense at all
Fri May 13, 2016, 12:13 PM
May 2016

And whether you "hate" it or not is irrelevant to the reality that Islamophobia is strongly racialized. Again, the OP underlines this, by drawing the conflict as between "their immigrant men" versus "our western women."

If you were unaware, "western" is a stand-in term for "white" when a racist wants to say something racist but wants to look like they're not. Thanks, Samuel Huntington.

 

northernsouthern

(1,511 posts)
107. You can redefine it all you want, but it is not racism.
Fri May 13, 2016, 11:01 PM
May 2016

Racism is based on a person's family tree, Islam is not. We could call it sexism and be closer as it seems to aim at only males. (which further makes the racist term moot) I dated a several muslims years ago...none were "white"...but none looked like they were from the "middle east". Also the wife of a friend is muslim from the Turkey area and she looks as white as any other European. All I am saying is it needs to be called what it is, sexism, prejudice, nationalism, etc...but not racism.

 

Albertoo

(2,016 posts)
12. You are conflating Islam-phobia with Muslims-phobia
Fri May 13, 2016, 02:55 AM
May 2016

Only the second is racially driven.

Being wary of a doctrine which is misogynistic, homophobic and totalitarian is reasonable.

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
90. Except as the OP shows us, they are one and the same
Fri May 13, 2016, 12:03 PM
May 2016

Knowing nothing about a given Muslim except that they practice Islam, the Islamophobe instantly assumes that this person MUST be a mysogynistic homophobe totalitarian. Haven't even said "hello" yet, but the bigot has already fully judged the person's personality, thoughts, feelings, and aspirations, based on a single vacuous fact.

And yeah, sorry, "I don't hate the people, I hate this one thing that I associate with all of those people!" isn't really an escape route. Because the people are still being hated, and judged, by someone who usually has absolutely no clue whatsoever.

 

Albertoo

(2,016 posts)
106. They can be the same, but that does not diminish the ill effects of the islamic ideology
Fri May 13, 2016, 06:52 PM
May 2016

Granted, you will find many people for whom islamophobia is just a rejection of a form of otherness. That, like any ostracism, should be discouraged.

However, it would be illusory to overlook the fact the people of the Muslim majority countries are turning to a more radical version of the islam construct under the influences of Saudi financing, youth bulge, unemployment and inept/corrupt governments, and that in turn shapes the global islamic ideology.

It might be wise to address the issue of global radicalized Islam for three reasons:
- it's here to stay for a while
- it's dangerous (San Bernardino, ISIS, ..)
- if Democrats leave the issue to Trump, fearful swing voters will vote toupee

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
59. Do you support Muslim Extremists' hatred of transsexuals, gays, lesbians, jewish people?
Fri May 13, 2016, 07:07 AM
May 2016

A question for you: what is the opinion of the Holocaust?

Tommy_Carcetti

(43,182 posts)
62. I'm sorry. Did your post specify "muslim extremist males"? No?
Fri May 13, 2016, 07:36 AM
May 2016

Then in all due respect, shut up. You've broadbrushed yourself into a corner, with your vague, narrowminded posting.

There are misogynstic, narrow minded muslims, and there are muslims who are open-minded and accepting of others. In other words, just like any other group. By putting them all in the same category, you're no better than the people you purport to be against.

I swear, you sound like some right-wing bigot talking about "our women".

 

mr blur

(7,753 posts)
84. Do you support Christan Extremists' hatred of transsexuals, gays, lesbians, jewish people?
Fri May 13, 2016, 10:37 AM
May 2016

A question for you: what colour does bigotry have to be to make it acceptable to you?

 

Scootaloo

(25,699 posts)
93. I don't think I said anything to indicate your implications. Care to back this up with anything?
Fri May 13, 2016, 12:14 PM
May 2016

I'll wait, but I won't hold my breath.

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
18. If you lived in Sweden you would know what I am talking about.
Fri May 13, 2016, 03:42 AM
May 2016

And I assure you, I am the one reminding people that Muslim is not a race, because it isn't.

 

northernsouthern

(1,511 posts)
24. Then you need to be more specific.
Fri May 13, 2016, 03:59 AM
May 2016

You sound like you are just a person filled with some issues with your post's wording. I had a fiend that was a Muslim from Somalia going to school to be a painter. A hardcore extremist muslim would have an issue with him because you are not allowed to draw or paint people...but he was extremely nice, and he also prayed 5 times a day...so he found a balance in the two. Your wording makes it seem like all people are alike...which is wrong. There are many studies that show people from areas that have a more strict view harbor some very bad ideas like death to people leaving the faith...but that is an outreach problem...visitors need to respect the customs, but they need to be welcomed and ostracized. I knew one hardcore muslim that was horribly racist against all jewish people. I constantly had to talk him down from what hew would say...I felt bad knowing that he would be very lonely in the US as far as dating since he was so close minded...but his sister and her husband were amazing.
Also I am the one saying that it is not racism...but your tone is what I am also saying is very bad...you got a bit of the nazi flavoring to how you posted it.

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
26. I don't need to start arguments, in fact, that is not at all how I am in person.
Fri May 13, 2016, 04:14 AM
May 2016

Okay the thing is... I live in Sweden and we have the highest per capita influx of "refugees" in the entire world. Not only that, Sweden does not question young males claiming to be "children", because it would be too insulting to their integrity to question them about their wrinkles and grey hair. Other countries such as Norway and Denmark are already way to the right of Sweden.

 

northernsouthern

(1,511 posts)
28. Lol, really?
Fri May 13, 2016, 04:20 AM
May 2016

Some one with wrinkles and grey hair claims to be a child? Are you kidding me? My wife's uncle was a surgeon in your country until he moved...never heard it was that easy to trick you guys. I can't wait to visit there and claim I am a kid to get all of the discounts on plane tickets, train tickets, movies, dinners, etc! Do you have actual proof that this is occurring? Also does the name "Anders Behring Breivik " mean anything to you?

Response to northernsouthern (Reply #28)

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
33. Well you just get on the gravy train!!!
Fri May 13, 2016, 04:51 AM
May 2016

I am not kidding you at all. It's my bedtime and I am too lazy and sleepy to look up the facts for you.
Sweden routinely accepts "children" without any age-verification at all, because Sweden considers age-verification to be insulting.

MrsMatt

(1,660 posts)
61. There are a few instances where
Fri May 13, 2016, 07:35 AM
May 2016

migrants claiming to be children (but were determined to be young adults) were placed in children's group homes, that subsequently raped other vulnerable youth.

and btw, Anders Behring Breivik is from Norway, not Sweden.

6chars

(3,967 posts)
102. so it sounds like there is no problem there
Fri May 13, 2016, 04:01 PM
May 2016

and women "do" with these young men what they feel comfortable doing.

Marrah_G

(28,581 posts)
13. I think what you mean is how to deal with males still with cultural attitudes about sex
Fri May 13, 2016, 03:04 AM
May 2016

It's a difficult problem in trying to balance avoiding prejudice and protecting women's rights.

We cannot blame all male Muslim immigrants and at the same time we cannot ignore the safety and freedom of women put in jeopardy by some groups of these men.

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
17. Apparently no one here (on the DU or in the USA) is aware of the situation in Europe.
Fri May 13, 2016, 03:35 AM
May 2016

There ARE REAL cultural differences.

GermanWatcher

(61 posts)
19. Oh, really?
Fri May 13, 2016, 03:45 AM
May 2016

Hint: My nick gives you an indication of where I come from.
Hint number two: I'm a journalist in the part of Germany where most of the refugees arrive and which as struggling to cope with the logistic problems. I've done dozens of stories about this subject.
I still see no reason to treat Muslim men any other way than any other human being.

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
21. That's wonderful! I love interesting experiences and opinions!
Fri May 13, 2016, 03:49 AM
May 2016

It's a cultural clash, though.
Also, as a Swedish woman living in Swedish culture, I would ask the same of them.

So yeah, you can get a hint that I live is Sweden.

GermanWatcher

(61 posts)
22. Everyone will adapt, it's what humans do.
Fri May 13, 2016, 03:54 AM
May 2016

True, those who come to a new cultural environment will have to adapt more, and that will take time.

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
23. So, will the WOMEN have to adapt to these misogynistic, backwards assholes?
Fri May 13, 2016, 03:58 AM
May 2016

Yes, of course, it's always the WOMEN who have to take the backseat. And what about the gays lesbians and transgendered?

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
29. You just called me a broad, you f'n sexist!
Fri May 13, 2016, 04:21 AM
May 2016

Last edited Fri May 13, 2016, 05:11 AM - Edit history (1)

No really, there is a GIGANTIC difference being able to joke around even a little bit, and and just forgetting to cover your ankles and being called a "WHORE", like what my Iranian co-worker, who is not even religious at all, experienced when she visited relatives in Iran. She told me later when she returned to the nice environment in Sweden!

Ilsa

(61,695 posts)
50. He didn't call you a "broad". He used the term
Fri May 13, 2016, 06:25 AM
May 2016

"broad brush", meaning generalizing too far. Since english is probably a second language to you, I'll not alert. But you can't do name calling like that ("f'n sexist&quot .

GermanWatcher

(61 posts)
51. Prejudice helps order a complex world...
Fri May 13, 2016, 06:28 AM
May 2016

I´ve been to Iran as a TV correspondent. Yes, something like this could happen to you. Or you could meet the most liberal, intellectual, open-minded people there. I´ve seen both.
As I have in Germany. Oh, and in Sweden, too. Oh, and that applies to Muslims as well as Christians and any other religion...

 

Albertoo

(2,016 posts)
60. It's besides the point
Fri May 13, 2016, 07:20 AM
May 2016

here:

I still see no reason to treat Muslim men any other way than any other human being.

The real problem is that Islamic preachers in Syria and Iraq have taught their flock homophobia and misoginy and religious supremacism.

So yes, by all means, we should treat refugees like any other human being. The question is to know if they will treat women, gays, atheists, etc like any other human being should.

PS: I can link you to the German Ministry of the Interior studies showing people of the Muslim faith choose to integrate less into German society than other migrants because they choose to do so based on a religious rationale (they also were egged on in that direction by Erdogan)

GermanWatcher

(61 posts)
64. I´ve never said there are no problems...
Fri May 13, 2016, 07:48 AM
May 2016

I know those studies. And I know the mistakes German society has made in regard to integration of immigrants. The conservatives have always denied that Germany needs a specific immigration policy. So there has been no coherent way to treat immigrants for sixty years.

The Turkish (and therefore mostly muslim) immigrants were the largest group to come to Germany in the 1960s and 1970s. Being such a large group and facing no coherent demands to integrate, many of them stuck to their traditional ways.

Still, I think it´s not beside the point to stop broad brushing a large and diverse group.

By the way, shall we talk about what caused the collapse of Iraq and Syria?

 

Albertoo

(2,016 posts)
68. Iraq=GW's fault. And the lack of gastarbeiter policy is only part of the issue.
Fri May 13, 2016, 08:37 AM
May 2016

More than 10% of the recent wave of migrants have sympathy for ISIS and antipathy for the West. That's not broad brushing a large and diverse group, it's taking stock of reality. So I fear "I´ve never said there are no problems" is a rather mild way to assess the situation.

Marrah_G

(28,581 posts)
20. Yes, agreed. There is a lot of video out there.
Fri May 13, 2016, 03:46 AM
May 2016

People don't want to believe it because they do not want to be seen as racist/bigoted.

muriel_volestrangler

(101,316 posts)
27. That's a bit of a broad brush, isn't it?
Fri May 13, 2016, 04:15 AM
May 2016

"THE" situation in Europe? You have a situation yourself - which you're not describing very well (it's not as if your OP said anything about Sweden; and it's taken until #23 for you to specify your problem is with misogynistic, backwards assholes, rather than Muslim immigrant males).

I'm in Europe too, and while there are some misogynistic, backwards assholes, they aren't necessarily Muslim immigrant (recent or not) men.

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
34. No
Fri May 13, 2016, 05:00 AM
May 2016
your problem is with misogynistic, backwards assholes, rather than Muslim immigrant males).

No I know the difference between Swedish culture and these misogynistic cultures that have invaded Sweden.

LostOne4Ever

(9,288 posts)
38. Oh, so you have records of how all of those people have acted? EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM?
Fri May 13, 2016, 05:37 AM
May 2016

[font style="font-family:'Georgia','Baskerville Old Face','Helvetica',fantasy;" size=4 color=#009999]Please post your deep research proving your accusation.

I will be waiting patiently for the results...

[/font]

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
39. No, once again "NOT EVERY PERSON CLAIMING TO BE WITHIN THE MUSLIM FAITH"
Fri May 13, 2016, 05:45 AM
May 2016

How many fucking times do I need to go over this again and again?

Denzil_DC

(7,238 posts)
47. How about "every fucking time" you post about
Fri May 13, 2016, 06:19 AM
May 2016

"muslim immigrant males who have been accepted to Europe"?

Is it any surprise that people take that to refer to "EVERY PERSON CLAIMING TO BE WITHIN THE MUSLIM FAITH"?

whatthehey

(3,660 posts)
71. It should be
Fri May 13, 2016, 09:38 AM
May 2016

The absolute inability of DU to understand the difference between collective generalizations and individual universalities is a source of constant wonder.

Not a single person outside this silly poutrage-seeking echo chamber would bat a hair at "United States elects Obama President" as a 2008 headline. Nobody sane would whine about it being not EVERYBODY in the US because anyone with an IQ above room temperature, in Celsius at that, realizes it is speaking to the country as a collective whole not every inhabitant thereof. Even here if the generalization is about the right group it's acceptable. "Republicans oppose gay marriage" would never bring out aghast cries that some of them don't. But the US as a collective group did elect Obama (not even a majority of it either, just the majority who voted at all) and Republicans as a collective group do indeed oppose gay marriage, and yes Muslim immigrants as a collective group do come from deeply misogynistic and homophobic cultures to varying extents from bad to fricking insane, as we can see from the laws and mores of those cultures. Just because we have come across Mr. Abdi Abdirazek who is a perfectly sweet and noble soul does not mean that his native culture is likewise, or that his fellow immigrants from there will be.

Denzil_DC

(7,238 posts)
82. Thank you for butting in. That's apologist bullshit.
Fri May 13, 2016, 10:24 AM
May 2016

The OP makes wild generalizations about "immigrants" and "Muslims" in "Latest Breaking News" and elsewhere on DU pretty much on a daily basis. There is no parallel between language that demonizes a whole religio-cultural group and casual journalese like "United States elects Obama President" such as you cite.

If you're wanting to band together with the OP and agree with her OWN WORDS above that all Muslims are a problem - which is what I challenged and responded to - go right ahead, but don't expect everybody else to fall in line. By doing so, you make those Muslims who are not part of the "problem" you identify invisible. That's not helping anybody, least of all those Muslims we should be encouraging to challenge and continue to challenge Islam's retrograde tendencies.

As for the OP, she spends so much time posting about these issues here and apparently scouring the Web for Muslim transgressions that I very much doubt she has daily contact with many people in the offline world, let alone Muslim immigrants!

whatthehey

(3,660 posts)
85. Butting in? How does that work on a discussion thread exactly? And no, it's not BS
Fri May 13, 2016, 10:47 AM
May 2016

Syntax doesn't change based on subject. "Muslims" is a generalization every bit as much as is "Americans" or "Republicans". Everybody knows the words "all" and "every" and is capable of using them if they mean and wish to express that concept. Without that men murder more people than women, Americans are a religious people, and whites trend Republican, unquestionably all true and not at all negated by the fact that I'm a white American male who is not religious, Republican or a murderer, and pretty darn close to equally opposed to becoming any of those things.

Christ this place is like a middle school. I can't fathom the shallow pettiness that tracks people from thread to thread. I have not the slightest clue and the same interest whether I have "banded together" with the OP, with you, or with anybody else at any time past or will in future. DU is written content, nothing else. I respond to the posts, not my childish image of a poster I have never knowingly met. IF (can you cite by the way?) they said ALL Muslims are a problem then clearly that's blithering idiocy. ALL of nigh two billion anything-ist people are not universally anything but basic tautologies like mortal and carbon-based. If however you just can't accept basic grammar that "Muslims" is far more likely to be used as a generalization, then the problem is not the OP's potential blithering idiocy.

Denzil_DC

(7,238 posts)
86. It's butting in when I was addressing a ridiculously glaring
Fri May 13, 2016, 11:39 AM
May 2016

and contradictory blind spot the OP has, and clarifying to her in similar terms to those she uses, and therefore hopefully might understand, why she apparently keeps having to explain herself on this issue. SHE DID CLEARLY IMPLY SHE WAS TALKING ABOUT ALL MUSLIM IMMIGRANT MALES. See, we can all use caps if we want to. That's what I reacted to, and what you butted in on with your screed. Her past posts don't lead me to think it was careless phrasing. Ask her if you're interested.

You can blah away about "middle school" all you like, all I'm seeing is a blur of whiny words that don't add up to anything it's worth me wasting my time trying to unravel and address.

Post inflammatory bullshit on a public board, some people are going to react. Make a habit of it, well ... Pretty damn simple.

And I see the usual little posse that home in on threads like these have arrived to back you up with the +1000s etc. That's pretty "middle school" from where I'm sitting. Enjoy your company, I'm done with you.

whatthehey

(3,660 posts)
87. Cite the implication and I will condemn it too. I have seen no such.
Fri May 13, 2016, 11:48 AM
May 2016

There is however no concept of "butting in" on a discussion forum regardless of how poutraged you were about some point or other. If you seek to engage the OP in private, the messaging functionality is your friend.

I note you fail to address the central issue of generalizations however. Wonder why?

Denzil_DC

(7,238 posts)
105. Wonder away. I've addressed what I set out to address. You don't like it. Tough. Poutrage indeed.
Fri May 13, 2016, 05:15 PM
May 2016

I don't always rise to it, but I've reached the endstops of my tolerance for some of the casual bigotry expressed here on a daily basis.

I actually have far less patience for anyone who'd try to excuse it and explain it away, no matter in what faux-intellectual florid terms, let alone attempt lamely to take me to task for challenging it.

You don't get to set the terms on which I participate in this forum, so get lost. As I said, I'm done with you. Is that too hard to grasp, or have you no better way to occupy your time?

muriel_volestrangler

(101,316 posts)
95. If someone said "what is the world meant to do with Americans", yes, people here would object
Fri May 13, 2016, 12:26 PM
May 2016

There is a difference between reporting the outcome of a country's election by using the country to imply the country's overall vote, and saying something 'needs to be done' with a group of people.

One of the problems with religion is that it's ingrained in people's identity. It's easier to persuade someone to stop being a Republican than it is to get them to leave a religion. And because of that, it's worse to use a broadbrush judgement (that something need to be done with the people in a group) on the basis of their religion than because of their political affiliation.

Squinch

(50,949 posts)
103. Great. You should make an OP of this. This is a real issue, and we need to look at it.
Fri May 13, 2016, 04:10 PM
May 2016

I am not willing to do anything to accommodate anyone's cultural misogyny. Cultural misogyny exists in these countries. It is not unreasonable to ask how those two positions are to coexist.

LostOne4Ever

(9,288 posts)
48. As many times as it takes for you to stop broadbrushing people.
Fri May 13, 2016, 06:20 AM
May 2016

[font style="font-family:'Georgia','Baskerville Old Face','Helvetica',fantasy;" size=4 color=#009999]You are the one who posted the phrase:[/font]

What are western women supposed to do with muslim immigrant males who have been accepted to Europe?


[font style="font-family:'Georgia','Baskerville Old Face','Helvetica',fantasy;" size=4 color=#009999]And:[/font]

Oh, like they mostly DO NOT DO for scandinavian women,

gays, transgendered people?


[font style="font-family:'Georgia','Baskerville Old Face','Helvetica',fantasy;" size=4 color=#009999]You even used the word "mostly."

You have no clue if that is true or not.

You make no attempt to quantify or qualify your statements. You have no idea how many of them do not do what I suggested. You pronounce judgement upon a marginalized minority, one that is going through a horrible humanitarian crisis , without even attempting to distinguish between them in your OP or reply to me.

I am very critical of religions and cultures that promote hate and misogyny. But even so, I know that not every member of said religion or culture is bad, and unless i have PROOF I wouldn't ever even say most of the adherents of a religion or members of a culture share those beliefs.

Especially when they are refugees desperately seeking asylum, especially when there is already a bigoted effort to deny them safehaven.

If a member of those seeking asylum does something untoward anyone, I will condemn that person and seek that they recieve the appropriate consequences. I wouldn't condemn the entire group, or suggest that said group not be given safehaven because of others.

And I will never use women and the LGBTQ community as a shield to hide my own prejudices.[/font]

oldandhappy

(6,719 posts)
32. what?
Fri May 13, 2016, 04:28 AM
May 2016

Have a coffee? Help find a job? Locate language classes? Invite family/kids over for a visit? Show how to use library or computer?

Skittles

(153,160 posts)
36. what do you mean, DO?
Fri May 13, 2016, 05:21 AM
May 2016

are you insinuating women only have to beware of Muslim men in regards to sexual attacks?

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
37. No. Clearly most DUers aren't aware of the situation in european countries
Fri May 13, 2016, 05:33 AM
May 2016

that have taken in all these muslim immigrants.

OF COURSE there is a culture clash! But it's Muslim extremism showing it's ugly face in the form of honor culture (a euphemism), and beheading gays & lesbians.

I'm not not sure what your point was, Skittles.

Skittles

(153,160 posts)
40. they are beheading gay folk in Europe?
Fri May 13, 2016, 05:45 AM
May 2016

"all these" - you're getting really close to the proverbial THOSE PEOPLE

Quantess

(27,630 posts)
44. Well there is a WHOLE FUCKING LOT OF honor killings
Fri May 13, 2016, 06:02 AM
May 2016

all the time! A lot of the time, the teenage girl is thrown off the balcony to her death.

That's the M.O. in a european coutry, so I hear.

Skittles

(153,160 posts)
108. here, they just call them casualties of domestic violence
Sat May 14, 2016, 04:10 AM
May 2016

what do we do with them? Same as we do now with non-Muslim guys - treat them like MURDERERS

myrna minx

(22,772 posts)
43. Minnesota and Minneapolis, which is host to the largest Somali population in the USA,
Fri May 13, 2016, 05:57 AM
May 2016

(and is also the largest concentration of Norwegian Americans in the USA), manage to exist together. We also have a huge population of LGBITQ folks. While there were growing pains and challenges when the first waive of refugees immigrated to Minneapolis 25 years ago, we're all still here - and no one has been beheaded.

There are always challenges - and while everything isn't perfect here - not by a long shot - it's not the nightmare scenario you've painted. There are assholes in every culture. Every single one.

 

AgerolanAmerican

(1,000 posts)
53. It's not obvious to many here
Fri May 13, 2016, 06:36 AM
May 2016

but it will be eventually

You can pull people out of third-world primitivism, but you can't pull third-world primitivism out of people quite as easily.

People will come around once they understand that accepting practitioners of traditional forms of Islam means throwing women and LGBTs under the bus.

Sunlei

(22,651 posts)
56. what do woman in your society usually, 'do' with 'men'? or are the 'males' you mentioned children?
Fri May 13, 2016, 06:41 AM
May 2016

I'm guessing you're from Europe? and not used to immigrants from other countries as part of your society?

In America we have millions of immigrants, all religions & races. Personally, I think the diversity is a huge benefit to our society.

A Little Weird

(1,754 posts)
58. It's a tough question
Fri May 13, 2016, 06:55 AM
May 2016

On one hand, I admire the governments of those countries who are accepting this influx of immigrants from a really bad situation. But on the other hand, I am baffled because they seem to be bending over backward to be "accepting" to the point of accepting sexist behavior from many of the immigrants at the expense of their existing citizens. They should have some kind of acclimation program to integrate the new residents into the culture and if they behave in an unacceptable way after that they should be held accountable.

pampango

(24,692 posts)
63. Advocate to send them back to Africa or Asia from whence they came OR
Fri May 13, 2016, 07:41 AM
May 2016

accept the vast majority who are good people (just like every other group of people) and enforce the laws against the minority who are not.

Unless Muslims are all alike and so inferior that they cannot be allowed to live next to decent 'Western' people.

Burgeoning right wing parties in Europe (and the US) want to ban them and send them back.

400 Arrested As Left Wing Protesters Clash With Far-Right In Germany

"Keep refugees, drive Nazis away!"

http://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/europe/alternative-fur-deutschland-conference-protesters-germany-arrested-a7007971.html

Tommy_Carcetti

(43,182 posts)
66. ................
Fri May 13, 2016, 08:03 AM
May 2016


"Brothers! Oh, brothers! We have all gathered here, to preserve our hallowed culture and heritage! We aim to pull evil up by the root, before it chokes out the flower of our culture and heritage! And our women, let's not forget those ladies, y'all. Looking to us for protection! From darkies, from Jews, from papists, and from all those smart-ass folks say we come descended from monkeys!"

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0190590/

gollygee

(22,336 posts)
67. I am around Muslim immigrant men pretty frequently.
Fri May 13, 2016, 08:05 AM
May 2016

It is not difficult and it requires nothing special or unusual.

 

leeroysphitz

(10,462 posts)
77. What are western men supposed to "do with" mulsim immigrant females who have been accepted to Europe
Fri May 13, 2016, 09:59 AM
May 2016

fleur-de-lisa

(14,624 posts)
78. Jury voted 3-4 to LEAVE IT.
Fri May 13, 2016, 10:10 AM
May 2016

On Fri May 13, 2016, 08:51 AM an alert was sent on the following post:

What are western women supposed to do with muslim immigrant males who have been accepted to Europe?
http://www.democraticunderground.com/10027828266

REASON FOR ALERT

This post is disruptive, hurtful, rude, insensitive, over-the-top, or otherwise inappropriate.

ALERTER'S COMMENTS

This is bigotry. At best, it broadbrushes muslims. At worst, it recalls old racist tropes about nonwhite men being a threat to white women.

You served on a randomly-selected Jury of DU members which reviewed this post. The review was completed at Fri May 13, 2016, 09:09 AM, and the Jury voted 3-4 to LEAVE IT.

Juror #1 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: This post is not in itself offensive and hiding it won't fix the thread.
Juror #2 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: The OP is trolling and racist against Muslims.
Juror #3 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #4 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Jesus. Couldn't you just have put your objections in a reply to the poster? Man some of these alerts are weak!
Juror #5 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: Anti-Muslim posts don't belong here.
Juror #6 voted to HIDE IT
Explanation: No explanation given
Juror #7 voted to LEAVE IT ALONE
Explanation: Meh. Alerter may be right, but the OP was rather vague. After reading through all of the follow up posts by Quantess in this thread, some of them do seem somewhat bigoted. But this particular post is too vague to merit a hide.

 

LanternWaste

(37,748 posts)
88. What are western women supposed to do with Christian male citizens who have been living in America?
Fri May 13, 2016, 11:54 AM
May 2016

What are western women supposed to do with Christian male citizens who have been living in America?


Absurdist, half-witted and idiotic question, part two.

 

Arugula Latte

(50,566 posts)
89. Expect them to conform to the culture and laws of the country they're in.
Fri May 13, 2016, 11:54 AM
May 2016

Not vice versa.

If they try to push their backwards religious bullshit on other people, then they need some major pushback, just like with anyone, immigrant or not.

etherealtruth

(22,165 posts)
91. Hopefully the more intelligent and enlightened "western women" will choose to ....
Fri May 13, 2016, 12:11 PM
May 2016

... fight ignorance, xenophobia, islamophobia, racism and bigotry on their behalf.

LeftInTX

(25,320 posts)
99. When they say hi to me, I say hi back
Fri May 13, 2016, 01:23 PM
May 2016

If they have a conversation with me, I talk to them. I've shot basketball with a fellow at the gym. He was in his 20s, I am in my 50s. I had conversation about Saudi Arabia with a young guy at the doctors' office. He complained about the price of gas in the US and how nobody is homeless in Saudi Arabia because the govt takes care of them.

However, another story:

40 years ago, I went to college in very white northern Wisconsin. About 150 young Saudis attended pilot training in town and they all stayed in one of the dorms. It was fun in the dining hall, because they loved staring at us. A few of my friends went out with a few of them. They were super rich and they wasted a bunch of money. It was a bit of a culture shock on both ends, but it was more fun than anything.

ETA: I'm female btw. I also shop at a ME store where I'm a minority. No big deal.

a la izquierda

(11,794 posts)
109. Not sure about in Europe...
Sat May 14, 2016, 05:13 AM
May 2016

But I treat them like any other student. You see, there are probably 200-300 Muslim immigrant men on my university campus. I guess you want me to be afraid of them or something.

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