Woman donates hair to cancer patients is mistaken for trans, harassed in restroom

[Snarkoleptic]

Stay classy, conservatives...
http://www.rawstory.com/2016/05/woman-who-donated-hair-to-cancer-patients-mistaken-for-transgender-man-and-harassed-in-restroom/

Danbury News Times reports that Toms was accosted by another woman while she was washing her hands in a Walmart bathroom in Danbury, Connecticut. Toms was wearing a baseball hat and she had very short hair because she recently donated her hair to a charity that makes wigs for children with cancer.

She said that she was approached by a complete stranger in the bathroom and was told that “You’re disgusting!” and “You don’t belong here!” The 22-year-old Toms posted a video on Facebook talking about how the experience opened her eyes to the abuse that transgender people face every day.

“After experiencing the discrimination they face firsthand, I cannot fathom the discrimination transgender people must face in a lifetime,” she said. “Can you imagine going out every day and having people tell you you should not be who you are or that people will not accept you as who you are?”

[Skittles]

1. I so, SO want to witness an exchange like that

I would REALLY go off on the bigot - I'd make sure they would think twice before EVER behaving like that in public again

[narnian60]

19. +1

Same here.

[NutmegYankee]

2. The religious right assholes cannot be fixed.

Every time I encounter them I begin to believe that evil really does exist.

[Jeffersons Ghost]

4. Good and Evil exists in human populations and individuals

[Initech]

6. Slap 'em with hate crime charges every time this happens.

That will shut them up really quickly. This is getting scary. Fuck you Pat McCrory.

[Omaha Steve]

7. In Omaha a hate vrime is a Felony

There have been two successful prosecutions that I know of.

[rocks911]

38. Stupid exists

No such thing as evil. People are just really stupid.

[CrispyQ]

49. I wish their stupid rapture would happen & take them all away.

[yellowcanine]

3. She should have dropped trou right there in front of the old biddy.

That would have shut her up.

[jmowreader]

51. Or just turned around

I've seen other pictures of her. She is REALLY cute, and definitely not a guy.

[Feeling the Bern]

5. Americans are beginning to make me sick to my stomach

We have become:

01: Uber religious self-righteous assholes that things God personally speaks to us
02: Hyper sensitive campus liberal PC word police who think the right not to be offended is in the Constitution
03: Neoliberal corportist authoritarians that never met a war or an industry they didn't love
04: Narrow minded bigots that believe anyone who doesn't respect their bigotry is the actual bigot.
05: Jingoistic flag wavers that believe killing everyone we don't like is the best option
06: Shallow celebrity worshipers that care more about some Hollywood fruitcake's dress than the SCOTUS' decision on our liberties
07: Police state lovers that believe the police are under attack and can do absolutely no wrong
08: Unquestioning sheep that are just smart enough to do the job and just dumb to accept the jobs with lower wages
09: Single Issue morons that believe if you don't support their pet issue, you are the devil and must be destroyed
10: Fade idealists that have seen what has happened, lost their faith and have pretty much given up and accepted we are doomed.

And it only gets worse every passing election cycle.

[Bluenorthwest]

14. Sadly, transphobia and homophobia are global and not national problems.

These are problems inherent in heterosexual culture, not biases specific to America.

[MisterFred]

55. Not inherent to heterosexual culture

Though sadly quite prevalent conditions among heterosexuals, transphobia and homophobia are not an integral part of being heterosexual.

[Enthusiast]

25. Huge +1!

[puffy socks]

27. These kinds of people have always existed. nt

[AlbertCat]

8. “Can you imagine going out every day and having people tell you you should not be who you are ...

... or that people will not accept you as who you are?”

Yes.

Quite easily.


As that's what I went thru starting in elementary school because I sucked at sports and liked Bach. Then it got intense at the all boy prep school where, since I lived there, it was humiliation 24/7. And of course, as my parents continually explained to me, it was all my fault.

And I'm not a flaming drag queen or anything close to that. I'm really just a regular person... who likes ballet and art.

Well, nowadays it's not as bad as in the 60's and early 70's. In fact, in the late 70s it was almost alright to be gay. But conservatives are trying to bring it all back.... because they've already LOST!

[Lordquinton]

11. The 70's it was almost ok

Then AIDS came onto the scene, and the conservatives had the perfect excuse to fire up the hate machine, and the left stood by while they did it.

Really dark time, and few people to talk about it.

[cynzke]

37. I Prefer My Gay Friends

to my straight friends. They have experienced pain, fear and the stress of recognizing and accepting who they are, while struggling with a segment of society who is hateful and violent towards those they don't understand. I find my gay friends to be kinder, more generous, more accepting of others, very liberal minded and fiercely supportive of equality for all people. And my gay friends are full of love, laughter and live their lives with gusto. I find they enrich my life and I really appreciate and respect them.

[Takket]

9. ...and so it begins..........

it won't be long until someone dies over this.... and their blood will be on the GOP's hands.

[Initech]

12. And the sad thing is someone probably will.

The GOP has declared open season on trans people starting with HB-2. With HB-2, it shot Pat McCrory to the top of the worst governors in America list (though still won't top Rick Snyder).

[Crash2Parties]

42. HB-2 was just the most blatant

It started in January when the GOP quietly sent out a resolution to their minions directing them to create as many anti-trans laws as they could at the state and local levels. They *intentionally* manufactured this into what they hoped would be their campaign fear/hate-topic for the 2016 elections. Because in some crowds attacking trans children, well, that's good fundraising...apparently.

https://prod-static-ngop-pbl.s3.amazonaws.com/media/documents/Resolution_Title_IX%20_Overreach.pdf

http://www.advocate.com/transgender/2016/2/25/republican-national-committee-endorses-anti-trans-bathroom-bills

[yardwork]

26. Trans people are murdered all the time.

[Rex]

31. I was about to make that comment.

Not something that might happen; something that happens daily in some part of the world.

[yardwork]

33. Happens often in the United States.

[Rex]

34. No doubt it stays under reported.

Looks like the level of violence will increase, thanks to idiots that are also RWing control freaks. Reminds me of the AIDs epidemic that was under reported on, in the 80s and 90s, because neither party really wanted to do the right thing and make it a political issue.

[Crash2Parties]

48. That's why the TDOR still has to happen every year. :(

[IronLionZion]

30. The GOP fantasizes about spilling blood

just listen to any of the gun nuts and their fear of everything including their own shadow is a threat. Some concealed carry nutjob will find an excuse to take out some masculine looking women.

Look at any of the RW memes on social media about the bathroom bill as in if anyone calls them a bigot they will call them an ambulance. And they will knock out all your teeth because they self identify as the tooth fairy. There is deep and violent hatred on the right that has gotten out of control.

Kentucky woman says man beat her for looking too masculine — as people stood by and watched
http://www.rawstory.com/2016/05/kentucky-woman-says-man-beat-her-for-looking-too-masculine-as-people-stood-by-and-watched/

[allan01]

10. all i can say is grr

[JustABozoOnThisBus]

13. Hat's off to Ms Toms

for donating her hair like that. Very nice.

I've known a few women who had very short hair at some time. Cancer survivors. I hope they were not accused of being men "pretending" to be women so they could use the women's restroom. Yikes.

[dembotoz]

15. was married to a woman who lost her hair due if she was attacked i would have killed the attacker

that damn simple
spouses of cancer patients get protective

and i am not bullshitting
spouses of cancer patients get protective

[dembotoz]

16. by the way she does a wonderful video

[liberalnarb]

17. Sickening

[Bernardo de La Paz]

18. Important thread. Thanks! Love your sig line graphic!

[Snarkoleptic]

29. Thanks, can't remember where I grabbed it, but I luvit!

[bucolic_frolic]

20. Which is why

trans people want to feel safe when they use the loo too

If such acts of mistaken identity occur in a men's room

actual physical violence could result

[Hekate]

21. My daughter has donated her hair to Locks of Love more than once.

Right now it's about down to her waist (again).

I just can't imagine the paranoid meanness that animates the Potty Police.

[tblue37]

22. And then there was the time a couple of cops shoved a young woman out of the restroom

because she didn't have her "papers" to show them to prove herself female. Seriously, now we have to carry ID to pee?

[tblue37]

23. My daughter wears her hair in a very short pixie cut. She is a very busy doctor, so

she doesn't want to spend a lot of time fixing her hair as she races to get ready for work.

[Enthusiast]

24. Christians! They're so like Jesus.

[Snarkoleptic]

28. Milestone!!!

Thom Hartmann mentioned this thread on his show today!!
I was driving and gobsmacked to hear my handle mentioned and the story discussed.

If you're not a listener, you may wish to check him out-
www.thomhartmann.com

At the link you will find a list of radio stations, a blog, and a 'listen online' option.

[womanofthehills]

40. Also "Thom Hartman Videos over at "Ring of Fire" progressive news

Scroll down main page. I always listen to him when I'm in my car.

[PoliticalMalcontent]

32. Empathy is the key to a better society.

I'm sorry for what this lady went through. It sounds like it was a powerful experience though. Hopefully she came out of it for the better.

[libodem]

35. Musta been the mustache?

Huh ?

[Liberal_in_LA]

36. Jerk!

[happyslug]

39. I was a guard at a school, when it was reported that a man was in the woman's restroom.

The report came from Law Student in a dress (it was about 8:00 pm). I was sitting talking to a police office who had stopped in on his foot patrol. When told of the man in the woman; restroom, the officer then called his partner, who had gone downstairs to use the rest room to look into it. His partner reported back the only person in the female restroom was her, The Student had used another stall and saw the officer's boots and assumed she was a man by her boots. These real REAL hiking boots, for the female officer was on foot patrol and went for the most comfortable black shoe she could find that was also water proof (it was WINTER).

Such complaints are NOT new, that was almost 30 years ago, but I remember it to this day.

[sarcasmo]

41. The right is going to get someone killed over this issue.

[dawg]

43. But ...

I thought conservatives *wanted* trans men to use the ladies' restrooms.

[neohippie]

52. That's the irony of this law

Conservatives don't know what they want, if the original poster, had been trans, but by birth was female they would be required by HB2 to be in the ladies room no matter how they identify or appear now, yet if they had their way there would be no public bathroom that this law would make them comfortable in, yet they want to impose their will on to everybody and can't see how intolerant they are being and are sure this is all someone else's fault. I suppose now that we are supposed to carry our birth certificate with us to a bathroom?

[gollygee]

53. They don't want trans people to use any restroom at all

They don't want trans people to live authentically. Or really, they just don't want trans people to exist.

These laws are written so that trans people are in danger no matter what restroom they use. And I believe that's the intent. The laws are a form of terrorism. Keep trans people so afraid that they never come out as trans.

[Shankapotomus]

44. I hope she sues

And wins.

[The2ndWheel]

46. Hope she sues who or what?

The random person who said something to her? The store for allowing a random person to say something to her? Is there evidence of some kind? A camera in the bathroom?

[HillareeeHillaraah]

45. Wow, that's not at all what actually happened...

She works in the store next door to the Walmart and hangs out in the Walmart bathroom with friends when ever she's on a break. It's disruptive to the Walmart workers and she's been called out on it. It had NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING MISTAKEN AS TRANS!

But any chance at 15 minutes of fame ~

https://gendertrender.wordpress.com/

[TexasBushwhacker]

50. That's an anti-trans site you know n/t

[HillareeeHillaraah]

54. It's a pro natal females, pro lesbian site....

not agreeing with the trans activist narrative is not necessarily anti trans, IMO.

I wish no ill will toward any human - but I do have a different opinion regarding the harmful effects of gendered behaviors and expectations.

[Bette]

47. Almost..

This is almost the same story I just posted except this time, she donated her hair, and in mine, she was the cancer patient. (Sorry I have no links) So goes to show what this country has morphed into after the republiconz have their way. One of these times, they may get shot from all those gun nuts who want to go back to the old wild west, and take "justice" into their own hands. It will take a very long time and much work before we return to sanity in this country.